I feel like I have a problem... I'm extremely attracted to really dominant guys. I LIKE it when a guy bosses me around... Both of my boyfriends have been very dominant (physically and relationship wise). I also get turned on when a guy treats me like an object... Like showing me off as his prize or getting really jealous when other guys hit on me. When a guy man handles me too... I try not to let people see that this turns me on. Like I act like it bothers me but it actually makes me almost horny... Why is this?? I feel like it's weird and could be dangerous so why am I so attracted by it?
oh, you're one of those girls. it makes sense in a primal way. imagine you're somewhere in southern france about 20,000 years ago- the clan you live in happens to have some awesome neighbors, like rival clans, sabre-toothed cats, and the like. what traits will you look for when you're trying to find a mate? a large, dominating, jealous, physically strong guy that will be able to kill anything that threatens his woman and their offspring.
nowadays, its not really in style, but if it gets you off, then well and good. hell, my girlfriend's into some of that crazy shit, like when occasionally get into role-playing I throw her around and cut off her clothes with a seatbelt cutter. though mind you, those dudes that display those same traits are also the ones that act like sleezeballs, or do prison terms, or nail other girls on the side when they get bored.
have fun
-gunner
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I fell on my cell phone landing with my elbow bent, cracking the screen. A few days later, my elbow began to hurt worse than when it happened and now my entire arm is tingly all over. I thought it was from the fall, but could tiny particle of the screen have somehow seeped into my skin?
no. it is possible for a shard to have stuck in your skin, but if you haven't found it yet, it does not exist. your nerves probably took a slight hit. and thats that. put some ice on the joint, take some ibuprofen.
-gunner
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15/female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and he ia joining the marine core in three years, he is 16 years old. He told me that he loves me and cant live without me and I feel the same way about him and he said in a year or two he would marry me and I said that then if he still wanted to join the marine core i would marry him and wait for him untill he gets out. But I am scared that he might get killed and maybe he will get really hurt. I am not sure what I should do. Are militay relationsionships really hard?
yes, they are. I've been in the army for five years and have yet to keep a stable relationship for more than three months. lte's look at the few other red flags here for a moment..... You're fifteen and thinking of marrying a dude you've been dating for "almost a year". at least you won't be alone, there's lots of couples in the military that started off like that... but a good percentage of them get divorced on the first combat deployment. do yourself a favor and stop worrying. about getting married, about him getting killed, its all horseshit you'll have to deal with later on in life. so knock it off. And besides, he's not in the Marine Corps yet, who says he even has what it takes? My family didn't worry about me until I started sending back what I thought were funny videos of running through machine gun fire and shooting back with my M-240. helmet cams are awesome, leaving your computer unlocked while on R&R isn't. I've checked the odds, and played them. you have a better chance of getting killed in philadelphia than you do in a warzone.
now stop worrying.
-Gunner
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I am going to be a senior next school year and am applying to a college to take some classes while still in high school for high school and college credits. I have to write an essay on why I want to do this and what classes I want to take. I have the basics written but I'm having a hard time with adding detail because it has to be 5 paragraphs. the reasons I have are it will let me see what college is like and I want to do something different my senior year.
any ideas or suggestions?
thanks so much
okay, good for you. an essay needs a point. yours could be: taking college courses during senior year will prepare me for my future college attendance. then back it up with three good arguments. some examples: it will allow me to learn how to cope with the workload, it will enable me to finish basic courses and thereby shorten the time I am in college post high school, it will provide me with the research skills I will need to complete advanced college courses....
there's lots of good reasons, those are just a few.
