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so today is me and my boyfriends 1 year 6 months anniversary, and last night i had a dream that i cheated on him with his best friend! i was crying and upset in the dream, but why did i dream that? what does it mean?
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Dreams are thought pictures. When you go to bed your brain is still working and processing thoughts and fears. You're just encountering your fear or whatever has been bothering you in another way while you sleep.
Does it mean anything? it means you're scared of losing this person or doing something you regret to cause that. The sooner you get over this the better things will be. Bottom line your issue is insecurity and not what you saw playing out in the dream.
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I just bought an ipod classic (80g) but it says it required itunes 7.4 to run
I have Windows 2000 and 7.4 itunes required windows xp or vista to download!
SO is there ANY way i can get my ipod to work on my computer (link)
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You should contact Apple's technical support line. In Canada it's 1-800-263-3394. In the U.S. or other countries you can call 1-800-My-Apple and get the number.
Your absolute best bet would be to go to apple.com and see if there is an Apple store near you. Why? their staff can show you how to get it to work on the spot.
Do any of your friends have Windows XP or Vista? if so they can download Itunes 7.4 on their machine and you can go over and have them program your songs for you.
This might be a headache because if they add/remove songs on their Itunes that you wanted kept you're stuck with their playlists and yours are deleted each time they re-sync there own Ipods and or yours.
Do you or your parents have a laptop computer? You can download Itunes 7.4 to that and program your Ipod. Bottom line call Apple directly because they're the experts at getting these issues handled in a snap. I see no reason why you can't get your Ipod Classic to work even with the issues you describe.
Once you do get set up send me a private note. I own an Ipod Classic and can help you set up cover flow and most other features.
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ok so im helping my sisters brother with alot of things i even told him if he liked my sister that he should ask her out and he did and now he wants to be a skater boy or whatever and he isnt he trys to be cool but he just isnt and he counts on me to answer his quistions im really proud of him for taking my advice all the time and making the right choces but i want advice to give him on being cool and acheving the skater boy postion thanks in advance (link)
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Tell him it's a bad idea to try to act or be something he's clearly not. Let him know others will see through it and won't see him as cool.
Tell him that people will like him for his own self if he quits trying to hard and develops social skills. He needs help there as it's his problem. They won't think he's any more cool if he poses as a skater boy than he is now.
Tell him that he doesn't need you to make decisions and the right choices. One day you won't be there to help him. Get him to rely more on himself than you. Be his friend but encourage him to get there on his own.
You can't answer all his life and school questions. You have to tutor him to the point he can handle both on his own. If you tell him this and he learns to take care of himself more he can become cool and be whatever he wants.
The key is making him cool for being himself and not trying to wing it with a certain group or mimic a style. He will get nowhere otherwise in social situations.
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okay,
my ex comes back into my life and makes my feelings toward him comlicated. i mean we broke up because i felt he wasn't like the best like i could do better. like he's had a record.. soo after that we just never talked again and i kind of disliked him alot. Now he comes back into my life and we go to a party together right when he got in a girl starts flirting with him. i'm like okay w.e and not even an hour yet they start holding hands hugging they couldn't be torn apart. After an hour they make-out i'm like what the hell. why is he so desspret to date someone he doesn't even know. Then i kept staring at them then me and his eyes met quite a few times. i don't know but i'm so happy for them but then again the girls my best friend and she could have asked. I don't know if it was an urge for revenge or jelousy but i keep thinkings they aren't ment to be and that they should breakup! what should i do? do i like him? do i hate her? (link)
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I hate to be blunt but do yourself a favor and distance yourself from him. You KNOW that he is wrong for you and has a criminal record from what you stated. You have absolutely NO claim to him anymore.
You broke up long ago and he moved on to the next person. Unfortunately, that person is your best-friend. This doesn't need to be complicated.
Accept the fact they both knew your relationship was long over and started dating. That's their right and you shouldn't be jealous or pissed off about it. Be happy for her but know that she will likely discover what you did that he's bad news/bad match.
