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Q:

hey, I'm 14 years old and i really really realllllly like this boy i met this year at my new highschool. He's super nice and sweet and funny, but rather shy and softspoken if he doesn't really know you. But we've gotten to know eachother over the past 2 months and we are now friends. Recntly it seems to me as if he is prehaps showing some signs he likes me. We have 4 classes together one after the other so often we walk with eachother to our next class and he jokes with me the whole way. Also, i've caught him staring at me a few times, but whenever i catch him or he catches me we hold eachothers gaze for a few seconds before continuing what we were doing. I smile and laugh alot when he's around and he smiles when i talk to him and we always joke with eachother. But besides from school, we don't really hang out much or talk out of school, unless its a school function like a dance which we've had one and he said hi to me and we talked for a few brief moments. I don't ask much, but when i do ask he does favors for me and i do favors for him if he ever asks ( which he doesn't that often)
Now we talk comfortably in school quite often, but does he like me back? thanks for your help.

I'd say he has a crush on you, but, out of the confortable school enviornment, he might be shy otherwise. So you should try, without being too pushy to hang out or at least talk out of school. Take each step slowly, and easily, hope everything works out for you guys.

Q: ok i am a little bit weird and i am the risk taker i do things just because my friends dare me to. do any guys out there find that even a litle bit attractive?

Well I was sort of more normal before i met my boyfriend, but now, i'l a definte weirdo, and he loves that about me.

Some guy will come along and love you for you and find that kind of stuff cute.

Q: I love my boyfriend, but he recently cut all his hair off. I go for skaters and now that he has no hair he looks way less of a skater. I still love his personality but im not physically attracted to him anymore. Ok im only fourteen, so I know I'm kind of young to be physically attracted to someone, but he just looks so... not my type anymore. I mean, he cut a foot of hair off his head. I love him, but I feel different when I'm with him now. What do I do?

Stop basing your attration to him off of looks.

You should love him for his personality and what-not, not his looks.

Anyways, it's just an extreme difference, my boyfriend had long hair, then he shaved his head. You just need to get used to it, that's all.

Q: Are the lyrics in Christina Aguilera's song "Hurt" about her father? Did he die or something?

In an interview, she talked about it, it is about her father, and how he abuse Christina's mother and I THINK her.

Q: i want a new screen name but cant think of anything! i want my name in it, which is hillary or hil and i dont want any numbers! can you give me some ideas?

you can use something simple like hillaryyyy
or something like that.

Q:
Has anyone else besides me noticed that the age of kids starting to have sex is dropping more and more. I mean the other day my friend told me she knew an 11 year old that had sex. I was like whoah thats messed up i'm 15 and i'm still a virgin and proud of it.lol. I mean serisouly what kind of a message is this sending to other countries?

So two questions...

Do you think Americas youth is way too sex oriented? yes or no?

If so what do you think is the cause for this? ex.tv music etc....

Thamx in advance

I deffinetly agree.

I'd say yes, the youth is way too sex oriented.

And i think the cause is MTV, and other t.v. stations of that sort. Sex is always on MTV, and kids watch MTV, so them seeing that, makes them want to be cool, and start doing that stuff, it's to bad that they have no idea what having sex can do to them.

Q: where can i get cheap extensions? i think i spelled that right...

no where really.

I went to sally's a few days ago for hair bleach and the CLIP ones were 80 dollars.

so you probably won't fine cheap ones, unless you consider that cheap.

Q: Hi. Whats a website thats like MySpace?

I've tryed friendster, myyearbook, livejournal, and xanga.

Please Help!!

veinspace.com

Q: how do i get pics to show up in comments on myspace?

Q: How do you play beer pong?

you set up cups of beer in a triangle form. on 2 sides of a large table.
You have a pong ball, and you either bounce or throw it in the cups, if you make it in the cups, the opposite team must drink the cup that the call landed in.

your team wins when the other team has drank all their cups.

Q: i hate going to school everyday and i just hate everything about school. (especially since im a freshman) i know this is sort of hard to answer, but what do you think i should do to enjoy going to school?

ps. im not athletic so i cant do sports lol

start doing after school clubs, like, drama or something. Try making more friends. Even though you don't think your athletic, still just try out for sports for fun.

Q: So I'm a freshman and this will be my first homecoming (duh). What do people normally wear to homecoming? I don't want to go there and be over dressed. Do nearly all girls wear dresses? A rough percentage of girls that wear dresses to homecoming would be nice. So would pictures of what most of the dresses would be like (to help me determine how casual homecoming is.) I RATE!!!!

They usually have a theme for it, so you can base what you get off the theme. Girls wear dresses sometimes, but not like anything like prom, just a cute little spunky dress. or you can wear a cute top with a skirt.

Q: This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

cute boys.

Q: what are the signs when someone like a girl especialy isnot telling you the whole truth? is there a way to tell?

her facial expressions. or if she looks around a lot while telling you, or if she stutters.

Q: okay so i'm making a div layout on myspace and i already have four divs. i want to add one more but i can't. when i copy/paste the properties of another div, change the title to div4 and change the properties to where i want it to be... it doesn't show up. help!

I can deff help you on this.

but i'm not EXACTLY sure on what you mean.

please add me/message me on my myspace and i can deffinetly help you!!

www.myspace.com/so_endearing

And let me know you are from advicenators. :]

Q: is it normal for a gf to not want her bf to look at other girls?

very much so.

I hate it when my boyfriend does, lol, it's very normal.

Q: I was wondering how do you like make one thing colored and the rest black and white usuin paint shop pro. I'm really confused =\

I used one of the brushes that makes things turn gray, then just went around the thing i wanted to keep colored.

I forgot what brush it is called, but it's one of the brushes on the left sidebar, you have to click it, then it has like a drop down list of different things you can do with the brushes.

Hope i helped.

Q: 15/f

okies hey

i've met this guy in the year below me
well we hit it off right away and i really like him and it clear he likes me too , which im really thrilled about :) but the trouble is he is only 13 right now, he does look older though and is mature for his ages. he is just 1 year 3 months younger.

is this too young for me?

please help. xxx

You can't help feelings.
If you find that you guys really hit it off well, go for it, what can you lose?

I find that age is just an excuse.

Q: To start out, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we plan on getting married. I'm still a virgin, and I really want to loose it to him soon. Since he is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. But, I heard your first time hurts really bad, and you start bleeding as soon as you start. Is this true?

I mean, I know a lot about sex, and everything. And I am sure I am ready. I just want to know about the pain, and bleeding and all. I mean, my boyfriend has a rather large penis too. Any websites will be helpful. Thanks. =]

It's not like that for every girl. It depends how "loose" you are from other things. If he fingers you, that probably would make you a little bit looser, so it won't hurt as bad. You can also use lube, it makes it easier to slide in. If that is something you are unable to get, he can always like, lick his hand and rub the spit down there to make it wet, and that should also make it easier to slide in.

And again, it's different for all girls, some hurt, and some don't, i was one of the luckier ones, and it didn't hurt me, due to what i told you that could make it easier above. :]

And please remember to always stay safe and use a condom!

Q: I want to get a pair of nice Vans so what colors do they sell them in? How much are they? And where do they sell them?

they're are so many colors.
and it depends what type of shoe you want.
They have just about any color.

you can get them at hot topic, pac sun, journeys, and online.

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The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
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