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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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What can I say to a guy in which I text, that when I tell him whats up? He always says: Nothing. What can I say to him to keep him talkinq to me?
I hate when guys reply like that hahaha. It gets on my nervous soo badly.
I'm the type of girl who completely ignores the guy if he says that. If he doesn't sound interested.. then why should i force him to talk to me? If he wants to talk to you, he will contact you first. Set aside your phone for a few days and don't even bother texting him. See if he says something. If he says something- ignore him another day and text him the next day. Make HIM do the chasing.. instead of you always chasing him and trying to talk to him.
The way I see it- both people need to make an effort. obvi you're making an effort by starting the conversation and texting him first. But if he's saying "nothing", then he's not putting effort into the friendship/relationship. Then that's really not worth it.
Ignore him for a few days and make him wonder why you haven't talked to him. make him curious and make him WANT to talk to you. If he still hasn't mustered up the strength to talk to you within a week.. well then he's definitely not worth it and you can forget about it and find another guy who will WANT to talk to you :)
inbox me if you have more questions!
How can I know that I am anorexic?
well if you lost weight obvi.
If you got skinnier and haven't been eating much. there are some people who dont eat ANYTHING but anorexic also means eating less.
Anorexic people tend to "watch" what they eat. They count calories and always look at the ingredients. If they think it's bad for them, they won't eat it. They are constantly looking in the mirror at their bodies. Constantly weighing themselves. Some even exercise to the point of exhaustion and they collapse.
pretty much destroying their life... don't become an anorexic. My friend is suffering from anorexia and its really scary. She was recently hospitalized from dehydration and I can't even explain it right now.. Its scary.
If you want to lose weight- there are better ways. you can still watch what you eat, but make sure you're at least eating. For instance, instead of eating that chocolate brownie.. try going for a caesar salad. Or instead of drinking Coca Cola, drink water. Exercise is good. but don't over do it. Run some laps, go swimming, biking, lift some weights. Work up a nice sweat.
How do you make people laugh in school without those arkward moments when you try to do it and fail...??
just be yourself and people will laugh if you do something or say something funny.
Key note: don't force yourself to be funny. THATS when it becomes an awkward moment.
i got some expensive eyeliner from sephora and now im out...but i want to get something similar for a better price.
it wasn't liquid but it wasnt a pencil...im not sure what you'd call it...it was really easy to apply.
im pretty active so i need something that won't run if i get sweaty. what are my best options?
i also need a new mascara. other than the classic maybeline green and pink bottled one..
thanks!!
I use Rimmel eyeliner. It is a pencil but its super soft (made of kohl which smears easily for blending) and the pencil is really long, so it lasts a long time! It's like 2 times the size of a regular one. Try looking for that. They have different shades of brown. I use a dark brown on my top eyelids, and then light brown for the bottom.
As for mascara, the only one I use is Covergirl Lash Blast. It comes in a round orange tube. It makes my lashes thick and long :) I also use a eyelash curler to make them look bigger.
i need a physical test done for school to play on the basketball team next year i want to play but im to nervous to go to the doctors iget really nervouse when i go and start to ter up. i could always just take p.e.
why are you nervous to get a physical?? I'm going to college this fall and I need one. In fact, I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to get mine done. It's really no big deal. All they do is sit you down and ask you questions. They measure your height and weight. Then they will ask you questions like..
-do you feel dizzy when you exercise?
- are there any past family problems like heart attacks or strokes?
- what are your allergies?
- have you ever been hospitalized?
- are you taking medications?
- have you ever had a concussion?
- (female athletes)- are your periods regular? how many times per year do you have them? how long do your periods last?
Then they might do some tests like eye exams and they might check other parts of your body for abnormalities like your ears, heart, lungs, knees, genitals, lymph nodes, scars, spine etc.
