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finding love...its confusing
15/f
i've been single for a little over a year now. i've enjoyed being single but im really ready for another relationship again. most of my friends are guys and i dont know why i have a problem finding guys. my last boyfriend said i was very mature for my age and he was about 3years older than me. but toda i was talking online to one of my best guy friends and i was telling him about my need for a boyfriend and he said he would go out with me if i wasnt so immature all the time. so im really confused, he didn't go into detail of when i'm acting immature but im not sure if this is what all the guys are thinking. i want to learn how to meet new guys and how i can be less "immature". why dont guys see me as girlfriend material?
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Okay, well it's very interesting that first guys tell you you're too mature, then guys tell you you're not mature enough. Heres the thing, I think that mor elikely than not the guys that you are friends with see you're least mature side, you know dieing laughing, making fun of people, whatever you do with your friends. You aren't being the person you are with your mom or your teacher. The only problem, is that if you were to change that so that your guy friends could think that you were being more mature, then you were changing who you are. Which is stupid. You need to be comfortable with who ever youre dating. So you should pretend to be really mature, when a guy is probably more into being immature and hanging out. So obviously you get this isnt going to be easy. In life, not everyone is going to like every side of you, and thats why we often date a lot of people before we get married. So you might find a guy who loves your mature side, then you pull out that funny immature side and they run away screaming, then you pull out the mature side with the next guy and he's like.. I thought you were gonna like relax and have fun. So what you have to do, is be comfortable with yourself from day one. If your friends don't see you as someone they can go out with then thats there loss. And I know you want a boyfriend, but it might not be so easy as to go out with a guy everyday, but yeah get out there and meet more guys, introduce yourself as the natural you, try things that you don't usually do, because when you're uncomfortable you are usually the real you. So this will give guys the feeling that you can be crazy and have fun and also be serious and try and be mature. It's really good to have both qualities, and most people think you have to just be one or the other, but once guys realize that you are able to control yourself in normal situations, then they can like you for who you really are. We take our whole lives to figure out who we really are, and by that time, we're usually married. hehe. so try and figure out a way to show that you can do both and I think you're set. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Let me know if you want some more help with this or anything else. I'm glad you care about what other people think of you because thats important, but remember it's not good to change yourself for others. Love ya,
Angie91
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