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Q: Is it possible to get rid of stretch marks? and if so, how???

Well, there isn't a guarentee that they will go away completely, but you can use cocoa butter or bio oil to see if they will go away. Hope this helps.

Q: Alright.
Is there a way you can know if your bipolar or not without going to the doctors?

I really think I am. I mean I'll be all happy and fine one minute and then someone will say something and I'll go quiet and not laugh or say anything. Or I'll be sitting in my room singing and just messing around and then i'll just suddenly stop and start crying (most of the time for no reason, or a really stupid reason like my boyfriends not around). I just dont know what to do anymore. It really kills me and I know it messes up my boyfriend.
Does it sound like im Bipolar to you?

So another question I guess would be how do I bring it up to my mom if I need to go to the doctors to find out?

And how exactly do they know?

Ok, well it does sound like you are bipolar. You never know though. Tell your mom about your feelings and how they change so dramatically and get you a doctors appoinment so they can see if you have this. One of my friends have this and sometimes they miss out on important things because they are feeling so bad...etc..so i would def. get it checked out. Good luck!

Q: ok so this guy has asked me out at least 4 times in the same semester of school and i said no to all of them and i wanted to say yes but i never had a boyfriend and he has ALOT of experience and i really like him, skool just ended and i found out he is leaving the skool so i still talk to on myspace (btw i never talked to him at skool)so he like says Damn u look fine in that picture and i love it when he says that so like i want to go out with him but he is going to a differnet skool. I want to ask 4 his number but im scared, i also want to ask if he wants to go out sometime but i know he will kiss me and i dont know how i never had a boyfriend

HELPPPP!!!!!

what could i do with him on our first date???

I would go out with him because it sounds like you really like him but if he tries to do anything with you that you don't want to do, just tell him. Take it slow and easy. He should understand. Hope this helps.

Q: I went on a date with this guy and we went to the movies on our first date we had a good time.

Now its my turn to pick what to do or where to go.

I have no idea but it can be anywhere free or cost money. I just want us to enjoy our company and what we are doing.

I havent been on a date since 2 yrs...now what or where do I go!

Here are some ideas...
Picnics
out to eat
bowling
amusement park
zoo
swimming
Hope these help!

Q: since i was 13 i always shaved my pubes with a razor and soap
i no a lot of people who do and stuff
but my sister has some waxing stuff
and i was wondering which would be better...
and would waxing hurt really bad?

i prefer the easier and faster way to do it so any recommendations or comments?
thanks =]

Well i have a friend who waxed down there and it ripped her skin open and took it a long time to heal...she said she will never do it again even though the hair hasn't grown back in a long time. The reason her skin ripped was probably because she had the wax to hot or something so it might not happen to you if you do it right. So, if you wax right, then i would go with that because it takes a long time for the hair to grow back. But if you are nervous and think it would hurt you to much, i would just stick with razors. Good luck!

Q: so i dont use tampons, i guess i dont know how to put it in right or something btu i just hate them. anyway, if i have sex, will it hurt more because i dont use tampons? thanks

It might or might not hurt more. Since your not used to wearing tampons, then nothing has gne into that hole so if you relax, and aren't tight then you might be okay. It kind of depends on the person. Hope this helps!

Q: 14/f

I don't have that much time to get a tan this summer, because it's not that easy for me to tan. basically, all I want to know is; is it possible to use makeup to make it look like you have a tan, that will cover your face, AND not look fake? If so, any suggestions? Thanks!

Ok..well...What i use to make me look a little darker is bronzer. Get a shade that is one shade darker or the same shade as your face. Apply it evenly on your face and make sure it is smoothed in. Hope this helps.

