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My Mom Has done drugs 4 a long time.........and now she is bak in my life and wants to see me i dont know what to to cause i am afraid as once i start trusting her again im afriad that she is just gunna leave.......what should I do??
Signed:Hurt --Inside
Sometimes the past continues to be painful for what feels like forever. She is your mom, and she probably really does love you. If you have to see her, you don't have to trust her right away, just love her. She's had a hard past whether or not it was her fault. There's no way to tell whether or not she will leave... just don't get too attatched I guess, in your mind you can pretend she really is. If she doesn't leave, it will be so much easier to trsut her after this. I know my advice is kind of quirky, but I hope it's resourceful.
Ok So im 14 years old and im a girl. I have a bf but i like someone else so much that it hurts. But this guy that i like is like my best friend and he has no clue i like him, how could he i mean i have a bf. But anyways this guy likes other people too and it hurts when he tells me who he likes because he tells me everything. This guy is beautiful and im so in love with him. But to make a long story short, my bf is really nice and we have been dating for over 6 months and its gotten kind of boring. but i really dont want to break it off with him and hurt his feelings b/c he's so nice, but i really like this other guy. What should I do? Its almost like i would rather not hurt his feelings then to do what im doing to myself. Please help me im in desperate needs this has been going on for a month. I wish i still liked my bf but i cant help the way i feel. What would you do?
You can't make yourself feel the way you do. Emotions aren't about choice...they just are. Don't stay with your boyfriend if your having these thoughts...whether he knows it or not, it's worse to stay with him and silently not love him than to break it off with him, and then atleast have him know your real feelings...no deceit attatched. Especially when your having feelings for your guy friend! I mean... your young! You have no attatchments to this boyfriend or anyone for that matter, and sometimes change is just really hard for human beings, just the thought of it makes us cringe. So many people are just like you, afraid to break up with people. Just let him down easily and kindly, and tell him you still want to be friends. Your doing him no favor by going out with him but having no feelings for him. And don't get upset when your guy friend (the one your crushing on) has crushes on other girls... he might say the same about you if you were single and stuff. You'll never know till you are single. I'm just warning you, don't break up with your bf if its going to be for this best friend guy... do it because you truly know in your heart you stopped having feelings for him. Because worse comes to worse you might break up with him, and things might not work out with the guy you really do like.... and you might realize in retrospect you were just confused or whatever. I think you do know how you feel at this point ... and just make sure if you pursue a relationship with this other guy, learn from your prior relationship on the things that make it boring so history doesn't repeat itself. Alright, good luck!
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ok sorry if this is long...so i liked this guy nick for a long time but he was always introducing me to his friends and trying to hook me up with them and i never liked any of them untill this one guy came along...and i was so tired of all this crap nick was putting me thorugh (long story) so i started to like his friend jason...well jason was always at nick's house and i live across the street so we always see eachother and he thought i was hott and i thought he was hott and he always wanted to hang out when he was at nick's...but then i left for vacation and we didnt talk for a week but the night i got home i found out he was at nicks so of course he wanted to hang out..and he is so nice to me and is always standing up for me if guys are mean to me...bu hes a junior and he didnt know my age so one night nick mentioned it was my birthday in a few days and jason goes really how old? and im like 14...im a freshman and hes like no ur not...and i was like yeah i am and hes like u do not look 13 and i was like well i am and he turns to nick and goes i hate you!..but after i went home he called me and wanted to hang out again so i figured everything was fine..then he left nick's and hasnt been back since but i talk to him online alot and we went to he fair together last night but he was 2 1/2 hours late and i had to leave in a 1/2 hour so he bought enough tickets to go on one ride with me and he took me on my favorite ride...and then when he left we hugged and i talked to him once online but i just cannot tell if he likes me or not and i dont know what to do but i really like him!! any advice??
