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to start i have been geting sick every three weeks for two and i have been diagnosed so many times and i have been told its all inmy head and taken every drug under the sun . and now they think that i have lupis ( i think i spelled that wrong ) and i am going to children s in boston and if there is any who has this then is there any thing i can do to make me feel better longer cause every time i get sick i need to go on steriods and i dont want to go back on them .please help .

well, yea you did spell it wrong. it's lupus. and my little cousin has it and all i know is that its a disease that women get. dont wanna scare you, but when before she got it, she was very skinny.(shes young, about 6-8yrs)but when i saw her again, she was very fat. especially in the face and she had lost most of her hair. but my teacher, she has it and you cant even tell, except she had to have surgery, and you dont even see that. so i guess it ranges. but yes i know that my cousin did have to take some medicines for sure. you should look it up on the internet.hope i helped. hope u feel better. check back with me. lildiamyn_69@yahoo.com

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i just lost one of my friends we havent been close recently but for 3 years we were and we drifted the past year, i just found out he passed away and i cant belive it, it hurts so much i alwayts pass by his house thinking hes going to be there, i always want to call his cell phone thinking hes going to pick up, i cant handle this no1 can, i dont no wat to do i miss him teribly i just wish i can bring him back and tell him that even tho we drifted that i still love him when i saw him laying in the casket i just wanted to wake him up, what should i do :'(

I'm so sorry to hear that. i know what its like to lose a friend. but it will be alright because if there's something you wanted to tell him, you can tell him now. he will always be with you in your heart and remember that he is watching out for you. I know how bad you wanna see him again, but just remember that.

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My friends birthday is coming up and she is spanish and the majority of her friends is black and my mom is predgiduce and when I go to her birthday I am scared on what my mom might think or do. Any advice for what I should do when the big day comes? Im sorta scared...

you should let your mom how you feel and why you feel that way. then ask her for some good reasons why she feels that way about certain people. when the day comes, show your mom that they are your friends and are no different from any of your other race friends. she should respect your point of view, and you should respect hers, so dont argue her down or anything. just try to get your point across.

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Well not to long ago, my boyfriend told me that he loved me. Now normally he only says it over the phone, so one day I told him I loved him, when we were face to face. Today, as he was getting on the bus to go out of town for wresteling, I called out his name and mouthed the words "I love you". All he did was stand on the stairs of the bus and stare at me, waved and left. I know that I probably shouldnt stress about it but what if he doesn't "feel the same way" anymore?

well, did you have variety in your relationship? the same things can become dull after a time. or was it something he wanted that you gave already?

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ok so i have this guy friend and we met in the summer. We started hanging out and we became really good friends, and i was really really starting to like him but i didnt realize it because i had a boyfriend who was one of his good friends. well we started hanging out more and more and i started caring about him more than my boyfriend. i didnt realize it until after my boyfriend broke up with me. i wasent upset and i realized it was because i cared for my other guy friend more. after he dumped me i was told a lie by my guy friend about my x, that he was trying to get another girlfriend because he was bored with me... so i told my x that "someone" said it, and he guessed who it was without me saying anything. so the next day they got in this huge fight and then they went outside to fist fight... all because of me. and now i really like the guy who was just my friend before but he hates me and dosent trust me because of what i did and it really kills me and he wont forgive me even though i didnt really do anything. now i just dont know what to do to get things back to normal.....

take it from me, because i dont really trust anyone. your guy friend may have been charming, but he lied to you. not so charming now, huh? But how could u have known? well, first of all, you shouldnt have acted on that what he told you. you should have checked others to see if it was true first(if possible) But you dont wanna get things right with your guy friend, becuz he told the lie that started everything. he led to his own downfall. now as for your x, you gotta get his trust back and dont let anyone come btween you ever again.

