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Lazy Son
My son is 27, and he graduated about 6 months ago from college, and I can't seem to motivate him to go out on his own; get a job; move out and start his own life! What on earth haven't I tried yet? Any advice would greatly help.
Dale
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charge him rent. my parents hung that over my head during junior year in high school, and the next year I was in the army. I'd say it works.
-Gunner
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Sometimes tough love is the way to go. Tell him I know the economy isn't doing well but you need to get up and off your butt and look and find a job. give him a time limit.
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Give him three months, and tell him starting then rent will be whatever a reasonable amount of rent would be in your area for the room he is taking up.
If he doesn't have it. Kick him the hell out.
He's twenty seven, not seventeen, it's no longer your job to motivated him. It's now your job to say "I'm done being your motivation. You need to go be your own. And the way I'm going to express how I am now finished being your motivation, is I'm going to be your landlord. Pay me, or leave."
Yes. It's very hard to do to one's child. But it's probably the kindest thing you'll ever do for him. Even in a shit economy, there is work at fast food places, and maybe if it's really bad where you live, he'll realize he needs to relocate to find work.
No more excuses, give him a reasonable time line, and then charge him a realistic amount of rent. If he doesn't comply, kick him out.
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