It's normal to feel attachment to someone you had a past with but you need to move on. He has. It's unhealthy otherwise. Do not voice your feelings to her that it's not meant to be and they should break up. That's for her to learn and after all who are you to tell anyone who to date? You don't get a say here.
Your friend didn't have to ask you anything or tell you she planned to date this guy. It would be a courtesy or nice gesture if she had but your feelings aren't relevant to who she chooses to date to be honest.
Why hate her? It's not her fault that she likes the guy and he likes her. It's nature taking its course. It would be wrong for her to have to suppress her feelings because of your old relationship. You don't need revenge or have the right to be vengeful here.
You're treating this guy like property you own when you have no legitimate claim to him anymore. Should you be friends with him? No, you don't have to be. But do be cordial when he's around with her.
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Okay,not to sound full of myself or anything
but i used to be a really smart kid
and i think i still am
but i messed up my school year pretty badly
i mean 9th grade was bad
i was rarley at school
was in a crowd that always ditched school to drink and hook up
but now its about a million times worse
im not even in school
i didnt drop out or anything
but i was absent (actually sick) for such a long period of time they basically told me that i couldnt pass this semester
and the continuation wouldnt take me until next semester
so right now im pretty much screwed
i have almost no credits
and honestly,no will power
i cant focus on doing something
and honestly im still into some bad things
not as much but still enough to make things worse
ive tried stopping but like i said its like i have no will power
i used to be really smart,gate and everything
then somehow things went to shit.
i really wanna be the girl to make everyone proud again.
please help if you can.
thanks for listening.
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It's not about making your family proud so much as redeeming yourself and being equally proud. You're 100% right about one thing and that is that you must want this for yourself or it won't work out.
Obviously you are embarrassed about what happened and concerned for your future. That's a step in the right direction as it's the motivation you need to act.
You won't like this but it's the truth you need to stop the drinking, drugs if you are on them and ditch your so-called friends. These people are dragging you down the wrong path and bad things have happened.
You need to distance yourself from them or keep getting sucked into trouble and bad habits. Look at how much they/this has done for you? They're on a ticket to nowhere fast but you still can turn it around.
What should you do? Admit your bad habits and addictions and seek professional help. Next, find new friends and finally get your education on track.
What you need to do is have your parents consult the school board and explain your problems, addictions, habits and bad influences and ask for them to sign a form or a letter to get you into an adult night school or adult day school program where you are surrounded by adults getting high school credits.
It will be damned difficult that way to stumble again when you don't have the old influences around. You can get into a program like this NOW and not later on.
Your semester isn't exactly OVER until you investigate this. It may just be starting. School boards also have alternative programs for troubled kids with potential who can't make it elsewhere. Start investigating it thoroughly.
Note, from experience the school you are in now doesn't like it when students don't go through their regular and broken system.
They won't hinder you when you take the course I suggested but are never open at all with students/parents about night school options or adult day school programs. You MUST begin investigating and asking questions of people at the school and school board now.
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OK I'm turning 14 in March, and I need to start studying for my driver's permit test. Are there any websites that can help me? I live in Arkansas btw :) thanks (link)
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This is all taken from a State of Arkansas web site.
GO HERE FIRST: Study guides are on their Web site http://www.arkansas.gov/dfa/driver_services/ds_documents.html#1
QUOTES START HERE: ABOUT WHAT YOU MUST DO AFTER:
"If under 18 you will need to take a birth certificate, proof of enrollment in school, proof of grade point average of at least 2.0 and a parent or legal guardian to the testing site. If you are under 18 but have graduated from high school, you will need to show proof of your graduation (diploma) at the testing site. (For the location of testing sites, call the Arkansas State Police at 501-618-8251.)
All persons 14 to 18 years of age must hold an A restriction (adult in car) for a minimum of 6 months before driving unrestricted. The six month time period begins on the date the person passes the written exam (the date the learners permit is issued by the state police examiner).
