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Q: i have a friend whos had sex many times with many different guys. Shes really kool, but most people say shes a hoe. Shes only 13 and had sex with over 3 different guys, She even gave head to a boy younger than her, i dont know how to tell her without hurting her feelings? any sugestions would be appreciated.

Honestly I had a friend like this. She finally would make plans with me and then blow me off to have sex with guys. No way you tell her is going to change her she is just going to be offended I tried you might say hey becareful because there are a lot of dieses and you can become really sick or even pregnant.

Q: I'm fourteen and I am babysitting an eight year old girl and 5 year old boy for the next three and a half weeks. My first day was today, and I was already running out of ideas, which scared me to death! Any recommendations?

You are really thinking way to much on this. This should be fun for you because they are children they like to play outside and they like when their baby sitter plays with them. kick ball, any kind of ball mostly outside stuff. movies etc just about everything.

Q: umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ?

There is no such word as slut. If you call your self one then yes. Why let other people call you names and it bother you. You made a mistake it happens and you learn from it. Just remember you got lucky by not getting pregnant. Because I had a baby at 15 and I keep him and its hard it was hard to raise him to finish high school life is hard in general adding more to it just complicates things. becareful for now on.

Q: me and my boyfriend been together for 9 months. we love and care for each other. we'll be living together soon. months ago he wanted to come in me, i disagreed coz i didn't to get pregnant and afterwards i wanted him to come in me he disagreed. recently, it's been a while that he says he wants to come in me. is he hinting me to get pregnant? he also knows that a i want a baby. thanks

You really need to put your age in this question. I am 20 I have 2 kids. My first when I was 15 my second when I was 18. Its really hard and your lose a lot when you have children. Go to college have good jobs so that you and your boyfriend. Maybe husband before you have kids can really give your child what they deserve. When you struggle fiancely, your relationship struggles, and everything just falls apart. plus if you dont live with your boyfriend yet. living together can make things totally different. really think about your decision. I want another baby but im not ready for any more at all. so ill just deal with the baby blues.

Q: I am a 18 year old female that is 5'4 and all my life i struggled with my weight, before the depo i weighed 200 pounds and i finally got enough self motivation going to lose weight and i lost about 8 pounds in a month so i weighed 192. Then i stopped weighing myself, i got on the depo about two and a half months ago it was my first shot and my next shot is june 28th which will be my second shot. i used to eat fast food everyday (when i weighed 200) and eat chocolate and ice cream every day, yes literally and when i got on a diet and lost eight pounds i went down to eating fast food once a day, 3 days a week and no ice cream or chocolate. I decided to get a more strict diet since i was going to get depo shot because i heard any type of birth control will cause weight gain. So i cut fast food out of my diet completely and cut sodas off and only ate fast food when i absolutely had to , and this diet has been going on for two and a half months.Today i went to the doctor and i weigh a HORRIBLE 208 pounds my highest weight EVER, i was baffled because ive been in such a strict diet, i am furious all my hard work caused me to gain weight!!! I assume it was the depo, now im considered going off it but my friends tell me the pills are the same and my bmi is to high for implanon, and i dont trust the vaginal rings because my sister had my niece and nephew being on the vaginal ring and two of my cousins got pregnant on it. So my question is if i continue to be on this will i continue to gain weight?! Will i lose the weight if i get off it? Is this weight permanent or temporary i really am already obese and am trying hard to lose weight, and this is re

i am on the depo shot. ugh it is so hard I struggle so much and my son travels over 2 hours to his doctor appots so fast food is like what we eat even though i try to eat health there you have to exercises every single day only drink water, fruits vegetables meat cooked the right way. my aunt did a diet. were she only eats cherios bananas in the morning chicken cooked with broccoli and some other vegetables in a pot or turkey meat but thats it nothing else no bread only diet soda she lost a TON of weight.

