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in a month i have to live with my sister because i have no dad and my mom has 1 month left ...im only 14 and i just found out my sis smokes weed and shit wit her ex(father of her kids)....i found that out say last week...now today her kids (1+3) were in the car and she ran in the house because she stopped by for a lil quick visit and out my window i heard my nephew cryin so i ran out there and her car smelled of weed and i know her ex was in the car previously because ..well thats not important but it was horrible and i kno her ex is gettin her into all this shit bc she neva used to be like this til she met him i just wanna figure out a way to like get him away from her like have some of my friends as old as him to kick his ass or sumthin..........plz help me figure out a way to get him out of the picture i cant have my neice and nephew go through this...
I'm with everyone on this. Turn that bastard in. Your sister could end up losing her kids to social services and that is definetly not what she would want, but she obviously is not thinking about the safety of her children. But after her ex gets turned in there will be lots of lingering issues... court- he will probably only stay locked up for a couple days and then be sent back home to await his court hearing. And you will get tons of shit for turning him in and for your sister losing her kids. So before opening all hell lose, I strongly suggest you try and find a place you can stay. Hopefully you have other family or some friends that will help you through this and take care of you at the time that all this goes down. ~Sherah
OK, Me and my best friend both like the same guy. And we're not 100% sure but we think he likes both of us. We were thinking about letting him decide, but I think whoever he picks the other girl will be hurt. My other friend suggested that one of us should just forget about it and let the other one have him, but nither one of us really want to back down. And even though it would be the mature thing to do I still really want him and don't want my best friend to have him even though I Love Her (like a sis that is)! Does anyone have any ideas of what else we could do? And if you're going to say just let him decide- then please give me a few ideas of ways I can just talk to him about it without sounding like 'Omg your soo hott and everything'
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Alright, this is a very tough situation. And beleive me... I have totally been there. My twin sister and me have the same taste in guys. So we have had several fights about guys that acted like they liked us both. So this is how we settled it. Let the guy decide. And here is how to settle it. Seperately talk to the guy. Call him up and talk to him. Say something like: "So I was just wondering something. Do you like me?" Just go out and ask it. Put it out in the open. If he says yes then ask about your friend and if he likes her. "Well I like you too. So what did you think of (your friend)?" After all is said and done if he likes you and not her then ask if he wants to hang out with you sometime soon. The only hard thing will be breaking it to your friend. Hopefully you both are loyal friends who won't try stealing eachother's guys. Whether its you who scores the guy, or your friend, just be happy for one another. You both are only thirteen. There will be tons more guys in your future so it is not the end of the world. And never EVER let a guy come in between you and your friend. Remember... Ho's before Bro's. lol ~Sherah
i havnt started my period yet and i'm a very short 13 year old so how do i know that i didnt stop growing?
There is nothing to be worried about. You haven't stopped growing. You are only thirteen. Many girls don't get their periods until they are 15 or 16. And once you hit puberty after your period, everything will start growing alot faster. You juss have to be patient. And it also might help if your still really worried to talk to your doctor. Most probably you've been slow in growth all your life and you just have to give it time. So don't stress. Be glad you don't have a period. lol Cuz once you do, you'll be wishing you didn't. ~Sherah
i'm 15 and my last serious bf was when i was in the 7th grade. i'm not shy, i talk a lot, i get along with everyone,i have a good sense of humor, i don't want to sound stuck up but i'm not ugly. my two best friends have bfs one of them has many pimples on her face, my other friend has been know as the ugly duckie. their bfs are really cute. is there something wrong with me, that i can't get a bf? i feel so alone and behind my smile there is a girl depressed that has a problem with self harm, and has no one to talk to, and feels unloved!
Listen, you shouldn't need a guy to make yourself happy. Because when you act jealous of your friends having boyfriends you probably come off to everyone as deperate. And no one wants a desperate chick. Plus, the fact that your dissing your "friends" shows that you must be really jealous of them having boyfriends. And if having a boyfriend is such "a big thing" to you, then maybe your not mature enough to handle even having a relationship with a guy in the first place. All I have to say is, if I were your friends and heard what you had said, I certainly wouldn't want to be your friend anymore. Did you ever think that maybe the problem is not with the outer appearance of your friends. Its their inner self. They probably have boyfriends because their boyfriends aren't so superficial and just look for outer beauty to "score a girl". They are probably the sweetest girls and thats why they have wonderful boyfriends and you don't. So instead of pouting around about not having a boyfriend, maybe you should think about how rude you are being to your friends, because personally, your lucky you have friends based on the attitude you have. So if I were you, I wouldn't be worried about getting a boyfriend. I would be more worried about keeping the friends that I have.