Any person applying for a driver's license is required to submit ONE Primary Document and ONE Secondary Document or TWO Primary Documents from the list. A primary document must contain the full name and date of birth and must be verifiable, i.e., you must be able to contact the issuing agency to determine authenticity of the document. List of Primary and Secondary Documents"
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Yeah, so I was using my neighbor's disk. He has 2 macs (a 5 years old but nice iMac and a macbook pro) and installed Leopard on both of them, and so since he has the family pack it still has 3 openings to install on other computers. I have a black macbook purchased in July, I got it off ebay from a trusted user, didn't even open the box, the computer works fine, I got it in October 2007. So, he gave me the disk and I did everything right except when it was checking the disk "for consistency" not even halfway through and told me to clean the disk and try reinstalling again. I did this and I checked for scratches I noticed nothing so I tried installing and the same thing happened. It worked fine with my neighbors' computers! I don't get it...I really wanted to install it tonight. What might be the problem? Should I go to a store and get the disk checked out? Ah what to do!! (link)
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You can take it to an Apple Store if you live in a city that has one. Not everyone does though. The best thing you can do is call Apple at 1-800-My-Apple and ask them for the U.S. or Canadian Apple Tech. support line.
Those guys are incredible (I own an IMAC) and will trouble shoot it with you. If they can't get things going at either the store or over the phone nobody can. The Canadian number is 1-800-263-3394 but not being American I'll have to refer you to the above number for their 1-800 tech support.
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So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?
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You can't stop anyone from thinking anything regardless of how false or ignorant it is. Their line of thinking is saying a whole lot about the kind of people they are.
Consider the source of the rumors and gossip and ignore it. You and your friend know the truth and that's all that matters. Nothing should change your friendship.
The only thing that has changed is that she told you she was bisexual rather than keeping this info to herself. If you dropped her now (which you won't) you would look even worse than those doing the taunting now.
It's all BS and you shouldn't give a damn about what these brats are saying. Clearly they haven't go much else to do. They'll stop with this junk once you and your friend show that you can't and won't be hurt by it. You just laugh it off like water on a duck.
Your friend probably knows full well what these people are saying about the both of you. She doesn't seem to care and rather expected it.
Perhaps she should have only told you and not others but regardless she as well as her supporters will always run up always run up against stupid or ignorant people.
Have a thick skin about it and just go about your business unfazed by anything they have to say. However, if you were the courageous type I would approach those gossiping in class with your friend and say "so what's it to you if both of us were bisexual? Nothing would have changed except for ignorant perception. And when has that ever counted?"
Walk away after saying that so you don't allow them a chance to respond. Trust me, that will get their respect and make them shut up faster than anything else.
Also, you and your friend have a right never to be harassed by anyone on campus be it faulty or student. This is taken several times more seriously when it's about sexual orientation and or rumors/gossip about someone else.
If you and your friend go to a counselor or teacher and tell them she's bisexual and both of you are being bullied and who did it they'll fix their wagon and make sure that they never forget it.
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16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).
i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.
is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
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It's not a competition here or about age. It's about being mature, ready and loving who you are with. It won't be special otherwise. Once you give up your virginity you never get it back.
Your sister may not be lying but people at school might to sound cool. Some of them who have done it might regret it. You have your whole life ahead of you to have sex.
Wait until its right. You aren't missing out on anything by waiting. In fact it may be a better experience for you if you waited until the right person came into your life. Sooner or later that will happen.
Sex is about physical, emotional, mental maturity and loving who you are with. if you don't have hose three ingredients everything is meaningless. You might enjoy the physical side of things but not remember the experience for the right reasons.
If your gut says "wait for the the right person" and "this needs to be special" obey it. You'll be better off in the long run than you think or your friends for that matter.
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I'm 15/f.
I turn 16 this February.
