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i am 16, my parents got divorced 2 yrs ago and i no longer have a relationship with my father. i am very active in my church and my priest has become a father figure to me .. but sometimes i feel like he doesn't like me or is annoyed with me and everytime he asks another teen to do something i feel angry and jealous .. i feel like i always have to be talking to him and i hate it. i can't base my life and schedule around him but he's just too important to me, I've talked to him about it but it hasn't helped, he doesn't really understand. how can i learn to relax and not be so jealous? (link)
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I think you need to get your relationship with your father on stable ground again. I don't know the circumstances of why it isn't working but for your own sake and his you need to get professional help and things on track.
The relationship you're having with your priest or trying to have is unhealthy. He's pushing you away here as he can't get as close as you like nor is that his job description. He can offer you advice but he can't be like your father or really fill that role. Be careful here as you may be trying to cross boundaries he cannot. This may be why he's become indifferent.
If you're trying to move your schedule around and conduct life just to be around your priest you need some professional counseling and to start making friends and being a normal kid. This relationship that you want seems very unhealthy.
The priest cannot be with you 24/7 or replace your father nor should you try to put that demand on him. He's got a congregation and a life too. There's no reason to be jealous here.
You have to move on with your life, reconnect with dad and stop trying to make other people fill a role meant only for him. I'm not asking you to like what your dad has done in the past but I'm stressing that you should forgive and rebuild with professional help. Otherwise, you're just fooling yourself and you or the priest will wind up in trouble over the way you are using him as a stand in for someone else.
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i asked my bf for sex and he said no and so now im pissed off and im not talking to him.
is that a whoreish thing to do?? (link)
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I think it would take anyone aback if you told them you wanted to have sex then and there. He's not used to this aggressive or sexual side of you. How was he to react? He could have said yes or should have said no. He didn't though.
He likely wasn't rejecting you but probably just isn't ready for that. Get over your anger, pull in your horns and talk to him about what happened. You'll find he loves you but just may not be willing to take that step yet or didn't know what to do with your assertiveness. Don't feel bad as a lot of guys/men would be thinking "where the hell is this coming from?"
Not every one would be wanting to pounce on you immediately after be told this. He's obviously not ready for this and didn't know how to respond.
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Ok, i have a few questions on how to get noticed.
I know that you need to get an agent but:
1. Does anyone have good agent that they would suggest?
2. How do i find a good agent?
3. How much would it cost?
4. What should i put in the reseme when i audition for shows?
all help appresheated! (link)
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The answer to your first two questions is to call or log on to ACTRA's web site in Canada or SAG (Screen Actor's Guild) in America. They'll have a list of reputable agents in all provinces or states. You & your guardians can then pick one to see.
Does it cost anything? NO! they make their keep off of representing you and take no money at all from you until you get a part. The only exception to this rules is if they are a kids/teen agency only or Background Talent Agency. They can charge a small fee yearly to take you on. Why? They're allowed to because kids, teens, their parents and extras bail as soon as they see this is often an 18 hour a day gig.
Don't worry about the resume. You don't need one at this point and your agent is the one who gets you all the parts. Right now you won't get a principal agent. It's best to get a Background Talent Agent and get cast in TV shows, movies, series that need people for crowd scenes.
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so im taking sexy photos for my boyfriend (dont judge me!!!) :)
andddd im wondering
should i..you know...somehow remove my hair down there?
like whats more appealing to look at?
id ask him but that seems like such an unsexy thing to ask (link)
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I'm not judging you but I am asking you to THINK before you do this. Photos like this have a habit of resurfacing and causing damage after a relationship is over.
You can't be certain whether or not they would ever be seen by his friends or distributed electronically to other people. If you don't want anyone else (even if you think it's only him) to ever see these photos than don't risk it.
Also, when it comes to teens or anyone underage in a state of undress or sexual pose that can be viewed as against the law if distributed or someone even has them in their possession. Just recently several girls were expelled from an American junior high school for doing what you plan to do because the person they gave the photos to distributed them across the entire student body.
It's a way to get in trouble and gain a reputation. It could cost you at school and with the law. I just want you to THINK before making a decision here. That's not judging you. It's also not for us to tell you whether or not to shave that area or how to look sexy in said photos. You know him and his likes/dislikes by now. All I'm saying is you need to weigh all these things before doing this.
