Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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Last Update: August 9, 2008
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is it normal that i am like DESPERATE for a bf? i mean i would take any guy that had a good personality. i just want something real and a commitment. Is this normal or no. If he ain't gonna give me the real deal though i'd rather have no one......what's your opinions on this? (link)
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This is perfectly normal. Almost every single girl goes through this, I have several times at one point, and I've seen my friends go through this, and some of them still are.
Girls are always wanting a nice relationship and wanting that caring feeling whereas it takes awhile longer for boys to get the hint and take action and become romnatic like that, so it DOES get tiring waiting around, doesn't it? Haha. I too at times have just felt like,"Ugh, seriously. The next guy who pays me a compliment, I'll marry."
That's good though that you're wanting the real deal and a good healthy commitment, but I wouldn't just turn them down if that's not what they're looking for. Have some fun, meet differnet types of guys and see what types you prefer so whenever you do meet a really great guy, you'll know it's for him and his personality, not for desperateness. And with some guys he may just want a little casual dating at first, but it can develop into wanting a real time relationship, you never know, so give some other guys a shot and go out on some dates, and like I said, have a great time. You deserve it. And trust me, the real deal will come along, and it'll be great and worth the wait.
I hope I helped.
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13/f 8th grade
all the guy at my school go for looks in a girl....that's it! that is sooo wrong! as they get older will they change and start realizing that looks don't matter....or will they always be like that? (link)
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It depends really, on the guy.
As guys do get older they do start to mature alot more and realize they shouldn't just like a girl for their looks and that they'll like them for more than that.
But sadly, some guys don't. They still are immature and find girls they only want and like for thier looks, and their looks only.
Don't worry, you're 13 and that's when alot of boys are still going to highly immature, so just wait around. Hopefully whenever they notice no girls are paying attention to them cause they're being annoying jerks, they'll catch the hint and try and mature up.
So like I said, I can't really tell you. It all depends on the person and how much they're willing to grow up. There's still alot of guys in my high school that are just so annoying and immature, but then there's some really great, nice, funny & mature guys that are really great pontential boyfriends. So don't worry, it'll happen!
I hope I hope I helped.
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awkward question..but my boyfriend wants sex and i know i'm ready and all, blahblahblah..but should i shave down there? because it might turn him off and make him think i'm gross.. ugh. like, do all those beautiful actresses shave down there when they do sex scenes and stuff? i don't know what wouuld you do? (link)
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Well, I really wouldn't know since in the movies they're not technically having real sex, and they don't show the movie stars privates and everything.
Also, I know you came to me with this, but here's my advice: I would ask this question publicly ( but obviously, annonymusly (sp)) and ask for a guy's opinion, since they'd know alot more about what they'd like and what if they had a girlfriend, they'd like for her to have.
If it was me, I would just do what I feel most comfortable with. But like I said, if it was me, so that's just my opinion.
Like I said, I would try re-asking this question publicly out to all the male advicenators and get their opinions on what they'd prefer for their girlfriend to have.
I hope I helped.
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im a guy and im 17, im not really into sports, but half the guys i know are..why can't i get interested? (link)
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You can't get interested because it's just not your thing. Like some people like drawing, some don't. Some guys like rap, other's rock. Everybody has their own personality and their own interests, so it's perfectly normal if you're not interested in sports.
I know most guys are like, in love with sports, but like I said, it's cool if you're into other things and aren't interested in sports. You shouldn't have to try and make yourself like it just because others normally do. Like normally girls are supposed to love to shop and dress up and whatever, but alot of girls aren't into that. Just like what you like, and do what you do.
Have you REALLY tried giving sports a chance? Like, do you watch the games and go to the home games? If you don't, start watching the games and trying to learn about the sport and see if it catches your interest. If it still doesn't though, then that's totally fine. Find something YOU are interested in that maybe some other guys'll relate to and like.
I hope I helped.