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Okay this is a long story so here it goes. A few months ago, I recently developed feelings for one of my guy friends. One night, it was revealed to him. At first I couldn't believe he knew, but now I regret the whole thing. After I told him I liked him, things looked like they were going pretty good. Me and him began flirting more than usual and he would say things that made me believe we had a possible future together. The only problem with him is, he tends to flirt with a lot of girls which surprisingly I'm okay with but several weeks have gone by and he hasn't asked me out and now I just want to forget about him. Plus I don't think he's completely over his ex-girlfriend and friends of mine have been telling me who he's been flirting with heavily and the girl he flirts with, is a good friend of mine and she knew I liked him. I guess my question is, why would he tell me it's okay to like him and that he said he was going to ask me out soon if truly in the end, he only liked me as a friend.

It seems he likes for you to be friends, but might think you will flip over the flirting he does and his past girls and all.

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I'll just get to the point...I told my friend today that I liked him and he said he likes me too. Well, we were talking a lot the rest of the day but he never asked me out. Yet he told my friends AND his friends that he was going to. So why do you think he never did it? I would call him, but if I did I wouldn't know what to say and what if he like thought I was obsessed or something because I never really called him much before. So if you have any idea of what I'm asking then..well..help?

I think he hasnt done it because he's kinda nervous.Especially the fact that he confided it to his friends tells me he's nervous. He might be thinking up some unique way to ask or the right time or whatever. Have patience.

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ok...I lost my virginity when i was 11...im 14 now..ive never messed around w/ anyone except one boy...but both of them boys i truly LOVED...does that make me a slut?...

i lost mine when i was 12 to someone i really cared about. then within the same year, i messed around w/a different boy.i later stuck w/ him and didnt mess with anyone else. no that does not make you a slut. a slut is someone who messes around with anything you put in front of her just because she can and she will. you are the exact opposite. but beware: you cant just do it with every boy you have feelings for because lots of boys will come in and out of your life within the next few years.

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ok here is the story..i was love this guy name jon.. he goes to a different school..but i saw him every once & a while..well his friend cody does go 2 my school and i talk 2 him a lot ..well he told jon that i was going around saying that i love all these other people..& jon got mad at me & said hes not but i no he is .. & i found out the other night that cody told jons mom that i thought he was sooooooo hot n stuff n jon was laughing... & i dunt no what to do..( by the way we dont go out ) ( but we talked on the phone n hugged & kiss & stuff like that ) now ..i saw jon the other night n we was giving me such an atitue that it was pissing me off..n i went 2 give him a hugg n he liked push me away usually he would hugged me back..i got mad at cody n i havent talked 2 him in a while..now what should i do..cuss cody out 4 lieing about me or what.. & what to do about the whole jon thing..im so upset about it .i really need help ill rate higghhh !!!

well from what i understand, jon is jealous. and cody is a very messy boy. he likes to say things that srent true. you have to make jon understand that what cody said wasnt ture. if he doesn't believe you, well, that means he doesnt trust you. but i think things will work itself out if you play your cards right and dont do anything out of the way. i feel you will be alright because if i'm not mistaken, jon really cares about you if he is jealous considering the fact the you arent his. thats why i think he'll come around.. sooner or later.

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My brother's friend Dan is wicked hott! and he always shows off his stomache to me and stuff when hes at my house. we flirt a little. He even was goin to beet up a kid that was being mean to me, him self. i really like him, and he may like me. the thing is that he's my brothers friend and hes 2 years older than me. would i be betraying my brother or would he even care?

Well, if your brother's not so over protective, ask him about how this Dan character feels toward girls in general. You might be surprised. Especially if he does things and sees he can wow you just like that.

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is it wrong to like ur boyfriends best friend?

I've done that a few times, thinking that my bf's best friend is the one, but it always turned out not to be so. Yes it would be wrong, especially if someone winds up being hurt(namely your boyfriend.) Plus, what if that was you?

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ok there is this guy...and i fell in love with him..but then he was really bogus...im not gonna tell the whole story..but lets jus say he "cheated" he told me he was sorry and i forgave him but then he did it again...ive been thru a lot of shyt because of him...should i forget about him? or forgive him adn give him one last chance?