Q: My kid's father has a screw or two loose. I left him in 2004 when he choked my daughter. He served one year probation and went to anger management. Now we have a new problem. My kids are 11, 13, and 14. Over the past few visits with their dad he has encouraged the kids to smoke and drink with him. When my 13 year old (very shy) girl said no, he held the cup of beer to her face and demanded she drink it. She said no and slapped it away. (just found this out today).He holds lit cigarettes and tries to get them to smoke it. I confronted him on it and he said IT WAS ALL TRUE!! A yelling match ensued and I asked him if he was insane. He replied, "no, they are my kids and i will give it to them".I told him that they were NOT raised this way and they do not want it..My husband and I do not smoke and rarely drink.He smokes in the car on hour long commutes with my son who has severe asthma, when i asked him not to, he said i cant control what he does. My kids are very quiet, well mannered straight A honor students. I have done very well with them and Can't believe what is going on. He has never been a great person but this is going WAY too far. I promise you this is not a case of a spurned spose trying to get back at the other, I am seriously worried. Why the hell would he want his young daughters to get drunk with him?? Should I go to the court, call childrens services, police? I told him I would have him arrested and his response was "Try Me". Dear lord..HELP =)

I think you should contact social services and ask them for advice on the situation or what you should do. I know he is the father and obviously has rights. But you as the mother have rights as well and its illegal to have any child smoke or drink under 18. I dont live in Arkansa but I live close. They just set a new law that if a minor even has any achoal in their system they can be arrested and charged with it.

Q: Hey have you guys heard that when you wear a rubber band and snap it on you it gets ride of a thought or idea. Aparantly its supposed to get ride of the idea and if you do it enough times it stops the idea completely. Does this actually work?

I know that it is supose to stop a person from cutting their self. But the reason for that is that they focus there mind on the pain in there wrist or arm is makes them not want to cut them self. so I supose it could why not just try it and find out its not going to harm anything by doing it.

Q: 16/f, NY
So a few months ago, I was at the mall and I filled out some magazine sweepstakes or something, and there was a box that asked if I was interested in modeling/acting opportunities. am pretty sure I didn't check that box Then, yesterday, I got a call from a lady from the New Faces modeling agency saying that I did check the box and that she was interested in meeting me and possibly booking me. She said that the talent scout at the mall 'saw something in me' and was interested. But the talent scout never said anything to me at the mall. The lady who called me invited me to a private event for an interview just to talk at a hotel in my area. To be honest, I'm very nervous because I'm not really as thin as models usually are. I'm worried that she's going to be expecting me to be some skinny gorgeous girl, even though I'm not that skinny (I'm not chubby/fat) and I'm just tall. I'm scared that I'm going to show up and it's going to be full of skinny-minny girls who are all gorgeous soon-to-be models. I still have to let her know by tonight if I want to meet with her, but do you think I should do it? I don't want to go there and embarrass myself. Help :-/

I think you should go for it. Do not go by your self though go witha friend parent family member any one.

Q: now this isn't as scary as it seems i'm 22 and my bf is 25 so we are both adults. we just found out we are expecting. its a bit of a surprise but we are very excited. there is only one problem my family. i'm sure his family will be okay with it but our familys are very different. his family are very close while mine is not. since we are not married i'm scared that my parents will be upset with us even cause a fight. i'm very emotional about it and my bf keeps telling me to calm down since the stress isn't good for the baby. i'm scared and really have no one to ask about this sice only my bf and i know about the baby right now. i'm really nervous any advice on how to break the news to my parents without tears being involved. some extra information my bf and i live together for 8 months and been together for more than a year. thank you

I think that your parents will be upset any way you say it. My mother in law said are you serious when I told her I was pregnant and We were about to be married in 2 months. She got over it quickly and if this is y our mothers first grand child shell want to spoil it just give it some time to settle down. Cook a dinner maybe invite your family over. Sit down and tell them that you just found out that you are expecting. Explain it wasnt planned but that the two of you are very happy about the situation and you wish they would support you.