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15/M My locker is next to someone who has some bisexual friends. There are 2 of them. The other day when school was over, one of them was like, hitting on me and saying that I'm cute and sexy and stuff like that. I'm straight, so I got a little freaked out. I am used to getting that from girls, but I'd never had someone who's gay do that before. The kid is pretty proud of be bi, too. He wears shirts that say stuff like "Don't hate, celebrate," and "Gay pride." He also wears rainbow-colored shirts and he wears make-up and acts and sounds very feminine. So it's not like he's trying to hide anything. Anyway, the other day when he did that, I got all mad and called him a fag, queerbag, and other derogatory words and yelled at him. And then, yesterday, he was standing in front of my locker, but instead of politely saying excuse me, I said, "get out of my way, you faggot," and then I grabbed him and pushed him out of my way. Then I said, "did you like that when I grabbed you, gay boy." Some of my friends said to go beat him up, but I would never do anything like that. My mom thinks that bisexuality is wrong because she thinks that people should pick to like one or the other. She doesn't hate anyone, and neither am I. I'm not against gay people. But what should I do to deal with this and what should I say to the kid to apologize? When those 2 incidents occured, everyone around was laughing at him and teasing him. I feel bad for him and I felt guilty. The rate of suicide among gay teenagers is high, and I don't want him to commit suicide and then blame me for it. What can I do to get rid of my anger? Is there counseling or anything? (link)
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I don't think there really is counseling, that I know of at least for this, but maybe try talking to your school counselor about it. That's what they're there for.
I don't think you really need counseling, you just need to learn to control your mouth, and the hurtful words you say.
I would just go up to him and be like,"Look, I'm really sorry for what happened the other day. I know what I did was horrible, and I know you probably don't want to forgive me, I understand, but I just feel the need to apologize. I feel horrible, I do. I don't know why I said all those things. I was just kind of freaked out whenever you were telling me I'm sexy and stuff, whenever I'm straight, and I wasn't sure how to react back towards you. Like I said, I know that you probably don't want to forgive me, I wouldn't either, but I just want you to know that from my heart, I really am sorry."
And I would just leave him be. If he talks to you nad forgives you, that's great, talk to him and let him know there's no hard feelings you hope and everything, and stick up for him in his defense next time, all right? You're right about the suicide thing, so try your best and be a friend towards him and help him prevent it.
If this situation ever occurs, all you have to do is be honest with them and let them know you're sorry, but you're straight, and that what they're saying makes you feel uncomfortable. I've had this situation with girls before, and I told them, and they've understood and all was good and we're all good friends and everything.
Think before you speak, don't speak before you think.
I hope I helped.
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hey my name is jamie and im in a really tight situation...k well here it is
i am dating this guy that i dont know if i care for in that way very much...
but then there is this other guy who seems to really like me to and i like love this one. The only problem is he has a girlfriend to...but i like him so much and he likes me still so much!!
We are really good friends and all but we both want more...but i dont want to know hes just gonna play with my head but i dont think so! We flirt alot to and i just love it
...but what should i do? (link)
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I would have a serious talk about this all with him, and what you both want to do. Do you guys want a future possible relationship with together? I know you don't want to hurt your others, but you can't date them just for their sake if you're not happy with them and are wanting to date someone else.
Even if you two don't plan to get together ( which I think you should ), still end it with your current boyfriend anyways. Obviously if you're liking other guys, something's not right with the relationship, and it's not right to lie and basically pity date him and let it linger if, like I said, there's another guy other there who can make you so much happier.
So just talk to him and ask eachother where you both see this heading and if you two are going to break up with your currents, for eachother. And if you do this, I suggest not going out right away. Just like a week or so, just at least some time pass, to let your exes try and heal at least a little bit, and then start dating. You don't want your exes to feel like they've just been dumped for someone else. That'll make them feel majorly lousy.
So talk to eachother, see what you both want, break up with your girlfriend/boyfriends ( you break up with him no matter what ), and see where it goes on from there.
I hope I helped.
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15/f So i'm going out with one of my friends. This is my first time with a girl and I feel nervous to like kiss her. I like her a lot though, why am i so nervous? Is it because this is the first time i'm gonna be with a girl?? And she wants me to make the first move...I just don't wanna mess up our first kiss I want it to be GREAT. (link)
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[EDIT: Haha, well I figured you were a girl. Cause I was like,"Well, M and F are far apart on the keyboard, so I doubt she'd make that kind of mistake." But then I was just like,"Well, just in case the person belows me is right.." Haha. ]
Well, from what the person said below, female or male, it's still the same situation and I'll give you the same advice for both genders.