So it's really not that scary haha. My first physical, I was terrified because I had no idea what they were going to ask me and what they were going to do to me. Actually, now that I think about it, I used to be in your shoes. I wanted to quit my sport because I was scared to get my physical haha. But guess what? i'm glad I didn't quit because I LOVE PLAYING MY SPORT!!!! and I'm not going to let 1 little fear like getting a physical stop me from doing something I love :)
Here's another tip- I'm guessing your pretty young. Well this is 1 of your many little fears. You're going to have MORE fears as you get older. And trust me, the fears get scarier when you get older. If you think getting a physical is scary... wait until you're older like me. My new fear is start college all by myself and I have to learn how to live independently without parents. Thats scary for me. But just because that's a fear, i'm not going to let it get in the way of college. I will eventually learn to get rid of that fear.
If you let all of your fears stack up, and you don't do anything about them, it gets overwhelming and you won't be healthy. This is a small little fear that I PROMISE YOU, it will be ok :) take your parents with you or a close good friend and hold their hand while you're there. It's really easy and at the end, you'll be surprised at how simple it was haha. You'll feel better because you pushed yourself to do something and found that courage in yourself.
Be strong :) you can do anything if you just have faith, hope and believe. Inbox me if you have more questions!
i'm just being nice
they're so rude!
advice?
the way I think about it- why waste your time being unhappy? Why waste your time with these people if they aren't treating you nicely?
Just leave them and find people who are loyal and who you can trust.
They are not worth your time. Actually, if you continue to be "friends" with them, you're just going to be hurt in the end and very very disappointed.
It will also be a benefit to you if you leave them because it teaches you that you're strong and brave enough to do that. You'll improve your self esteem and it will make you a stronger person, which is always a plus :)
You're better off without them :) find other friends
Im a senior and high school and I've always been good at volleyball, just never the best. Last year when I was a junior I was only on the JV time while A couple juniors were in varsity. This year Im dead set to be in varsity cause thats just a rule for a senior. The new coach is taking the varsity team to a university camp then the jv to a community college camp. And she is making me and a few others go to the jv camp. She said it had nothing to do with abilities but I looked at the varsity camp and its all the people who were on varsity last year..even the freshmen. I feel like this is unfair and that me, and another senior, deserve to go over under class men because we have to play with people who will meet our potential. I find it unfair because she is a new coach and already judging players from last year when she never saw anything. She is going to talk to monday but Im not exactly know what to say. Im the type of person who says things in my head but it can never come out of my mouth in front of people. Can I get some help please?
hey i play volleyball too!
I think you need to be open and honest with your coach. I've been playing volleyball for about 12 years (starting college volleyball this fall) and in my past seasons, i really haven't had a good relationship with my coaches. I was always scared and shy of them. I hated to ask them questions and learn to get better. One time a coach asked me "do you want to play this position?" and I was so shy and nervous I said "no" but later I regretted it and wished I would have said "yes". Now i'm starting to play volleyball in college and I met my new coach a few months ago. I'm known as a shy girl and yes i was shy around my new coach when i first met her, but I learned that if you're always shy and hesitant to talk to your coach.. you will never learn anything from them and you won't have a good relationship with them.
When you're young, you think a coach is just a coach. But when you grow up, you realize that your coach is also a mentor. A friend to help you out. Someone who is close to you and is always there for you. This is especially true if you have a coach for more than 1 season (for example- high school and college season). Its really important to build a strong relationship with your coach. I'm working on it right now and there have been times when I needed to talk to someone older and my coach was there for me. It wasn't volleyball related, but I knew I could trust my coach and I knew she would be listening.
So i think right now you're at that stage when you need to burst out of your little bubble and start building a trustworthy relationship with your coach. If you start now, it will become so much easier for you when you get older like me :).