Q: I am 14 years old. I know for a fact i am not pregnant because i have never had sex before. I have missed my period the last 3 months. The longest ive ever missed it was 2 months. I have been stressed out latley and i do get nervouse when it does not come around. Could it be that i will never get it again and somethings wrong with me? i would rather not go to the doctor, i am very shy and do not like to talk about these things. Also the last time i got my period was the first time i used a tampon. Someone please help.

Getting put on birth control can regulate your period. I was very irregular. I am on the depo shot so I dont get my period at all any more. The pill makes your periods more regular. It can be common in some people to just be irregular. It can make your chances at wanting to become pregnant a little harder because you dont know when your going to ovuate but you are 14 and don't need to be owrry about that.

Q: im only a few weeks pregnant, but i have been getting really sick. i have a urinary tract infection and i also have a cold. im going to go to the doctor soon but i have to wait until i have the money. i have had the uti for about a week. Im concerned for the baby since its so early in the pregnancy. If i wait any longer will this have a serious affect on it? and with me having a cold also, will this cause a problem. this is my first so im concerned.

Yes a UTI can become very serious. The state has medical insurance for pregnant woman and they pay for the costs and stuff. You just go to your local FSD office.

Q: 2 days ago i was at my boyfriends house (we r both 18 and have been together for 2 years) and he was studying for some upcoming test. I was getting bored so I started talking to him asking him questions like "how is the studying going" etc. I didn't mean to get on his nerves and I didn't know I was annoying him. Then all of a sudden he just snapped saying "SHUT UP B****" and pinned me on the wall and was about to punch me but at the last second moved his hand and punched the wall instead leaving a hole in the wall.

I was scared and I felt the tears coming but I don't like him to see me cry so I told him "maybe I should leave so I dont interfere with his studying,and I didn't mean to make u mad." So I left and when I got home I just went to bed crying and like 15 minutes later he knocked on my door and was apologizing saying "he was just stressed out, I wasn't the reason why he got mad and he would never treat me like that and he was just really stressed and he loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me etc." he gave me flowers Chocolates and a stuffed bear and the apologizing went on for about 30 minutes and I did eventually forgive him because I feel that if I wasn't bothering him he wouldn't have done that and he's normally a very calm person. But now i'm so scared of him, I don't know why but now he just scares me and I'm always nervous around him. I don't know if I made the right choice forgiving him or if I made the wrong choice

I think you did make the right choice in forgiving him. No he shouldnt of actted like that but you have been with him for 2 years and this is the first time he has really stressed out to the point he flipped. I would just let him know that if he ever feels that stressed out again let him know he can talk to you tell him next time instead of studying your self to anger have him stuff and massage his shoulders for him for a few minutes or cook him some food while hes studying the smell will calm him down or just take a break and get out of the house for 30 minutes or an hour. he just needs to learn how to control his anger.

Q: OK so my husband and I have been married 3 years, and having kids is always something that "we'll have to talk about". Seriously though, my biological clock is screaming at me. My husband and I are 28 and 27 respectively. Having a baby is something we could handle. How do I bring this up to him in a way that won't freak him out or turn him off to the idea?

Thanks!

I have baby fever to but I have two kids and cousins who I am taking care of for the summer. Dont need another child any ways I think you should just set him down and tell him about how you feel. You are ready for a child and explain to him just like you said on here you believe you can handle it i think you already know what to say you just dont want to say it and him not be ready. Honestly I got pregnant and had that feeling I was pregnant we didnt use protection I hadnt been on birth control. I mean it was ready or not here she comes kinda thing and my husband wasnt really scared or happy at first but he warmed up to seeing the ultra sound hearing the heart beat maybe your husband would to?