It's alright to be nervous, it's understandable. It probably is just because it's your first time being with someone, and the pressures of them possibly being more experienced than you, of course will be great, because like you said, you don't want to mess up the first kiss.
Also, you really like this person, of course they're going to make you nervous. I always am trembling around the guys I like because I'm so nervous.
So, anyways.
Just relax. It's just first kiss jitters, and it'll be fine. She probably understands that you're nervous so she won't mind if it's not the absolute best, but trust me, first kisses are alwyas the best. :) So just take some deep breaths if you feel yourself getting nervous, and go for it!
I hope I helped.
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how can i put pictures as my captions in my myspace pics? ive seen it done, but now i cant find people who do it!! thanks so much for any helpppp! :) (link)
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Alright, well first of all, make sure your picture is saved in a folder that you'll be able to easily find.
Then, just go to tinypic.com or photobucket.com, whatever account you use or have. I suggest tinypic.com though, because you don't need to sign up and create an account with them, and they make the links smaller so they'll fit in the typing space.
Then just go browse for the picture you want to use, and let it upload. After it uploads, just copy the IMG URL it provides for you, and then go to your myspace.
Then you just go to your myspace picture and go to "create caption" or whatever is says, and then type in the space,"" ( remove all *s and make them spaces, and don't paste the ""'s in there. And then instead of it saying "PICURLHERE", obviously, you enter the IMAGE URL you copied there instead.
Then, voila!
If I confused you, feel free to message me and I can try to explain it a little better.
I hope I helped.
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Well, here's the thing. I met this guy at the dog park. We totally hit it off, and we talked for an hour and a half. It was wonderful. Then we had to go, because it was getting dark and I had to walk home. I left without getting his number, but browsing MySpace, I found and added him. It's been about a month since I talked to him, but I really want to see him again. What should I do? If I message him, what do I say? (link)
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I would just casually message him over myspace and be like,"Hey, remember me? We met in the park awhile ago, and I remembering have a really great time talking with you and everything, and I was just wondering if you'd want to hang out again sometime. Maybe walk the dogs in the park again? :)"
This'll make him feel good that you remembered him, and especially that you had such a great time with him and loved talking with him and want to hang out with him again soon.
If you two had such a blast the first time you guys met, I'm sure it'll be just as fun the second. You guys can catch up on the month you two have missed.
I hope I helped.
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What is going too far past the limits when it comes to pda. Because im new at this hole PDA in high school thing. I mean i have already had sex with my boyfriend but as far as being at school he only kisses me on the head and stuff like that because i dont want to show to much PDA. What do you consiter too far? (link)
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For me, I hate it whenever I see people making out in the hallways and stuff, infront of my face. I don't need to see that, especially whenever I'm like, tired and bored and irritated in school.
I think it'd be fine though, doing what you and your boyfriend do now, kisses on the cheeks, and maybe a little peck on the lips and a hug and stuff.
I hope I helped.
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Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms? (link)
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Nope. You can buy condoms at any age, any time.
Haha, if they put an age limit on buying condoms, there'd be a wholllleee lotta babies coming into the world, lol.
Anywyas, I hope I helped.
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okay i need help finding out if a guy likes me he tells one of my friends that i am hot and that he was thinking about asking me out but then he starts ignoring me i like him so someone please help (link)
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It sounds to me like this guy definetely likes you if he's telling your friend he thinks you're hot and that he's thinking about asking you out!
He may just be ignoring you cause he probably figures your friend has mentioned something, and he might just be embarassed. Also, if he doesn't know that you like him back, he may feel you're not interested in him back, which in this case, start flirting with him ( if you already do, do it more! ) Give him as many signs as you can that'll give him hints that you like him.
I hope I helped.
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whats the deal with 11:11?
I dont get it?
Someone please inform me? (link)
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It's just the only time in the day where all the numbers on the clock can be the same, so people think that by making a wish on it, it'll bring them luck and make it come true.
It's basically like a shooting star, but with time.
I hope I helped.
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this is for a project. what music videos take place in a hospital? (link)
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"Everytime" by Britney Spears,
"Untitled" by Simple Plan.
I know they both are in hospitals for most of the music video. I tried googling up some more, but nothing came up.
