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shes too thin.
i have this really good friend, but she's way to thin. i mean, she's like 75 pounds, and we're in 9th grade. she wears xs & 0s, and can fit into kids clothes. i think this makes her less attractive, and everyone says shes anorexic. but she eats at lunch, and whenever we hang out she eats. i dont think shes bulimic(sp?) and she doesnt look sickly. i think its just genetics, but she doesnt think shes all that skinny, though she is, sometimes she'll make remarks like shes gaining weight or whatever, and the truth is she could gain about 20 pounds and still be considered very tiny. she needs to gain weight because it looks unhealthy, almost like you could break her in half, but i dont know how to help her, and i dont want to offend her. maybe its not my place to tell her she needs to gain weight? but everyone always talks about how skinny she is, and guys arent interested in her because shes like a stick. what should i do? or should i do anything?
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Hi. Approaching someone with something like this is always a hard subject. All you can do basically if you are wanting to say anything to her is that you are worried that she is unhealthy and that she is sick. Just let her know how worried because she's your best friend and you would never want to lose her. If you honestly think there is nothing wrong with her physically then you might just wanna brush away from the subject of saying anything. Some people are just naturally small boned and really skinny. It does look a bit unhealthy, but as long as nothing is truely wrong then noone else should worry about it. As for the guys not liking her, then that's their problem. She's probably a great girl inside and they're just being steriotypical. She'll find a guy, probably alot, that like her when her time is right. Alot of guys like really skinny girls these days. There are a variety of people out there these days and everyone should be able to find somebody. =] I'm sure everything will get worked out! Good Luck!
<3 -- *Ashley*
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just tell her. maybe she does have an ed. girls who suffer from anorexia will eat in front of people sometimes just to try to prove that they're not anorexic. talk to her about it and tell her she does need to gain weight. she may get mad at you, but if your really her good friend, she will listen. :)
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Your friend doesn't have symptoms of anorexia, and trust me I'm all too familiar with that, (not me, someone close to me I know). And she's probably not bulimic because bulimic people overeat and then throw up. If she's not overeating... then the chances are she's not bulimic. Some people are genetically built really small. It's mean of the guys to make fun of her for being small or not going out with her or whatever. Since when is dating supposed to be on a basis of what people look like? Urghhh it's shallow! its not your fault though! If she eats normal it's probably just the way she was born. Just like some people are obese. You can't force her to gain weight, it would be imposing on her. She's not doing anything on purpose, she just is what she is. But, it's good your a caring friend and trying to look out for her. Unless anything turns unhealthy, then there's not much to do.
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Your friend may have a hidden medical problem. A physical exam may help her out. Everyone needs to have at least one physical exam every year. Lots of cancers have been overcome by early detection.
Ask your friend if she gets a physical exam every year. If she asks why you want to know, just tell her you were thinking about getting one each year from now on.
Good luck with everything. I hope this helps you.
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I have a friend just like that and it can be really scary. You should tell her that she should gain weight because its not natural for someone to be that thin. She might need to see a diet-trician (SP?. Or she just might need for you to really give her a good talking too. Tell her she's not fat and that she needs to gain weight like RIGHT now, or she could have a heart-attack. It happend to my one friend and she still wont gain weight! Please confront your friend before it gets too out of hand.
I really hope I helped!
~Melissa~
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Well if your friend eats normaly every day and she is still very skinny she probably has a fast metabolism.
Meaning when people eat it takes longer for some people for all the food to digest and it looks like they gained a few pounds compared to others who eat so much but it does now show.
As long as your friend is healthy and eating right you have nothing to worry about.
But to be on the safe side your friend should see a doctor.
♥ SweetKissez
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