-gunner
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I need quick ways to cool off during a fight
-f/14
you ever go absolutely batshit psychotic with an assault rifle? I have. feb 23 2008. so trust me when I tell you this, when you're angry, you breathe a lot less, your heart's pounding, and your higher functions are starting to shut down in your brain as your whole body goes into combat mode. the best way I found to prevent anything like what I did that day from happening again, is to start firing those higher thought neurons, and take a deep breath hold for two seconds, and slowly exhale, and keep doing it. this rushes much needed oxygen into your rage addled brain. it allows you to think more clearly. when you stop seeing red, start thinking about the awful consequences if you'd gone through what your adrenaline filled head was planning on doing. trust me. its been two years, two days, and seventeen hours. don't make the mistake I did, I have to live with what I did. for the rest of my life.
war is hell
-Gunner
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My brother and I were looking at the bugs that were stuck together, so we figured they were probably mating, they were sort of on the concrete in our back yard and hanging around the edge near the grass. Then we shifted our gaze more towards the grass and noticed like thousands of little red bugs crawling all over the grass! My backyard is pretty big but there was like a layer of red bugs all over it. There was probably thousands of them!
A while ago we found an infestation of similar red bugs on a piece of wood out the back and it looked like they were eating it. So we sprayed them with heaps of bug spray and they mostly went away. But then a few weeks ago my sister and her friends were out the back and they noticed that the red bugs were on the log again. And sinse then I hadnt noticed any more bugs until today, when they are all over the whole yard!
It is really freaking me out and I dont want them to eat the house beause we dont have that much money, so we dont want to pay an exterminater for no reason.
Also, if it helps, the ones that looked like they were mating were a bit bigger and black with white on them, the smaller ones that are everywhere are pretty small and mostly red with a bit of black on them. Also there were ants and these big grey beetles that didnt seem too fussed about the red bugs being there.
Are these bugs bad? Should we get an exterminator? Do you think they are weird termites?
what part of the country do you live in? florida? if so, those are lovebugs. their breeding cycle starts in february, and the whole state of florida is covered in them for a month. this of course includes parts of southern georgia and alabama... they're harmless. what kind of wood were they on? if they're all over the trees too, you're fine. don't put too much thought into it... but if it worries you that much, catch some in a bottle and bring them to a high school biology teacher.. they have nothing to gain or lose, so they'll give you a straight answer.
good luck with the orgy on your lawn..cause thats all lovebugs do.
-Gunner
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For some reason I've been thinking a ton about college, and my dream is to live in new York city and play in the pit on broadway. But I need a school that could get me there. What aare the best schools around new York city with good music classes or even complete music schools?? Helpe reach my dream =]
for the love of all that is performing arts.... JULIARDS!!!!!! how did you get through the world of performing arts without ever hearing of Juliards? thats like a gay dude never hearing about the Castro district, or a green bay fan never hearing about Lambeau field. its the finest school for performing arts in the world. theres about a million schools in the evil empire(NYC) that have performing arts programs. you have to be shit hot. and I don't mean best tuba player in chickenlips kentucky shit hot, I mean your music teacher has an orgasm when you play shit hot. good luck with the auditions.
-Gunner
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hey.. so im 16f and wanting some advice on a guy and sex.. so ive known this guy, lets call him john, for a while and we've liked eachother on and off,we havnt talked alot he moved and cuz i started talking to one of his friends which i still am. but me and john want to hangout soon and first im debating on wether i should or not.. me and him always had the emotional aspect of a relationship but we never experienced the physical with eachother. so i know if we hangout we're going to get physical, and i want to have sex with this guy but i cant, im a virgin and i dont want to be that easy and other reasons, so how do i know when were about to have sex..? like are there specific things that he will do that shows like hes ready to have sex. and when we are about to, how can i stop that from happening without like crushing him and killing the moment? lol. other than that i want to get physical with him, just NOT regular sex.