I applied for a job at Heinen's with my friend. We applied for the one closer to our homes because of transportation reasons. My dad also works at Heinen's, but the one he works at is far away. He used to work at the one I applied for, so he went and talked to the manager. He said you had to be 16 to work there, but he'd give me a call over break to schedule the interview anyway. My friend won't be 16 until May, so I'm not getting the job with her anymore. Now, I'm second guessing working at the one I applied for. The customers there are rude, plus I'd have better co-workers at the other one. I want to work at another one that's still pretty close. I applied for store #2 on Christmas. My dad still needs to talk to the manager from that store. The manager from store #1 called me the other day, and I'm supposed to call him after the new year to schedule an interview. But, I don't want to work there anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can get the job at store #2 for sure yet. What should I do? Should I go to the interview, get the job, then transfer? I'd feel bad though. Any help? (link)
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I have news for you the customers in ANY job where you are in direct contact with them are unbelievably rude and some are downright nasty or a pain in the butt to deal with.
You will find that is the case no matter which grocery store or job you work in where you deal with the public for 6-12 hrs a day.
Other than that I cannot see any reason to turn down an interview or not accept a job other than distance between home and work. It seems the manager at this store really respects your father and wants to give you a shot.
Accept the interview and talk honestly with your potential employer about the distance, how to handle snotty customers (believe me they'll train you about this), safety and other issues.
An interview doesn't mean you'll get the gig nor does it mean you have to accept it. You could inform him/her in the interview that before you knew he/she would interview you that you put in an application a store nearer to home.
Quite often you might get hired at a certain store/branch and can ask to be transferred to another store. In the interview ask about these concerns.
It would seem they really want you to work there or to at least interview. They're even thinking of hiring you even though you aren't yet 16. Your dad went to a lot of trouble to talk to this manager so I would take the interview and then see how you feel if a job is in fact offered. Doesn't mean you have to take it in the end.
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Is there a place to watch the FULL movie Juno online
ive looked every were and cant find it
so can you please give me a link if you positively know for sure
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Thanks :D (link)
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Juno was initially released as a limited engagement in 2-3 theaters in major markets such as New York, LA, Toronto on Dec. 5th. The film opened in wide release Christmas Day.
This is why you won't find it anywhere on the Internet as of yet. It should crop up soon in the next few days to a week.
The person who said it wouldn't be uploaded until it's on DVD is wrong. Most major releases are unfortunately uploaded online hours after they are released or up to one week after.
It's a billion dollar industry and that's why movie theater chains and studios and the FBI seek to shut down those kind of sites and the people behind them.
Watching the films online isn't illegal but uploading is as you know. By watching it means that you support those uploading them.
It wouldn't be right for me to give you links to places where you can watch the films and download them. Having said that, if you use search engines you'll find many sites that are out in the open where you can watch them on your desk top.
I don't condone these sites but I also don't support theater chains that charge $11.95 to see a movie either. I guess you can see why this is such a big underground business.
Use the Internet to search for links to these sites if you must but it's best to wait until it arrives in theaters or on DVD.
You'll no doubt only see a poorly recorded version of the film online often with scenes missing from it. Besides, the actors, director, studio all lose money because of this.
You won't have long to wait to see the film in theaters because it has been nominated for a Golden Globe for best Musical/Comedy film. Once that happens every theater out there will start showing it.
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((F/14/8th grade))srry if this is long!
ok, there's this guy I've liked since my last days of being a 7th grader.Ever since school started and around September I've realized he's been looking/staring at me for long time now.I'm now finally convinced he likes me.^^
But I can never figure out what to talk about with him and I've noticed that I get really nervous when trying to think of a topic to talk about than what I do talking to people who I hardly know in school.We talk very little since he's the one who just says things out randomly and thats when we do a small talk about the subject and poof...nothing else to talk about...
I sit next to him in my 2nd per. class and I'm always thinking of what to talk about cause i know most of the things I need to know about him((And no,I'm not a stalker he says things out randomly to our 1st per. teacher or a friend of ours about his bros,his skateboard,his fav music))
So, I can never think of a good topic to talk about and it's worse in 2nd per, cause there are 2 girls in that class that get me jealous cause they are either trying to flirt with him just for fun or put thier hands on him,which disgusts me cause they do that all the time to every guy in the class.But thankfully he insults them all the time.