I definetly think he likes you! And the best part here is, he fell for you BEFORE he knew you were a freshman, so he's not trying to take advantage at all! He loves your personality, and he most likely thinks that your mature for your age. That's probably why he was suprised. It's SO sweet he wanted to hang out with you the night you got home.... only guys that really care for a girl are that urgent to hang out. And about him being late... that doesn't take away from his feelings for you! All guys have issues with time... heh ... I sware I really wish we could just let men think they lived in a world where all their clocks were set three hours earlier than it really was... and maybe we'd be getting somewhere. But anyway, I'd just keep taking it steady as it is... and maybe one day he'll kiss you or something to show it. If he keeps on going like he is, you'll figure something out between the two of you eventually... I have the feeling within the next two weeks you'll really know! I'm not positive, but unless he's really shy or something, he'll make some sort of move for you to make it absolutely impeccably clear to you. In the meantime just keep flirting back and stuff! Just don't make out yet or anything, because he could possibly be using you, even though it's doubtful. Or, even if he wasn't using you, he might get bored of you or something, or if you went out you'd not have as much 'fun' to look forward to. So just take it slow, and stand your ground and stuff, nd dont be easy or anything like that. By the way, I always tell people long questions are fine, because it helps me to know a person better. I'm the same age as you, so hopefully I know a thing or two about this stuff! Okay, hope I could help, you can IM me anytime at X3DryCountyGrlX3 ... I might be on away message but leave a message.
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Hey Everyone, 13/f
Ok, so tommrow im going to the mall, I usually shop at Abercrombie Kids or old Navy places like that b/c im peteie(sp). Well the mall im going to tommorw had ,Abercrombie nad Fitch, Hollister, American Eagle, Delias ect. Now i need to get a pair of like jean, but not baggy but not to tight. Im usually a size 10 slim and there pretty much tight. Do you think id fit into any of those stores jeans and have them fit snug? Here the website ot the mall incase oyu wanan check out the others stores.
http://www.natickmall.com/html/storedirectory.asp
Thankyou :)
You can try hollister but its really doubtful, because a kids 14 is approximately a zero or double zero.
i really like this guy and i cant tell him.. how should i be able to tell him how i feel without scaring him away?
If it's really just too hard for you, have a friend let him know. You might find this too immature for yourself, so if you want to be bold, and I commend you for such a thing, just phone him or when the moment is right in person just be like, "look, I care for you as more than just a friend... I don't know if it could work, but I wanted to tell you." There's nothing wrong with that as long as you've been friends. But if you've never talked or w/e and thats the situation wait till you know eachother. To help me better understand, just send a question to my inbox if you need me for anything! Good Luck!
I hate being shy... How can i overcome this?? I mean i just started HS and i dont want people to think of me as the "shy" one.... HOW do you Become NOT shy! if you help automatic 5
Be the one to crack jokes, let your inner hyper be released! Don't be afraid to to walk up to people and introduce yourself. That will rub off on people as "not shy". If you need any other tips or advice, just send one to my inbox! I'd love to help.
hi,this is amber, um this is about hayley again..see um, she has a friend named deborah and they've been friends since like kindergarden, and well one day she told hayley: " im not your bff, amber is. you can change this or you can never talk to me again".. thats what she told her, and so i think that affected our friendship in some kind of way, i dont know
That best friend isn't a good friend... because if she would abandon her friend that quickly, and was making threats, she doesn't care about her friend! A real friend would state they felt a little left out, or whatever, but that they wanted to work it out. If it affected your relationship/friendship with Hayley, why don't you ask Hayley herself? Just be like "Look did the situation with your best friend have anything to do with why we dont talk" or something along those lines. If hayley barks at you, she's being nasty, so long as you approach her in a polite manner.
Okay well im a christian and everything....but i have tried weed a couple of times. see my sister was the one who got me high all those times and itsz SO0 hard to say no to her because i always feel ret@rded when i say no. well i guess whut im trying to say is, am i going to go to hell because i did it???? ANd i wanna stop doing it but i dont kno how to tell my sister.. and dont say just tell her no because you dont understand how hard it is. Because i NEVER see her and all that.. ijust dont kno whut to do...
plz help i rate high!
Not if you can get your act together, and repent if you sort of know what I'm saying. We're not born perfect and God will forgive us as long as we genually mean it and ask him for strength. Maybe try praying for the willpower to say no, since it's obviously beyond you and near impossible. When it comes right down, even though marijuana is one of the less "harmful" drugs... it's still illegal, and what you do while your high can get you hurt. Making bad decisions like running in the middle of the road and getting hit, or doing something with a guy you don't want to, stuff like that. It's not smart, and it's a waste of money. Maybe you'll feel stupid saying no, but atleast you'll spare yourself an eternity of regret, and you won't SOUND stupid because you'll be looking out for your health. Maybe you can get an adult to intervene, I don't know if you have the willpower for that, but it's worth a try and it's your sister!! If your sister was drowning, wouldn't you try to go and save her? It's kind of like the same thing. Not doing anything to help her or even your own self is letting her drown. Just think of it in those terms.
