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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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I need to be inspired so that I can write better poems and stories. Maybe even making my life better by being more active, physically.

My question is: Do you know some place that I can go to be inspired? Or do you know any sayings that could maybe inspire me?

Go to a place that means something to you. like a place where you went with a friend and really liked it.

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Im a 15 year old and Im dating an older guy and I feel no connection. Can you give me examples on how to break up with him? PLEASE! thanks

just say that your not ready for a relationship and you'd prefer to be just friends with him.

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I'm drawing a comic about me and two of my friends and our daily life at our high school... with a little twist. What should I call it?

the not so normal life of (your name) and (your friends names) hope i've helped!

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Is taking your shoes of during a wedding okay? Me and my boyfriend were talking and we are going to his Aunts wedding tomarrow and hes like im taking my shoes off during the respection (ya know to dance and stuff) but is it okay? Past weddings as a kid i remember people going around in panty hoes and socks... Just wondering..
Thanks--

Yeah im sure it will be fine

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I met a guy at a club and i went up to him first and danced all nite w/him and he asked for my number first. An hour after the club he called me saying he still wanted to chill with me, but i said im pretty tired for the nite, so he said to call him later on the day. So i called him, and we chilled for a little at the beach. But soon after he had to go and said that he had run arrands with his friends and if me and my friends were still at the beach later on to call him, other wise he can always visit me in LA since he lives in SD and he visits LA ocassionally. Any way almost a week is up and he still hasnt called me but acouple of days ago i text him saying, hello and what he has been up to.. he text me back an hour later saying that sorry for not getting back, hes been busy but he'll call me later. Its been 2-3 days since that text and he still hasnt called back. I called him today but got his voicemail. so what should i expect or do? he isnt interested, just just let it go..?
-confused need advice

yeah i think this guy is jsut a waste of time find another. and if he does text you then ignore him becuase thats what he was being doing to you. you deserve better!

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How do I talk to a guy that I like and now he recently knows I like him?? ... all because his sister blabbed it by accident. lol. i'm not mad at her at all, i actually think that this is good. (I just recently started talking to him casually too. I don't think he cares but I need to know what to do. I wanted to get to know him better!) Please I RATE High!!!!!!

ask him to go to the cinemas with you. he might even like you back!

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15/f. My best friend has been ignoring me for the past week. Well, not exactly ignoring. She'll talk to me for maybe 3 minutes then go talk to someone else for a long time. I know it sounds like I'm jealous or something but I'm not. She always talks to her other friends and I was never jealous of that, because I have other friends I talk to too. But lately she's been acting like I'm not even there. Then one day this week I had some of her make-up (I don't know what it was exactly) and it came out of the pen looking thing it was in and I told her I was sorry and I didn't think it would come out and she got really mad and said "That was the last of that stuff I had! Now I have to go buy some freakin' more" etc, but that's not what started it because she started ignoring me before then. I don't get what I did to make her act like that towards me. I know no one else would know either, lol. But I just wanted to know what I could do/say to find out why she's been acting like this. Thanks. =) And no stupid or rude comments please.

my friends sometimes used to act like this. jsut talk to her and tell her how you feel. and if she has a go at you then hang around with some more friends until she calms down
luv shelly

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well about a month ago..my firend lorena had a party...it was so much fun..and nothing but lots and lots of dancing! well this guy scott picked me, and we were dacing! towards the end of the party, scott came up to me and introduced himself. i knew he was older, so before he got to ask my number i told him 2 ask me how old i am..he did..and i told him im only 14...she got all surprised n like walked off because he was dissapointed..before he left the party, he was like well you are very pretty, i had fun dancing wit you, but your juss too young for me...
now..last weekend my frend jessica seen him at another party, he asked for my number..and she gave him it..
this week @ skool, ive been talking to my frends (which are scotts friends too) they told me he has a 2 month old baby..and still talks to his baby-mama...
then tuesdae comes..and he texts me...so we texted that whole nite...n yesterday he shows up at my school...and he juss wasnt cute!..he looked so different from what i remember @ that party...i dont know what to do..because he is 18...with a baby...and hes trying to talk 2 me!...my frends dont like him...but i just dont know!

i wouldnt get involved just yet and your not sure if you like him or not. and he has a baby and he needs to take care of his child. if he starts another relationship with someone then he might not spend as mich time with the baby as he should. tell him that your not sure at the moment and make your own decision its your choice not your friends.

