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Parents (sorry if this is long)
I get choked up asking this, but I need answers. My mom and dad have been married for 2 years. But last night, I was over at my dad's best friend, Bobby's house. Then the doorbell rang so Bobby went to get it. It turned out to my dad barefoot and cying SO hard. My mom wasn't with him, so i was scared that something had happened to her. He kept yelling "That unfaithful bitch, that unfaithful bitch!"
Then my dad and Bobby went into a back room so I couldn't hear them talking. I'm really scared. My dad isn't talking to me, and he stays all cooped up in the house and doesn't go to work and he makes me cook all the meals. He hasn't stopped crying yet and I'm SO scared!He hasn't told me the problem adn i really want to know! What happened last night? Why is my dad so sad? Where's my mom? When will my dad get over this? PLEASE HELP! I'll rate 5's for great answers.
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I think your mom cheated on your dad. Things will get messy...
He may or may not get over it. It depends on your mom and dad. Sometimes, the two get back together and fix things. More often, they don't bother to try and just get divorced.
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From what i gather it sounds like your mom cheated on your dad with someone, and it really shook your dad up. bad. Hes sad because the woman he loves cheated on him with someoen else, and i've never had that happened to me but it must be the most awful feeling in the world. Your mom might have left to stay with the person she cheated on, a relatives house, or a friends house. When will your dad get over this? well its going to take a lot of time..the woman he loves just cheated and left..thats a huge deal and its going to be very hard.
This is one of those "adult problems" that needs to be worked out between your parents..but if i were you i would first try and track down my mom:
-does she have a cell you can call?
-do you know the number to her friends house? she could be there
-try calling a relatives house..maybe her moms house
your dad is putting a lot on you, hes not handling this well at all..try and support him and comfort him the best to your ability..eventually he should calm down..but i think he needs to be alone also to let everything out..let him know your here to support him and talk to him and give him a hug.
try spending time with your friend to get your mind off of family problems because this must be really hard on you also.
im so sorry about everything your going through..stay strong and remember you can talk to family members, friends, etc about this ...talking helps ..it really does
i hope i helped you out a bit..please, inbox me if you have any more questions. im here for you
-melissa-
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That sounds awful, and I feel bad for you. Because obviously your parents are so wrapped up in their problems that they are not thinking about how it is affecting you. THis is going to take some time, and I think soon enough you may learn all of the details, and probably be sorry that you did. It can't be good. Can you guess where your mom might be? DOes she have a job, can you call there on MOnday to see if she's there? I don't think she'll tell you much either, not a first, but eventually depending on the outcome of this whole mess, you will learn everything. Your dad is real upset and doesn't think you can help him now. But in time he will come out of the room and he will need someone to understand and listen. And while there is no way that that should be your job, you will probably be the one. I hope it doesn't turn into a big messy divorce and they try to make you choose side. Some times people do awful things to each other. Based on what you said, I would say that your dad caught your mom with another fella, or he found out about another fella, because he is hurt and she is missing. They can't go on like this because they have legal ties together like, home, cars, money, etc, and moral obligations to you and any siblings you may have. So eventually, it will all come out. Be brave and remember YOU didn't do anything wrong.
Michele
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It sounds like your mom was cheating on your dad, and he just found out that night. I'm not jumping to conclusions or anything, that's just what it seems like.
The reason he isn't talking to you is (Probably) because he needs time to think. I'm sure it wouldn't be easy to tell you about whatever happened. He also needs time to get over the pain he's going through. Don't push him to tell you what happened: Give it time.
Does your mom have a cell phone or e-mail address? Try contacting her in those ways, if you can. If you can't, then you'll probably just have to wait.
Ask Bobby what's up, and tell him that you're worried about your dad. He might not be able to tell you, so don't ask a lot. Ask once, and if he won't tell you, drop it.
Your dad will get over this with time. It may be a long time, it might be a short time. It depends on the person.
Continue to love and be there for you father, he needs that right now.
I hope I helped, and feel free to leave a question in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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It appears that your mom cheated on him or he thinks she did. From the sounds of it, they've split up. Your dad is so sad because it seems like your mom has hurt him deeply.
Talk to your dad and tell him how you feel and ask if there's anything you can do to help. If he won't talk to you, write him a note and put it where he's sure to find it. If he continues to not go to work or take care of you, talk to his friend Bobby or another trusted adult.
It takes time to get over a loved one's betrayal. Give your dad time and be there for him if he wants to talk.
Right now you're feeling hurt too since it appears you have, at least for the moment, lost both parents. Do not hold these feelings inside. Talk to a friend, a trusted adult, or even Bobby. Talking about it will help you get through it.
Good luck and my prayers are with you.
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Hey!! Well, it could be many things such as:
Your mom cheating on your dad
you mom left
somthing happend to your mom
sit down with your dad and talk to him, besides he is your dad. Call boby see if you can get anything out of him or even call your mom
♥ Michelle
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Try calling your moms cell if she has one ask your dad in a note ask bobby call some of your moms friends or work mates they might know! Tell someone at school when you go back i know that is a lonng time but you could try tell someone at your church if you go or a camp anyone that can hlep! i really want to know what happended send it to my inbox and i will try and help you cope
Good Luck!
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