Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Well, I like this white boy and Im black. Sometimes he flirt with me but he told one of my guy friends that he don't like black girls like that he just want to be there friends. But I really like him. I needs some tips on how to flirt with him and turn him on in a way he would not look at the color of my skin. Im 16
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Hey!
Well, thats a hard one. Some people are just set in their ways unfortunatly. And that really sucks. Because he should like you for who you are, but I guess he has a preconceived notion that he shouldnt go out with black girls. Also his parents may be racist, and that may have had an effect on him. Like one of my very best friends is black, and I'm white and my grandmother is really weird when my friend is around and my mom always has to remind her not to say the n word and stuff. White people tend to get stuck in their ways a lot. But how to get him to like you. Well it depends on who you are and who he is. But if you are just genuine and yourself, then he should go for it. Does he know you like him? Because maybe he just is making that excuse because he wants to ask you out but doesnt know that you will say yes. Sometimes guys need the push forward. So I would suggest asking him out, the only problem with that, is if he is racist, then it might come out, and you might feel rejected + you might be alittle less self confident, so if you go into it that way then you have to be really confident for either answer.
I'm trying to think of a way to show him that the colour of your skin doesnt matter, but thats hard. Because once someone is predjugdice then its hard to change their mind. But the one thing I thought of is that you could talk to one of his friends and tell him to blind fold him and take him to a park, and then get someone to talk to him, for you, (so he wont recongize the voice,) then get the person to leave and take off his mask and then he's left with you. I dont know if that will work or not :S (l ol) I've never have a question liek this before. If you dont want to do that, you could make an email address that no one else knows and then email him telling him about yourself and conect with him and then get him to meet you, and then when he realizes who it is then he wont be able to resist.
But if you dont want to disguise yourself, you just want to flirt, thats hard. You should talk to him though and make sure he would never go out with a black person, because you never know. It would be random for a guy to lie about that... but it could happen. You never know with guys (l ol).Hmmm, you could draw him a picture of the two of you holding hands or something as a bit of a joke, and then colour both of you blue. And then be like, I'm colour blind are you? or something like that.
Other than that, I think you should just be yourself. Its ough because guys our age are so immature,(mostly) and they are really stuck in their ways. They have to have the perfect girl for them. And it sucks what colour of skin is a barrier. Like of all things. Racism drives me crazy, and I wish you didnt have to deal with that. But I think that if he cant like you for who you are, and you have to try and make yourself better for him (which isnt really possible...) then he isnt right for you. And I'm sure that there are a millions of guys who would like to go out with you, because of your skin colour & regardless of your skin colour. You dont need the one that might go out with you despite it.
He may seem like the perfect guy, but if he isnt willing to go out with awesome you, then he's not worth squat!
I hope that you can break the racial barriers with this guy, and I hope I helpped alittle bit. Thanks for asking me, and if you need anything else, I'm definatly here for you! I wish I could give you the perfect solution for this problem, but I dont know if there is one. It's too bad that people still have to deal with this sort of thing. Good luck, and hopefully you can turn him around, but if you cant let me know if you want some move on tips. Hopefully I don't have to give you any though!:D *crosses fingers* Love ya lots,
Angie91
I dont know if you'll read this, because you already gave me feedback, but I dont know if confusing him is the best idea. I think that guys get confused enough as it is. l ol. I think that if you are just straight forward it is better, because they get what youre trying to do, but if you think that will work for you, then go for it. You can always try more than one thing. Just remember dont use flirting as revenge thats super mean and alot of people do it. When you think of flirting you should think of trying to tell the story of how you like that person, by showing them how you feel. Not tricking them into likeing you, like some people think. I hope you get to read this. Love ya!
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well my best friend just got a boyfriend .. and he's cute and nice and i really am very happy for her. i've never had a boyfriend (we are 15) and i want one .. so i always feel jealous when friends get boyfriends. and like i am soooo happy for them .. but i wish i had one too. how can i get over that feeling of jealousy? (link)
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Well, thats super hard, but I totally know what you mean (same situation for me) so I am often jealous as well. And its really hard, but what I do when I feel jealous is I just think about how I'm waiting for the perfect guy, and when I find him, I'm not going to be in it for that highschool relationship, where everythings about numbers and who is dating who. You're going to be in a mature relationship with someone who cares about you and isnt in that experimental age. So what if you're older when you get a boyfriend. Who cars if all of your friends have dated someone before you, thats okay, because you're going to meet someone great. And he's going to like you for who you are and your personality rather than your body (well in most cases). 15 year old guys are immature, and all they want is sex, so I think if we wait a bit we'll find an awesome guy who really cares about us. And even if we're wrong, then at least we can imagine that it will be great.
And sure your friends are going through all this happiness, but when they break up because he cheated on her, she's going to be crying on your shoulder, but you wont be going through that just yet. Sometimes waiting until you're older is a good thing too, because you may be the most mature kid in your class but some people arent emotionally mature for a boyfriend until they're in university, and trust me when you're ready they'll come to you.
Yeah I want a boyfriend, but I think that if I wait it will be more fun, so hopefully you can think that way too. If not, then why don't you take a chance and get a boyfriend. That will cure your jealousy.