Q: So i met this guy like three months ago at a pool hall and he had one of his friends come over and ask me for my number. i gave it to him because he was amazingly sexy, and he texted me later on that night and we made plans for the next day. the next day i realized that i had forgotten to ask him his name. when he told me what it was i realized that i knew him all along because my dad sponsors him in racing. we hung out later that night and he was really sweet. we hung out for a couple of weeks and i heard that he had a girlfriend. she went to my school and i didn't like her so i was like whatever. well after about two or three months of hanging out with him we had sex, and he turned into a tool bag. this wouldn't be a problem if he didn't make me care about him,i care so much and cant help it. the week after his girlfriend and i started hanging out. i kept it from her for a really long time. she started to open up to me and it turns out that he cheats on her all the time. they have been together for five months now and he has cheated on her more times then i can count, and he tells her that she is fat all the time and she needs to go to the gym. he really makes her feel like crap. he also hits her not like really bad but bad enough. like your boyfriend shouldn't hit you. when she tells him she doesn't like it when he cheats on her he says "beggers cant be chooseers." he doesn't care about her at all and is a really big tool. she crys all the time and beets her self up about it. like one time he told her that he would break up with her if she didn't give him head, and she has never done it cause she thinks its gross, but she did it anyways cause she was afraid that he was going to leave her. i don't know what to do i tried telling her to leave him but she wont. she thinks i want her to break up with him so i can have him but i don't and she just wont listen. she is amazingly pretty and not fat at all. help me please.

I wouldn't be with this guy any longer. If he is abusing his girlfriend, he might do it to you. I would call him out on it and ask him why he's doing it or whatever, and, i would quit talking to him. No guy should treat a girl that way. Good luck!

Q: Last night I got a littleee drunk, and went on facebook. I had a friend request from a guy from my drivers ed class, so I accepted, and then I decided to message him. In it I said "you are soooo hot lets have sex" haha :(
Anyways, he wrote back "i think we should"
Now I'm SO tryna hook up with him (not have sex you know) so what am I supposed to write back to that? Like in a way that keeps us talking so that we hang out and hook up. Lol its a weird situation...
Thankss :)

I would be like "Hey..i really like you and think we should get together but i dont want to have sex just yet..call me...etc..."
Hope this helps!

Q: hey so i'm sixteen and I am living at my beach house all summer with my older brother. I have a bunch of friends who live here too. One of these friends is named drew. I've known him forever and I used to like him, for like two years. He liked me on and off but he lived an hour away. So we never did anything except cuddle when we were together. He was always really touchy feely with me too. I haven't liked him for about a year and a half. I've only been at the beach for two weeks, he got here a week before me. I was really excited because we were hanging being chill, no sexual tension whatsoever, so i was thinking this summer would be good cause we would be friends. Then last night it got weird. We both were off work and our friends were working, so we went to the boardwalk to see our friends at work. We hung out there for like an hour till everything closed. Then we went back to his house and went inside. We were watching Harold and kumar and just chilling on the couch. Then he got all touchy feely, and tried giving me a hicky but I told him to get off of me. I wasn't feeling it at all. So I got off the couch and sat on the floor. Then he got on top of me and was all like lets wrestle! And i just layed there cause i figured that would make him get off me. So then he picked me up and layed me on the couch and started kissing my neck and then he was kissing me and trying to make out with me. And i was just like drew stop i have to go. Cause i have a drivng curfew. I really dont know what to be thinking. I dont like him and apparently he likes some other girl who is at the beach for a week. I really dont want to be that girl who he thinks he can hook up with whenever he wants to. I dont know what to do...

Ok...Well...What i would do is tell him you don't have those kinds of feelings for him anymore and you don't like it when it gets like that with you. Just simply tell him your feelings. Good luck! Hope this helps!

Q: ok so i have really oily skin but sometimes it gets like dry in other places.... are there any good lotions or face creams to make my face clear without being oily or dry?? thanks!

There are alot of different face lotions you can look at with the brand Clean&Clear. Just find the one that suits to your skin style. Hope this helps.

Q: How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do?

Well it seems like your boyfriend is only in the relationship with you to get down your pants. He shouldn't be pressuring you into having sex at such an early age. Having sex is something you do when you get older and when you love that person and you are ready to spend the rest of your life with that person. I highly advise you not to do it even though it is your choice. Also, if you do end up doing it, make sure he wears a condom so you cant get pregnant or get a disease. If you don't know how to have sex, then don't do it. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Q: I think this is a sex question. 13/f (haven't started period yet)

Lately i have been having a really heavy discharge, and i t is slightly orangey, rather than tan. I am currently using Carefree With Cotton Extract Breathable Pantyliners. They aren't extremely thick, but they aren't ultra thin. They are fairly comfortable, and i quite like them, but just recently my discharge is going right through them, and stainging my briefs too. I know that mostly discharge washes out, but that's not really the point. I was just wondering if any one knew of a really good pad? Bearing in mind i wear women's boxers, and they are fairly thin widthed. But i do have a couple pairs of propper pants if need be. Thanks in advance for your help =P

Well i would go with something a little bit heavier. Try the brand always, or stayfree.