Q: pros.
-babys father
-talented, and with the right mind I know he will have success in the music industry....not lil wayne sucess, or even fame, but he can support us.
-I am somewhat attracted to him
-he doesnt check out other girls or talk about them...wich i find is a rare quality
-he has been a dedicated person (before i knew him) and worked very very hard
-we share and have shared the same group of BESTFRIENDs for 6 years (we were together for 3 of them) really, like a very tight knit cirlce of best friends...that 70s show status.

Cons
-The abuse in the past has clouded my love for him
-I feel like I cant even respect him anymore
-He has bad employment history, (aside from the one timehe was a hard worker) he will work a job for a few months and get sick of it or fired....he hasnt had a job in 11 months now.
-he has said unforgivable things to me..from fat cunt (i weigh 115 lbs and have a small pudge from the baby, and big thighs and a rounded face...im working toward being tiny again though but i dont like feeling like i have to for someone else) to suck your brother's dick you would like it (i was touched by my brother when I was younger...not very badly, not even molestation but it was uncomfortable...and he uses it against me) and how im a huge bitch with no friends (also not true, i am easy to get along with and everyone loves me)
-he tried making em choose between him and my brother (because my brother beat him up after everyone found out he had been putting his hands on me for the last 6 months) I ended up throwing him out and telling him i wont chose, he now says he wont make me and he is back
-I cant leave my daughter with him at home bc he doesnt take very good care of her and throws a fit if he watches her more than once a week...so I have her in day care instead
-he feels entitled to the free ride he is recieveing at my moms house
-he hates my family...he recently tries to pretend he doesnt but i can see through it
-he usually leaves the house and goes frisbee golfing right as I get home with our daughter (now only 2 days a week...used to be everyday)
-I cant file for child support because he lives with me (my thought on that was he would get a court order saying he needs to be paying someone something and realize he needs a job..this was my last resort and i just found out it wont happen)
-not that i wanna...but i feel like he should have manned up and married me a while ago if he really had his heart in this and wasnt in it for the free ride.
-the abuse started when I was pregnant....continued until this valenties day when I called the police...(yes, he fucking ditched me on vday and told me he wanted nothing to do with my fat ass...then the next day got pissed bc he was hung over, I had to work so I needed him to wash bottles so I could take our daughter to grandmas...n he flipped callin me all sorts of terrible shit, said he was leaving.. I said FINE GO..and he wouldnt so I started throwing things at him, so he got up and chased me through the house slamming me against walls, choking me and eventually pushed me down the stairs...that was the worst it got and the last it happened)
-on mothers day, he went frisbee golfing after he promised he wouldnt...i asked him why and he said i dont wanna fucking be around you

Lately, after I have made it clear I am done with the bull...he is poutting an 80 percent effort in. He says he is looking for a job, but I dont really think he is....I HATE living at my moms, I feel terrible about it, this is MY problem I dug MYSELF a hole and I want to get out of it and into my pwn place....My dad wants to actually buy me a house but wont because babydaddy isnt doing his part and my dad doesnt want to help him....My bestfriend literally since I was three has a baby now too, and we have talked about taking advantage of that house offer together and my dad is totally for it. but i dont want to give up. I want my baby to have a daddy who is there all of the time, which i know he isnt right now but he swears hes gonna change and everytime he says he will he does for a minute, then he backtracks and theres only a small amount of change that stays. We had alot in common, but now its like were two different people...I mean we were 17 when we got together and now we are 20/21. I am not who I was when I was 17, I am much more mature than most 23 year olds I have ever met and he is still stuck at age 17. I know in my heart what I need to do, I just wish there was a better option.

Im going to tell you a little story. I got married at 18. My husband 23. Its been 2 years. My husband just started a job 2 weeks ago part time mowing and taking care of a golf course. I love him to much to leave him if we get in an argument instead of talking it out he sits there he wont look at me he wont talk to me he wont do anything until he feels we both are over it and I hate it. We have had many fights we fight about our kids i Have one He has one and we have one. Life sucks and sometimes I wish I never got in this mess but im married now and im going to do my best to keep my fmaily together. You shouldnt your not married and if your on here with a millions cons get out while you can. your friends will support you if they are truely your friends and do it for your daughter would you want this for her if she was in your situation if the answer is no then get out.

