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why does this turn me on??
I feel like I have a problem... I'm extremely attracted to really dominant guys. I LIKE it when a guy bosses me around... Both of my boyfriends have been very dominant (physically and relationship wise). I also get turned on when a guy treats me like an object... Like showing me off as his prize or getting really jealous when other guys hit on me. When a guy man handles me too... I try not to let people see that this turns me on. Like I act like it bothers me but it actually makes me almost horny... Why is this?? I feel like it's weird and could be dangerous so why am I so attracted by it?
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There are many submissive and slaves in the world and you may be destined to fullfil this act. Check out collarme.com and you can find a man that won't abuse you but be very dominant. Just make sure you are sure which you want. A submissive is dominated part time and has a life outside of the relationship. A slave devotes their total life to their master and has no life outside of the home. Good luck.
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oh, you're one of those girls. it makes sense in a primal way. imagine you're somewhere in southern france about 20,000 years ago- the clan you live in happens to have some awesome neighbors, like rival clans, sabre-toothed cats, and the like. what traits will you look for when you're trying to find a mate? a large, dominating, jealous, physically strong guy that will be able to kill anything that threatens his woman and their offspring.
nowadays, its not really in style, but if it gets you off, then well and good. hell, my girlfriend's into some of that crazy shit, like when occasionally get into role-playing I throw her around and cut off her clothes with a seatbelt cutter. though mind you, those dudes that display those same traits are also the ones that act like sleezeballs, or do prison terms, or nail other girls on the side when they get bored.
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-gunner
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It could be dangerous, if you don't keep it in its appropriate place.
If you do keep it in its appropriate place, it could be a hell of a lot of fun.
When I was a younger teen, I used to half-tease/half-beg my first sweet, respectful boyfriends to use 'manhands', and not be so damn gentle. It bothered me, tickled me, and didn't really attract me.
I was lucky in one sense - I was way too much of bitch to date anyone who tried to bully or objectify me in public. On the other hand, that meant it took me a lot longer to realize what it was that turned me on.
And even longer to find out that intelligent, respectful guys who were also turned on by being dominant sexually, but not domineering and controlling in day to day life. They are few and far between, and easier to find as you get older.
There are lots of reasons, from an evolutionary point of view, for women to be attracted to these sorts of ideas. It's awful to say, but for a very, very long time, the top way of passing on your DNA was for the men of the culture to go out and conquer and rape the women of the neighbouring culture. It's not so insane to think, that with that, and the way male desires and interests dominated human understanding of sex for so long, that over those millions of year’s women became more likely to thrive, live long lives and have many children, if they were turned on by the idea of being dominated in some sense or another.
That’s one theory anyways.
Really though, the reasons don’t matter. The best thing is just to acknowledge what turns you on sexually AND what it is you want in a relationship. It’s one thing to be interested in something sexually; it’s another to get into lousy relationships in order to feed that desire.
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