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ok i just started dateing this guy iv liked for a while,and we call each other all the time everythings going fine but the other day i went over to his house n we were watching a movie on his couch, we were cuddeling pretty close when out of no were he says "i love u" n i thought it was pretty cute so i looked up to kiss him on the cheek but he turns his head n i kissed him on the mouth so i pulled back(iv never kissed a guy before)but before i knew it we were makeing out, and now i look back on it now and i feel stupid for makeing out with him on our first date and think that he will think that im easy and like me for who i am not what i am.i no i should talk to him but i kinda feel like it was my fault in the first place. gawd im so confused!
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Hi, always remember that if your ever unsure about something then don't go ahead and do it. No matter how much you would like to do something, if you have any doubt then just don't do it. Next time when you see him just have a bit more control over what happens and remember if you make the first move and your unsure or regret it then there may be consequences. Also if you don't like him making out with you on your first date, will it's already happened, but just tell him the next time he might try it on that you are unsure or you don't want to do it. A good relationship requires honesty and communication. Daniel.
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16/f and I can admit that I can be a bit spoiled/bratty at times but I've been trying to work on it. I really have.
Well, my boyfriend, and I know he doesn't do this to be mean, sometimes calls me things or says things to me about the way I act that really hurt. For example, when I try to get my way (like with what movie we see) he always says "Of course, princess!" and turns away. Well, you'd think that sounds nice, right? NOT.
He started calling me "princess" when he was over at my house once and I was mad because some family thing. When I walked out of the room, my sister and him were talking (so I listen in on conversations, who doesn't) about how if things don't go my way, I think it's the end of the world; like I'm a "little princess".
It pisses me off so much when he does this because he KNOWS that I'm trying to get better. But it doesn't help when he calls me that because I know what it means. And he knows that I know what it means too because I've tried to talk to him about it. He'd stop for like a week and then start saying it again. What can I say or do that'll get it through his head?
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Hi, some times in life, we have to be a bit more aggressive when we say things to others so that they can truely understand what your trying to say. For example show your frustration over this feeling. If he then asks you whats up or why are you acting like that, then you can tell him that your doing it because you don't like being called princess. He should then get the message obviousley? If he doesn't and you really don't like it then it's proving that he isn't being respectful towards you and you should tell him whats at stake, regardless of how funny he might think it is. Sometimes but not always we have got to inform people when they really don't listen what our feelings are and we can tell them through being more agressive when we speak. NOT PHYSICAL E.G PUNCHING, KICKING. Sometimes we just have to let that anger out and tell them how we really feel, for example:
"I really do not like that"
"That's really hurting me"
"Stop it, stop it right now!"
Do you see what I mean. When communicating aggressively to your boyfriend, he will probaly want to know why you are being aggressive. Will then you can tell him why you acted in that manner and if he doesn't understand that, then it just proves that he doesn't understand you. And without understanding he fails to see how you feel when you talk to him. Giving body language is usually easier because it's quiet and hopefully if he has a brain, he can just see how you feel e.g facial expressions. Just tell him you don't like it, and if he can't understand that then he can't understand you and we could both be going our seperate ways. That should give him the message. Saying something bluntly is another good way and alot better than anger. Try one of these techniques. Daniel.
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I have some serious trouble geting guys, I look good and I know most of them think I look good, but I act relly cold around people I'm not extreamly close with so most of them are kind of scared of me or think I'm stuck up. So I saw this advert about a ebook today called "Catch Him And Keep Him" and I was wondering if it would help me the website is www.catchhimandkeephim.com I was also wondering if there is a website where I can download this book or another book on the subject of getting guys for free, because I don't have that kind of money to spare for ebooks. I was also wondering how I can make guys like me without acting like a slut and also how I can let them know that I am not a scary person. (link)
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Hi, the real answer to getting guys is to just take up the confidence to talk to them. Books generally try and put their words into your mouth when really what you want to say and do is alot better. It's just a way for the Authors to get money. They can't guarentee that your going to get a boyfriend in 24hours but then again it isn't impossible. What works for people who are shy is that they do every conversation with someone different everyday. For example:
First day
Shy person: Hi
Other person: hi
Second day
Shy person: Hi
Other person: hi
Shy person: How's your day today, having a nice one?