Anyways it's hard to talk to him in 1st cause I'm somewhat far from him and he is always talking to his friend and I dont want to intrude them,2nd per. cause of those girls and my heart starts beating non-stop and since it's math we ((or mostly me)) i dont want to get in trouble while the teacher is explaning to us.
so...any advice on how to talk to him???
Sorry if this was sooo long!I apologize really!
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Treat talking to him like you would anybody else. The only difference is you might get a date out of the conversation. When you talk to him ask him about his hobbies, sports, favorite movies, school, family etc. etc. and he will give you more than enough to go on.
You should invite him to hang out with you and your friends at the movies, bowling etc. Also, you can throw a party and invite him.
If I were you I would walk up to him and say "I'm (your name here)I was hoping you could use an extra friend to hang out with." Slip him a note with your number and e-mail info and see what happens.
If he doesn't respond or call you'll know he's not in to you. If you want something you should go after it.
He obviously likes you from what you've said so make an effort to just talk to him and include him like you would any other friend.
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Hey, i want to finger myself when my boyfriend and i have phone sex. I know i would get pleasure out of it, I just dont want to hurt myself and need to know the "proper" way to do it?
pleasee ? and thanks (link)
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Unless you plan on using a chain-saw there's really no way to hurt yourself here. You might break your hymen but you can't hurt yourself. There really isn't one way or a "proper way" to engage in this activity.
Only you know what turns you on sexually. We don't. Even if we could give how to info it wouldn't help you as each woman likes different kinds of stimulation.
You won't find the how to info you seek either as giving it out means being banned from the site indefinitely. It's how they keep minors safe and the site observing laws to protect kids/teens.
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whats the difference between preceded and suceeded? For example, "Preceded by
Sex and the City Emmy; Succeeded by
Everybody Loves Raymond "
WHAT!? (link)
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Preceded means that which came before someone. For example Michael Keaton precedeed Val Kilmer as Batman. George Clooney suceeded Kilmer because he was cast as Batman afterwards. That's the difference of each term right there.
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19/f
him 18/m
my boyfriend almost always initiates sex. like 8 out of 10 times he initiates it. he wants it all the time, probably about 6 times a week. since he wants it so much him initiating it has become a turn-off for me. and when i say no then he begs. he's not forceful like abusive or anything close to that but he'll sit next to me and beg for at least half an hour and no matter how many times i tell him he doesnt realize that begging isn't a turn on. when i do initiate sex of course he's thrilled but its rare because im normally so sick of it from all the other times we do it.
how do i get it through his head that when he begs its a huge turn off. (link)
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Take him to this site, show him the question and answers to it and tell him you wrote in. That's the easiest option. You need to tell him exactly what you told us here in your question.
Let him know it's not a turn on and no amount of begging will get him what he wants. Tell him you aren't interested in having sex every night of the week. He can masturbate, it won't kill him to do so. Let him know that this is actually killing off the relationship. Don't cave ever.
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i loved your answer. it's not always that you get someone who'd really helfull without all the sugar coating... and i really need this right now.
so before anything... i know i might sound spoiled -and maybe i am- but i really do try my best to get away from under that light and shift into something more modest... i know it sounds dumb but i am a 20 year old female and well... to be honest... i am scared of my father. lets just say he tends to be a bit too physical at times. i mean two days ago i was driving him somewhere since he still hasn't found an assistant and driver yet and i missed an exist because he was shouting in pulses and he got so mad he punched me and now my arm is all bruised and painful... the reason he moved close by (where i go to college) is "to keep an eye" on us... not to justify the 200 dollar membership i joined the gym out of fear and determined to get a bit stronger so it's mostly muscle training (it's a bit scary now that i have to quit)... the hair thing isn't because i don't want to go to a "cheapo hair cutter" its because the place i go to is where my mum's friends hang out and where i must climb the "social escalator with grace"... so i am sorry i came of that way... anyway thats not the case but just thought i'd hand you some background....