Either way, I hope you can get over your jealousy, but just remember, jealousy is something that you wil always have all of your life, and unless you can be happy with what you have, then you arent really curing it, you're still comaring yourself to your friends and thats not really right. You know? I hope I answered your question though. good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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..i promised myself when we broke up that i would never get back together because he cheated/ madeout with two other girls one my bestfriend and two my worst enemy when i was dating him... he hurt me... but he started talking to me its been about 7 months.. weve always said hi and hung out in groups.. but he told me he knows he really messed things up and feels terrible whenever he sees me (everyday at school) when he thinks about how bad he hurt me.. i cant help the way i feel for him.. hes been appologizing like crazy... calling me late at night.. and i miss him... we have sooo many things in common but part of us are complete opposites.. hes bad and im good... meaning after we broke up he did some bad things like drugs mostly pot and he has done alot more w/ girls than i have w/ guys... and me i have never even drank and would never try any drugs... we run track together.. track starts monday.. god im confused.. i like him alot.. he likes me alot.. i can tell when hes serious and when hes not and hes been serious... i know your thinking im a fool but i have alot of common sense.. i dont think anybody thinks i should be w/ him.. my friends tell me to go w/ my heart and ignoor everyone and i would... but its like (just so you know me) i have a ton going for me.. im basically validictorian out of the 2nd biggest highschool in missouri and i can run track for almost any college in the country i want to and im only a jr..... which is also weird because hes a sophmore... we are really close... i believe him when he says that he would stop (he has to stop smoking becasue of track) and he would never even think about it if he were with me becasue he knows he would loose me again. its weird because i thought i liked him soo much more than he liked me but he remembers everytime we hung out more than i do and i have a really good memory and he played me a ton of songs that remind him of me and kills him when he hears them..... i dont know what to do... i know hes a player.. but i know he really likes me... i know it will be hard for him to be loyal, but i think he means it and will do it... im worried though.. my parents dont like him (they are very strict) and they dont know that hes smoked weed and they would probably take my car and cell away if they knew lol.. i had to lie to them last night when i hung out w/ him... i hate lying to them... but i like being w/ him soo much....... he makes me soo happy but i know how unhappy he can make me.... basically i dont know what to do...im confused... idk if i should go w/ my heart and like him and hangout w/ him and take it really slow and see if i want a relationship a while from now... or if i should go w/ my gut and continue being the good girl and try to find more guys and keep him on a friend level (i know i will be sad for a while)... PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Hey!
Well it seems like you're a bit confused. You want to go out with him, btu there are so many reasons not to.
So heres what I think you should do, but remember I can't make a decision for you, only you can choose who you go out with. I think that if I were in the situation, I would take the pros and the cons and weigh them out. Then if you decide to go out with him, talk to your parents, and tell them about the following, then see what they say, because lying isnt good, and you know it (thats good) so to do it when you know better isnt a good thing.
So heres what you are going to tell your parents, and him, you're going to give him a chance. A couple of months, enough time to see if he is for real. If he cheats on you, or smokes or does anything else you want to outline, then its over right then and there. No more chances ever. Its like he's on probation. If after a few months he relapses then you can make the decision when you come to it. But he has to remember that if he fails theres no more chances with you, so he has to weigh out whether or not smoking is more fun than you.
When your parents hear that you have thought this through and know what you are doing, they may let you do it. Let them object if they want, because it is up to them to protect you, so let them say what they want, and don't explode and scream about how they dont trust you or anything. But then say that you are trying to be adult, and make your own decisions and mistakes, and the only way you can learn, is to experience it. That may make them reconcider if they are on the line. If they just don't think it's a good idea, tell them that you respect it, and tell him that you wont be able to go out with him. Then watch him alittle bit and see if he keeps doing drugs and stuff. If he doesnt then invite him to dinner one night to show your parents that he is trying to make a second first impression. And see if that works. If he isnt willing to do that, then he isnt right for you.
If the dinner doesnt work, then tell your parents that you tried to show them that you are both maturing, and that didn't work, so you are going to try going out with him anyway. Don't do this irrationally, just try it calmly, and then if they start taking things away, see if the things they take away are worth more to you than him, if they arent then go out with him, if they mean more to you than him, then maybe you shouldnt go out with him. If they ground you, tell them calmly that they are being unreasonable and they can ground you for as long as they want, but as soon as they unground you (for lack of a proper word) you will go out with him. Tell them that you tried but they didnt accept it, and you have to grow up some time, so they can take away your privilages etc, but it wont really change anything. Tell them that you respect them etc. but its your life. Remember to be calm though because if you burst into tears and scream they arent going to take you seriously.
I hope that answered your question. If you need any more help though, let me know!! good luck,
Angie91
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ok well theres this new kid in school and he is REALLY CUTE!!! He stares at me in all the classes we have together...
I really want to get to know him and maybe go out with him somtime.
But the thing is he has the same last name as me which makes it kinda weird doesnt iT???
Do you think it would be really weird??!?!?!?
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No I dont think it would be too weird. It's not like you are related. Unless you have an extremely uncommon name and he has the same one, that would just be ironic. You might want to check and make sure that he isnt related to you though, because I had a kid in my class with my moms maiden name, and then I was talking to him one day and found out that he was my cousin. It was super weird. So if you are thinking about going out with him and the two of you have a random last name then maybe its not a good idea, but like if your last name is smith or anderson or something really commom, then you might as well go out, just think if you get married there wont be all of that confusion.
