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Tristan=Me
Jacob=X BF
Julie=Jacob used to like us at the same time, good friend of mine & Kayla
Kayla=Best friend of mine, Cousin of Jacob, (how we met), and also friends with Julie
I asked Jacob why he told kayla he loved her and he said because she gave him a number to get ahold of me. So i guess sense he finally found a way to get ahold of me so i guess that made him happy. Anyways i saw him this past saturday from 7-2am. It wasnt just us it was me, kayla, 3 other ppl, and jacob. We went to his house to watch a movie. He brought up something that happaned to me two fridays back.. (something bad happan to me between me & some other guy) he found out that something bad happaned to me thru kayla cuz i called her crying. She doesnt know what happaned so she didnt tell him WHAT happaned just that something DID happan and it was with another guy. So he brought me into the other room to see if i was okay. He sat on the bed and pulled me close to him while i was still standing putting his hands on the back of my legs asking whats wrong. I kept saying nothing nothing and never did tell him. He then sat me on his lap and put his head on my shoulder and I put mine on his and started bawling. He put his cheek really close to my lips.. i was crying and i don't need him to make it seem like he wants me to kiss him, even if its just on the cheek. I got up and he just sat me right back down then i got up again and he just pulled me and gave me a really big hug. He said well we'll talk about it later, and whatever this guy did he needs to be the one crying. But i also remember you saying he can't be protective over me anymore. Im confused about what happaned at his house..
Then on the way back home my stalker guy called & shawn called him back and just kept telling him off, not yelling not swearing. Just talking calmy which is a lil more scarier. He told him he needs to stop calling me. I dont know what to do. He told me he'd call me the next day (mon.) never did call me until wed. I told him i'd call him back but i never did. Im going to do the same thing he did. Not call when i say.
He can get a taste of his own medicine.
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Hey,
Okay, yeah I don't know if you totally get what I said last time or why I said it. You see, there are two paths you can choose, and this is it. Right now. You have to choose. Now. One is where you plan to get back together with Jacob, the other is where you choose to try your hardest to move on. Now. Choose right now. You see, right now you are sitting there, and you want to move on, but you havent decided which side to move onto. Without choosing that, you wont move. You'll just keep sitting there. The world will continue revolving around you and you'll sit there until you decide. So I'm making it easy for you. Are you going to attempt to get back together with Jacob or are you going to try and move on? Pick now. Okay you've given it some thought. Choose.
Okay, now keep thinking about it. If you havent decided. We'll move on, okay, heres whats going on. Jacob isnt quite sure whats going on. Just as you arent sure whats going on. He stil loves you, and he wants to move on, but he's stuck, just like you. So here's what you both need to do, either get back together now, and try and get over these differences, or quit moving backward, or standing still, and move on. Because you can't stay here like this anymore. Thats not an option, choose a path and stick to it. If you chose to be his friend, then you need to talk to him like a friend, but because you're starting over, he's like a friend you don't really know too well. Think of a guy you just met a few days ago, a week maybe, what would you think if he came up to you and held you the way jacob did last night? It would be awkward and weird. So why isn't it? Because you're use to him, but you arent use to the new guy. The thing is, it should be awkward. And it's not, because you're not making it. Everyone always says it's super awkward, because they are making it that way. You arent making it awkward because you don't want it to be. You arent thinking about why you two broke up. You just need to realize this. You need to either make it awkward or get back together. It's great that he's your friend, but if you decide to move on, then you have to decide to not be his friend for a while. That might hurt a bit, but it needs to be done. You have to come out and tell him that you love him, but you need to get over him, and the only way you can get over him, is to not see him everytime you turn around. And sure that may mean that you spend a little less time with your friends, or with his friends, but you have to decide theres no half way on this. Are you going to date him, or not? Choose now. Think about it.
Once you decide, I'll help you figure out what to do when he kisses you or brings you close liek that okay?
As far as this stalker thing, I am super confused. Esspecially what you wrote today. K first of all theres a guy named shawn. He's your friend? That was really good of him, whoever he is to tell him off non violently. okay, then you moved onto the next line, and I'm confused. You see everyone's a he. Jacobs a he, shawns a he, stalker guys a he. So who told you to call him the next day and didnt call you. Who are ytou giving a taste of his own medicine? If you could clear that up with me I might be able to help you out with that.
Okay. It's the time we've all been waiting for. Your choice. So what is it? Before you make it, (haha I'm liek those annoying game show hosts) Think about this. You're a teenager, if you choose the wrong path, theres still time. (ie. not trying to influence your choice or anything, but if you choose to move on, you can always go back in a few months and if you chose to go back to him, you can quit anytime.)So here you go. I think I answered some of your questions. But I need a little more clarification on that other thing, and I need you to make a decision. And Tonights the night. You have to make it. Before you go to bed tonight. No later. I don't want you to have to think about this tomorrow. Its today. It's now. Make it and move on. I'll help you no matter what situation you choose. And I hope that you can make the right decision for you. Remember no one can make it for you. Not julie, not Kayla, not even jacob. Just tristan. Love ya,
Angie91
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