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this boy im helping
ok so im helping my sisters brother with alot of things i even told him if he liked my sister that he should ask her out and he did and now he wants to be a skater boy or whatever and he isnt he trys to be cool but he just isnt and he counts on me to answer his quistions im really proud of him for taking my advice all the time and making the right choces but i want advice to give him on being cool and acheving the skater boy postion thanks in advance
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tell him to just be himself. that being cool doesnt matter. but who knows maybe he wants to change his style just for him and not for anyone else. just tell him what you think would help.
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Tell him it's a bad idea to try to act or be something he's clearly not. Let him know others will see through it and won't see him as cool.
Tell him that people will like him for his own self if he quits trying to hard and develops social skills. He needs help there as it's his problem. They won't think he's any more cool if he poses as a skater boy than he is now.
Tell him that he doesn't need you to make decisions and the right choices. One day you won't be there to help him. Get him to rely more on himself than you. Be his friend but encourage him to get there on his own.
You can't answer all his life and school questions. You have to tutor him to the point he can handle both on his own. If you tell him this and he learns to take care of himself more he can become cool and be whatever he wants.
The key is making him cool for being himself and not trying to wing it with a certain group or mimic a style. He will get nowhere otherwise in social situations.
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