Now, for me.. I didn't just dive right in and start getting clingy to my coach haha. It took time and patience. I started off with baby steps. I had a problem (I was not getting any playing time) and I was too shy to talk to my coach about it. So I sent him an email. Then eventually I got the courage to talk to him about it in person. So try starting off small.. send an email to your coach about your problem. Don't hold anything off. Say everything on your mind and have no regrets. Then when its time, you can talk to your coach about it in person. It just comes with time and maturity. You'll be fine :)
Inbox me if you have more questions. And good luck in volleyball :)
There is this girl at work who I like and have a thing for and who i think may have a thing for me, and we both get along well with each other ( said by someone else) , for about a year now. I'd just like other poeple's opinion about the whole thing, given the following
* She occasionally calls me Boo boo, She also calls me different variations of my name in Italian aswell, which she learnt in school
* She had a boyfriend until 2 months ago. The way i found out about that makes me feel like it was a setup. My friend who let it slip,Dayna and myself were chatting about random tuff, i started walking away to my area, when Dayna said come back, so we could chat a bit more, which i did. Then my friend says how long has it been since you broke up and she says about a month.
* A work friend let slip to her (Dayna) that i like her. However she does not know that i know she knows
* I have kissed her twice on the cheek, which she initiated.
* We sometimes share drinks and food
* She recently (within the last week) asked for my number so she could "show me something", which turned out to be a photo she took of me a few days earlier. I've finally gotten her number aswell, which i've been after for a while
*She initiates most of the physical contact between us. Stuff like hugs, particularly from behind and/or when i'm not expecting it. Sometimes she pokes me and brushes my arm or butt when walking past sometimes. Also she sometimes leans her head on my shoulders. On occassion she will come up behind me and lock arms so we are arm in arm
* We sometimes stare at each other in a good way
* On several occasions she has asked would i still be her friend if she changed her hair colour, or coloured her nails or altered her hair style or something trivial
* On a few occassions over the last few weeks, when we have been alone for a bit at work, she has drawn love hearts on my hand and wrists.
* We almost always ask each other when we will each be next working to see when we are both on.
Having said all this, she is the flirty type, but compared to what i know, i get the "special treatment". Also a few months ago (8-9 months when she was still with her boyfriend), a friend from work took it upon themselves to ask Dayna if there was anything happening between me and her, and apparently she replied is that I am like an older brother to her.
she definitely can be the "flirty type". I have plenty of girl friends who will constantly flirt with other guys, even if they don't have much interest in them. Its their way to "practice" flirting on guys they don't like- meaning.. it will be easier to flirt with guys they like.
But I could be wrong.. she could really like you. All they signs she's showing definitely means she's attached to you. you might be considered an "older brother" but note this- she said that to another friend.. she didn't say that to you... You should know, girls say 1 thing to their friends, but say something different to guys they like. I would know because I have done the same thing. The traditional "do you like him?" and I tell my friends "no" but when i'm around him, i'm constantly thinking "yes i do". So she could have just been telling her friend that you're like an older brother. Or should could be honest about that.
If you want my opinion, You need to look at her history more. How many close personal friends does she have? If she has practically no good close friends, then she could just think of you as a best friend/brother. but if she has a lot of good personal friends, then she could like you more than friends. Did anything bad happen to her lately? If something bad happened to her lately, she could just feel sad and lonely, and only likes you so she can feel loved and close to someone.
but honestly... the only way you can find out the absolute true answer is if you talk to her about it. Ask her to hang out and just plain straight out ask her how she feels about you. It might be easier if you tell her how YOU feel about HER. Then ask her.
PS: girls don't like it when guys drag on the conversation and talk endlessly. Its easier for us to understand if you just get to the point right away. If she needs/wants more details, she will ask for them.
What does it mean when a guy says he loves your innocence and fresh view life?
being innocent means that you are a goody good girl. Meaning- you're innocent in everything. You are honest, loyal and don't hide anything. You're never suspicious and you're kind and caring. If someone started something bad like a rumor, he would think that person could be anybody except you. Because you are too innocent and nice to have started something bad like a rumor.
Having a fresh view life means you always look on the bright side. If something goes wrong, instead of thinking about the bad things, you look at the good things. "fresh view" can also mean feeling like everyday is a new beginning. Not dwelling on the past and always looking forward to something new.