about the job... do you think i could find one without him knowing :S i've never worked and i haven't got the slightest clue how to begin looking for one that i could fit in between classes so he wouldn't know... what do i do? how do i find a job to start??
i also freaking out about my credit card! next month i'm paying a 1000 and i've locked up my card in the safe at the bank so thats the end of that. and i stopped buying them (my parents) stuff with it and sorta hinted about the problem (since i don't want to drive him mad) ... i know i can live on 500 dollars at least for the first three months. but i am so scared. do you think it's ok to pay it over a span of 3 months (jan, feb, march and maybe april and may) if need be? and will the bank really send someone over?
please help...
thank you so much for the first feedback and sorry about the horrible sentence structure, syntax and grammatical errors, i am a bit in a rush! (link)
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The bank cannot send anyone to your house looking for you. They don't work that way. All that will happen is constant calls and letters. They might sue you in court and get a judgment that means you must pay them what you owe.
Naturally, you can't do that until you have the money. Don't worry about how long it takes to pay them back. They aren't going anywhere and you can't do a thing until you have the cash anyway.
Some people take years to pay it back regardless of the amount. Nothing bad will happen to you except for a lousy credit score.
Your father has a severe problem if he's hitting you and ruling your life. If he's that abusive and you are scared shitless of him something is very wrong.
I urge you to enter counseling on your own to learn how to stand up to him and become an adult. He's keeping you right where he wants you by using fear to control your every movement.
You are living on your own now and calling the shots. You can get a job just about anywhere and need to do so. If he threatens or hits you file a police report. He'll soon knock that shit off.
I would go to a local movie theater, bookstore, grocery store etc. that hires part-time workers and ask to speak to the manager. Tell them it would be your first job and see if they have something open.
Forget climbing the "social ladder" at the the hair salon place entirely. You don't need to impress anyone by getting your hair done there or hanging out.
If they want to hang out with you they know where you can be found. Go some place cheaper. It's about staying afloat and not social status at this point.
More or less you need professional help to deal with your father and lead your own life. Go get a job. If he tries to hurt you involve the police no matter what. You'll never become an adult and self sufficient until you stop letting him dictate what you do.
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ok so a week ago my parents called and said they need me to find them a place and "prepare it a little" my dad use to never say no all we had to do is ask for the money and since we always felt bad and considered whether we needed it or not that much we kind of grew responsible about finances not to mention sensitive when asking him. now my dad uses that as weapon. and if i do ask i go through a horrible guilt trip....
so anyway as expected i wasted all my allowence AND went SOOOO overboard with my credit card that now i am 3000 dollars in debt and i need to pay it off. i have no source of income but him and he wont let me work (long story) and i can't ask him coz he'll say i wasted money on unnecessary things... how do i budget this? minimum payment is 60 bux. and in total i get 1500 a month for food expenses clothe gas books supplies leisure and the rest of my college needs... what do i do? with them living so close by i don't know how to budget my way out of this with out feeling choked. i have a 200 obligation for my gym monthly and 40 hair treatment... how to i manage the rest of this? please help?
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You don't need a gym membership first of all. Find a way to get out of that contract. Cancel cable, cell phone service and get your home phone switched to the lowest rate. You don't need bells and whistles.
Next sit down and figure out the total cost for groceries, books, essential supplies and put that amount of your $1,500.00 cheque aside each month to keep yourself afloat. Try using the bus more so you don't have to pay a lot for gas.
When it comes to credit cards always pay ABOVE the minimum payment as that builds a favorable credit score in the end. You're $3,000 in debt which isn't all that much. The interest will rise (naturally) but all the bank can do is call and harass you or write threatening letters.
This is too low an amount to declare personal bankruptcy over. You need a JOB and can pay in back in months. Stop expecting your dad will bail you out if you need money. Where would you be without him? You must become 100% self sufficient and learn financial responsibility.
If you can't afford something don't buy it. I would cut up all your credit cards so you can't use them and cancel any that you have memorized the number on until the debt is repaid. Go out and find a part-time job.