I hope I helped, though.
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Hey im 16/17 and im going for my first job intervieuw on thursday. If it helps its a a little resteraunt that my grandfathers freind's owns. The types of positions i might be hierd to do is chash, dish washer, bussing tables or waiting tables. My question is what are some things that i should say or do during an interview?
Thanks in advance!
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Well, I figured best to ask some sites with better, more accurate opinions than from me whose never had a job interview before:
http://www.international-executive-search.com/job_interview_tips.htm
http://esl.about.com/library/weekly/aa113097.htm
http://www.teenadviceonline.org/archive/5531.html
http://www.bls.gov/oco/oco20045.htm
I hope I helped!
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what does it mean to say that someone wears their heart on their sleeve? thank. (link)
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It basically means their emotions are out in the open, and not hidden like some people hide their emotions.
Get it?
Like, sleeve, the bottom of the sleeve is open, so if you were to wear your heart on your sleeve, you're exposing your emotions to everyone, and are probably an emotional person.
I hope I helped.
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I wouldn't say I'm geeky with glasses but I'm wondering if maybe the guy I like might be embaressed of me wearing them since he knows I like them but everyone says I look good with them. What do you think? (link)
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If everyone says you look good with them, you look good with them. What's most important is that if you like them, that's all that matters.
Anyways, I'm sure you're not a "geeky girl" with glasses. Alot of people wear glasses nowadays, even just for plain fashion tastes, so they're not even considered dorky or whatever anymore. I think they actually make a person look smart.
So if he doesn't like him, who cares.
If he really likes you, just because you're wearing glasses, it shouldn't make a difference.
I hope I helped.
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Why do guys hate/not like when girls cry? For example, last night I was telling my best guy friend about something really upsetting, and he just kept saying, "Please don't cry, please don't cry." What makes guys always say that, like why does it upset tem when girls cry? (link)
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You know, guys are always so tough and macho and never wanting to show their emotions, so whenever they see a girl cry, they're probably thinking,"What do I do? What do I do? What do I say to cheer her up?" And they don't know exactly how to handle the situation and how to make a girl feel better or anything.
Also, like everybody does, he probably just doesn't want to you to be upset. I know whenever you're talking to your friends you're probably hoping they don't start crying because you don't want them to be all upset and you just want them to cheer up and everything. So he just might care about you, and hope you don't get that upset.
I hope I helped.
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today at school i got a "secret admireer" not in my locker., i know for a fact that it is not real because.. there are multiple reasons..but i'm just really hurt that someone would do that to me. i mean i am kind of awkward at school sometimes but i never knew people didn't like me that much to do that? ugh i'm just really bothered by it.. =/ what do i do? (link)
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If I were you, I'd just ignore you. Don't let them know that it's bringing you down, and you shouldn't evne waste your time thinking about them and what they think of you.
They're jerks, who needs them?
Just show them you're better than them and just walk around with a smile on your face, like nothing ever happened and that you could care less about what people write to you or say to you or anything, because trust me, in a few years ( I know I'm going to sound like a mother ) they're opinions or thoughts of you really aren't going to matter.
Maybe even to show whoever that you don't care about them or their stupid jokes, just walk around with the note and show it to your friends and share a laugh.
Think of it as this way,"Wow, I think it's so sweet how they're spending so much time thinking about me and went to all that trouble to write me a letter. I must really be important to them."
I hope I helped.
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My friend has this guy at school that she likes, and he is always turning around in math asking her questions. But when they have math homework he always gets them right. She wants to know, is he flirting with her??? (link)
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I know I shouldn't base this advice off of a movie, but have you ever seen Mean Girls? Well, in the movie thats what the girl ( Lindsay Lohan ) does. She's really good at math, but she pretends to be horrible so the guy she likes'll help her out and pay attention to her, so it seems to me like he's sending flirting vibes.
She should suggest a hangout date sometime soon. Maybe she can offer to help him out some more with his math, and just during the studying, talk to him and find out more about him, and she can casually flirt here and there to send him signals that she's interested back.
But be careful. She shouldn't be overly flirty where as it's really obvious, because maybe he just can grasp the concept really quick and she's helping him out really well in math. So she needs to be careful about this and where it could go.
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I hope I helped.
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