Q: I had sex with this girl who i was seening. We had sex for the first time on jan 29th 2011.
We also had sex on feb 5th and 6th.
She was seeing another guy for long time before i knew her.

She called and said she is 16 weeks pregant as of June 1st.
She said there are many days in between her periods longer than normal way over 30 days.

I know by taking the dna test i will know but my attorney said to wait till the baby is born for legal reasons but i want to move on and find out now.
If someone can help it would be appreciated
She is trying to figure out who is the father she thinks it could be me or the other guy.

I counted the weeks back and figured week 1 was Feb 14th 2011.

How many weeks do you back before Feb 14th to find out who could be the daddy?

Any feedback would be appreciated.

i would wait you could really harm the baby by doing a dna test now. they can do a dna test in the hospital support this woman who is possible carrying your child. she had sex with you last how big of a gap was it from him to you. from you posted on here iits more likely you just be supportive being pregnant and not knowing is hard it doesnt make her a whore or any other type of word.

Q: I'm doing a paper on the latest diet craze, so I just need some opinions :)
Lately, I have been hearing a lot about the new diet craze, hCG diet. I personally know a few people who have done it and saw great results, fast. However, they were only on the diet for a few weeks. I know that there are injections and drops that people take and I'm not sure if it's hormones or what..

Anyway, I was wondering if anyone has heard of this new diet, tried it, recommends it, opinions, etc.?

Thank you :)
- T

My aunt did it and shes lost alot of weight but i heard its very expensive and i also heard its pregnant womans pee that is in the diet medicine you put them on your tounge or under your tounge or something.

Q: This might be a bit long, but id appreciate if youd take the time to read it, because ive been hurting for so long and i cant seem to take it anymore. im 16 years old, and my boyfriend is 17 and hes off to college in a few months, we never actually called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend because we thought what we had was more than just that, our parents knew, basically everyone we hang out with , his friends my friends, knew that we were together , and it has been 1 year and 8 months and 2 weeks in the relationship so far, hes a great guy, hes smart, he doesnt drink, hes not some kind of player, basically hes hard to find, and i thank god for him everyday, his friend which is also my friend lets call him bob? came from the states a few days ago, before he came to the states, we had this huge problem because the girls that would go over his house were complete sluts, they would dance and grind and all that shit , and i wasnt okay with my boyfriend to be there, and he always says its because his friends and how all his friends are always going and he has no one to hang out with cause they are always there, and honestly, im not stupid , i know that he isnt just trying to go for girls, i know he wants to go for his friends, but im still not comfortable with it, i am NOT controlling at all, he does what he wants, infact, i had to stop being best friends with this one guy, and it ended horribly because my boyfriend was WAY too jealous, and couldnt take it anymore, and cried to me several of times and telling me to cut contact off , and i did, even though it bothered me because he was worth it, im sorry im rambling on, but heres my question, a few days ago, his friends came back to town and i had plans with him, he hung out with his friends and told me hed meet me around 7 , and i said okay, and i let him go to his place even though there were girls there because i wanted to be udnerstanding, and he didnt show up until 10 o clock.. and when he came he kept going " SO WHAT?.. i was late.. so what" im like so what? we had plans.. and hes like your so annoying, so what im here now, and so we fought and i got up and went home. he treated me realy badly, even if it doesnt sound bad typing, but he like changed 360 when his friend came (which is NOT the first time btw. but i thought he changed ) , anyways, i found out the next day he went to his friends house, and i got pissed off because we had a deal, when he told me to stop talking to my best friend i was like ok i wont hes like i wont even go to bobs house i swear, i dont even care, and i was like okayy and we were happy.. and he was okay with it, and i found out he went, and when i called him up im like you went? hes like yeah i did i wanna go to sleep, im like no wait.. we had a deal though.. hes like "i was in the other room when girls were there" and im like wow, and hes like i wanna sleep, im like ok then shut the phone, and he shut it without even saying goodbye..which is NOT like him, and i sent him a msg and said "forget about me we share nothing" cause i was crying so hard and i was so confused.. and that isnt a break up because me and him just say things like that when were mad and he knows that VERY well because its usually him saying that stuff when hes mad then apologizing,and when i caled him the next day he shut in my face and said "i dont wanna talk to you after that mesasge you sent me" so i was like r u sure and then i was like bye and we shut, its been 9 days and he hasnt contacted me, and i havent contacted him, i just want everyone on here to know we are special. and he always says it, and even though everyones always breaking up we stay together because we love eachother :( i just want a guy on here or girl to tell me whats going on .. 1 year and 8 months with our bond isnt easy for me please help, and if your going to say something hurtful or rude, please dont comment im not trying to be mean..-- thank you so much for taking the time to read this:)