I'm not buying this "my dad won't allow me" line. What's he going to do physically restrain you if you did? Not likely. You're an adult now and in college it's time to grow up. Getting a job is the only way you can get yourself out of the hole you are in.
It actually costs in most places $1,000-2,000 or so to get a lawyer to make you officially bankrupt. With a job and continually paying slightly above your minimum payment you can pay this off sooner than you think.
The bank is out to collect the total balance all the time and will harass you to death to pay up in full. They may even try to sucker you into a settlement on their terms or convince you to borrow money (don't fall for it).
The bank wants this settled as much as you do and when you have enough money offer them something on your terms done through a lawyer. Never give a creditor on the phone any info about who you live with, your car, family etc.
Tell your father about your debt but do not accept his cash or you'll learn nothing and will repeat this same problem. You should however sit down with him and learn how to mathematically calculate what you need to survive without going over.
As far as hair goes $40.00 is a bit much. Trust me, there are barbers and hair places that do a great job for half that and nobody would know if you got your hair done at Cheapo Hair Studio or some well-known place.
You father can teach you how to take $1,500 and apply it to food, clothes, books etc. Once you learn how to budget from him you'll be fine.
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When I Masturbate or get ready too sometimes i get this clearish stuff thats on my vaginia. What is that? (link)
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It's vaginal lubrication. It happens whenever you get sexually aroused. It's purpose is to make penetration and sex easier so there is no friction. It is also secreted during masturbation as well. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you btw.
Here's a link to an Wikipedia article on it http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginal_lubrication
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My gf (f/28) of 1.5 yrs. hates where I (m/36) live and often complains that the traffic/crime/people are really bad. Long story short she will not come to my place unless the electricity has been turned off at hers and complains that it's tiny compared to hers which she rents at a discount becuz her bff runs the apt. complex. Recently she's begun coming over to my place more often due to the fact that she has a temp. job in the area but now due to several murders that have occurred in her apt. complex causing her and her bf to consider moving, she says she's going to make me upgrade to a two bedroom apartment and move in with me since I signed a 9 mo. lease a few mos. back in disregard of her plea that I move in with her. I'm at a loss and rather tired of the pressure she applies re: this issue, I already spend big $$ on gas to get to her place and she is unwilling to meet me halfway regarding how much time we spend at each others apt. I feel she's being a hypocrite and would like to know what you think I should do. (link)
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ADDITIONAL INFO: To be blunt you would be a bloody fool to define the living arrangement terms with her. That's like stepping on a land mine when you knew it was there. Drop that animosity routine with her because it will lead to an epic power struggle. Have her move in and try to live in harmony or she'll be gone.
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How much do you want her to remain your girlfriend? The answer is let her move in and split everything down the middle. Make sure her name is on your new lease as well as yours. It means that while she can leave she can't stiff you with her half of the rent.
She made the mistake of continuing to live in a bad neighborhood and put you and your place down. Now that people have been murdered in her building not once but often she changes her tune. Wouldn't you if you were her?
She needs to be safe and you ought to care about that above any remarks she made in the past. She's not being a hypocrite here she's just woken up to the fact her place is dangerous. Let her move in. Things will be a lot better when you do. You'll find the relationship will become stronger and might head towards marriage. If you can't live with her than what are you doing being with her?
You can count on a lot of strife if you don't let her move in and possibly the relationship will dissolve. I'm writing this from a male perspective. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. You better let her move in or you won't know the end of it.
That's what happened with a friend and there were tons of fights/problems at first but they're getting hitched soon. You never know this could in fact have benefits.
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I am f/16. Well, everywhere I go and have to interact with people, it always feels like the girls are being really bitchy to me but the guys are always so sweet and helpful. Why is that? Its the same at work, at school, or just going out anywhere. It is so weird so I want to know what you think. Thanks a bunch. (link)
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They probably are jealous of your talents or qualities you express that they don't have. It always boils down to that and feeling they can't compete with you. It's them thinking they are inferior to you in these situations. Guys don't feel the need to directly compete with you or attain the same level of status as you possess
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