Other person: Replies
Third day
Shy person: Hi, hows your day
Other person: Replies
Shy person: Watching the football world cup?
Other person: Replies
Shy person: I like watching it, what do you like watching?
Do you see how each day a shy person can add a sentence each day and ask questions. It's good to ask open questions because you can lead it to a conversation and when your finished talking you could ask them if you would like to catch up sometime. Heres 3 good tips to remember when talking to the opposite sex:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
You might notice that the more you talk to people, the more confidence you get. Confidence is very important because guys and girls love people who are confident in themselves as an induvidual. Daniel.
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Im 16 and i still havent madeout with anyone. All my friends are very experienced and i get uncomfortable when they talk about that kind of stuff becuz im very inexperienced in that department. I feel so stupid and young because i havent..i mean some 13 year olds have madeout..and im 16! Is this normal and what should i do!? (link)
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Hi, I will just tell you that it's 100% normal to have not kissed or anything at your age. The question is, are you ready for all that now? Don't go out with anyone just because your friends do because it can be quite uncomfortable and also your boyfriend might think you really mean it. If you want it to happen, then you've got to create the opportunity. Talk to guys, join a club and things like that. Don't put high expectations on yourself. I'm sure that if you work on your confidence and get out more, you will meet a guy and start dating and etc. Don't rush into anything and never ever copy off what your friends do. You just won't feel comfortable with it in the end. Daniel.
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i kno u prolly dont like questions like this but do you kno of any good free porn sites? (link)
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Hi, no I don't but what you can do is just simply go to google and then type in something like "Pawn sites" or "pawn". It will probaly come up with a variety of different pawn sites. Really pawn sites are free, however some might give your computer a warning that it contains a virus. But yeah, go through google and search. You will get a variety of pawn sites that you could go on. Daniel.
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I'm 17 and I'm going for my first job interview. I've never been employed before. It's for a big store that I usually shop at, and I'm very nervous. Does anyone know what kind of questions the interviewer will ask me? What kind of clothing should I wear to the interview? I don't want to seem desperate & I don't want to say anything wrong. (link)
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Hi, the employer will probaly ask questions like:
1. Have you got any experience or qualifications?
2. What part would you like?
3. Have you worked for anyone else lately
stuff like that. As for clothing just go with a normal clean shirt and pants, not huddies, and make sure you have a wash and corm your hair. Be yourself, thats all you can be. Daniel.
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What are some nick names to call guys?
Like they call girls babe and stuff like that.
But what can we call them, that they won't hate?
For like really good friends (friends with benifits) or a boyfriend. (link)
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Hi, this is quite difficult but just call them by their first name. Daniel.
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Ok so i have been being ask by like a TON of boys to go all the way and like they say they like me but where only 13 && 14 and i think there only saying they really like me cus they wanna get laid basically or get a blow job or sumthingg but i dont know what to do cus i really like one of the kids who wants to do that stuff but i donnt know
please help
what do i do
help me
before i make
the wrong
decesion
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Hi, I wouldn't bother with them if all they want to do is have sex. A deffinate no. Daniel.
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i am having a birthday party and my mom would like me to tell her what to make for a brunch. But..really i have no clue what to have!! Does anyone have any really good foods they like for brunches? i will rate! thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi, why don't you get your mum to make you a full English breakfast? It contains:
1. Sausage
2. Egg
3. Beans
4. Fried bread
5. Mushrooms
6. Bacon
7. Tomatoe
Or the American breakfast:
Hot cakes
Whipped butter
Chocolate chips
Golden syrup
or a hearty sunday English lunch:
1. Lamb
2. Roast potatoes
3. Cabbage
4. Peas
5. Yorkshire pudding
6. Gravy
or perhaps something that is between breakfast and lunch:
1. Ommelette
2. Beans on toast
3. Hot dog
Theres loads of good cultures of foods for example:
1. English
2. Turkish
3. Medditaranian
4. Mexican
5. Indian
6. Italian
7. Chinese
8. Malaysian
maybe you could try something from another country like for example india has things like curries but I reccomend you try the mexican food. Enchillada's, cheese corn chips, elpaso stuff. Have a nice birthday. Daniel.