thats lovely, the phrase "regular sex" coming from a virgin, is quite hilarious. specific things... let me think about that one.... there really isn't a specific indicator, save the raging hard-on. so whats the deal, do you want to have sex with him, or not? you're not being clear, so I'll go with you want to. I presume that your "regular sex" comment to mean you want to have a session of passionate lovemaking... well, you asked the wrong person, because I solicit prostitutes. but I'll still swing this bat. you could always start making out with him, then pause for a second, lean over and whisper into his ear what you want him to do. I recommend brushing your lips ever so gently against his ear as you say it. the few times I've had girls do shit like that, the reaction is immediate... or as immediate as alcohol allows. GAME ON! if you do the lead up right, a dude becomes as obedient as a puppy eager to please its master. we're easy to manipulate. just don't come on to him like a rabid badger, and you're good. do that shit that only chicks can do, seduce. I don't know how good you are at it, but look at cleopatra, that chick was ugly as hell, but she practically enslaved marc anthony. Above all, be bold. and fortune will always favor you.
bon chance
-Gunner
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Ok so my birthday is coming up in about a month...i'm turning 16 and my mom has been saving up for a nice used car for me for a while. The thing is, I was planning on a used Honda Civic, just because those seem decently priced and pretty safe. But apparently my step-dad is planning on selling his 2000 Dodge Dakota Sport and my mom asked me if I would rather have that instead. It's a decent vehicle, and at least if I got that I wouldn't have to wait to get a vehicle. Plus it would be cheaper. I'm not really sure, I don't really know anything about cars :/ I'm mostly about safety, but I don't know if this truck would be so safe because it's so huge? So pleeassee any advice you have for me, I could really use it right now :) thanks!
get the honda. they are easy as hell for maintenance, and will be cheaper in the long run. trucks are great... for hauling shit. if you're not hauling dirt, construction equipment, guns, deer stands, etc., then you're wasting money. trucks guzzle gas because of this. they're more powerful, but if you take a corner too sharp, you'll roll the thing. they are really not that safe. my family has had ten plus accidents with hondas, not a scratch. maybe a dent to the car, but they're built like tanks, and safe as hell. if I got in a similar accident with a truck, i dunno. and I'm a proud owner of a truck. trust me, unless you need it, don't get it. besides, all of your friends will ask you to help them move shit if you get that dakota.
-Gunner
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I want a tattoo.. and i want a quote, not too long, maybe about life or hope or something intersting.. any ideas?
getting a tattoo is a bit personal, my left sleeve has my unit motto in latin, but I'm guessing you're not going for that angle. hmm... here's a good one that I heard the other day: "life wouldn't give you dreams without the means to fulfill them" its kind of long, but you could fit that on your arm if you broke it into two parts of a scroll. there's always the option of a foreign, or dead language... mine are all in latin and old greek... it looks good, even if it says something offensive. just remember that if your translation is wrong.... you'll be a laughingstalk in more educated circles. best thing to do, is get a joke or something translated into latin, tell everybody it means something about life, hope, whatever, and the joke's on them. my buddy had "I did your mom" in japanese across his shoulders... bottom line: as long as you can live with it for the rest of your life, its good... so have fun.
-Gunner
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to Invade Iraq?
There's so much evidence. It is really pissing me off.. how the government is getting away with this. Why did we go to war with Iraq? to steal their oil? like all those people they are killing.. you cannot fight a "war on terror". you cant fight against people's emotions. if you want people to start liking america you think fighting a war with them, killing their people and destroying their land is going to make them love us? bloody idiots. it will only make more people want to join those groups that want to attack America. its okay for people to have a religion as long as they are tolerant of the other beliefs people have.. the whole Taliban and Al Qaeda thing isnt the first time people had extreme beliefs they want to enforce on others. America is guilty of that themselves anyways. And when I say America, I'm referring to the government and whoever decides these matters. Like just because a country doesn't believe in capitalism and democracy, we should punish them! like cuba! because what america says is the only right thing in this world! bullllllllll shiiiiit. Why are things so difficult.. why do we have democrats and republicans? maybe we need philosophers to be in office. i mean it was philosophers who like made those early Patriots want to rebel against british rule back in the revolutionary war. now its republican this, democrat that. why do people have to put themselves in these little boxes like that? why cant people just all talk together about whats the best thing for the country and the world.. but no they get corrupted and are greedy. america talks about how corrupt other governments are when we are very corrupt ourselves. im sick of the hypocrises. why cant people man up. Im hoping Obama and the administration can just get the job done. Like there are some people who hate obama and want all these bad things to happen to him. like hello what the hell, that is just anti american. because if our president and the administration effs up, then WE pay the price!!! who wants that? so everyone better be hoping obama is good.. and yeah i think its sad there are some republicans who just want him to fail like that and then claim they are super american and everything. like same with bush.. like i think he was one of our worst presidents but while he was president i was still hoping he'd do good, despite what happened in the past. Honestly, I wish I could be a president so I could set things straight. But I wasnt born in America (UK. i live in America now though cause my parents moved my family here) and there's too much.. petty things that get in the way. But yeah, that ends my rant.