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I have Dry and damaged hair and it can get frizzy (blonde, shoulder length straight) .. DO you noe any brands of shampoo and conditioner to buy to help make my hair healthier looking? I rate :)

John freede does anti-frizz products. try things like that they cna be expensive some places but it works!!!

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i need a summer job but im only 13 and u cant get hired without being 16 or older.does anyone have any idea of any place who will hire someone under 16?

go and ask at a few places that your interested in. liekat a hair salon you'd only be sweeping up and making tea or coffee but your getting paid!
luv shelly

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well theres this kid that liked me for a couple months, and i never really liked him back until he started liking this other girl and it got me real jealous, does this mean i like him or what. everytime i see them together i just don't know what to do.. its really upsetting me and i really don't know what i`m asking but do u have any advice...plz

i think you do like him. just try and keep your mind off them both its easier to think about something else!

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Well, I'm not fat and that's what my friends tell me. Last year I lost a load of weight but the dress I have for the Spring Fling looks absolutely adorable on me when others and I look at it. It's just when I took a picture in it yesterday (not at the Spring Fling), I looked fat. My face was fat. My friend told me that the camera always adds a extra pound or so to you, but when I take other photo's with the camera's, I find that I don't like how huge my head is. Is it that huge. I want my pictures to be pretty . I don't want to look like a pig. So do I need to drop down to another ten pounds or do I not need to just loosen up. Is it the camera or is it me? Please, help me.

its probably just you, everyone hates something about themselves and your friends are probably telling you the truth that you are slim! jsut eat healthily before the spring fling. wear your hair down, if your hair is tied back it tends to make your head look bigger. hope i've helped and i hope you enjoy your spring fling
luv shelly

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I am a 13 year old girl and I have a really close male friend. We hug all the time and a lot of people think we are a couple. I love him to bits as a friend but I don't like him as more than that. Recently I have started to 'like' this guy. I think I might have a small chance with him but there is a problem. My male friend has a crush on me and as we all hang out together it would make things really uncomfortable. I don't want to lose my friendship with him but if I got together with this other guy then we wouldn't be as close and I don't want to hurt him. What should I do?

dont go out with this guy just yet. tell your friend about the guy and that you like him so that he knows you like someone else. be gentle though becuase if he likes you he will find it abit hard to find out you like someone else. Tell him that you love him as a best friend but not a boyfriend, yo never know you may end up going out with him one day becuase relationships usually start just mates!!! lol
luv shelly

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im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.

He may be telling the truth. Try and talk to him, if he gets all stuttery and nervous and a bit figitey then he is probably lying. He must love you to be still going out with you!! If you find out that he is still seeing this girl then find another guy to go to the prom with.
hope i've helped you
luv shelly

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my hair is naturally black and i want to dye it brown so what kind of product would be good to use for my hair thats permanent ?

Moveda is a good brand you can get perminant and semi-perminant. L'oreal, garnier, scwarzkoph is a really good make and can get all different shades of brown

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how do i get rid of red bumps after shaving my legs??!!?! please help! i rate HIGH!

Shave your legs and use shaving foam or cream and then afterwards apply some babylotion. it should work.
luv shelly

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I have a friend who cant keep her mouth shut! She tells everything I say and I always try to remember tp tell her stuff but sometimes i am just itcing to tell someone. I really wanna be her friend but then again I dont NEED her! any suggestions? 5 points for anyone who helps! xoxo

tell her that you hate it when she tells people what you tell her, if she does it again then leave her. you need to be able to trust your friends to not blab your secrets
luv shelly

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well since it's spring, and it's getting a lot warmer, I really wanna wear tank tops and halter tops, but I'm really self concious about my back. I have acne on my back, and even though I dont have a lot, I'm really scared that people might see it if I wear clothes that'll show my back. please help me.. is there anything I can do to treat my bacne?

go to the doctor he will probably give you some cream to put on at night or some tablets to take

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Is it possible for a guy to like a girl younger than him? What about older? My sister and I are both crushing on the same guy (we aren't fighting about it, we just are seeing who he falls for) I'm younger than him by one year, and my sister is older than him by two years.

Guys can like girls of any age but it is usually girls who are younger than them

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i straighten my hair all the time and it's just silky and straight. i have a band banquet to go to this friday and i need to know how i should do my hair. pictures would help! i'm asian with long layered hair down near my boobs. hope this helps. thanks in advance!

how about curling your hair with straighteners. or flicking it out at the ends. sorry i dont have any pictures.
luv shelly

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