Hey y'all. I started this whole advice thing cuz i absolutely luv people and giving advice. I'll try to help the best I can with whatever problem you have. I've been through a little of everything so ask away and don't be shy!
E-mail: e.sherhart@comcast.net
Gender: Female
Location: TEXAS!!!
Occupation: Violinist
Age: 16
AIM: rikatree2375
Member Since: July 29, 2005
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I've liked this boy for a year now. Actually, loved him. We've gone out three times. The bad part is..hes NOT a good kid. He's done somethings waayyy out of the ordinary. But it seems even if he was mean to me or something, I'll always love him. All three times it didnt work out. He dumped his girlfriend because she didnt wanna go far with him and i told him that was rediculous. The thing is, when i talk to him sometimes he'll make me uncomfortable by saying its not him after i talk to him. If i tell him i still have a lot of feelings for him..he'll tell everyone and then maybe go out with me. Then everyone would hate me for it. I'm just so confused i really need help to get over him and stop thinking about him. (link)
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First thing to do, TRY to get over him!!! If you're admitting he's not that great of a guy then he probably doesn't deserve you. And if you have already dated him three times and unsuccessfully, chances are you two just aren't meant to be. Try hanging out with some other GUY friends and you might forget about him. Give some other guys a chance!!!
Disciple (plz rate me if i deserve it!!!)
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i really wanna be a singer when i grow up but im kinda shy and dont like to sing infront of alot of people. can you please help me and tell me how i could get over that ? (link)
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Sounds to me like you should get a voice teacher to instruct you. My sister is going to major in voice performance next year in college so i understand your fears!!! You can conquer your shyness by performing more!!! (i'm also in music so i know a lot about stage fright) Start by singing for a few people and build from there. A performer can't afford to be shy so take courage and just go with it!!!
Disciple
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I'm a LONER,a LOSER,a complete chatter box, and people think I'm anoing,I don't have any cool clothes either,Ialso don't stick to anything a start for exsample:baseketball,music lessons...! How do I make friends or even have them to want to be friends with me and maybe get a guy too like to go out with me? P.S. I'm 13 years old, Female,and super shy. (link)
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First of all, you seriously need to start thinking better about yourself!!! If people seriously think of you as annoying then maybe you should try to be a little more mature. Maybe even meet new people so you can start all over again. And for not sticking to anything i know that's hard. I've played the violin for almost 7 years now and practice for about 5 hours a day (in summer). But it takes discipline. Try something new and tell yourself to stick with it and give it time. You might just end up luvin it!!! And for a boyfriend, be yourself and it'll happen in time, dont worry!!!
Disciple (need ratings if i deserve them!!!)
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alright i just want to know if there is ne way for me to lose weight and gain more muscle ik im a bit on the chubby side and i just want to know any ways to lose weight and gain muscle w/out actually lifting weights b/c i have no way to get access to weights (link)
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Try going on a SAFE diet. I went through anorexia and it's not worth it!!! So before you even try a diet, ask for a professional's opinion. You can gain muscle by crunches, leg lifts, pushups and stuff like that. You dont have to have weights. Your weight is going to be affected by what u eat and how much. Limit it a little but remember, you have to eat to lose weight. Sounds weird, but i should know.
Disciple
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I've been going out with this boy for about 1 1/2 months (not long, i know) but i dont know if its working out. We talk a lot and hes nice and eevrything but theres just something about him i dont know. I thought when we first started going out it'd be the right time after a breakup with someone who i really loved but now i think that its not the right time to be with someone because i still have a lot of feelings for my ex. I'm not sure if i should break up with my bf or just stay. I know that if i stay with him i may start gettin miserable. I dont want to hurt him because he really likes me and cares for me. What should i do?? ill rate 5's if you at least help me and try to! thanks! (link)
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If you're having doubts, chances are you are with the WRONG person. If you're uncomfortable with y'alls relationship it will never turn out as you want it too. Specially when you aren't over your ex!!! You can't concentrate on your relationship if you still like your ex. Maybe consider getting back together with your ex? Relationships aren't worth it if you're just plain miserable!!!
