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Desperate and Confused
Ok So im 14 years old and im a girl. I have a bf but i like someone else so much that it hurts. But this guy that i like is like my best friend and he has no clue i like him, how could he i mean i have a bf. But anyways this guy likes other people too and it hurts when he tells me who he likes because he tells me everything. This guy is beautiful and im so in love with him. But to make a long story short, my bf is really nice and we have been dating for over 6 months and its gotten kind of boring. but i really dont want to break it off with him and hurt his feelings b/c he's so nice, but i really like this other guy. What should I do? Its almost like i would rather not hurt his feelings then to do what im doing to myself. Please help me im in desperate needs this has been going on for a month. I wish i still liked my bf but i cant help the way i feel. What would you do?
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You can't make yourself feel the way you do. Emotions aren't about choice...they just are. Don't stay with your boyfriend if your having these thoughts...whether he knows it or not, it's worse to stay with him and silently not love him than to break it off with him, and then atleast have him know your real feelings...no deceit attatched. Especially when your having feelings for your guy friend! I mean... your young! You have no attatchments to this boyfriend or anyone for that matter, and sometimes change is just really hard for human beings, just the thought of it makes us cringe. So many people are just like you, afraid to break up with people. Just let him down easily and kindly, and tell him you still want to be friends. Your doing him no favor by going out with him but having no feelings for him. And don't get upset when your guy friend (the one your crushing on) has crushes on other girls... he might say the same about you if you were single and stuff. You'll never know till you are single. I'm just warning you, don't break up with your bf if its going to be for this best friend guy... do it because you truly know in your heart you stopped having feelings for him. Because worse comes to worse you might break up with him, and things might not work out with the guy you really do like.... and you might realize in retrospect you were just confused or whatever. I think you do know how you feel at this point ... and just make sure if you pursue a relationship with this other guy, learn from your prior relationship on the things that make it boring so history doesn't repeat itself. Alright, good luck!
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