These are good qualities to have :) so he's giving you a compliment!
am i anti-social person?
coz i got no friends or bestfriends.
i am a really really shy guy
who can't go out without a companion
currently dealing with depression
always gets angry
but i like friends,
bu find it really hard to make one
i'm 17 male, asian
i need advice
hey! its okay :) you're not alone. I don't have many friends either. Just 1 best friend who is also my boyfriend :) Just because you don't have many friends, doesn't mean you're anti-social. There are some people who are anti-social but thats not likely in most cases. The reason why I don't have many friends is because the people who I do know.. well lets just say they make the wrong decisions and aren't good people. I have still yet to find a friend who has good morals and ethics. So it may not entirely be your fault. It could just be that the people you know aren't "friend" quality.
I started to make more friends by taking baby steps. Just a heads up though, it will take time. So be patient. Start off by just being friendly towards others. Smile a lot. Start a conversation by giving a person a compliment and then asking them questions. like this- "hey I like your hat. where did you get it?" It starts a conversation and It doesn't sound awkward or silly. Then after a while and you get more comfortable talking with strangers, find someone you have something in common with and start a friendship by asking them to hang out. grab something to drink or even come over to play video games or something. Get their number and contact them once in a while and eventually you'll become great friends!
It takes time so you gotta be patient. and remember- always stay strong. Maybe some of the people you become friends with aren't always going to be the "right" friends but don't give up! there's someone out there for everyone, it just takes hope, faith, patience, and luck haha.
I am 18 years old and my guy really wants me to give him a hickey. His friend says its to show others he's mine and concidering he has already cheated on me once, I really want to do it, but I am incapable of giving a hickey. I have tried over and over on my arm but I cant do it. It only apprears as a small red mark that goes away in a matter of seconds. What can I do to give him a hickey?
its just like sucking a lollipop. you're basically just sucking skin. This causes the blood vessels to break and it leaves a red mark where the blood vessels were broken. you kinda have to use your teeth to grip onto the skin. and then once the skin is in your mouth, you just suck onto it. make sure you breathe when you do it. It's really not that hard. watch a youtube video if you're confused.
i don't have dry skin, maybe slightly combination skin but it's normally oily.
A week ago i had a horrible break out so i used tea tree oil (diluted) and when that didn't give me immediate relief, i bought a benzoyl peroxide product and i'm 100% sure i overused it.
The places where i broke out now have dry patches of skin w/ the acne now gone. i've been putting a 'normal to dry skin' moisturizer on it, but i have to keep applying it for it to feel 'moisturized'
IS there anything I can use to get it to peel and keep it moisturized? maybe something i can get from inside the house? AND no exfoliation advice please (it hurts).
Use aveeno products. There's a special one for sensitive skin. Their products are the best and they keep my skin so smooth :)
I got fingered for the first time a few weeks back and it really hurt :( is this normal?
yeah its normal. You're just not used to it. It will be the same way when you have sex. your body isn't used to it (or it may not even be ready for it yet). Either wait until you're older and your body is more mature, or keep doing it and deal with the pain and get used to it.
Hi.
Sorry if it's kind of long but PLEASE bear with me!:(
My name's Kitty, I'm 17 and I'll be turning 18 in more or less six/seven months (so that's January) and I really really need your help coming up with ideas on how to celebrate it.
I thought about having a party but then my mom started talking about all the disadvantages (i.e. what if some of my friends don't show up, etc.). That kind of discouraged me, but then I thought about it. I already had a sweet 16, so probably the only difference my 18th birthday party will have is that it'll be bigger and my college friends will be invited.
But I don't like the people in college that much. I feel like only my high school friends are worth throwing a party for (if ever).
So, I considered traveling abroad for my birthday but school already starts on January 4 and my birthday's on the ninth. I wanted to go someplace really far but it'd be a hassle because of the jetlag and missing school.
So basically, I'm considering other options! Going out with my family is nice but I really wanna do something cool (maybe with friends) for my birthday.
Any ideas? Your replies will be really appreciated. Tell me about what you guys did for your 18th! It doesn't have to be your ideas, you can talk about a cool 18th birthday celebration you went to and share about it or something. Haha.
Please help! Thanks in advance!