Disciple ( i like 5's, but i wanna deserve them)
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my mom wont let me see my boyfriend at all. he doesnt have a computer so i cant e-mail him or IM him. and my mom has total control over the phone. i havent been on a date with him at all! ever!! and i've been going out with him for about a month and a half. i wont see him in school because we're in different parts. i miss him so much and i love him so much. what should i do? heeelllppp!!
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Maybe if your mom isn't comfortable with you two dayting, she might not object to just hanging out with other pplz. Kinda like dating just in a bigger group. You could always try to convince her that you'd be okay if she's scared for you. Just dont drive her nuts about it but take it easy!!!
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well there's this boy i really like. we've dated before but we never worked out. we talk all the time, and we tell each other like everything, but i just can't get up the guts to tell him how i feel about him again, i'm afraid that something bad is going to happen to us or something like that, and i would never want to lose him. people say we should just be friends but it doesn't seem like enough for both of us, but we can't be a couple because that doesn't work for us either, and he's not the type of guy who would want to be "together" because he doesn't like to be all flirty and stuff so it's like we'd just be friends...what can i do? please help. i rate high! (link)
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Sounds like you want your relationship back. If it happened before, chances are pretty good that it could happen again!!! If both of y'all feel like there's something missing then maybe you should bring it up someday. Just tell him how you feel and if he's mature enough he'll understand. Sometimes you have to take a chance too. If y'all are good friends now, i doubt you'll lose your friendship over this. The same thing happened to me and i'm still good friends with this guy. Just get out there and make things happen cuz you never know!!!
Disciple
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my birthday is coming up soon.
i want to rent a limo.
but the only problem is . .
i dont know where it would take us!
does anyone have any ideas of places to go? thanks! (link)
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If you just wanna hang out, go to the mall or a concert. Concerts are usually the best in your case. Depends on who you like and if they're around your area at the time.
Disciple
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...What do people think about a teenage pregnancy? Is it bad i mean If a person thinks they are lonley an are scared to be alone while their boyfriend leaves for awhile for the military..would it be okay to have a baby? (link)
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Well I believe in sex after marriage. In your case, I would still recommend waiting. Say he goes off to the military and is shipped overseas. Something happens and he dies. You AND your baby are left alone. That baby is going to want and need a father. If i were you, I would wait until he comes back PERMANENTLY!!!, get married, and have your baby. If you're scared and/or lonely, try joining a support group. There are thousands out there to choose from!!! Or try making new friends. There are other ways to prevent loneliness than having a baby, trust me!!!
Disciple
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the guy i really like just got asked out by this girl. i'm not sure if he said yes or no or wheather or not hes going to say yes or no. but im just trying to be suportive to him no matter what but really its killing me inside and i hope to god he says no. i have no clue what to do im so confuesd. (link)
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Well confused, start by finding out!!! You can't do much of anything if u simply don't know!!! Say he said yes. It's awesome you want to be supportive because that should show the guy what you're really like!!! And if they go out, it might not last for long. You could always try really talking to him about how you feel. I know just about everybody is gonna tell you that. But wishing about things doesn't make it reality. You have to do something about it to make it work!!! Don't give up if he said yes. And maybe he said no. If he did, then still talk to him. But if i were you, i wouldn't wait for too much longer. Maybe he's just waiting for you to say something. Guys can feel unsure a lot of the time. Sometimes they just need a "helping hand" or a push lol...Open up to the guy. He deserves to know what you're feeling!!!
Disciple
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I'm in love with my best friend. I've liked him for as long as i can remember, years. I haven't liked any one else within that time period. But we're best friends.
I've tried telling him, and he just wasn't (won't) feeling it. he has liked me before, but i kept it as friends.
But now he likes one one my good (female) friends. And he is constantly trying to be around her, even though they wouldn't be friends if it weren't for me. She has a boyfriend of her own. He just dosn't get the picture.
It kills me to see him try for her. Giving her the attention i've been dying for, for years. It really breaks my heart and i don't know what to do.
He already knows how i feel. I just do not know what to do. Or how to mend a broken heart. (link)
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I guess the saying ,"There's a find line between "friends" and romance" is true. You seriously need to think about this guy. For instance, he'll hang around your other friend while totally ignoring your wants and needs. Sounds a little immature to me. Usually the guy will talk to you about why he's not exactly interested instead of totally not getting the picture!!! Sometimes in your circumstances you have to be patient which is hard to hear i know!!! lol Maybe you should try a very deep email to him explaining everything!!! I know it's hard to put your heart out but you never know. Love doesn't make sense so dont worry!!! Be patient, keep trying to drop hints, and maybe talk to your (girl) friend about what he's trying to do. Maybe even she could help!!! You never know, it might work out or you might meet somebody even better!!!