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Hey I am for this school year I really want to get A's in every class. I am willing to work my butt off for it. I just would like any advice you guys think would help in keeping organized, and motivated…or just any tips at all for getting all A's. I would really appreciate it.
Thanks
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Hi, focus on what you need to do for your work. Study it until you understand it. Ask for help. Then put a bit more into your work than needed. Things like enough sleep, food and fresh clear mind to the day should also work. The secret to success is that you've got to be MOTIVATED to do it. You need to be determined, however if you keep aiming for the top mark, it may cause stress and too much determination can actually get you a lower grade. Just go into your work with a fresh mind and motivation and you will get good marks. Daniel.
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I can't stop masturbating. I am only 13/f and I usually masturbate up to...well let's just say WAAAAAAY more than 3 times a day. I think it's because I get bored, but I still want to stop. I can stop for a little while, but then I think about it, and I start all over again. But it's not only the physical feeling, it's the emotional. I really need advice. And please don't tell me "find a hobby" or "hang out with friends" because no matter where I go, or what I do, I am always horny. Well not ALWAYS, but most of the time. I feel so gross sometimes and I just know that I need to stop. It's way out of control. (link)
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Hi, I think it's quite healthy doing what you do really. We all have different sex-drives and libidos. Some don't even feel as though they have one. What you could do is plan how much your going to masturbate lets say once a day and then start doing it. Cut to the deal, and do it once a day. After a while your body should get use to how much you masturbate and then you can have more self control. As for boredom, will, just make friends and what have you. Find something other than masturbating that you enjoy. There must be something you enjoy doing other than masturbating, think. Only you can cut down the masturbating, no one else. Daniel.
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the boy i like and i just shared our first kiss and i really want a good song to describe the feeling and put in my profile.
any ideas? (link)
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Hi, I don't know many but you could have a look at what other singers have sang such as:
UB 40
Elton John
Paul McCartney
Daniel.
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i'm trying to get to know this girl i recently met and i'm having trouble finding things to talk about. does anyone have any topics or ideas of things we could talk about? (link)
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Hi, one good way is to ask her out on a date. Not only will you have fun but you could get to know each others interests and stuff like that. Other than that you could give her compliments now and again. However by going on a date you would be able to find lots of things about each other and can enjoy being around each others company. When you meet her you could open a conversation or reply it by saying something like "hi, have you had a nice day?" then once shes replied you could say something like "is that a new top? because it's really nice" then after that something like "I'm thinking of going to the movies this weekend" "hey, would you like to come, maybe we could carry on our conversation and have a quiet drink". If she says yes then congratulations you've got a date and you can build on things from there. If no then you could quickly reflect that by saying "OK then maybe another time". You would either way be telling her that you are interested. Just try that one of these days when the time is right and then if things are going to plan you can get back to me and I can discuss it further with you. Daniel.