If he did it one time, who's to say he won't do it again? I've taken this boy back about 5-6 times in the last 3 months, no joke. I did love him. But did we live happily ever after? No. If you cheated and your boyfriend kept taking you back, wouldn't you be like, "oh, i can do anything..he's so in love with me he won't do anything" or would you at least let your guard down more than once? Never stay with someone who hurts you. Trust me because you're hurting yourself too.

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Sorry it's long, but I thought I should give some detail. Okay, I have this teacher that hates me, because I talk a lot, and I have a loud mouth (like not purposely, but I can't whisper) and I annoyed her and gave her a mad migrane on purpose because she told a friend (who at the time I was in a fight with) that my grades were slipping, that I had drinking problems, and that I was suicidal (only 2/3 true) and to talk to me. And I thought it was rude and that the teacher should have come to me. So ever since I have always acted to her the way she deserves. Well she's the basketball coach, and today at the game she was kind of upset and she made a face that I only ever saw her make at me and I started laughing and I said something to my friend saying the look on her face was funny. Well I have a loud mouth and she has GOOD hearing and she said something to me, and I accidentally blurted "well the only time I ever saw you make a face even close to that is when you were looking at me" and I apologized for saying it, then I was like "You know what... I'm not sorry, I should never apologize for saying what I feel because that'd be like apologizing for being real" (I heard that quote before) and my friend on the team said that the teacher was saying junk about me to them, and that teacher was my math teacher last semester, and she's friends with my math teacher this semester, and my whenever ms M (this semester teacher) talks about ms L (last semester teacher) I make a face and say I don't like her because she doesn't like me and because she said something about me. And Ms. M (nice teacher) likes me so she tells me what Ms L (mean teacher) says about me. And what I want to do is confront ms L about it. Like I won't tell her my 'sources' but I want to say something like...(first you should know that she's in her 20s, and also that when I talk to someone I don't like I get an attitude without trying, so it's not on purpose) "You're my elder and I don't respect you, but I am going to try to say this as respectfully as I can and I will try not to get an attitude with you, but it comes naturally, I know I talk about you, and I know you talk about me. I'd rather not tell you who informs me what you say, but I'd greatly appreciate it if you say what you have to say about me to my face instead of acting like your afraid and gossiping to others." And also I might say something like..."I know that you do sometimes tell me what you want to say to my face, and I do try to say how I feel about you to your face. And if you make the effort to tell me how you feel about me when you feel it, then I will make the effort to try and politely tell you the same." And I might also say something like "To tell you the truth the only reason I started to hate you, and the only reason I annoyed you that night was because you told someone (then I'll tell her what my friend told me she said)" Also, to let you know she had my sister, and she was once really mad at me and I got fed up with her so I skipped her class and got caught the last 5 minutes. But I'll probably say something like this... because it's true... "I am going to really try to say this nicely, but I'm sick of the fact that teachers can never say what they truly feel to your face. And I also hate that all my teachers that have ever had Em(my sis) expect me to live up to her. I'm not my sister, and I might not make the same grades as her, and I definitley DON'T have her personality, so why can't teachers get over it. And please, don't tell me how you feel as politely as you can, tell me how you feel truly, don't be like "well you annoy me" be like you have a loud mouth, I have sensitive ears, you're an okay person, but you talk to much, you talk like a sailor (she's told me that before) and I don't like the person you've become." I'll be like tell me the truth. Ms. L also told my friend that drugs and alcohol have ruined my life. I'VE NEVER DONE EITHER! So what I'm really asking is that is what I've come up to say okay to say to a teacher that no longer teaches me. If I don't get an attitude while saying it then is it rude? If it's not a nice way to tell her to Say whatever she has to say to my face and not to others then what would be a nice way. Again, sorry it's long, I just felt I should explain the situation and use examples. Please tell me what you think.

well, i think you should try your best to not catch an additude while saying, "look i've heard that you're saying things behind my back and i want to know exactly what it is you feel about me. please let me know now, so we can get this over with." Or maybe something better.

