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is this normal?
lately ive been getting annoyed at my friends. They are great friends but sometimes..they get on my nerves. Like within our circle we have like 3 ppl who gossip..and i hate it. Then we have a couple people who never contribute in driving us anywhere..and its always me and a couple others driving. Its these little things that have been accumulating and now im getting angry. I feel like i want to find a new circle ..and my other friend agrees...she wants to also. But reality is..there isnt another circle and we do have good friends..what should i do? is this normal?
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Just slowly kinda in simple terms kick them out of the group!! Like stop inviteing them places and if they do come make them pay gas money..thats how me and my freinds do it who ever drives its 3-5 dollars from every one!! and slowly stop hanging out wiht them...you know
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Hi,
Everyone gets annoyed with their friends from time to time. You say that your other friend is too, which is a good thing because it means that a. you're not going through it alone (which could make you really angry/annoyed etc) and have someone to talk about it to, and b. it proves that you're not crazy or nasty or whatever for being annoyed, because other people are too, (Did that make sense? Lol).
I think all you can really do is talk to your friends. Don't bring everything up at once, or yell at them, no matter how much you want to or get provoked, because they'll just feel like they're being attacked. Maybe next time you hear one of them gossiping, you could just say something along the lines of, 'hey...look, I know you like to gossip but I think it's kinda mean, so could you not do it, or at least not do it as much or around me? It's just that it's annoying me a bit because I don't agree with it, and I had to tell you because I don't want us to fall out over this' ?
You and the couple of others who drive everywhere could also refuse to drive a couple of times. If that doesn't get the message across, then tell the others who never drive how you feel.
It's normal to feel angry, especially as they're you're friends - you're probably angry with yourself for being angry with your friends, or feeling like you can't tell them so it just builds up. It'd be best if you could talk to them now before things blow up out of proportion.
And if your friends don't even listen to what you're saying, then they're not good enough friends anyway and you're better off without them.
Good luck, and I hope that helped and didn't waffle too much!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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i cant say if its a normal thing to do or not. but i can say i do it too. sometimes i get so fed up with my friends that anything-- even just writing someone a note-- gets on my nerves and i turn it into a big thing. its stupid i kno.. and i dont reely kno if thers nething u can do about it. u dont necessarily have to find new friends. but you should take some time away from your friends you have now.
xO-sara
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draw a cirlce around yourself and throw it into the ocean to see if it floats.
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same thing happens in my group a lot. What you gotta do is just sit down as a group and talk about all the problems that have been accumulating and address each one. You could start off with the biggest problem first and think of ways to solve it, like the driving one. You could figure out why these certain girls never drive anwyhre..and figure out why and if you coudl all carpool somehow in a way that everyone drives equally or something. And about goin to another group..you and the friends that feel similar about the other girls could just slowly break away and hang out by yourself and try and find some ppl from other group so hang out with/
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things like this happen. you might have to bear with some of it. but not all. suggest that they share some of the work, too. or, you and your friend, if you are positive she's a good friend, you two can spend more time together.
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