But I cant tell you wether or not to go out with him, it's up to you, if you think that that wukk be a big deal then you shouldnt go out with him.
Hope I helped abit.
Love ya,
angie91
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I am blonde (naturally) and always have been. I can't imagine my life without blonde hair. It is a huge part of who I am today. Anyways, my class mates decide to be sterotypical and now everything thinks I am just another dumb blonde. I am so tired of it. I didn't do my homework assignment once and I now I am dumb. They look at me as if I were an idiot. I'm no though. I have A's and B's and I am in honors and seminar classes! What can I do to prove to them I am not a dumb blonde? or should I just let it go and let them think what they want? (link)
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Hey,
I'm blonde too, and I totally get what you're saying about your hair colour. One time a friend of mine said that I should try dieing my hair brown, and another one of my friends was like, then she wont have an excuse for being dumb. You knw steriotypes are out there everywhere. If you have a colour skin, or even have an accent, then someone thinks they are better than you and they call you a name. The only difference is when it;s hair colour, it's probably because they are jealous. And people let them get away with it. Where as if you were to walk into a room and say the n word, then someone might actually stand up and say something.
You're smart, and you know you're smart, so it doesnt matter what other people think, and i doubt that they actually think that. Because people call me dumb, but I have a 95% in english, so obviously I'm not an idiot, it just depends on what people think is funny.
You're entire life, dumb blonde jokes will follow you around, my blonde cousin came up to me the other day and told me a dumb blonde joke and I laughed and was like, you realize you're dissing yourself, and he was like yeah, but I thought it was funny, so I told it anyway. He was eleven, so maybe we have something to learn from him. We usually learn that if theres no way around it, and we cant fight it, to laugh along with it, but always remember, you're not stupid, and as long as you know it, thats the only person who should care. You don't need to prove your intellegence to anyone except yourself. So as long as you think you're smart, then everythings okay. I'm sure no one actually thinks you're stupid anyway, they just think its funny. But one day they'll do something stupid and you can laugh. SO I hope I helped. Blondes rule all! Love ya,
Angie91
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WHy is that many times people do not read the question (or story) and give answers that do not make any sense. I mean many times in the story that is posted gives a clear understanding of the answer that should be given and you get an answer that is just plain silly. (link)
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I don't know, I guess there are alot of answers to this qustion, but some people think they can get the jist of it, by skimming through it, and then they only get part of it. It's really annoying I know, so I try to read through everything well so that I can give the best answer, but I guess for every good answer you get to a question you'll get like 4 bad answers. Or you'll get 4 of the exact same answer which is almost just as bad.
It also depends on peoples perspective, like some people will read something and totally get the wrong idea. It all depends on who you are and your beliefs, but I totally hear you.
angie91
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there is this guy that i really really have feelings for and i think he knew that before..he told me he liked me too but nothing really came of it, he went out with other girls while he was saying this to me so i was like you obviously dont like me then because your going out with girls and hes like i just went out with them because i thought you liked other guys. anyways one night he got really mad FOR NO REASON i did nothing wrong to him and he said he never liked me, didnt ever want to talk to me so then i try talking to him, making things better because i know i couldnt handle him being mad at me but that didnt help he was still like dont effing talk to me and i was like alright whatever...now he has a girlfriend (everyone thinks he can do much better than her) and he likes her though and i think he forgot about me, and now that he has forgotten about me i cant stop thinking about him, thats how it works though right? =( if i try talking to him he will just say the same crap, why are you talking to me and then i will feel stupid and he will tell his friends and it will not be good..ive tried many many times to forget about him because it seems like he has to me but im not positive. my cousin (shes like my best friend) talks to him still and i just wish we could all hangout like we use to. i MISS him but it seems like i cant even do anything about it..he goes to a different school which doesnt help but im just so lost please dont say get over him..its NOT easy because ive tried trust me. im so jealous though that he has a girlfriend but some people say he was mad at me because he liked me sooo much. after his first girl that he was with he was texting me saying when me and her break up i wanna go out with you ok but i didnt say anything back and we would text and talk to each other late at night and i would be like ohh I LOVEYOU! and people were like he likes you soo much he will do anything for you but now it seems like things have changed and im thinking or maybe im just hoping he is trying to make me jealous and if we started talking again i have a feeling we would "have a thing" again but i just dont know..
any suggestions?
