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he said i hate you.
well there's this guy i like..and we've dated before and we always seem to fight now but we're the best of friends..well today we got in a big fight..and i told him i didn't want to hang out with him again this summer (we don't live in the same town) and he's like w/e and he got all mad at me..later i told him i was sorry and i still want to hang out with him and he's like yeah right and than i got an e-mail from him and it was this chain that he sent to me and it said that like he will always be there for me and everything and how i'm a great friend..but later he sent me a message when i wasn't there and it said i hate you (one time i was talking about someone hating me and he said "who could hate you"). so it kills me to know that he hates me. and he pretty much said that he could never hate me. i have no idea what happened..cause we always kid about that stuff be he didn't say he was kidding or anything..i'm soo worried about our friendship now..and i didn't even do anything..i love this kid right to death and i would do anything for him..i never knew how much the words "i hate you" could feel until you hear it from the one person you would do anything in this world for..even give up your life for them to keep living. it hurt me so bad..and i just want to tell him but i don't know if i can even express to him how much it hurt me. please help me..i just want to know what to say to him..i know it's really what i feel i should say but i need some help. i rate high! please help me! i'm stuck in the gutter on this one. =/
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oh my thats really said im sorry to hear that and im not trying to sound like a mager wench its not sarcastic but tell him how you feel how bad that hurt you if he still want to be your friend he will understand and forget all about it hopefi=ully i helped
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Usually when people REALLY mess up they know what they did...but since you dont know what you did wrong im assuming that he was just really mad and said it in the heat of things...and that happens a lot. He might have been really upset and didnt want to deal with it so he said he hated you. Hate is an extremely hard word and im sure he didnt mean it. But hes obviously upset right now so give it a couple of days before you go talk to him let him cool down and get his stuff together then call him and tell him that you want to talk him. Sit down with him and let him know how you feel that you are for him a lot and it really hurt you what he said. I hope that helps but just give him some time to cool off
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Andi
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wow i know how you feel... been there and done that. well there are 2 things that you could do :
1) you could call him and start working it out . tell him that you overreacted and girls tend to do that. tell him that your friendship means the world to him. stuff like that. believe me it works. see where it goes from there. if hes the best friend you say he is then he will understand.
2) let it blow over. some guys get mad right away and the next day or so they dont care. some are even faster than that. only you kno if he is like this .
hopefully this helped. believe me the "i hate you" is just a defensive mechanism. hes hurt that you said you didnt wanna hang out with him. so he said that.
i kno this will work out in the end :)
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hey wats up I noticed you were kinda in a situation that I was in not to long ago and im new so hopefully this is good advice to you well I think that you should talk to him you know call him up and if that dont work out try to email him to call you or to meet you somewhere if he can go out not on a date but as friends so you guys can talk about your situation and all so the best luck to you both and hopefully my advice will help by the way Ive been threw alot kinda like this so write me back and tell me wat happens.
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Sounds like your having a tough time. I'm having the same trouble but just with my best friend. So i totally understand!!! Sometimes fighting in a relationship can bring you and your friend closer and stronger. But in your case it sounds like it's hurting both of y'all!!! About your fight,i would recommend trying to be patient with the guy first. It sounds like you really love him and love requires patience. Sometimes you cant afford to get mad at a friend..lol. In a way, i think you should seriously talk with him and TELL him how much it hurt you to hear him say those awful words. Sometimes in the heat of a moment, people dont think of what they're saying. If i were you, i would let him cool off for a couple of days and try talking to him again. He would respond better after a few days to think and you would be more willing to listen and forgive. And dont take the I Hate You to heart just yet. Maybe he's going through some harsh times and just can't get his thoughts straight. And if he apologizes, forgive him right then!!! because that's the best way to renew a friendship. Best friends love each other unconditionally which sounds like you two. Dont' give up on him but dont rush things!!! Take them as they come and be patient!!!
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aww hun i*m sry, but i want you to know (which you prolly already do) when people get into arguments a lot of times they say things they really don*t mean. He was prolly just as hurt as you are now because you told him you didn*t wanna hang out with him so he was defending himself b/c he felt bad. I really think you should tell him your sry for everything you said and that you don*t wanna let something this small get in the way of your friendship, maybe tell him tomorro tho so he*ll have time to cool down. If he*s still resistant then let him have his space til he comes back to you(which WILL happen) i hope everything works out, xoxo, chelsea
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Tell him! Tell him that you're sry. It might seem weird, but if you have a guy problem like that guys tend to forgive you if you're the first to say you're sry. It's really weird, but it works most of the time. Tell him that you were wrong and that you are very sry. "i hate you" are a three powerful words, but they turn better if you can find away to eleminate them.
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You should say that it realy hurt you about him saying he hates you.Ask him if he realy hates you or not.Somtimes people say they hate someone cause there just mad at that person.He is the one who said how can anyone hate you.But it realy dose hurt to have someone say they hate you.But if he realy dose hate you you should just move on with your life cause if he where realy your friend he wouldnt say that.And he should be the one saying sorry for what he said.Even though you realy love this person and he says he hates you and realy means it then you should just forget about him.But he might have been kidding.
*Good luck*
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