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SORRY THIS IS SO LONG i have a problem with my parents and my sister.well im hispanic and black but im adoubted(not sure if i spelled that right)and my parents are black but my moms kinda light but anyway.im 13 and have dated a fair amount of guys and ive started to have an attraction to white guys and my sister/parents tease me and i hate it.they teased my last boyfriend who was white so thats why i didnt tell them about my boyfriend i have currently because he is white and they would tease him and me.i couldnt keep it in and told my sister and because of some people at school my dad is starting to get suspicious.he thinks i just have a crush on him.then so did my mom and my sister showed her a pichure of him and my mom went off on teasing him.then she asked me so you dont like black boys anymore?then we started aruguing and i got so mad that afterwads i broke out cring because i felt that i cant date a race i want becuse my parents are so judgemental.their not racest because theyve never told me that i couldnt date a white person.im still dating that same guy but still havnt told my parents because i know that the insults will start flowing.i hate having to keep a secret for the reason that i am but i just dont see any other opitions.any advice wuld be very helpfull.thanx (link)
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Hi, you should simply confront your mom and dad and tell them that you do like this white guy because... then just leave it be. It would be up to them to decide wether or not to accept it or make fun. If you think about it, if your parents are teasing you about it then they fail to see what your relationship with the other race is like. I think it's good that your mixing well with the other race because it proves that you are coperative and don't let that get to your mind even if the guy is white. You should ignore your parents really and just get on with things. Just remember that you decide who you go out with not your parents and only you can decide if you want to mix with the other race. If your parents can't see that you are happy being with white boys then they have probaly got a huge problem. All though the blacks and whites don't particularly like each other but it has improved alot over the past forty odd years. Daniel.
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15 Female
Okay, so I have this strange thing and I'm wondering what might cause it. Last year I really liked this guy and he liked me. We weren't dating or anything but we were friends and knew we liked eachother. Nothing had changed but suddenly I was completely disgusted by him and never even wanted to hear his name again. I didn't speak to him until about four months later and we both ended up liking eachother again. (we don't have anything going on right now, it's a long story but we are completely over eachother)
I didn't really think anything of it but recently I was on a date with this guy and really liked him. Now I don't know if he likes me or not but all of a sudden I really don't like him. And everything was great and this seems to happen whether the guy likes me or not.
What could it be?
THANKS!
Emily (link)
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Hi, this is a tough one. This could simply be that your really not into guys right now and perhaps havn't been together long enough to have experienced a proper teenage relationship. Teenage girls and boys go through different people for different needs for example like somebody then like somebody else but just havn't got what you wanted in them. Maybe you just havn't found your match yet. It all depends on:
a) The personal qualities that a guy has
b) What your looking for out of the relationship
If you find a guy you like because for example he has good humour then you might feel attracted to him because of that and if you feel as though the relationship is getting somewhere then maybe you can act on your feelings for him. You might be one of these girls who just gets bored after a while with the same old guy because he doesn't have the qualities that you wanted out of him. My guess is that you know what sort of guy you want but he just isn't there at the minute. Keep trying and searching. He will be out there somewhere. Daniel.
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This is mostly for girls I guess..... I went camping a while back and meet this really nice guy and we hit it off immediately...but at the point I didn't think about it. when i got home he had left me a message basiclly telling me that he really liked me and he wanted to hook up while we were camping. After a while of getting to like and know this guy, I realize that i am too young for him and we live to far away from eachother to have a relationship. The same day I told him this he gets a girlfriend. My friends say that I shouldn't talk to him and I should give him the cold shoulder, but I don't know what I'm going to do because he is coming down (a 2 hr drive) to see me, should I see him and be friends with him or should I call the trip off for him?
Sry bout length (link)
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Hi, you are quite right. It is very difficult to have a relationship so far apart from each other plus you couldn't really see each other as much as normal couples do. However I wouldn't lose your friendship with him. Who know's with a good friendship you could lead each other to a relationship and once your both old enough you could live together. Just hang onto him. This could be a guy who really likes you too. Daniel.
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ok i am 14 and my ex is 15 i was out of town for like a month so i stop call him because it was longdistance when i came back i was online and i IM him and we talk i told him i love him and i said ok and then he said he met a gurl at a party and she ask he to go out wit her he said yes i was so pissed .now he tells me he wants me and i constantly remind him he has a gurl .i tryed to move on it just did not work .he wants to have sex wit me and i went over his house he was flirting wit me and i had a lot of fun but i really ,truly want him back my question is how do you get someone back you truly love???????