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Hey,
Well, theres lots we can do, so don't worry okay, you'll get through this. Kay, so first thing that happend was that you put yourself out there, and showed him how you felt, but some sort of miscommunication happend, and that made him explode and then everything got messed up. So in order to get over this eventually you will have to talk to him about it. But not right now. In fact, I wouldn't talk about it at all. Don't talk about him to your friends, don't talk to him, and especially, do not get/let your friends talk to him about you. That would be the worst thing. Obviously for some reason he wants some space, probably what happend is he either heard a rumour, or something else that made him upset and turned away from you. So he's shouting out that he doesnt want you around, so don't be around. If you know he's going to be soemwhere dont go. I know you're probably thinking isnt that the total oppostie of what I should do in order to move on, But you have to move on first, then move on to a stage where its okay to be around him all the time. So you said that going to different school is a disadvantage? Well maybe in some views it is, but think of how much easier it wil be to move on (now I know you said you've tried moving on, and you don't want to move on, don't worry, I'll get to that) you wont have to see him every day, you wont have to worry about running into him in the halls. He's in a totally different universe. One that you don't have to even think about it. You don't think about mars every day right? So why would you think about him (l ol that was a joke. Not a very good one I might add)
So yeah moving on. That sucks. And everyones always like what do I do, I've tried to move on, it's impossible. It's not impossible, it just takes some key ingredients. Some talent, some fun, some me time, some friends, some confrontation, some nights spent crying your eyes out. Some paper Some other hot guys. So lets start with talent, you have to find something that you're good at, say its painting, then spend some of your free time doing that. And every saturday afternoon, when you're sitting aroung thinking about him, paint a picture. now if you're like me and painting is like totally the most tedious task ever and theres no way you could even find a paint brush in your house, then don't paint, find something that calms you down and helps you to relieve your tension. Kay, so fun that has alittle to do with the last one, but you also have to find some fun in a sport, or other activity that involves interacting with others, here are some of the usual suggestions: clubs, volunteering, work, sports. Pick something thats awesome and gets you to try new things and meet new people. Me time, Kay well when youre sitting at home, and you cant stop thinking about him, grab some candles and take a bubble bath, paint your toenails. Listen to your fave, calming music. Watch a funny movie, and just do what makes you happy. Friends is obvious, hang out as much as possible with your friends to keep your mind off of it. Then confrontation I talked about that a bit already try and talk to him about eventually, not today or tomorrow, but someday when you're on speaking terms tell him how you felt and what made you upset. Crying your eyes out, thats something that will happen, once you start to realize you cant be with him, actaully it probably already has happened. But remember thats always okay. Now for the paper, you should be keeping a diary, it helps you work through things thta are really hard to get thorugh, and helps you realize your mistakes, so try and concider doing that, and lastly hot guys. Now I'm not suggesting jumping out and making out with the next guy you see, but you need to get over this guy, and thaty involves picking a new fixation, pick a guy in every class at school, it doesnt have to be someone you'd go out with, just someone cute and nice to look at, then think about him, every time you would think about the other guy. And if you think you're about to think about him, then try and find another thing about the guys you pick to think about.
Those are just a few tips for moving on. and there are alot more, and if you need them let me now, I've got hundreds.
You know some of te stuff up there makes it seem liek you want to go out with him still, and I totally get that, but if I were you I;d really try to move on. I hope I helpped, or at least answered your question. Please don't hesitate to ask if you need more help, or if moving on isnt the answer for you, I might be able to help you with that too. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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ok theres this guy who i really like but he kind of likes this really pretty and popular girl so can someone please give me tips on what to do. (link)
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Well there are two different routes to take. The one where you decide to continue likeing him, or the one where you decide not to like him.
A) So lets say you pick the first one. Just because you like him and he likes someone else, it oesnt mean you cant like him. See there are two more ways to look at this (lo l) You can look at this as the perspective of someone who needs a boufriend. You need one now. Or theres the one where you would just sort of like a boyfriend, but if you dont get one this week its not the end of the world. So if you decide you want a boyfried like now, move on to B. If you are just thinking about get a boyfriend, you don't really care if it's him, you just want someone to look at or think about when yo're bored. This guys awesome. Maybe One day he'll be your boyfriend, but today might not be the day. This is the category, where yo think about maybe one day making a move, but other than that you just stick around and look at him.
B) Kay, now heres where you Decide between hidden option one, where you wait out this thing with the "pretty" girl, or 2 where you go up and ask him out. So you have to decide, are you the type of person who will swoop in and steal his attention or are you going to just wait and when he loses intrest in the other girl, then go in for the kill. The only problem is he might not lose interest tomorrow or the next day or next week even...
so are you the type of girl who can be confident, flirt and get this guys attention,(option B 1 or maybe even 2) or are you happy just sitting and watching while he goes out with other girls (option A and a bit B2). So once you pick that, then the answer might be obvious, but if you need some more help, you know where to look eh? :D
Hope I helped, Lots of love,
Angie91
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this is ganna sound gross. so yeah. im warning you because... yeah. and yeah. but im scared of my own waste likeee crap. i get freaked and disgusted by it and um.. yeah. like i close my eyes and like do what i gatta do and stuff and run out of the bathroom and wash my hands downstairs. its gross i know. does anyone know what this might be about? or why? or how i can stop this or make it better? i get grossed out, freaked out, and i feel sick thinking about it right now.! (link)
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Um, I dont really know much about that particular phobia, but if you check this site, then you might be able to find the name of the phobia, then you can search the scientific name. Hope you can move on, and don't be ashamed. I'm afraid of eyes. So we all have something.Don't worry about it love ya,
angie91
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Tristan=Me
Jacob=X BF
Julie=Jacob used to like us at the same time, good friend of mine & Kayla
Kayla=Best friend of mine, Cousin of Jacob, (how we met), and also friends with Julie
I asked Jacob why he told kayla he loved her and he said because she gave him a number to get ahold of me. So i guess sense he finally found a way to get ahold of me so i guess that made him happy. Anyways i saw him this past saturday from 7-2am. It wasnt just us it was me, kayla, 3 other ppl, and jacob. We went to his house to watch a movie. He brought up something that happaned to me two fridays back.. (something bad happan to me between me & some other guy) he found out that something bad happaned to me thru kayla cuz i called her crying. She doesnt know what happaned so she didnt tell him WHAT happaned just that something DID happan and it was with another guy. So he brought me into the other room to see if i was okay. He sat on the bed and pulled me close to him while i was still standing putting his hands on the back of my legs asking whats wrong. I kept saying nothing nothing and never did tell him. He then sat me on his lap and put his head on my shoulder and I put mine on his and started bawling. He put his cheek really close to my lips.. i was crying and i don't need him to make it seem like he wants me to kiss him, even if its just on the cheek. I got up and he just sat me right back down then i got up again and he just pulled me and gave me a really big hug. He said well we'll talk about it later, and whatever this guy did he needs to be the one crying. But i also remember you saying he can't be protective over me anymore. Im confused about what happaned at his house..