Disciple
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i am always shy around my friends i would say how are you and stuff like that but then we would have nothing else to talk about cause i wouldnt know what to say but i act different around my good friends but i mean for friends that i really dont talk to much do you have any suggestions ??? (link)
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I understand exactly!!! I use to have a hard time bringing up discussions. We might sit in silence forever and then leave!!! very uncomfortable. Sometimes you have to find out what these friends are really interested into. Ask about what kind of music are you into,what do you like to read,just stuff like that. If you get somebody talking about what they're interested in, you end up listening for a long time. But it's worth it because then you have something in common. Find out their likes and dislikes and you'll have no problem with talking anymore!!!
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I was wondering is there anyone out there who has ever gotten pregnant while on birth control..see im wondering if my birth control is even working right for me because the past 2 months i had my period for 2 weeks instead of one and this week i missed the first week now im scared that im pregnant !! Help!!! (link)
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I do know somebody who got pregnant while using a patch. Sounds like you need to go to a doctor for some professional help. Based on your age, periods can be random and inconsistent. If you are older and this cycle continues to happen, i would seriously recommend a professional's help. You might want to take a pregnancy test if you are uncomfortable with going to a doctor just yet. But if it turns out positive, see your doctor!!!
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well there's this guy i like..and we've dated before and we always seem to fight now but we're the best of friends..well today we got in a big fight..and i told him i didn't want to hang out with him again this summer (we don't live in the same town) and he's like w/e and he got all mad at me..later i told him i was sorry and i still want to hang out with him and he's like yeah right and than i got an e-mail from him and it was this chain that he sent to me and it said that like he will always be there for me and everything and how i'm a great friend..but later he sent me a message when i wasn't there and it said i hate you (one time i was talking about someone hating me and he said "who could hate you"). so it kills me to know that he hates me. and he pretty much said that he could never hate me. i have no idea what happened..cause we always kid about that stuff be he didn't say he was kidding or anything..i'm soo worried about our friendship now..and i didn't even do anything..i love this kid right to death and i would do anything for him..i never knew how much the words "i hate you" could feel until you hear it from the one person you would do anything in this world for..even give up your life for them to keep living. it hurt me so bad..and i just want to tell him but i don't know if i can even express to him how much it hurt me. please help me..i just want to know what to say to him..i know it's really what i feel i should say but i need some help. i rate high! please help me! i'm stuck in the gutter on this one. =/ (link)
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Sounds like your having a tough time. I'm having the same trouble but just with my best friend. So i totally understand!!! Sometimes fighting in a relationship can bring you and your friend closer and stronger. But in your case it sounds like it's hurting both of y'all!!! About your fight,i would recommend trying to be patient with the guy first. It sounds like you really love him and love requires patience. Sometimes you cant afford to get mad at a friend..lol. In a way, i think you should seriously talk with him and TELL him how much it hurt you to hear him say those awful words. Sometimes in the heat of a moment, people dont think of what they're saying. If i were you, i would let him cool off for a couple of days and try talking to him again. He would respond better after a few days to think and you would be more willing to listen and forgive. And dont take the I Hate You to heart just yet. Maybe he's going through some harsh times and just can't get his thoughts straight. And if he apologizes, forgive him right then!!! because that's the best way to renew a friendship. Best friends love each other unconditionally which sounds like you two. Dont' give up on him but dont rush things!!! Take them as they come and be patient!!!
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Ok..Im 13 ((almost 14))..and Im 5 foot 10 inches and like REALLY skinny..Is being tall like a turn off to guy..
High Rates for good advice (link)
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Well, I understand your worries. Usually, your type of concern only affects how you think about yourself!!! If your scared of not having a relationship based on your height then you shouldn't have to worry. Usually guys want a fun-loving, nice, sweet girl. If the guy is even worth dating then he shoudldn't think twice about your height!!! Remember, being tall has it's perks too. Use it to your advantage!!!
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