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Okay i need a lil help on this one! okay i have this friend amber and she likes this guy and she always asks me to ask him if he would go out with her...everytime i ask him says"yes or kinda or i am about to say yes" well i told her that and she lie okay and all but i asked him yesterday and he said i might say yes...but she thinks he said yes i told her no but she said uh huh RIGHT! i have told him that she really likes him and he was like okay but the thing is he likes her best friend karli what do i say? or do?

You have to break it to her that he likes someone else. it might not be wise to tell her who.its obvious that he doesnt wanna go with her. as a friend, you should get it into her head that a relationship between them is not that possible right now. if she doesnt listen, let her find out on her own.

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ok...here's the thing! i hate doing hw! it takes me HOURS to do just one subjust. i get really distracted easily and i try not to but it's really hard. PLEASE HELP ME! my grades r gettin' kinda low and i ubur wanna call fone for the summer b/c if i get like 3 or 4 A's i get one! anyways....please help

umm.. try going to your room, tv off, and all that. then get your cd player, put in your fave cd and listen while you do your work. that way, you will be doing your homework, but won't really be distracted. it worked for me. hope i helped any.

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ok, i like, fell for this guy who reallllly liked me(let's call him "michael"). then we got into a BIG fight, and i didn't like him anymore. we didn't talk for like 2 weeks.Right, right. Then i fell hard for "matt". man, then i told my friend that i liked.. "matt".i think he told him i do, and he said he likes me. the only thing is.. me and "michael" resovled our fight, and i fell for him....AGAIN... and 10 x's harder! typical of me, yes. but now, "matt"'s moving to like south america in a few months, so if i want to go out with him, i have to do it now, or never.. and i'm like in love with michael again. gahh, but.. "matt"'s PERFECT for me. what do you think i should do..

go with matt. especially since you wont see him again(i guess). then move on to michael.

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yeasterday me and my three best friends got in a fight because they told me i was annoying. they said that i get on peoples nerves and that i always talk about myself. sometimes i can tell that i do talk about myself but most times i dont. well heres what happend yesterday during lunch time i asked all of my friends if they were mad at me and one named maria siad yes. so i asked why. she told me and i got mad. then after i went to class and after i wouldnt talk to myfriend alot because thats what she kinda told me not to talk about myself ( a different girl know). she said if i was mad with her and i said that if she tought that i was annoying i would listen to her talk instead. Then she wrote me a letter that said they didnt want to be my friend because of the way i eat my food. so that mad me even more mad. i wrote her back saying things like how they to talk about notheing but themselfs and their boyfriends which got her mad. on the bus she gave me a letter that was calling me bitch and stuff so i retaliated and told this girl who she would make fun of her and stuff. al hole lot of other things happend and now i dont know what to do.

well, at least you know you arent your friends. ditch them, get a new clique.
just dont fight because they'll jump you.

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i need so help.. please help me.. what do you do when someone really close to you like a family memeber or a friend doesnt like your boyfriend cause of what he soposivly did in the past? he is a really nice guy when u get to know him but he made a few mistakes in the past and he has changed alot since then.. but my family meber/friend doesnt like him.. and they say they never will.. im ttrying so hard for them to like him.. because i like him alot and want this to last a long time.. and i think im in love with him..

please help me!

i love you stephanie

you can love him all you want. but its always good to listen to your family or half listen. stay close to him, but watch him, because your family may be warning you of danger ahead. and dont want them to say, "i told you so".

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lately ive been getting annoyed at my friends. They are great friends but sometimes..they get on my nerves. Like within our circle we have like 3 ppl who gossip..and i hate it. Then we have a couple people who never contribute in driving us anywhere..and its always me and a couple others driving. Its these little things that have been accumulating and now im getting angry. I feel like i want to find a new circle ..and my other friend agrees...she wants to also. But reality is..there isnt another circle and we do have good friends..what should i do? is this normal?

things like this happen. you might have to bear with some of it. but not all. suggest that they share some of the work, too. or, you and your friend, if you are positive she's a good friend, you two can spend more time together.

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There is this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we really didnt know eachother that well. We talked after we broke up and we got to know each other better, and weve become pretty close. Now i like him again and my friends says he likes me too because of the way he acts towards me....and he told me the other day that he wants to have sex with me and all, and that it was something hes wanted to do for a while. I told him i wanted to too....because i do. but he also says he likes this chick at work.....so now i dont know if he truely likes me that way, or if he just wants some.....so, does he like me, and should i have sex with him?


no, you shouldnt. a guy that respects you wouldnt tell you that to your face. but since it is 2005, that happens. but still dont do it, cause he might label you as "easy". guys work in mysterious ways so i really dont know if he truly likes you. he might just a little or he wouldnt talk to you at all. but dont give him none of your goodies just that easily.