Then on the way back home my stalker guy called & shawn called him back and just kept telling him off, not yelling not swearing. Just talking calmy which is a lil more scarier. He told him he needs to stop calling me. I dont know what to do. He told me he'd call me the next day (mon.) never did call me until wed. I told him i'd call him back but i never did. Im going to do the same thing he did. Not call when i say.
He can get a taste of his own medicine. (link)
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Hey,
Okay, yeah I don't know if you totally get what I said last time or why I said it. You see, there are two paths you can choose, and this is it. Right now. You have to choose. Now. One is where you plan to get back together with Jacob, the other is where you choose to try your hardest to move on. Now. Choose right now. You see, right now you are sitting there, and you want to move on, but you havent decided which side to move onto. Without choosing that, you wont move. You'll just keep sitting there. The world will continue revolving around you and you'll sit there until you decide. So I'm making it easy for you. Are you going to attempt to get back together with Jacob or are you going to try and move on? Pick now. Okay you've given it some thought. Choose.
Okay, now keep thinking about it. If you havent decided. We'll move on, okay, heres whats going on. Jacob isnt quite sure whats going on. Just as you arent sure whats going on. He stil loves you, and he wants to move on, but he's stuck, just like you. So here's what you both need to do, either get back together now, and try and get over these differences, or quit moving backward, or standing still, and move on. Because you can't stay here like this anymore. Thats not an option, choose a path and stick to it. If you chose to be his friend, then you need to talk to him like a friend, but because you're starting over, he's like a friend you don't really know too well. Think of a guy you just met a few days ago, a week maybe, what would you think if he came up to you and held you the way jacob did last night? It would be awkward and weird. So why isn't it? Because you're use to him, but you arent use to the new guy. The thing is, it should be awkward. And it's not, because you're not making it. Everyone always says it's super awkward, because they are making it that way. You arent making it awkward because you don't want it to be. You arent thinking about why you two broke up. You just need to realize this. You need to either make it awkward or get back together. It's great that he's your friend, but if you decide to move on, then you have to decide to not be his friend for a while. That might hurt a bit, but it needs to be done. You have to come out and tell him that you love him, but you need to get over him, and the only way you can get over him, is to not see him everytime you turn around. And sure that may mean that you spend a little less time with your friends, or with his friends, but you have to decide theres no half way on this. Are you going to date him, or not? Choose now. Think about it.
Once you decide, I'll help you figure out what to do when he kisses you or brings you close liek that okay?
As far as this stalker thing, I am super confused. Esspecially what you wrote today. K first of all theres a guy named shawn. He's your friend? That was really good of him, whoever he is to tell him off non violently. okay, then you moved onto the next line, and I'm confused. You see everyone's a he. Jacobs a he, shawns a he, stalker guys a he. So who told you to call him the next day and didnt call you. Who are ytou giving a taste of his own medicine? If you could clear that up with me I might be able to help you out with that.