Q: ok um my look
i think ruins my love lifee..
I dont know what to dooo!!!
with my hair...clothess..facee.
helppp?
Pics:
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http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=BOWWYY.jpg

http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=Sleepover5.jpg

Well you look fine to me but there is one thing...to make your eyes pop, i would put eyeliner and mascara on with your favorite color of eyeshadow....hope this helps.

Q: I am looking for a gift for my girlfriend's birthday, and I have absolutely no idea what to get her. What sort of gifts do girls like? I guess that's my question. I just need a few ideas, here.

They like jewelry, perfuem (sp), they like lotion..etc..just girly stuff like that. They also like stuffed animals and CANDY!

Q: Ok im 17/f .. Im about to be 18 in august and im like really wanting to have a baby..like REALLLY REALLLLY BAD..and im on birth control would it be wrong if I stopped taking my birth control without my boyfriend knowing just to get pregnant?..we want a baby just not now maybe in 5 years he said. But I want one now...

You both should agree on when you want a baby. Dont stop taking those pills and not tell your boyfriend just so you can get pregnant because you shouldnt suprise anybody like that. A baby is a big responsibility and if you have one now, he might leave and not help take care of it so i would wait until you are both ready to have a baby. Hope this helps.

Q: How much is it generally do get hair dyed?

It always depends on the place but it will probably range from 65-150 dollars.

Q: are there any ways to make mosquito bites go away faster? or to at least make the swelling go down.

another thing too, i always end up getting scars from the bites. i don't scratch them and they don't scab, but when they go away i end up with a dark spot where the bite used to be. why does that happen?

Well i know something that works really good that makes them not itch if this helps. Benadryl itch cream.

Q: Okay, Im 16/f and here is some background info.

So my dad has had cancer since 2001 and he keeps getting rediognosed. and this realli makes me upset, i can barely handle it anymore. Im constantly crying and ive been having suicidal thoughts(i dont think i will ever accually do it, i just think about how much easier it would be for my parents to get my dad better if i wasnt here)

Well a few days ago (aka the worst day ever) we had to call 9121 because my dad was so sick and the ambulence had to rush him to the hospital...

Im pretty sure im depressed, i cant talk to any of my friends because i know they try but they can never help me the best thy can do it "im so sorry im here for you" and i commend them so much for dealing with me though

Im just always sad and nothing makes me happy, ive been crying so much more lately, sleeping massive amounts, and not eating. I dont knwo what to do? How can i get myself to be happy and not so depressed.. i try to stay positive. i pray alot, but nothing helps me at all. it seems ive tryed everything.... should i seek professional help?=[

thanks so much

Well, it is normal to feel sad about your dads condition. It isn't right you are feeling suicidal feelings though. Never think that you would be better off dead. There are a lot of people in this world who care about you and you may not know it. Get help from a guardian so they can cheer you up. Your dad might be feeling sick but don't make him deal with his daughter because he will get more sad about your feelings. I hope you start to feeling better.
Hope this helps.

Q: I got my period almost a YEAR AGO! But i can't seem to tell my mom about it! Shes always really weird about this stuff, almost as if shes mad about it. When i first started shaving, i didn't tell my mom (just like all my friends) then she found out and like started yelling at me! She said stuff like "why didn't you tell me, your to young to need to do that." Then she told my grandmother when we were walking down the street by wispering it to her. I heard because she said it kind of loud. So when i got my period it thought she is going to tell my grandmother, and oh shes going to keep talking to me about it just like she did with the shaving thing. So now every time i get it, i work up the courage to tell her and then i can't. So how do i tell her????????????

Ok, well, i think you should tell her but say that you didn't want to tell her for the longest time because you made sucha big deal about the shaving thing. Tell her that in order to keep an open relationship about this kind of stuff she can't get mad or weird. Hope this helps.

p.s- Have courage, you will do just fine.

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