who the hell knows? seriously. you know what its been like to fight these wars? a fucking freakshow. this is what happens when you have no clear or defined plan to end a war, but a helluva good plan to start it. well hell, we didn't even have that in the iraq model.... now as for here in afghanistan...that was a good plan until rummy fucked the dog and let bin laden escape. now as for the "killing folks and destroying their country to make them like us"...that actually worked in europe...but that was because of the marshall plan. we have a saying out here; for every dude you kill, it creates twenty more enemies. which is one of the reasons why we're trying the "buddy buddy" approach...the other is beacause you folks can't stand the thought of*gasp* soldiers fighting a war.. good lord seriously, imagine having to do brain surgery with a broadsword. thats what this is like. now on to the rest of your rant(you called it a rant, and I'm not going to disagree), read "The Republic" by plato. sure, it sounds dandy and all to have a true republic ran by a ruling class of benevolent philosophers....but you're dealing with humans. and humans aren't all benevolent. as for cuba, THEY PARKED NUCLEAR FUCKING MISSILES IN OUR BACKYARD! Any nation on this planet reserves the right to tell another to go to hell based on seemingly insignificant rhetoric such as "the beurgoise capitalist pigs will sell us the rope we use to hang them". North Korea tells the whole world to go to hell on a regular basis, is that okay? to me it is, even though a third of that country's population lives in slave labor camps. and why? because the nutcase in charge will eventually die, and then we can resume normal relations with that country. its either that, or roughly fifty thousand americans will have to die to prove a point. so ignoring the sociopath countries and not conducting trade with them is a great option to me. now for your point on "America is guilty of that themselves anyways. And when I say America, I'm referring to the government and whoever decides these matters" big freakin deal, the period before this recent clusterfuck of a war was called "the Pax Americana" an incredible period of relative peace throughout the world. because we acted like a schoolyard bully and made it peaceful. we're not right all the time, just when we have superior firepower, and by that I mean all the time. face it, as much as America hates to admit it, we've got a pretty nice empire going, we dominate every square inch of this planet, and we've proven ourselves to be the least incompetent country in the world. not the most competent, just the country thats fucked up the least. not talking socially of course, but more in the geopolitical realm.
now as for the politics.... thats the reason why I'm not coming home. its funny what five years of fighting will do to a person's sense of patriotism. don't get me wrong, I believe in the constitution and the right of all people to be free, I just don't believe the system is functioning anymore. when the aim of both parties is to create a bigger government and use laws to dictate personal behavior all the way down to how they can discipline their kids and forcing people to have healthcare or face fines...fuck that. the government should not be setting my moral compass or have its hand in my wallet.... the people should not fear their government, but rather the government should fear the people. and thats why the bill of rights exists; to leave the american people a means to defend themselves against those who fancy themselves their betters. both parties do the same thing to the other whenever one has power...its the natural order of things to conduct underhanded drug-dealing and bad-mouthing. its what politicians do. just like you accuse the american system of being petty, I accuse you. every little thing that civilians care about.....petty. I care about whether I'm going to be shot or blown up when I go to sleep at night, whether I'll be carried off a C-17 in a flag draped coffin with cameras flashing as I become part of another statistic..... fuck it. until somebody comes knocking on my door demanding I start paying my taxes, I'm going to continue to invest little emotion into the issue. I have more important shit to deal with, like answering your question, or staying alive through this hell that is called stop-loss.
hope I answered your rant successfully with this counter-rant.
with love,
Gunner
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Okay so I think I might be gay. How do I know for sure?
next time you're masturbating, think of somebody who's the same sex as you. if you're not turned on by that, then you're not gay.
