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do people hate shy people?
okay, so i'm really shy and quiet when i'm around people i don't know very well. i usually have a habit of looking at the ground when i walk, and i have a hard time opening up to people because i'm afraid of being rejected. but it seems like certain people (in certain situations or places almost everyone), almost hate me before even knowing me because of it. i've heard that sometimes shy people can come-off as being stuck-up or snotty, but it's not like if somebody smiles at me i won't smile back, i'm very friendly as long as other people are first so i won't feel like they might reject me... if that makes sense. when i think of stuck-up people, i usually think of people who walk around thinking they're better than everybody else, constantly pointing out people's flaws, mean and cruel in general to other people even if they don't know them. i don't think i'm like that at all. i love people i just don't have a very high self esteem so it's hard for me to open up, and i wait for other people to smile or say hi first, then i will back. what should i do? is it me or them?
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Aw, I used to be SO shy! So trust me, I know how you feel.
First of alllll, do you get anxious/uncomfortable in social situations? Cause if you do, that's social anxiety, and they can give you some medicine for that and you'll be all better. That's what I had to do--I take Lexapro--and now I'm as happy as ever! :D
It's not them. It's just how you are, but you shouldn't be ashamed of that! You just have a low self-esteem. I've never considered someone shy as suck-up, although I've heard that too. I don't think most people do that. I think most people, when they see someone shy, just assume that you don't want to talk so they don't bother. I'm sure no one hates you, sweetie. They just don't know what to say to you. Like, they think you just don't wanna talk to them so they feel awkward, you know?
You've just gotta open up! Most people are actually really nice; you've just gotta gather up some courage and start up a converstion. Ask them how to do something with the homework or classwork if you can't think of anything else. They won't think you're weird or anything, so don't worry! They'll just think you're friendly, which is a very good thing.
Hope I helped! :D
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Be confident believe in yourself confidence is key
everyone gets nervous sometimes it's normal but you can't let your nerves get the best of you i think most people are afraid of being rejected you aren't alone this may sound strange but
practice what you want to say to others that way when you do actually speak you won't be as nervous and shy just be confident and believe in yourself and you should be fine :)
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i use to be the same way and there is nothing wrong with being a little shy around people that you dont know. you may have to do what i did and say hi first, be a little more open and stop looking at the ground, there is nothing interesting about the ground, people want to see you cute face not your forehead if your lookin at the ground. If you get rejected so what-that idiot just lost out on knowing a really good person. rejection may not feel good but it is apart of life and growing up- a small part but still a part. dont be upset- keep in mind that for every one person that doesnt like you for some pinhead reason, there will be at least five who like you for you.
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