Honestly with him change in behavior and his attitude towards you. It sounds more like he is talking to another female. My ex did the same thing with me and I caught him cheating on me. Almost 2 years is a long time but its better to find out early rather than pretend its not happening.

Q: Ever found out something about someone you love and it crushes you but you can't confront them bec you were snooping and had no right to be in there business in the first place... What would you do? Note... My husband says that be had nothing to hide and that I'm allowed to look... I just never did it bec something about going thru another persons stuff seemed wrong... Then few stated acting different.... So I looked... Its not that he's cheated yet.... At least as far as I can tell but its like he's standing in the door way... Telling other women that he loves them... That he's tired of Missing them.. And that if their near by to call so they can "make out" because they are so sexy... Or they have a nice ass. That he is "so serious." Should I confront him? Or am I thinking too much into this...? Would he actually do the things that he's typing to people and messaging to women or is he just joking.... Help me please... :'( (We've been together for 3 years and married for one. Recently had a baby girl but this has been going on for a long time... according to the time stamps. Everyday he his super attentive and affectionate... I would have never guessed that this is what he sends to women and what is really thinking. Ive tried hinting at situations that are similar but he just says that he would never do that to me. So confused!)

I would dump him he is playing you and he obviously thinks its okay to do so.. Ill tell you something my ex. hadnt done anything yet but had been texting and ex co worker making plans to be meeting up while i was at work telling her he loves her blah blah. i found out i left him and that night he hooked up with her and i think he hooked up with her before than to.

Q: I am a 48 year old female who live her mom all her life. My mom helped me to raise my 3 children who are now 28,26,18 and I would not have been able to do it without her. We were a team mom and I and were there for each other through thick and thin good time and bad. All 4 of us love my mom so much. My mom just passed away a little over a month ago and I have yet to shed one tear and I am really starting to get more then a little concerned. It doesn't seem to really bother me that I dont hear her voice or see her smiling face. This has been very hard on my children yet they talk to me about how they miss her very much. I don't seem to feel any of this and I am starting to think I am just a cold hearted person. Is this normal?

Yes. Its also normal for one day youll look for her advice and relize she's really gone and you may cry than. I just lost my grandmother less then a month ago and its sad but I am you and her have talked to each other about her coming death and you were able to cope with it knowing she wouldnt want you sitting about crying about her.

Q: ok. let me rephrase the question since i don't think anyone understood quite what i meant last time. People think i am emo and gothic. What i meant when i asked how to get people to stop thinking i am, i meant like how do i put on my makeup and dress so that i won't look goth or emo?

Dont wear a black shirt with black pants. Wear bright colors. Put your hair in a pony tail or a bun sometimes but dont ever wear your hair hanging down in your face.your eye make up wear eye liner, mascure. Your eye shadow can be dark but put like tan or white lighty over top of the real dark colors. no dark lipstick.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.