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Hi, honesty is the best thing that you could do. Tell him that you like him and would like to get back together again. What I don't understand is if he's already going out with another girl, then why does he all of a sudden want to get back with you and HAVE SEX. It sounds as though he wants 2 girls and you for some sex, then what from there? He may dump you and had been using you just for the pleasure of life. I would just be very very careful about this guy. You may truely love him but true love is when 2 people love each other because they enjoy each others company, not just for the sex and seeing someone behind anothers back. I could be wrong, but it does sound a little fishy don't you think? Be careful about what your going to do. Give it a bit more time then if he isn't improving then he isn't worth your time. Daniel.
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Hi. If it helps, I'm 15/f. Ok, I think I might be gay or bi. Lately, I have found myself wanting to be with a girl more than with a guy. A few weeks ago I was at the waterpark with a friend, and I checked out almost every pretty girl I saw. Now, honestly, I don't know if it is because I might be gay, or because I find myself wanting to be a lot like them. Also, there is this girl at my school who just graduated. We were friends, and she was also gay. We played softball together for 2 years. I found myself wanting to be with her more and more everyday. I have had this 'crush' on her for as long as we have known each other. First, it started out with her looks, but I as I got to know her, it became stronger. I haven't had a real 'crush' on a guy since then. I don't really find any boys that attractive any more, but I find myself checking out girls more and more often. Also, when I watch movies, I check out the girls more than the guys. It's just like the guys are there, and the girls are there for me. It's hard to explain. I mean, I don't really want a boyfriend. As awkward as this sounds, I WANT A GIRLFRIEND! You know, how usually girls dream of doing sexual things with a hot guy they see in a movie or something? I do that with girls!! Someone please tell me your honest opinion. (link)
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Hi, having crushes and fantasies on the same sex doesn't nessaserally mean that your gay. However you do sound quite strong towards the opposite sex. If you want to start going out with girls and being more attracted to the opposite sex, then thats fine. But if you truely inside feel that way, then it will be OK for you to become a lesbian. Just bare in mind that really it can be quite difficult to attract the same sex to feel the same way as you do. If you do want to be gay, then maybe you could check out some places around you that have groups for people who are gay. Im proud of what you've told us because it can take alot of courage to tell people that your going through this part of your life. Once you decide that you are gay, then give it a bit of time because you could yet change your mind. Just go with what feels right for you. It's your choice. Daniel.
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17/f
There's this guy at my work that i really really like. He is 17 as well. He may have a girlfriend too. I'm not sure. He's a little shy but for the most part outgoing. He's cute sweet and funny. Perfect. we have been friends at work for 7 months, since he started there. I gave him my e-mail address exactly 2 weeks ago. I haven't seen him at work since. He hasn't e-mailed me eithor, or added me on MSN. I was just wondering, we flirt alot ALOT at work, but because he didn't e-mail me or anything, does that mean he isn't interested? and how can i find out if he has a girlfriend without having a co-worker ask him or me having to ask him directly, so he doesn't know that i like him that way. Also, should i make a move on him, or just wait and let time decide?
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Hi, It is difficult to tell if he IS interested in you really. The truth is, is you can't really find out if he actually has a girlfriend or not. The only way you could do that is if you asked him. But some how I don't think it's a good idea yet to do so. You could however the next time you see him, say hi and start a conversation then you could say something like "Hey, would you like to go for some lunch sometime" or if your old enough you could catch a drink with him down at the pub. The pub can be quite a homely sort of place, were you can have a drink and what have you. But personally I would invite him to a restaurant or something along these lines. Me personally from an expert point of view would go for a meal with him then ask him over at your house for some coffee or whatever. I strongly advice you 2 don't drink alcohol. If you drink too much alcohol on the first date and get drunk then things could get out of hand. But yes, do ask him out and see what the answer is. After a while if he doesn't show much interest then he mustn't be interested. Then I would advise that you move on. Hope things go well. Daniel.
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how do you get a girl to go out on a date w/ you? i'm kind of shy and i have trouble talking to girls...sometimes i can't even say hi...help is appreciated i rate (link)
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Hi, theres really only one way to do it. ASK HER OUT. If you keep being shy and sitting around then your not getting anywhere, believe me. Girls usually feel flattered about being asked out. Daniel.
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