Okay. It's the time we've all been waiting for. Your choice. So what is it? Before you make it, (haha I'm liek those annoying game show hosts) Think about this. You're a teenager, if you choose the wrong path, theres still time. (ie. not trying to influence your choice or anything, but if you choose to move on, you can always go back in a few months and if you chose to go back to him, you can quit anytime.)So here you go. I think I answered some of your questions. But I need a little more clarification on that other thing, and I need you to make a decision. And Tonights the night. You have to make it. Before you go to bed tonight. No later. I don't want you to have to think about this tomorrow. Its today. It's now. Make it and move on. I'll help you no matter what situation you choose. And I hope that you can make the right decision for you. Remember no one can make it for you. Not julie, not Kayla, not even jacob. Just tristan. Love ya,
Angie91
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so confused. okay so i like this guy.of course. and well my friend was talking to him. and shes like oh yeah by the way my friend likes you. and hes like oh ok. shes like yeah. then they continued their conversation on i dont know what. and then she said hes like oh is she blonde? and my friends like yeahh why you know who im talking about? and hes like i dont know. then like maybe the next day or so hes like oh is her name "polly" and my friends like whos "polly" and hes liek the girl that likes me. and shes like umm yeahhh how you know? and hes like because shes your friend. and shes like um ok? and then like my friend is like yeah ok so what oyu think of her? and hes like shes cute. and shes like haha yeahh. and then like she now says that he is always mentioning me and stuff. but like he never talks to me. and i went on vacation but he told my friend that he wouldnt talk to me because he couldnt figure out who was who in my group and he didnt want to embarass himself. so i dont know. does it seem like he may like me or? (link)
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Dear "pollY"
well yeah, he probably does. I was going to say, unless he just didnt want it to get back to you that he didnt like you, but then I realized that he was the one bringing it up some of the time. So that wouldnt make sense. I understand that he wouldnt want to go up to you in a group, because a lot of girls look alike, and he knows that if he goes up to a bunch of girls and asks you out, then you're all going to talk about it as soon as he leaves, and he knows that if you go up to him, then theres less chance you are all going to make fun of him. So I think that you shoudl try and get up the courage to ask him out, or go and talk to him, at least, when he is alone, and then you wont have to worry about pulling him away from his friends and he wont have to worry about him thinking that he has to single you out. Try and figure out ways to talk to him alone, but try and think up some things to say before hand so you dont get tongue tied, but don't let him think that he wont be able to get a word in edge wise. And tell some of your friends that if you're talking to him, stay away, so they wont interupt. Those are just a few hints, you might find useful, let me know if you need anymore help tho, love ya,
Angie
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i dunno what is wrong with guys my age (14-15) all of them are nasty, immature, or way into sports. is this just a phase because im am really sick of hearin nasty jokes on my bus or guys being rude to other people. (link)
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HAHA. Yeah, I totally know what you mean. It's probably just a phase, but for some of them, they'll never grow out of it, and for those that do, it will probably happen sometime between grade 9 and university. I've noticed theres a huge difference between grade 10 and grade 11, but that's mostly just in height and stuff. As far as the sports thing, they probably wont grow out of it. Guys will always love sports. They may quit playing them after highschool, but they wont stop talking about them ever. And the nasty jokes, well that probably wont change for a few years at least, the jokes will probably get more nasty, and less funny. And as far as being rude, they have to learn that it isnt fun to be rude to people, and that wont change until they realize that their girlfriends dont stand for it. And even then, they'll probably just break up with them rather then actually try to change. So you've just got to wait it out. It sucks, but sooner or later they'll figure it out. Hope I helped you out, love ya,
Angie91
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today i got with a boy and he has no gf and i dont have a bf..we made out twice. and then we decided to just be friends. now everyone is calling me a whore for getting with him when we werent going out ! ugh what do i do, its not lke i make out with someone everyday; that was my first time. what do i say ot people when they say that ? ah thanks (link)
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Well first of all, guys like kissing, so he may have thought it was a mistake or whatever, but he wasn't going to let himself not kiss you some more. So that's why he came back. You're not a whore, people use that word way too often, and you really did nothing wrong. Like you said neither of you or attached, but some people are just jealous, and try to make other people feel bad. Thats why they are doing it. When people call you a name, you should just ignore them. Don't shrugg it off because then they think you know but don't care. Just nodd, and pretend it only bothers you a tiny bit, and that it isnt going to make you quit what you are doing, but it doesnt make you feel good to hear them say it. In a few days it will blow over, all you have to do is wait it out. In a few days another girl will make out at a party and everyone will say she's a whore. So it's all okay.
But I have a suggestion, I don't think it's wise for you to randomly go around kissing guys. It's not that big of a deal, but kissing is kinda important, and if you're wise, you want guys to have to make a commitment to you in order to "get the goods" (hehe). Sure kissing may not seem like much to you, but if you think of it as something thats worth a lot, then maybe when guys want it, then they'll have to make a commitment, and that way you can get a great boyfriend, and you wont be known by any bad names. I hope I answered your question. Love ya,
Angie91
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I dated a guy for a month and 2 days. We broke up clearly out of the blue, never one fight or anything. We saw eachother alot got along great. He called and said we needed to talk and we broke up because he "didnt want a gf" and he was "going away to college" but college is in the same town. And i live a block away from that college. So when he does go to college he's only moving closer to me. he said he still wants to be friends and for the past two weeks nothing has happaned. I texted him last night and he said we couldnt talk on the phone but only through texting. He answered my first question to why we broke up and he said he just doesnt want a gf. and that we moved to fast. But he always made this first move for asking me on a date, asking me out, kissing me, and etc. I never did any of that so its not my fault we moved to fast. I asked what he wants to be wtih me other than a gf cuz i know he doesn' want that. He never answered so two hours later i texted him saying thanks "al" now i know what you want that pretty much answered my question.
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hey!
Okay, well first of all, it sucks that you guys broke up, but it sucks even more that you dont know why. So heres what I'm thinking, probably, he wants to break up and see other girls, but he didnt know how to tell you that. Like if he came up to you and said, "hey, I don't like dating you anymore, I'd rather go out with that girl over there, well see ya later." So he was trying to let you down easy, by telling you all of these stupid excuses that don't make sense. But really all he wants is out. It kinda sucks, because he was just trying to do you a favour by not being mean, but truthfully, you probably would have prefered if he had told you the truth.
Well then you texted him and asked him what he wanted (which was a good thing, don't get me wrong) and he was sortof a jerk, and didnt text you back. But I guess what he was trying to do was just cut you off so that you wouldnt bother him any more.