Ok so I'm going back out with my boyfriend now, and we had been dating for 7 months...Anyways, I really want to move forward physically. I don't want to go all the way with him, or even half way there...but is there anything I can do with him other than french kissing...or is there a way that I can make that not get boring. I feel like we need to do something new, and we are so close to each other. I'm so comfortable when I'm around him. So please help me
~Stuck in 1st gear
Ok, look... since you and him have been basically in first base since the last time you guys started dating make it more interesting. You say you're comfortable around him, so if you are then take it up a notch. I suggest you take control first and he will follow your lead. Many times guys keeps things slow because they don't know how fast you want them to go. So it would also be smart to talk to him about how far you want to go with him physically. That way it is out in the open and he knows what to expect. Let me put this bluntly, other than kissing, hand jobs, fingering, oral sex... all that is all you can do since you don't feel comfortable going all the way with him. And after a while, even that can get kinda old. So try some kinky things to switch it up. Things like food, blind folds,( and no... you don't have to turn into some kinky sex goddess... lol) but doing stuff like this will make it alot more interesting. Also try new places... if you always makeout in his car or in the movie theatre than come up with a more daring place to mess around.
i went to get my hair hilited professionally and it turned out really bad, and i was just wondering if i buy a product off the counter and used that, would the hilites go away or would it still be there ?
Yes, your high-lights will still be there. They will just not be as obvious. When you dye your hair, depending on the color, (if it is lighter or darker than your natural hair color), it changes the pigments making your hair more red or gold. So your best bet when trying to dye your hair back to its original color and hide those bad high-lights is to buy a color that has the words "ash" in it (For example: Light Ash Brown, Dark Ash Blonde,... etc) These dye colors have no pigement in them so it wont make your hair gold looking or red. Always go for a color a shade or a half a shade darker than your hair because washing your hair, chlorine in swimming pools, and the rays from the sun bleaches your hair and fades the dye job. At first your hair will be a little darker, but your high-lights will be very similar to your original hair color. And afterwards deep-condition your hair because dyeing is very hard on your scalp and hair. Conditioning will also keep the color in longer. Another way to bring out your new color after dyeing it is to use a shampoo/conditioner that is made for your specific hair color. Hope this helps. Good luck! ~Sherah
how can i lose pounds fast?! ill rate a 5! i need help!
Okay.... DO NOT drink tons of caffiene! lol It will not help you lose weight. Too much of it is bad for you and it really has no nutrition for your body. And DO NOT stop eating. Your body needs food as energy. So when you stop eating, all the food you do eat, your body automatically stores as fat, causing weight gain, not loss. Plus not eating leads to eating disorders. So your best bet to losing weight is to increase your metabolism through exercising and eating right. I suggest you go to your doctor and ask him about healthy diet foods and metabolism pills that will speed up your metabolism so you will burn more calories. To put it bluntly, when losing weight it is a process and takes lots of time and commitment. Too rapid weight loss can leave you with loose skin, which may require surgery to remove it. So don't be tempted to lose weight too fast. And in most situations of fast weight loss, almost all have an even faster weight gain. So start eating healthier, visit your doctor regularly, find a good nutritionist in your area, and exercise. All of these are part of a good life style that will help you lose weight and continue to lose weight. Just don't give up and continue to set goals for yourself and challenge yourself along the way. I hope this helps you. ~Sherah
i need as much info as i can get on std testing like what they do to test u how long does it take. do ur parents have to know. say thing any one can tell me
thanx
blundered blonde
Alright, based on what I have learned first hand from past friend's experience there are several methods to get tested for STD's. The most standard test is blood test. But this test does not cover all STD's. It mostly depends on what STD you think you have contracted. With Chlamydia, Genital Warts, and Gonorrhea a test is taken from the affected area or a urine sample is taken. HIV, Syphilis, and Herpes all are taken through a blood test. For any other female STD, a Pap Smear is usually given to determine which STD you have contracted. There is a standard fee in getting tested for an STD. Based on what STD you are being tested for the cost usually ranges from $10 to as high as $90. I don't suggest going to your regular doctor about the testing because your doctor has the right to notify your parents of your sexual testings. I suggest you go to a Planned Parenthood or Teen Pregnancy Center in your local area. These places guarantee privacy, but call in before-hand to find our their private policy, how much the STD testing will cost, and what sort of identification will be needed (social security number, driver's liscence... etc). I hope this advice helps you.