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I have two friends, or I think they are my two friends.. they are always leaving me out.. like I'm just there for a good laugh or two everyonce in a while but they can cast me aside like an old toy that's lost it's shine. Everytime I make a friend I'm either left for someone else or end up giving up on the whole thing entirely. When they are around me they act like I am their sister or something.. but then they will go off to do things alone.. and they never invite me. I always invite my friends other friend, I always try and include them.. but no.. I'm the third wheel all the time.. v_v I need some help on what to do.. do I stay with my friends.. or should I try and find some new ones..

Well, if you're not happy, try and find some new friends. But first: are you quiet all the time? or do you try to talk and say your share and no one listens? If you are quiet, you should try to talk up and get involved in conversations. If you do talk up, but are never heard, then you need to find some better friends because obviously they don't value the "friendship" between you and them like they do the friendship between each other.

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Hey...im a 14 year old bisexual and i want to have intercourse with the same sex...and i also want to tell my parents but i dont know how they will act... :( im kinda worried..

Signed..14 year old bi guy

My opinion.. dont tell them just yet. To parents, age is everything. Wait until ..16 or something because they might say or think you are too young to know what you want just yet.

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This is pathetic and i would appreciate advice. I am 17 and really bad with getting a girlfriend. I have had girlfriends in the past and i am really good at relationships. See i have more girl friends then i do guy friends, get what i am saying? I really don hang out with alot of dudes. I dont know why dont ask why its just me. My friends are fine and we get along great but i just cant get a girl friend. I have heard "You're like a brother to me" and "I dont go for your type." Girls Like bad guys and that not me. I am not that bad looking and a great listener. I AM A GREAT CATCH. I just cant act like a dide around girls, its like a forgot how to flirt. Help Me get a girlfriend...PLEASE!

Well, I know I do like a boy who knows how to listen to my problems. I also like a boy who is sensitive to my needs, like if I don't want a boyfriend right now, he'll respect that. It's not really so much that you're bad at getting a girlfriend, it's something else.. I don't realy know what it is but its not that. You don't have to flirt to get girls. Just let them know how much you care(but don't overdo it!)
Need more advice? email me- lildiamyn_69@yahoo.com

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Do you think it is possible to find "The One" you are going to be with for the rest of your life in highschool?

Yes I know for a fact it's possible(thats why I'm here) but I wouldn't go looking or sending notes all out the lockers and all yet. Because all the while you're chasing after the one you think you love, "the one" could be watching and thinking, "boy she's desperate, she's a disgrace" or something. But you might have to wait until after high school to meet your future husband(cause baby daddys are everywhere) If you have someone in mind, think; Does he make me feel like no one else can(not neccessairly sexually) Would I do anything for him? Does he respect my mind, body and soul? want some more questions to ask? Email me at lildiamyn_69@yahoo.com

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this guy who likes me (Kyle) and i like him well we haven't gotten into a relationship just yet! but there is a rumor that me and another guy (Mark) are going out! and when i see Kyle looking at me when i'm flirting with Mark! and that gets him upset. what do i do? and what if mark does ask me out?! what do i tell kyle?

Well, first of all, which do you really, deep in your heart, care for? Second, who treats you the best and respects you mind, body, and soul? Or is it even that serious?

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i'm a freshman in high school. so is my friend, kendra. she's dating a senior at our school. they have been dating since the day after christmas.. i talk to kendra almost day, and all she talks about is her boyfriend. my friends and i can't take her talking about him all the time - like them having sex, and all this other worthless crap. we want to talk to her, but we don't know what to say.. ya mind helpin?

I do the exact same thing, so sorry.. I don't think that is curable. I can't help it!

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I have a friend that i have none for a bout 2years and I think i am developing feelings for him however he is with a good friend of mine wut the hell should i do!!-

If he is with a good friend of yours, and you're sure you guys are good friends, leave him the hell alone. Boys will come and go but friends stay at least until after high school.

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