-Gunner
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Okay so I'm a freshman girl. And okay I know I'm pretty attractive but one thing that really bothers me is that I'm like 5'6/5'7... and I'm a lot taller than all the other girls. Like, Ive always wanted to be a cute little petite girl. LIke I am already really skinny, I just want to be... not so tall. like I still wanna be skinny but haha, like I don't know. Luckily my boyfriend is like six foot but still. My height really bothers me. So my question is, guys? do you have a problem with tall girls? Is 5'6/'7 that tall for a girl? Just wondering.
hahaha... great. you know how much it sucks to have to stoop over to make out with a chick? I like having a taller girl for two reasons: less time wasted getting things off the top shelf for her, and not having to worry about her being too fragile. small chicks just look and feel like china dolls... so horseplay is kind of a delicate ordeal and loses alot of its fun.
-Gunner
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okay so this is gunna be me and my boyfriends 15 month anniverersy on christmas eve. so i wanna get him a REALLY good christmas present.
he is 19, im 17. i dont have a job so i dont have have much money. so im going to take a bunch of new pictures with him, print them out on photo paper. make a super cute card (he loves my handmade cards) and print out my favorite picture of us and frame it. then, i wanna make little pull cards where i have to do a sexual favor for him, like clean his room with only a bra and a thong on. but thats like the only thing i can think of. they can be like sex too, and i need a guys opinion on what he would LOVE a girl to do for him, simple or complex.
then im going to buy him a amex gift card. thats like 50 bucks. so he can get whatever he wants.
i need opinions from guys! or girls, whatever your boyfriend loves :)
the sexual favors coupons are a great idea! lets see... here's some of my favorites for that:
1cook him dinner in the nude
2watch an action movie with him(yes, thats sexually satisfying to me)
3 surprise sex
4 random location sexual vacation (role play)
the possibilities are endless...
great idea for the card too. I'd rather get the sex coupons and card than a gift certificate.
-Gunner
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A couple of days ago my boyfriend said, "I tend to **** everything in life up." And I said, "No you don't, you haven't ****ed up this relationship." Now here's the weird part... the next thing he said was "Well, I'm trying to distance myself from you so when I do **** it up, the breakup won't kill me. Because it will." He wouldn't talk about it after that... what the heck does it mean and what do I do?! I'm sort of freaked out.
he's a pessimist. the glass is half empty. if you want to stay with him, learn to put up with it.
-Gunner
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okay so long story short im a cheater.... but i never feel bad about it. why? why don't i ever feel guilty?
because you're a remorseless asshole. its normal, don't worry about it. being a scoundrel will give you an edge in many career fields.
-Gunner
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okay, so im writing an essay on my grandma..and i need to another sentence for her giving out advice?? got anyidea?
what? I'm gonna try to swing this one...
she is a dispensary of knowledge....? you need to give me more to work with... eh.
-Gunner
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What are 3 good things about our world?
if you're referring to the planet, thats easy.
1:its inhabitable
2: there's microbes for fermenting alcoholic beverages
3:it hasn't been destroyed yet.
-Gunner
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My son is 27, and he graduated about 6 months ago from college, and I can't seem to motivate him to go out on his own; get a job; move out and start his own life! What on earth haven't I tried yet? Any advice would greatly help.
Dale
charge him rent. my parents hung that over my head during junior year in high school, and the next year I was in the army. I'd say it works.
