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I get choked up asking this, but I need answers. My mom and dad have been married for 2 years. But last night, I was over at my dad's best friend, Bobby's house. Then the doorbell rang so Bobby went to get it. It turned out to my dad barefoot and cying SO hard. My mom wasn't with him, so i was scared that something had happened to her. He kept yelling "That unfaithful bitch, that unfaithful bitch!"
Then my dad and Bobby went into a back room so I couldn't hear them talking. I'm really scared. My dad isn't talking to me, and he stays all cooped up in the house and doesn't go to work and he makes me cook all the meals. He hasn't stopped crying yet and I'm SO scared!He hasn't told me the problem adn i really want to know! What happened last night? Why is my dad so sad? Where's my mom? When will my dad get over this? PLEASE HELP! I'll rate 5's for great answers. (link)
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I think your mom cheated on your dad. Things will get messy...
He may or may not get over it. It depends on your mom and dad. Sometimes, the two get back together and fix things. More often, they don't bother to try and just get divorced.
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alright so iv been dating this guy for almost 9 months now and me and him broke up about 15 times and the last time we broke up was bc he lied to me about stuff he did with a girl (back at the pond he kissed her and she touched his dick n all this) and he lied about it he swore on my life that nothing happened and he swore on our relationship. . . and i believed him of course then yesterday his cousin told me the truth . . . and i asked him about and he addmitted it i was like OMG! then we broke up and he said whateverrr!! really mean and i hung up and he didnt even call me back and i didnt believe his cousin i was like no he loves me too much he wouldnt lie. . . but he did lie! and he cried a lot and begged for me back for like 24 hours or so and i reallyyyyy love him with all my heart but during the almost 9 months like in the beginging he was soo nice then he just started lien to me a lot. . . and i found out and asked him about everything and he told me he wasnt hiding anything else and i believed him and that was after we dated for 5 months or so and he was really good after that then he flirted with a girl right in front of me which that hurt so bad!! then he called me a bitch and hit me 4 times but i really love him and this time i took him back bc i love him soo much. . . did i make a bad mistake?? (link)
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Yes. SOrry to break it to you, but the guy is using you. Or he's confused. Or just stupid.
No matter which it is, though, you'll be the one getting hurt. Dump him. Tell him if he wants you back, he'll have to shape up and grow up.
And never, NEVER! put up with a guy hitting you. Don't let him. If he tries, dump him.
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Okay, well I've been going to a workout camp for three weeks, and already I see great improvement in my speed, strength, and endurance. The only thing, is that WHILE I'm working out, my back sweats really bad, and completely soaks the back of my shirt! It seriously grosses me out and it is not too much fun when you're stuck with a wet shirt for a lot of the day. What can I do? (link)
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That is normal!
Try bringing another shirt, or use darker ones.
Or take more breaks. Your body sweats to cool down, so if you stop to cool often, you can probably reduce the sweating.
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Hi. im not writing this question for people to tell me im unique and crap, but lately, ive just been feeling bad. I think im ugly. People always tell me that im ugly. its just my face..i mean my nose is just so weird that i feel so self conscious and whenever im with my friends it hurts me so much always seeing guys all flirting with them and stuff. ive never been asked out, and people always tell me that im ugly. i know its mean, and only sometimes i feel pretty. i know that if i feel beautiful, i am beautiful, and being confident is bueatiful, but i dont want that crap. i need some way to make me feel better about myself....any suggestions? (link)
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Go shopping! Pick out cute clothes, nice makeup, cute shoes, the works. Anything that you like and looks good on you. Then just be yourself! If people say you are ugly, ignore them.
And like they say, beauty is only skin deep. Try using other facets of your personality to get guys. If they just like you for looks, chances are you wouldn't want them anyway.
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OK me and my boyfriend are going to the movies and I was wondering what would be the right way to kiss him. He's never kissed anyone before. (link)
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Start slow. Try a peck on the cheek. If he is ready, then go a little farther.
And a kiss on the forehead is a sweet goodbye kiss.
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ok well..im 11 yeears old, and like.. im 115lb. and im 5'2 and i abouslty hate it. People say im fat, behind my back..and im always hungry ..and i try to eat healthy but i still gain weight ..help? (link)
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You are perfectly fine. Not fat at all.
You are 11? You are always hungry because you are GROWING. You need the extra food. You will gain some weight, because you aren't done with your size changes. And the taller you get, the heavier. It is normal.
If it bugs you though, exercise, and keep eating healthy. If you gain weight then, it is normal, not excess.
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okay, i have a group of 4 friends that have a blast when we're all together. its me and another girl and 3 guys. Well i found out that 2 of the guys liked me.. and the thing is i like both of them too.. but i like one more.. but dont wanna hurt the other one. and so i tell them that i just want to be friends with all of them. and then i get a texted from the one i like more asking if i'd ever want to hold his hand, i told him i'd let him kno when the time comes. but ugh.. its so fustrating.. hope you can help! (link)
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Talk to the other two friends about it (the girl and the boy who doesn't like you)! Ask their opinions. Since they are also a part of the group, they will know the guys well, and be able to give you good ideas.
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my boyrfriend is going to college and i was wondering if you had any cute ideas of things i could do for him (link)
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Get some cool stuff for his dorm! You know, furniture items, etc. Like one of those squishy pillows. Those are good.
And a cool picture frame with you picture.