Oh girl.. if you had the chance to travel abroad for your birthday.. TAKE IT!!! who cares about jet leg or missing school..? are you honestly telling me that you would pass this great opportunity?? If you ask most people what they want to do, they'll most likely say travel the world. You're young and you have that opportunity at your hands.. take it!! I know if I was in your shoes, then I would definitely pick traveling abroad over some silly party. Oh and my personal experience with parties is horrible. Everytime I throw a party there's always some disaster. My new years eve party.. only 2 people showed up. my 16th birthday party, my parents had to "chaperone" and it was completely lame. Some other party I had, the food was bad and everyone got sick afterwards. I just have a bad experience with parties, but if you feel confident to throw one, then go for it.
I'm 19..Ok well this is the story. I was with my previous boyfriend(lets say is name is lenny)for 4 years until I went off to college and we ended up breaking up 3 months(october/november) into the school year. Things weren't officially over until january.
At the beginning of the school year i met a new guy friend(casey) and we meshed well. once me and lenny were officially over, one night i cried to casey about lenny and i came to find out that casey was going through the exact same thing as me. he was trying to let go of an ex and we found comfort in each other (sounds like a rebound i know, but honestly once meant to be that way). a month into us becoming closer we ended up dating. things were amazing! after about a month things started getting rocky. we were on and off and he was the one always ending it(he confessed he was scared i would hurt him). He was constanly going back home to dallas during this time.
we finally took a good break and ended up getting back together once the summer started. we were having a long distance relationship as he was from dallas and i stayed in austin for the summer instead of going back to houston. casey told me he had never loved someone so quick and wanted to get married after college.
one weekend things got really bad between us and he ended it( as always using the excuse of him feeling i would hurt him because i had so many guy friends). i ended up asking him if he still loved his ex girlfriend(i always felt she was the reason why he left), he said yes and i confessed I was also still in love with lenny(at the time i felt i still did). I told him "maybe we're better off being back with our exs" he just said "we do"
I stupidly insisted in him trying to get her back since i thought i wanted luis. I could tell casey was sketchy about going back to her but since he saw i was still in love with lenny he would return to her. He called her that day and met up and got back together. I also tried doing the same with lenny but i had hurt him to much and he said it wouldnt be a good idea.
I had decided that i would drive to houston and get lenny back(i knew if i talked to him in person i would). after really thinking i decided i didnt want lenny because he wasnt going any where in life. he was just stuck in our little community and i needed to better myself. throughout this process of me trying to get lenny back, casey was there for me. I ended up realizing that casey was the one i really loved but it was too late to get him back since he was back with his ex. (casey is the type of guy that once ends the relationship he will no longer talk to the girl. he doesnt cheat and always does the right thing) because of this i was scared he would kick me out of his life completely, but i understood. it ended up being that casey still wanted to text me and have me in his life. one night i confessed that i felt i was the "other girl" and i put an end to it and stopped all contact with him.
a few days later, he contacts me and is upset on how i can forget about him so easily. I was only trying to do the right thing no matter how much i loved him. He's tore in between us two. he's in love with her and is in love with me too. he can no longer leave his girlfriend because he went back into her life and cant just leave again because it would be wrong.
I'm afraid when school starts again and he comes back to austin, that he's going to come looking for me again and i wont know if its just because its convienant to him or because he'll realise that he really wants me. what do i do? i'm trying to be a women about this because i dont want to hurt anyone. (it might sound as if casey is a douche bag, immature and doesnt know what he wants as of now but he's a great guy. he taught me that i want an educated man in my life that has goals. I wish he would realise that about his girlfriend(she's not educated and it bothers him)) should i move on or really fight for him? or has the girlfriend already won the battle? i'm sorry its so long but i need some counseling from y'all.
alright so this may not be what you want to hear but I think you should just start fresh. Forget about lenny, forget about casey, forget about their ex's.. just start fresh. Find a whole new group of friends and hang out with them. Whenever I get into a lot of drama, well I hate it, so I immediately try to escape it. And from your story, I can tell there's a lot of drama going on between everyone in your story. You really just need to get away from everyone and focus on YOURSELF. Yes it might sound selfish.. but ultimately, this whole thing is about you. Its about your relationship and what kind of person you want to be with. its about satisfying yourself. Why would you date a guy if you're not feeling satisfied?? Right now, you're unhappy and confused. That's not right. So just focus on yourself right now, think about what YOU want. Don't think about how it would impact someone else, or if they'll still like you or not, or whatever. Think about what you want and what will make you the happiest.