-Gunner
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Hi, my moms some sort of an alcoholic. Well, the other day my dad and i went to go buy a fake christmas tree that was very costy because we wanted one that looked real. Well, (my parents dont talk to each other because of my mothers behavior) i asked her last night if i could put the tree up. She said what tree? i said my father and i purchased a tree in sears, since we all have new cars and don't want to scratch them, we cant go pick up one. she freaked out telling me to tell my dad to return it, were not celebrating christmas or my 17th birthday this year (dec 22). i calmly asked "why?", she said my sister (21) said not to. So I called her out saying that is bullshit because my sister called me crying saying my mother said were not celebrating christmas this year. I called my sister, put her on speaker and said "why is mom saying your the one who told her not to celebrate christmas" melissa said "mom said...... what....!?" "Mom said you told her not to celebrate christmas" she said "why is she blaming me?!" i said "i dont know what her deal is but shes being a little bitch, and i have you on speaker right now in front of her and she is just embarrassed for lying to me." my sister said "i cant believe you mom, what the fuck" and i hung up.
So, me having temper problems i started screaming at her (i cant help it, i swear). i started throwing things and i took her alcohol and hid it for all of our sake. she opens the fridge for a beer and screams "GOD DAMNIT WHERE THE FUCK DID YOU PUT MY BEER?!?!!!?" she pushed me against the wall and started searching the entire house, not sure if she found it or not. She said "im calling the police on you to take you away". she locked me out of the house while i am sick, in 25 degree weather, snowing. i texted my friend to come get me and she did. so basically i just left my house without letting her know, nothing new there.
this christmas will be really embarrassing because my sisters boyfriend from england (they want to get married) is staying with us from the 21st-jan 8th. and if he sees that my mother isnt allowing us to celebrate my birthday, christmas eve, and christmas day, he'll think differently of us. my moms never been like this before. but every christmas she refuses to open presents with the entire family. she seperates my fathers presents from hers. she makes my sister and i sit in the kitchen while opening her presents, not our living room with the tree. then, after we open all of them, we go to my father. in his office to open his presents. my dads upset that my mom wont allow us to open presents as a family. but, whatever. its something that i cant change i guess..
i called my boyfriend (19) crying telling him what happened. he said that i can come to his grandparents christmas eve celebration in long island (i live in ny) his mother already said i was welcome. and his dads christmas celebration at his grandparents house on christmas day. welll, i never met ryans grandparents/side of the family in long island. i think that would be weird if i did go, they would ask me why im not with my family. i will get upset, and start crying over it. and his dad is an asshole and just calls everyone out on every little mistake so he would make me tell what happened to his entire family on christmas day. another thing that would make me upset. (theres nothing to control his dads behavior, unless if he is on medication)
i am supossed to go to my grandmothers house in ct for christmas eve like every year, excluding my mother. i really want to meet ryans extended family on that side but i dont want to have to tell them about my mothers behaviors.. i think it would be a little weird for me to be there considering he has cousins my age (16, almost 17.. will be 17 at the time) uncles, aunts, family friends, & whoever else.
i really need help. i dont know what to do, this is one huge clusterfuck.
i dont want to go home. if i do, im going to throw another fit. but my dad will be home tonight to help out if i do... what should i do about this? please keep in mind that i have huge temper/emotional problems..
thank you in advance for reading this, all help is appreciated.
good lord, kiddo. you're definitely in a pickle here, I suggest going with your boyfriend to long island. I know where you're coming from, my alcoholic stepmother used to lock me out in the cold all the time when I was a little kid.. your mom definitely needs help, though if she's not willing to change, you're kind of screwed. you could do a kind of reverse intervention on her; have your dad and sister leave for the holiday( and dump out all of her booze in the middle of the night while having her car keys mysteriously disappear) pipe in christmas music just to mess with her, too. maybe then will she realize that she's so fucked up she drove her whole family away....and thats where the alcoholics anonymous pamphlets cleverly placed all over the house come into the picture. sorry your holiday got ruined kid, if it helps, I'm going to be in a garbage ass situation for christmas too. but we're celebrating festivus instead.
-Gunner
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