Thats another thing about this that really sucks, because girls usually want to keep being friends or at least something, when guys just want to let go. So I guess unless you can get him to tell you what he wants to be with you, you should just assume that he doesnt really want to hang out anymore. That is actually a good thing, because it will help with moving on.
when you have to move on, usually all you want to do is see him one more time, but if you know you cant see him, then it will help make moving on faster. If you want some moving on tips, let me know.
I think I answered your question, but if you need anymore help definatly let me know. Thanks for asking me, and don't hesitate to ask. Hope everything goes okay. Love ya,
angie91
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13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what? (link)
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Well, I know it sucks, but I think you need to give in to your mom. You're thirteen, so you still have a few years in her house, therefore, you have to abide by her rules. I think that you should talk to her for a while one day and see what her rules are. How she expects you to act, and see if you can try and push those lines a little so that you are able to be happy.
However, sometimes that doesnt work. If so, you should still take the high road, and be respectful of her. She may say you're a goth or whatever, just calmly tell her that you don't feel that you are representing yourself in that way, but you understand that that is how she feel and you will take that into concideration when you are choosing your outfit tomorrow. As far as the diary, there are two ways you can go, there is one where you are honest, and write about how you feeling, but do not include her in anyway, and only include the parts that are adult friendly, ~OR~ can have a diary that is adult friendly, write your important parts of your day such as when you got an A on a test, or when someone complimented you, talk about the guys you like or what you want to do tomorrow, but don't write the things that you don't want her to hear. Then in a separate journal write the things that make you upset, things you did that you need to write to let off steam. Put those entries in a notebook that looks like a school notebook and fill the first ten pages with notes from school. Then write a subject such as science on the front, then put some pages from school such as a test you did well on, or an assignment and stuff and put it in a drawer that you often go in, so it doesnt seem too obvious, or you could even carry it in your backpack, because it looks like a subject notebook, but you have to be careful who looks through your notebooks.
You have to remember, that she's your mom, and it's her job to take care of you and watch out for you. Yeah she was out of place telling people things about you, but if you open up to her about little things, such as a crush or a test mark you didnt like, then write about how great it felt to talk to her about it, in your diary, when she reads it, she'll realize you just want positive attention. Try your hardest to handle this situation sith grace, and try not to be disrespectful, or get annoyed, because then it will clue her into the fact that you actually are deceiving her. You have to admit, it is hard being a parent when your kid doesnt talk to you, wears scary clothes and writes that she hate you in her diary. Like I totally understand why you did that, and it's your choice, but she has a need to protect you, and she feels-well I don't know what she feels, thats your job to find out. Try your hardest to open up and have a good relationship with your mother, because you'll need that relationship one day. And it's better if you work hard on it now. You didn't do anything wrong, but try and remember, your mom thinks she knows best and she's been through this kind of stuff before, she just doesnt want to lose you. I hope that I gave you some insight. If you need any more advice on how to try and get her to know that you really are a good kid, let me know. Love ya,
angie91
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ok well theres this guy and well ive been wanting to kiss him since well i met hiM!!
He has told me he likes me and everyone tells me it all the time.
i Just want to kiss him and see what he does and if he goes with it...do you think i should!
we both are crushin each other but not going out YET. (link)
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Wow, Thats cool. I think you should do it. That't the kind of thing that makes you look totally spontaneous and crazy. It also shows him that you arent afraid to make the first step, and want him to come back and hit you with the same thing. I think that you should just go out and do it one day when he totally doesnt expect it, but try to do it when no one else is watching because guys would probably make fun of him for it, so I would definatly let him tell his friends. Keep it under wraps until you do it. I think thats an awesome idea, and good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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15/f
i've been single for a little over a year now. i've enjoyed being single but im really ready for another relationship again. most of my friends are guys and i dont know why i have a problem finding guys. my last boyfriend said i was very mature for my age and he was about 3years older than me. but toda i was talking online to one of my best guy friends and i was telling him about my need for a boyfriend and he said he would go out with me if i wasnt so immature all the time. so im really confused, he didn't go into detail of when i'm acting immature but im not sure if this is what all the guys are thinking. i want to learn how to meet new guys and how i can be less "immature". why dont guys see me as girlfriend material? (link)
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Okay, well it's very interesting that first guys tell you you're too mature, then guys tell you you're not mature enough. Heres the thing, I think that mor elikely than not the guys that you are friends with see you're least mature side, you know dieing laughing, making fun of people, whatever you do with your friends. You aren't being the person you are with your mom or your teacher. The only problem, is that if you were to change that so that your guy friends could think that you were being more mature, then you were changing who you are. Which is stupid. You need to be comfortable with who ever youre dating. So you should pretend to be really mature, when a guy is probably more into being immature and hanging out. So obviously you get this isnt going to be easy. In life, not everyone is going to like every side of you, and thats why we often date a lot of people before we get married. So you might find a guy who loves your mature side, then you pull out that funny immature side and they run away screaming, then you pull out the mature side with the next guy and he's like.. I thought you were gonna like relax and have fun. So what you have to do, is be comfortable with yourself from day one. If your friends don't see you as someone they can go out with then thats there loss. And I know you want a boyfriend, but it might not be so easy as to go out with a guy everyday, but yeah get out there and meet more guys, introduce yourself as the natural you, try things that you don't usually do, because when you're uncomfortable you are usually the real you. So this will give guys the feeling that you can be crazy and have fun and also be serious and try and be mature. It's really good to have both qualities, and most people think you have to just be one or the other, but once guys realize that you are able to control yourself in normal situations, then they can like you for who you really are. We take our whole lives to figure out who we really are, and by that time, we're usually married. hehe. so try and figure out a way to show that you can do both and I think you're set. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Let me know if you want some more help with this or anything else. I'm glad you care about what other people think of you because thats important, but remember it's not good to change yourself for others. Love ya,