In order to do all of that, you need to get away from your busy life. try taking a road trip or even book a flight and go somewhere new or your favorite place. "getting away" doesn't always have to mean transporting your body.. it can also be transporting your mind. Try meditation. Your mind will "get away" from your busy life and you'll feel relaxed. Put on some meditation music and you can even do some yoga or pilates. There are other things you can do like photography, painting, doing puzzles, going for walks etc. The main key though is to focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Eventually.. the answer will come to you. For some people, it takes hours, for some it takes days, and others.. well it could take years. It just depends on what the situation is and how well you know yourself and what your wants and needs are.
Most importantly.. YOU have to make this decision. Don't let other people influence you. You're the only one who knows yourself the best. Once you figure out what makes you happy and what you want in life, the answer will come to you. Let fate take control and follow your dreams and listen to your heart :)
Good luck!
How Do I Get My Crush To Ask Me Out
Don't force them to do anything they don't want to. When they are ready, they'll do it themselves. You can hint at it but you shouldn't have to force them to ask you out.. Just be flirty and nice. Maybe you should make the first move. Ask them to a movie or to dinner. Or even just to hang out. Just be yourself and if they like you for who you are, then things will just happen naturally. If it's meant to be, then it will just happen.
i am wondering im 13 in middle school what are the cool fasion trends for spring
feathers are becoming really popular. There are feather earrings, feather hair extensions, feather necklaces, feather hair accessories.
Another big fashion trend right now are over-the-shoulder bags (also known as messenger bags). More specifically, brown leather over-the-shoulder bags are the most popular and I see girls wear them everywhere.
Florals are always a trend during the spring. Floral shirts, skirts, shoes, headbands etc.
Okay so something is going on with my hormones, background information about me is I am 16, female, eat right, exercize right, my periods aren't regular sometimes they skip a month or so, and no there isn't a possibility that I am pregnant AT ALL , I've always been like this. Anyways my problem is I am extremely moody ( like right now) when I'm not on my period, and the opposite, normal and happy the week of my period. I don't know what to do. Please... help
well you should first know that no girl's period is the same. So don't freak out if no girl has the same symptoms as you. They don't have the same body as you so most likely its different for every girl. Maybe that's just the way your body works. Who knows? Go to a doctor and ask them about it because they will have more professional answers instead of us. It could just be that you're suffering with a minor depression but when you get your period, your hormones go crazy and you get a burst of epinephrine (adrenaline) and endorphins and you get happier. I think you're alright considering its nothing too serious, its not like you're in any danger or risk.
im getting fucking fed up my voice sounds like shit like its been happening since i was 12 i started sounded like a whale mom saying its puberty but its not im bout to be 14 im a fucking girl im getting pist off
whoa there.... calm down.
Its just your voice. You can't control it. Just like you can't control your eye color or you can't control how tall you are. It's just the way you are. Accept it. If you're really upset, just go take some singing classes and they can help you with your singing. Try singing from your diaphragm instead of just your voice. drink lots of liquids and make sure you don't strain your voice by yelling or screaming too much.
I've had my period for maybe a year, but it's still regulating. I know about spotting so I'm not sure if it's my period. I'm almost 14 and I haven't really had cramps. I have been getting hungrier, and slightly gassy. I have been getting alot more acne and maybe the occasional mood swing (very minor). I also have been getting headaches more frequently. So I'm not sure if it's a sign of a growth spurt or if it's a sign that I'm about to get my period. (when I get my period the blood kind of lumps together, which is what it's doing.) Please answer soon, it's really worrying me. Thank you.
Yeah it sounds like you're getting your period. I PMS (Pre menstrual syndrome.. basically all the symptoms you described) about 3-7 days before my period. So I think you should be expecting your soon.