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My teacher


Question Posted Friday January 14 2005, 8:02 pm

Sorry it's long, but I thought I should give some detail. Okay, I have this teacher that hates me, because I talk a lot, and I have a loud mouth (like not purposely, but I can't whisper) and I annoyed her and gave her a mad migrane on purpose because she told a friend (who at the time I was in a fight with) that my grades were slipping, that I had drinking problems, and that I was suicidal (only 2/3 true) and to talk to me. And I thought it was rude and that the teacher should have come to me. So ever since I have always acted to her the way she deserves. Well she's the basketball coach, and today at the game she was kind of upset and she made a face that I only ever saw her make at me and I started laughing and I said something to my friend saying the look on her face was funny. Well I have a loud mouth and she has GOOD hearing and she said something to me, and I accidentally blurted "well the only time I ever saw you make a face even close to that is when you were looking at me" and I apologized for saying it, then I was like "You know what... I'm not sorry, I should never apologize for saying what I feel because that'd be like apologizing for being real" (I heard that quote before) and my friend on the team said that the teacher was saying junk about me to them, and that teacher was my math teacher last semester, and she's friends with my math teacher this semester, and my whenever ms M (this semester teacher) talks about ms L (last semester teacher) I make a face and say I don't like her because she doesn't like me and because she said something about me. And Ms. M (nice teacher) likes me so she tells me what Ms L (mean teacher) says about me. And what I want to do is confront ms L about it. Like I won't tell her my 'sources' but I want to say something like...(first you should know that she's in her 20s, and also that when I talk to someone I don't like I get an attitude without trying, so it's not on purpose) "You're my elder and I don't respect you, but I am going to try to say this as respectfully as I can and I will try not to get an attitude with you, but it comes naturally, I know I talk about you, and I know you talk about me. I'd rather not tell you who informs me what you say, but I'd greatly appreciate it if you say what you have to say about me to my face instead of acting like your afraid and gossiping to others." And also I might say something like..."I know that you do sometimes tell me what you want to say to my face, and I do try to say how I feel about you to your face. And if you make the effort to tell me how you feel about me when you feel it, then I will make the effort to try and politely tell you the same." And I might also say something like "To tell you the truth the only reason I started to hate you, and the only reason I annoyed you that night was because you told someone (then I'll tell her what my friend told me she said)" Also, to let you know she had my sister, and she was once really mad at me and I got fed up with her so I skipped her class and got caught the last 5 minutes. But I'll probably say something like this... because it's true... "I am going to really try to say this nicely, but I'm sick of the fact that teachers can never say what they truly feel to your face. And I also hate that all my teachers that have ever had Em(my sis) expect me to live up to her. I'm not my sister, and I might not make the same grades as her, and I definitley DON'T have her personality, so why can't teachers get over it. And please, don't tell me how you feel as politely as you can, tell me how you feel truly, don't be like "well you annoy me" be like you have a loud mouth, I have sensitive ears, you're an okay person, but you talk to much, you talk like a sailor (she's told me that before) and I don't like the person you've become." I'll be like tell me the truth. Ms. L also told my friend that drugs and alcohol have ruined my life. I'VE NEVER DONE EITHER! So what I'm really asking is that is what I've come up to say okay to say to a teacher that no longer teaches me. If I don't get an attitude while saying it then is it rude? If it's not a nice way to tell her to Say whatever she has to say to my face and not to others then what would be a nice way. Again, sorry it's long, I just felt I should explain the situation and use examples. Please tell me what you think.

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Additional info, added Friday January 14 2005, 8:07 pm:
WHOA, I'm sorry, I didn't realize how long it is. You don't have to read all that, I'm pretty much talking about a teacher that I know hates me (like she's told me she doesn't like me) that talks about me behind my back (I've had teachers and friends tell me) and I want a way to politely tell her that if she has something to say about me say it to my face. She isn't my teacher anymore, but she still talks about me and I still see her everyday, and I'd like to be polite about it. Sorry about the length, thanks for any help. And I won't say sorry, I'll probably be like I'm not going to apologize, because you should never apologize for saying how you feel because that would be like apologizing for being real (I found that quote somewhere) So I just want a polite way to say Say it to my face not behing my back! The teacher is in her 20s or early 30s, and I have to see her everyday even though she no longer teaches me (though she could sometime in the next three years)Thanks.

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Kori15 answered Friday January 14 2005, 9:33 pm:
I just think you need to get past this teacher. There are alot of teachers that don't like certain students because of their behavior, but don't let that get to you. If she's not you're teacher just don't worry about it and see her as having a weakness in the fact that she has to talk stuff on some teenager. If you really want to talk to her about it, just say what's really on your mind otherwise there will really be no point since you won't be saying everything that bothers you - so it will solve nothing. I hope I helped.
*Kori*

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lildiamyn_69 answered Friday January 14 2005, 8:37 pm:
well, i think you should try your best to not catch an additude while saying, "look i've heard that you're saying things behind my back and i want to know exactly what it is you feel about me. please let me know now, so we can get this over with." Or maybe something better.

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