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I hate being shy... How can i overcome this?? I mean i just started HS and i dont want people to think of me as the "shy" one.... HOW do you Become NOT shy! if you help automatic 5
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I used to be shy when I was younger and I also HATED it. One day I was just like, "why AM I so shy?" and of course there wasn't a good answer to this. I already had alot of friends, but once you come outta your shell people see the real you. In high school it's really easy to make friends because there are so many people. Basically all you have to do is choose a person and spark a conversation. I'm sure they'll have friends and you'll be introduced to them and then you'll be having fun and goofing off before you know it. Just be yourself and people are going to wanna know you. Good Luck!
<3 -- *Ashley*
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well im pretty bold with alcohol in my system..but i guess thats just me..i suggest being yourself..the key to making friends is showing them that you are out there, fun, crazy and an outgoing person that they are going to want to get to know...just talk to whoever sits by you, say "hey im a newbie..wats your name?"
DO SOMETHING lol i always feel so bad for the new people at my school because they always look so uncomfortable and anti-social..you need to be exactly the opposite
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Hi there,
Shyness, (sometimes inaccurately called 'social phobia'), affects most people at some time in their life. Young people in particular find overcoming shyness difficult as they improve their social skills. And for some, shyness seems to persist into adult life, almost as if it has become a 'habit'.
Shyness has its roots in self consciousness and usually dissipates as people mature and become more experienced. However, for some it can 'stick', and then action is required.
Although most people think in terms of 'overcoming shyness', it is more likely that you will become comfortable in social situations by learning the strategies of self confidence along with social skills. Then, shyness is no longer the issue, as social nerves will melt away as a new 'habit' takes their place.
Shyness versus Social Phobia
social phobia is too often diagnosed where people are simply experiencing natural shyness. It is perfectly natural to be a little timid in a situation where you don't yet know the 'rules', or what to do. In fact, most people experience some degree of nerves when, say going to meet friends, especially if it is somewhere they haven't been before, or someone new will be there.
We have to be very careful not to assume that there is something wrong with this. Social nerves are natural, as long as they don't get out of hand. Focusing on them and making them into a 'big thing' will only make matters worse.
When learning about social situations, young people need the chance to find their own way, without being labeled with 'social phobia'. This is not to say that social phobia does not exist; I know it does because I have worked with people suffering from it. However, in the vast majority of cases, the solution is social skills training, and perhaps relaxation and rehearsal, rather than drugs.
If a person can maintain a degree of calmness in a situation, then they are much more likely to be able to learn about how the situation works. However, if they are highly anxious and internally focused, both their emotional state and focus of attention will make it more difficult to pick up on subtle social cues.
The other key point about overcoming shyness is that most of socialising is an unconscious process. That doesn't mean you should be asleep when you're doing it (tell that to people I speak to at parties ;-), it simply means that much of human communication is non-verbal. That is, 'it's not what you say, it's the way that you say it'.
If you become highly anxious, this will tend to focus your conscious mind on your immediate environment, getting in the way of those unconscious processes.
Tips For Overcoming Shyness
Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
The exercises and techniques contained within the Self Confidence Course should help with shyness because they focus on what to do to feel confident, rather than how to avoid feeling shy.
Overcoming shyness is about doing the things that allow you to enjoy social situations, not wondering why you feel shy!
Good luck
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Ohkay well i am also very shy, but i can also be very outgoing at times. You could try getting involved with sports for the school, and/or groups the school has for its students, that way you can get used to being around people and get to know how to communicate better with them !
Hope I helped !
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Be the one to crack jokes, let your inner hyper be released! Don't be afraid to to walk up to people and introduce yourself. That will rub off on people as "not shy". If you need any other tips or advice, just send one to my inbox! I'd love to help.
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dear asker♥ try to speak your mind..if something is bothering you speak up! and if you have something on your mind..dont be afraid to tell someone. i know its hard to change your ways entering hs and all but just try thats all, you'll never know what could happen if you dont try. i hope i helped a bit.
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