How Do you know when someone is flirting with you.
and how cna u flirt back?
You'll know it when they are!! They might get really red in the cheeks, they might play fight with you, they might compliment you, and you can do this all in return to flirt!
i really like this guy. we r frendz and all but i wanna take it to the next level. How should i let him kno this w/o like reuining our frendship. i think he likes me but i cant be sure. he drinks after me all the time and he hugs me all the time too. on thurs. he asked me if i needed a kiss but i told him no bc we were in a huge group of ppl. plus... i was crying. so... how should i let him know that i like him w/o reuining our frendship?? im 14/f
Well he seems really interested. Your friendship is fine... even if you do date and happen to break up... you can still be friends. It's workable & possible. Why don't you have a friend drop a line about your feelings for him, or to be more personal, if you can manage it... call him on the phone, tell him online, or if you're really bold just go up to him in person and be like "Can I ask you something really random?" and if he says yes, just ask if he feels for you more than just friends. Good Luck!
is there a difference between when...
*a guy and a girl hugging when they say hello
*&& a guy and a girl hugging when they say goodbye??
just wondering thanks!
Not really... I mean depending on who this guy and girl are might make the difference. But not with hellos and goodbyes. Both are an all around friendly, or romantic ... depending on the type of hug for saying "your kinda cool". lol!
i have this really good friend, but she's way to thin. i mean, she's like 75 pounds, and we're in 9th grade. she wears xs & 0s, and can fit into kids clothes. i think this makes her less attractive, and everyone says shes anorexic. but she eats at lunch, and whenever we hang out she eats. i dont think shes bulimic(sp?) and she doesnt look sickly. i think its just genetics, but she doesnt think shes all that skinny, though she is, sometimes she'll make remarks like shes gaining weight or whatever, and the truth is she could gain about 20 pounds and still be considered very tiny. she needs to gain weight because it looks unhealthy, almost like you could break her in half, but i dont know how to help her, and i dont want to offend her. maybe its not my place to tell her she needs to gain weight? but everyone always talks about how skinny she is, and guys arent interested in her because shes like a stick. what should i do? or should i do anything?
ill rate high :)
Your friend doesn't have symptoms of anorexia, and trust me I'm all too familiar with that, (not me, someone close to me I know). And she's probably not bulimic because bulimic people overeat and then throw up. If she's not overeating... then the chances are she's not bulimic. Some people are genetically built really small. It's mean of the guys to make fun of her for being small or not going out with her or whatever. Since when is dating supposed to be on a basis of what people look like? Urghhh it's shallow! its not your fault though! If she eats normal it's probably just the way she was born. Just like some people are obese. You can't force her to gain weight, it would be imposing on her. She's not doing anything on purpose, she just is what she is. But, it's good your a caring friend and trying to look out for her. Unless anything turns unhealthy, then there's not much to do.
my mom thinks i have too much clothes. the thing is, i don't really. i mean it's not that i have only 5 shirts or 5 pants or anything...not that little but i swear i've worn every shirt, skirt, and pants at least 100 times, dead serious. it's not that we're poor or anything, we're not. we could definitely afford more clothes. and no i cannot do chores around the house, we have a housekeeper. how can i get my mom to get over the fact that i DON'T have too many clothes??? i probably only have like 15 shirts and 10 pants and skirts...that's supposed to last me??? sorry but please help i will rate
Tell your mom with things going through the wash and stuff, just because it seems like a lot doesn't always mean that amounts going to be sitting, ironed, ready to go to wear at any time. No, you might need a few extras to tie in with outfits you already have. And say you have a skirt and shirt that you wear together.... your going to need more matches so you get more use out of what you do have! So tell her in order to use what you do have, you need a few extra things. Tell her a 'few' to lay it on easy! Also mention how your a girl, and wanting a big wardrobe isn't a terrible thing, it's just your nature! Good Luck!
ok i was just wondering what would be a good hair style for the first day of school for me? I have brown thick hair with highlights and i am wearing pants and a collared pink shirt that has brown stripes across it. thanks i appreciate it much!!!!
i'll rate!!