Angie91
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there is this boy i really like but i think i love him and his name is drew.. and i really like him. but the problem is that i have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. and i told one of his best friends and he said he wouldnt tell drew that i liked him (and i trust him)! i think my boyfriends about to break up with me but what if he doesnt? but Drew (the boy i like) he has his girlfriend and we have gone out before and i still REALLY like him. and im thinkin about tell him how i feel but everytime i write the note im afraid to give it to him .. its always better said then done! so i really need help so please help me! please and thank you! (link)
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hey,
well heres my suggestion, you should either break up with your boyfriend, or stop thinking about drew. You need to choose, because either you are feeling bad because you like another guy, or you are being unfaithful(in a way) to your bf. SO figure that out first. Don't wait for him to break up with you, you have to break up with him. Then the thing about drew having a grilfriend. Well thats somethign to concider before you break up with your bf. The chances that they will break up, and then he will get over her and move onto you is very slim. So think about that first. Then if you still want to go out with him, first tell him how you feel and that it's okay if he doesnt want to break up with hs gf you understand. Then see where things go. I hope I helped a little bit, let me know if theres anything else you want to know. Love ya,
Angie91
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It's a known fact that guys don't go out with girls who aren't skinny, gorgeous, and flawless which is really unfair because i happen to be none of the above. Basically, I NEEEED a boyfriend, like its beyond just wanting to be with somebody it's a need to have that special somebody. Sure, there's friends and whatnot and they're important too (don't get me wrong) but sometimes you want somebody that can be more than just a friend to you. It's frustrating because some girls can get a boyfriend in a split second without even having to blink. people like me on the other hand have to sit back and watch these people and envy them while they work their charm. So what can I do to be more like them? To be glamorous and amazing so that guys will want me as much as they want those other girls? PLEASE HELP. (link)
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You know it's really sad reading your question, because I, like you, are not one of those girls you described. I'm a teenager and I also watch all of those girls who get the guys, but you know why they get them? It's because they try hard to get the guys attention and often degrate themselves to get what they want. And yeah I know, sometimes I wish I had a boyfriend too. But I'm happy that I have great friends to hang out with, and sometimes yeah I want more, I want that guy to love and spend time with, but you have to realize that teenage love sucks. It's just a popularity contest most of the time, and you'll realize that one day you'll meet a guy who wont care what you look like or what you're wearing. He'll like you because you're you, and you'll realize that everything you did to make yourself stand out as a kid, was stupid, because you had to change who you are to be something you're not to get a guy to like you. Right now that doesnt seem like that big of a deal but one day when you sit there with your husband who loves you because you are who you are and nothing more, you'll think I'm glad that I didnt degrate myself down to being a slut or whatever else just to get a few extra boyfriends when I was a teenager. The right man will come along. Maybe it will be when you're a teenager, and maybe it will be when you're older. But don't worry you will have a boyfriend one day. And you will be proud of yourself and it will feel right because you're being you, and not one of those flawless girls who are skinny and "gorgeous". You're gorgeous. You're beautiful, and if guys don't see that then they are idiots. I know because I could have boyfriends if I stooped down to that level. But I don't want too, so you can take other peoples advice and try and get that boyfriend you desperatly want, or you can take my advice and wait for the right guy to come along. Good luck, and I hope I gave you some insight. Remember there are more important things in life than a Boyfriend. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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ok well theres this guy...hmm we'll call him Bob and well he walks with me to all my classes and talks to me when we are getting our stuff outa our lockers (his is right beside mine)He sings to me in weird voices (just saying my name) and he messes around with me in Band (we both play the drums) he stands just about as close as he can get to me without people thinking things...
Do you think he likes me?!?!? (link)
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Well I'm not a mind reader, and I don't know him, so I can't say yes or no. But it seems liek he might, UNLESS, he does that a lot. Because a lot of guys do that to girls but usually it's girls they liek that they do it with the most. So here's how you find out, you flirt with him, just a tiny little bit. Not too much so that people notice, because then he will stop, because then people are noticing. So what this will do is show your intrest, he'll know that you don't mind taking it to the next level, then he might test it a bit, and flirt or whatever you wanna call it a bit more and take it to the next level, then you take it one more step too, and then he will probabl decide whether or not to ask you out, or he's just being a regular guy, and if he keeps being like he is, then you should either ignore it and realize that he doesnt want to go out with you he just wants to be friends, or you should ask him out, because some guys are like that and just want you to ask them out.
I hope that answered your question. Sorry I don't know if he likes you or not, but if he isnt like that with others, then probably yeah. Good luck, and I hope I helped.
Love ya,
angie91
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