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hey, im a girl, and i shave my armpits, but there is always this grayish area left. like i dunno how to make it look like just skin, like the rest of the girls do. i mean, it doesnt get mistaken for like not shaving but it still bugs me! please dont leave me mean answers. i really try and i dont want to hear anything you have to say if yur gonna be mean. (link)
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A sharper razor may help.
Also, try using a different deodorant after shaving. I use Dove, because it is much easier on your skin.
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hey, im a girl, and i shave my armpits, but there is always this grayish area left. like i dunno how to make it look like just skin, like the rest of the girls do. i mean, it doesnt get mistaken for like not shaving but it still bugs me! please dont leave me mean answers. i really try and i dont want to hear anything you have to say if yur gonna be mean. (link)
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A sharper razor may help.
Also, try using a different deodorant after shaving. I use Dove, because it is much easier on your skin.
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What are some GOOD foods that won't load you up with fat, cause I have alot of muscle you just can't see it because i have "fat deposits" there. Thank you. (link)
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Smoothies are great. Make them with tons of fresh fruits and yogurt or tofu. They are healthy and tasty.
Tofu is healthy. Try stirfrying it. It uses very little oil, so not much fat, but tons of flavor.
Experiment with salads. Different components have different tastes.
Also, steamed veggies are good.
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OK i really need help...I really want to have sex and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend, I've already had sex before so it's no big deal or anything but how should I tell him? We have been going out for 9 months and I just can't wait any longer
please tell me what to do
P.S. we are 13 and where should we have it without our parents noticeing
I WILL rate 5's for no one who bitches to me about how young we are im just sooooo god damn horny all the time (link)
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Your boyfriend may not be ready for it... Talk to him. But if he doesn't want to, respect that. If you can't, find another guy who'll give you what you want.
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i have this boyfirend i have been with for over a year now.. and i love him soo much and i now he feels the same way.. but he live in a totally different state and i want us to be together forever but his parents understand butmine dont im 15 and hes 18.. what should i do to get that acroos to my mom (link)
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Just talk to her! Explain how you feel, then ask if you (as a family, not alone) could go visit your boyfriend. Have your family and his have dinner together. If they get to know each other better, she may approve more. Then maybe you can plan more such trips.
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I'm going into high school this year as a freshman, and I'm SO nervous. I'm scared that I won't have anyone to talk to and I won't do well in my classes (I got all honors), so can anyone please tell me what high school is like ? Like, the classes, teachers, classmates, etc.. And any tips to make friends and do well in the classes ? kthnx. (link)
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Teachers: Pay attention (or fake it well) and be on your best behavior til you get to know them better. Then act accordingly. Or ask around. You can usually get advice on teachers from upperclassmen.
Classes usually aren't too bad... A tip: Ask around about honers and AP. Many times, they are easier, because the teachers see you as more knowledgabl;e and mature, so they don't think they need to give you so much work. But others give you more. So, ask any upperclassmen you meet.
To do well: Do the work assigned on time. Study when you need to.
Be yourself around classmates. You'll make friends soon enough. Also, join clubs, or try out for sports. Shared interests build fast friendships.
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can someone please give me some websites for some really cute quotes! (link)
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Googling it is probably your best bet...
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Ok. so my boyfriend just told me that he didn't want to have sex tell he is married but I really don't want to wait me and let's call him stuart have been dating a while and i'm in love with him so much but I really don't want to wait. What do I do? (link)
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If you love him, wait, or get married.
If you can't wait, then you need to find someone else.
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Ok so you know that little arrow u click next to your browser that shows you all the sites you been to recently? ok so i clicked that today, looking for a site a typed in (im lazy), and then i find this site called nextboys.com. i have never heard, nor typed, nor visited that website so i was curious why it was on our computer. i clicked it, and you wouldnt believe what it was. it was a site for gay massaging!! UGH!! im really mad, because the only people who live in my house is my 7 year old sister, and my mom and dad!! my question is: is it most likley my parents did this, or is there another way to get a site in that list. and if my parents did it, what should i say to them???? (link)
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If you don't have a popupblocker, stuff like that can woem its way into the computer. Just tell your parents "I found this thing in our computer, I don't know how it got there, get rid of it." If they are innocent, they'll be concerned, and fix it. Then get a good popup blocker.
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ok so im 5'4 and weigh a 112-115 punds ... is this normal or should be around 108 and maybe 110...but just to let you no .. i got some junk in the trunk (like alot) and i have a good size chest (34B)i no im not fat because you can see a six pack on me .. but am i wrong?? help please! (link)
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You are a perfect weight, maybe even a bit underweight! Use a BMI calculator to be sure.
You have no problems! If you want to exercise some, it can help tone your body, but you don't need to lose weight at all.
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when is the easiest time to get pregnant? okay i know this is going to sound really wrong but i really really really want a baby and my boyfriend have sex frequently without a condom but he pulls out because he hates kids, is there any way to make it easier to get pregnant? and i kno alot of people are going to think what im saying is really messed up so plase only comment back with advice not ridicule, im not expecting him to marry me or even take part in this i just am wondering...thanks (link)
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If you want kids, you should marry! Or at least get a boyfriend who wants them. Kids need a stable home, and it is harder for a single parent to provide it. If your current boyfriend doesn't want a kid, find another guy who shares your dream.
You could also look into adopting a baby. That way, you don't have to get pregnant.
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is ther ne excersising you can do to make your thighs and or your butt bigger? because im sick of all that skinny people shyt and i think thicker is sexier anyways. thankx. (link)
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Biking will help with the thighs, and squats for the butt. It will add muscle.
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