Anything down, because it sets a good serious first impression. Try curls, waves (braid your hair and let it loose), or straighten it. You can take all this 'down' looks a little fancier and put maybe little gold or silver clips just in the front to pull a little hair out of your face but not up or anything. These clips should be just like fancier bobby pins, only straight instead of squiggly like bobby pins are.
13/f
..so, i wanted to no..
wat kind of makeup do models and actors/actresses wear??
b/c i mean, i've always wanted to have that look, its kinda lik a glow..
..thanks
..will rate high!
Shimmery eye shadows, bold eye-liners, glossy lips at all times! All famous people do their makeup differently, but the one importance is that most of them use what looks good for their skin type, and anything BOLD.
hey. okay i really wanna talk to this guy.. but im kind of afraid to.. i want to say hey to him but i need an excuse or something.. can you help?
Sure... you can ask him what the time is... 'accidently' bump into him... drop something and see if he picks it up... ask him what his name is... ask him if you've 'seen him before', compliment him randomly on anything. Don't be too shy, all of the things I just said are nothing to be embarassed about! They're just life skills you learn to pick up, and nobodies going to make fun of you for talking to somebody! Unless you said something extremely bazaar, but if you plan what you wanna say ahead of time, they'll come out fine. Not only that, there will be a lot of cool things you want to say, and it's one of those things you'll have to force into words in order to talk to him!!! This question was so cool, I helped teach my own self a lesson within it!
I have to go on a diet of strictly about 10 apples(or more) and 6 water bottles(and more) per day for 3 days. Do NOT ask why; but I'm a HUGE eater, so ive been having really really bad urges to eat other food. I mean i will stand there and stare at cooler ranch doritoes qiestioning my will power, i just want to eat good food so bad! Soo bad! What is the world can i do to resist these urges to eat good food??!
Thanks for anyone who tries to help(and fives).
xxAnixX
I'm not going to ask why you have to fast, just keep this in mind. The less you eat, the more hungry you will be. If you do lose control (and it can be very possible) your body will BINGE because it's starving. You will actually gain more wieght fasting than you will eating regularly or on a healthier diet. I do not suggest fasting like so, because it's unhealthy, and you can wind up doing the exact thing you were intending not to. And, as far as the junky foods, in order to resist you might want to ask your parents to "hide them" in your house if they have to have them, or at lunch in school, go to the library so your not near vending machines or whatever. Don't deprive yourself, it will only bring you harm!! If you need more help on a regular healthy diet, let me know!
Ok im ging to the mall tommorw, I wear jeans size 10 slim and I shop at Abercrombie kids or Old Navy, if i went into Abercrombie and Fitch or Hollister or American Eagle, would i be able to find jeans that fit me?
Definetly not. To be honest, American Eagle jeans run huge! I'm normally a double zero or a zero, and American Eagle doesn't even fit me in zeros or double zeros!! Abercrombie and Fitch probably won't fit you either, but you can try for skirts or something. Just wait till you grow a little while, or stick to their shirts!!
Whats the fastest way to loose weight running cutting calories what?
Excercise does help. Don't eat things with over-the-top calories, and try to steer clear of junk-- like fast food, potato chips etc. Also, when you eat, make sure you ask yourself; Am I hungry? Or am I just eating out of boredom. Because here and there we all eat out of boredom, and we should only take on calories if we're really hungry, otherwise it's pointless wieght we have to carry!
i need help to see if this guy is interested..
1. k well ill get up and sharpen my pencil during class and he will look up and stare until i look at him
2. he ALWAYS looks at me
yeah, this is pretty much gay but i just wanna know considering this kid is like so great.
There's no way of telling that he like's you for sure... I mean we all enjoy our "eye candy" from time to time. If he's interested? I'm sure. And the difference is, liking someone is having this special dedication to them, and you're really really into them. Interested is more like wanting to get to know someone. Talk to him, and if he comes off flirty, or drops hints, you may be able to tell even furthermore how he feels! It's the only way to know! Inbox me if you need more help, I give detailed answers, and I love to help!