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Theres this guy I like at my school. Since school started, we've been really good friends and I've liked him and we've actually acted and seemed like we were more than that. Everyone around us seemed to think we were. We flirted a LOT.
Well, earlier in this month, he tried to ask this girl out whos a grade ahead of me and him and she turned him down. He really wanted to go with her but he still got over her very quickly. And even through all of this(school started in late August so its been about 4 or 5 months) he's flirted with me a lot and at least in my opinion, we've gotten closer.
So last night, I was talking to him on the phone and his mom got online under his screenname and I talked to both of them for a bit and his mom said I should come over and meet everyone sometime, that was cool. So then Josh and me hung up and he got online. Then he asked me for a picture of me and I asked him what for and he said because his mom wanted to know what I looked like. So I sent him a picture and he said his mom said I was cute. I was like, ok thanks and then I asked him if he thought I was cute. He said "Yes, I do" so then I told him about how people in our school have been telling me constantly that he likes me and I asked him if he really did and he said he wasn't ready to answer that question yet. So then we just started talking about music and out of nowhere he told me that he really did like me but he wasn't sure and stuff. He said, he likes me but he doesn't like me. Like, he's not sure if he wants to start something yet. He also told me that he thinks I only know the "school" him and not the "whole" him. That I only know part of who he is. And I accepted this, I was fine with this. So, I suggested me and him hang out together sometime and he was cool with that. Bottom line, he says he likes me a lot but hes not sure about everything completely yet. And I looked at his sun sign and he's a Libra and Libra's are known for being very indecisive. Now, I really want to get together with him because I'm really into him and well, you get the point, I suppose. But, I just wanna know, what can I do? If anything? Should I just wade it out and let him figure out how he feels himself? Talk to him about it more? Just try and get to know him more and let him get to know me more as friends? What should I really do because I just wanna be with him...?

i think you should let him think it out. it might be a bad idea for him to go into a relationship that he realizes he doesnt wanna be in, breaks up with you, and you are hurt. you should, though, get to know him because you two might get into a relationship. all you can do now is wait.

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lol ok i have my bedroom done in flower/bright colors etc. ok well i want to do my room in like a cocoa brown comforter orange sheets, light blue leather accent pillows...etc. ok well wat color should i use for curtains...and would it look good with light color furniture...like light wood color....and instead of doors over my 2 closets...if i put like curtains goin down kinda like shower curtains....would that look good...but about the curtains over the closets...not shower curtains real material and stuff.....LoTs Of LoVe...ThAnKs In AdVaNcE

yea that would be really creative! i might try something like that! as for color, i really dont know, maybe a kinda dull blue or dark red. i'm not good w/that. i think it would look good with light color furnture. just make sure you have something to tie it all together!

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I know that this might sound stupid but, today my mom was just telling me stuff that I don't know about my family, and she told me my sister got pregnant at the age of 21 (shes 28 now) and got an abortion, because she got pregnant not from being raped or anything, just with her boyfriends baby n stuff. I've been brought up to believe women have equal rights, and I have believed in abortions up until now. Knowing that I could've had a nephew//niece, and I don't because my sister got an abortion is really weird. I'm only 14, and I know I'm going to get a bunch of life altering situations, as this one. But, if my sister asks me one day if I believe in abortions, should I tell the truth, and say, no. or yes? Thanks.

you should tell her what you believe and why. get her to see from your point of view. but your sister may have had a good reason. maybe she was in a difficult situation at the time, or just didnt feel ready yet.

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Does anyone know of some good ways to make money? Im 14 and I can't babysit because there aren't any kids in my neighborhood. I can't seem to find any ways to make some money.

can you do hair? do you know how to braid?
do you have a computer so you can burn cds?
or maybe get some different color ribbon and a regular scrunchie, get two different colors, cut the ribbon into small pieces and tie it to the scrunchie until you fill it. It might take time, but girls will love them if you get the right colors. I did it once and I had to stop because of the demand. Good luck! Hope i helped!

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Last year i went to this valentines day dance. my best friend had a girlfriend and i didnt and i felt like a "tag-along". he has so many girls that like him and i think it might happen again this year. i was thinking that i might try to ask someone too but i dont really like anyone so i dont have anyone to ask. I was just going to find someone that i liked a little bit and ask her but im not sure. Should i ask somebody or should i go alone like last year? What should i do? Please help.

you should definitely ask someone because you will be bored all alone. but if there is absolutely no one you are interested in, dont force yourself, go alone. you will find someone who has the same problem.

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Aight well i have this friend and she used to like this guy named jeff. Well jeff asked her out but recently just told her he liked me more and bragged about me and soo forth. Well she said no and broke jeff's heart. Well now jeff is madly in love with me and he wants to go out with me. And now my friend is starting to like jeff a little more also. I really want to go out with jeff, but is it okay that i go out with someone my best friend has previsouly liked i don't know but i really want jeff.... But again i don't want to end our relationship...

Sincerely,
Loved friend

dont go out with jeff but i guess its okay if you keep a close, business only type friendship. no lovey dovey stuff, especially in front of your friend. because if you and jeff hook up, she might get upset and end the friendship between you and her. then what will you do when you and jeff break up?(cuz its unavoidable) dont lose a best friend over a guy cuz guys will come and go and friends stay longer.

