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How to get a white guy to like me for who I am
Well, I like this white boy and Im black. Sometimes he flirt with me but he told one of my guy friends that he don't like black girls like that he just want to be there friends. But I really like him. I needs some tips on how to flirt with him and turn him on in a way he would not look at the color of my skin. Im 16
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If someone won't date you because of your skin color, than he is completely not worth your time. If I were you I would have taken this a lot more personally!
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If what he saying is true, than turning him onto a you might be really hard to do. But heres what I would do..
I would start getting more heavy with him by get into more deeper conversations (sexual or non-sexual) but not too much so you don't scare him away. Also conversations just about everyday life- like if he looks sad go up to him and ask him 'why so gloomy'.
Then I would be more flirty like touching hands or like if you sit across or near eachotehr in class like make weird faces (if the time is right) or mouth words.
Make sure to not be too into him, like have some time for yourself and friends, make him want you to talk to him.
Walk and talk in the halls, a lot, I know it seems like such a little thing but he'll get use to this (if he likes this attention) and if you have something good to talk about he'll enjoy it. However, that movie can backfire you can't get too attached to it like if he talks to someone else don't drag behind just walk away. And don't drag on the conversation just make it short, sweet, and making him want more.
Try and keep in contact with him out side of school especially. Don't call him first though! MAke him call you- like if he has an sn or myspace or just by talking in school try and do something fun over the weekend or after school. If he shows that he wants to spend time with you outside of school then whatever you're doing, it's working.
Go to a dance club, I guess because you're under 21 there isn't much available but if there is an under 18 one, then go together, and dance. It'll show him your intimacy.
I'm sorry if this advice is bad but your situation is one which I have to just try and think about what I would do, not what I did do because I haven't been in those type of shoes. I hope everything works out.
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Hey!
Well, thats a hard one. Some people are just set in their ways unfortunatly. And that really sucks. Because he should like you for who you are, but I guess he has a preconceived notion that he shouldnt go out with black girls. Also his parents may be racist, and that may have had an effect on him. Like one of my very best friends is black, and I'm white and my grandmother is really weird when my friend is around and my mom always has to remind her not to say the n word and stuff. White people tend to get stuck in their ways a lot. But how to get him to like you. Well it depends on who you are and who he is. But if you are just genuine and yourself, then he should go for it. Does he know you like him? Because maybe he just is making that excuse because he wants to ask you out but doesnt know that you will say yes. Sometimes guys need the push forward. So I would suggest asking him out, the only problem with that, is if he is racist, then it might come out, and you might feel rejected + you might be alittle less self confident, so if you go into it that way then you have to be really confident for either answer.
I'm trying to think of a way to show him that the colour of your skin doesnt matter, but thats hard. Because once someone is predjugdice then its hard to change their mind. But the one thing I thought of is that you could talk to one of his friends and tell him to blind fold him and take him to a park, and then get someone to talk to him, for you, (so he wont recongize the voice,) then get the person to leave and take off his mask and then he's left with you. I dont know if that will work or not :S (l ol) I've never have a question liek this before. If you dont want to do that, you could make an email address that no one else knows and then email him telling him about yourself and conect with him and then get him to meet you, and then when he realizes who it is then he wont be able to resist.
But if you dont want to disguise yourself, you just want to flirt, thats hard. You should talk to him though and make sure he would never go out with a black person, because you never know. It would be random for a guy to lie about that... but it could happen. You never know with guys (l ol).Hmmm, you could draw him a picture of the two of you holding hands or something as a bit of a joke, and then colour both of you blue. And then be like, I'm colour blind are you? or something like that.
Other than that, I think you should just be yourself. Its ough because guys our age are so immature,(mostly) and they are really stuck in their ways. They have to have the perfect girl for them. And it sucks what colour of skin is a barrier. Like of all things. Racism drives me crazy, and I wish you didnt have to deal with that. But I think that if he cant like you for who you are, and you have to try and make yourself better for him (which isnt really possible...) then he isnt right for you. And I'm sure that there are a millions of guys who would like to go out with you, because of your skin colour & regardless of your skin colour. You dont need the one that might go out with you despite it.
He may seem like the perfect guy, but if he isnt willing to go out with awesome you, then he's not worth squat!
I hope that you can break the racial barriers with this guy, and I hope I helpped alittle bit. Thanks for asking me, and if you need anything else, I'm definatly here for you! I wish I could give you the perfect solution for this problem, but I dont know if there is one. It's too bad that people still have to deal with this sort of thing. Good luck, and hopefully you can turn him around, but if you cant let me know if you want some move on tips. Hopefully I don't have to give you any though!:D *crosses fingers* Love ya lots,
Angie91
I dont know if you'll read this, because you already gave me feedback, but I dont know if confusing him is the best idea. I think that guys get confused enough as it is. l ol. I think that if you are just straight forward it is better, because they get what youre trying to do, but if you think that will work for you, then go for it. You can always try more than one thing. Just remember dont use flirting as revenge thats super mean and alot of people do it. When you think of flirting you should think of trying to tell the story of how you like that person, by showing them how you feel. Not tricking them into likeing you, like some people think. I hope you get to read this. Love ya!
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