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A few days ago..i had a small fight with one of my good friends which is cleared up now. However, during that fight..one of my more distant friends who gossips and gets into EVERYTHING said to the friend i was fighting with "oh dont worry, melissas always like that" (saying i get angry and have a lot of outbursts)This isnt true..and im sick of her getting into peoples business! I want to confront her because she talks behind everybody's back then when she talks to you face to face she pretends everything is ok. I dont want to start an arguement..but this is just annoying me. She gets involved with everything!!!!!! How should i confront her..or should i not confront her?

You should confront her. like you said, don't start an argument. just get your point across and tell her how you feel because she is causing a lot of trouble for other people. she is basically messy and should stick to her own life.

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I seriously hate him so freaking much! I dont know what to do anymore his friends like me as friends and liek they talk to me online and then he comes home and tells my mom like a little freaking baby! Hes so annoying he calls me names all the time and makes me cry hes such a loser Hes never had a girlfriend hes 16 years old and im 14 I HATE HIM SO MUCH and i cant ignore him he lives with me he needs to move out of the house!he drives but never drives me places and hes so retarded he thnks hes all tough guy when his friends come over and he makes up SO MANY FREAKEN LIES! someone help me please ! sorry for the length

You have got to set some boundaries with this guy. I think the reason he never has a girlfriend is because he's too childish. He doesnt treat you like the little sister you truly are, and you have to demand some respect. This may take some strategy and time, so dont give up, cause if he sees you're weak, he'll never stop. Oh, and you might wanna expose him for the true liar he is in front of his friends.(Unless he'll kill you)You have a life, and he's not supposed to interfere. if you wanna talk to someone, thats your business, and he shouldnt care as long as they werent doing you wrong or something. Get on him!

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Tonight I have to babysit for two twin girls who are 5. I cant keep them busy and in my control. Can anybody give me some pointers?

Let's see.. try to play games with both of them and if they get out of hand and too noisy, make sure you get your point across or they wont take you seriously. Once they think you're not serious, all hope may be lost.

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Okay. I used to go to private skool 2 years ago. Me and this guy really liked eachother and we went to the skool dance together. I now go to public skool and I like this guy. The guy from private skool sent me an email today saying that he truly likes me. But
I think the guy from the public skool likes me too. Which one should I choose?

Umm.. I think you should choose private school boy, but still watch for public school boy ( remember,you "think" he likes you)
But i personally like private school boy because he sent you an email and is not afraid to let you know how he feels.

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Hi, I'm 13 years old, and i recently started cutting. Don't think " I'm a physco Freak " or whatever you want to call me. My Friend introduced me into it. She said it really helps. so one day i was really angry, i was crying and all, and i cut all up and down on my arm/wrist. To me, i felt better, but just the next day it hurted. From then on, i have been cutting myself all the time when i am mad. the last time i did was actually last night. I use " Scissors , Razors , Saftey Pin , or any sharp objects round the house " . my mom saw my arm by acident, and i told her i fell on a side walk. well my friends are so worried about me. they think im ganna end up killing myself, because i almost did. i really do hate my life even if i have friends and a boyfriend. i JUST hate it, and i think sometimes i was just a mistake, that i ruin other people lives. well i dont know, if i should continue, and and my friends upset, or not, and stay here. I DONT KNOW?! its just really hard to stop though, cuz im so addicted to it. EHH` . what should i do ? thanks . if you wanna i.m. me on AIM ; BlinkBabex33 .. or you can email me ; BlinkBabex33@comcast.net

Well, I can partly relate. When I almost had a nervous breakdown, I scratched my arms to focus on that pain instead of the emotions I was trying to get through. Then it kinda became a habit. Just for a little, while, because I knew I couldn't keep doing it. So I cried. Cried all my heart out and threw things and fought people whenever I got the urge just so I wouldn't do it. It helped me, but I really hope it will work for you.
Also, you shouldn't hate your life. I used to hate it, but when one of my close friends died(he killed himself) I started realizing how precious life is, and you cant avoid the downs of it. But I love just being able to wake up in the morning and being able to just live! You have got to get that same additude. Find God if you haven't already. Trust me if everything else doesn't work, he will. I hope I helped. You have got to let me know how you're progressing. Yahoo: lildiamyn_69 Keep in touch!

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Has anyone ever been in a depressed mood for no reason?

yea, a few times i just fly into a depressing mood. i just feel very low, like i'm..just there for no reason. its not frequent, but its not serious, either.
do you do this often? are you sure its not something else on your mind? let me know.

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ok theres this guy who ill call steven(not his real name) but i met him in this crazy people place.. i was in there for being suicidal...he was in the for doing drugs "cocaine and marijuana" i dont care about the marijuana..but im not a big fan of coke heads...hes been free of it for over a month now..and im pretty sure hes done with both..should i forget about his past and move on...or should i just forget about him and move on to someone new no matter how hard it is?

some people do have the strength to do these things. but...some people dont. i think you shoud give him a try because you wouldnt want someone to judge you by your past. if he relapses, then you move on. Hope everything works out!

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