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what do you do when you're with a guy that you liked for a long time and were so much fun together but when you started going out everything went down hill. nowadays after only 4ish months there's just as many bad times as good, if not more. when we're good, we're great. but when we're bad, it sucks arse. like ridiculous. what do you think, does the good cancel out for the bad? (link)
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Tell him that you don't want to ruin the bond you have as friends but that the relationship isn't working for either of you. Ask to go back to being friends who are really close.
Maybe you should even stick to a friends with benefits idea and keep things tight between you but not in a committed boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Let him know that fighting etc. and whatever is causing things to be bad led you to this decision because you couldn't stand to lose him period.
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I'm sorry this is so long.
When I was 12 or 13 this guy in my grade had a crush on me. I was not into it, and at at that age I wanted nothing to do with anyone like Billy. Billy was really sexually active, even at that age, and I wanted to distance myself from that. One day in school he came up to me and put his hand far up my thigh and I pushed him away and he replied with "What, are you a lesbian or something?" in a joking manner. I said "no" but as a way to get attention from me he started this joke that I was a lesbian. At first it was a joke and I really didn't know how to handle it as a 12 year old. I sort of laughed it off. Some guys caught on about the joke and four years later, they still call me a lesbian and dyke and joke around. I have explained CLEARLY that it upsets me and I asked them to stop it because it's tired, and old, and not funny. They still think it's hilarious. They'll say HEY LESBO, LESBIAN!
I have a lot of friends and am well liked, but it's really hurting my self esteem. In two of my classes, everyone has a picture on a computer database which we go on. One of my friends said they were flipping through the pictures on the disk of one computers and all over my picture someone wrote DYKE and drew horrible things on my face. I can't wrap my head around it! I've done nothing to these kids, and I'm sure it was one of them. I came home a bawled my eyes out. My feelings are really hurt, and it's harassment now. I cried one time last year because of it during school, but they still call me "lesbo, dyke, lesbian" and laugh as if it's the most clever thing in the world. Half the guys that say things to me now don't even know or care how this all got started in the first place. It's cruel. I don't want to go to the guidance counselor or anything. I've tried to ignore it lately, but things have gotten worse. Help (link)
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They know full well that they've got to you and will repeatedly do this until such times as you act like you don't give a shit (pardon the vulgarity but it's needed). They know that they can call you a lesbian all they want and get the same rise out of you.
Once you stop reacting to it or telling them off or it hurts you they'll move on. You have to stand firm and show people they can't target you or hurt you with such nonsense. All these boys want is that reaction and to see they've hit a nerve. No matter how it hurts don't show it.
In your mind you need to get to the point where you know that they can call you a lesbian or whatever else they throw at you and NOTHING will make it so or make others believe it unless they are completely dense.
If I called you a purple people eater or a unicorn right now you would think it nuts. It's the same thing here it can't possibly hurt you and nobody will believe it unless you react as that fuels the rumor and the fire.
If you know you're not a lesbian and your inner circle knows it that's all that counts. If you don't react to it everyone will soon forget the rumor. Those who don't aren't worth your time. Also, if you start dating a guy--that will quell it faster than anything if you like someone of course.
Get your friends to stick up for you too and put these creeps in their place whenever they can. Make life a little difficult for them too and show them what it feels like to always be teased. don't start rumors about them or mock them but let them give them a rough go for a bit. Make them poison to your female peers by exposing how immature they are being.
Also point out to girls how one stuck his hand up your thigh into your skirt and called you a lesbian for slugging him. You know what? If anyone calls you a lesbian ever again tell them who started it and the fact you slapped him away when he touched you in a way he shouldn't have years ago or not. They'll crucify him as girls stick together against creeps like that.
Next tell your teacher about it and how it started and how he touched you inappropriately and you slapped him and never told a few years ago. They'll find a way to fix that kid's wagon fast without him knowing who told the truth.
They're doing it because you hit him that day and he wants to get even over being rejected and slugged. They could also be doing it because you have talent or popularity they don't and they are jealous.
Bottom line, don't cry over these idiots. In a few years they'll be at the bottom of the barrel working at a fast food joint or worse and you'll have surpassed them intellectually, emotionally and career wise. They're nobody and nothing to you.
You friends and those who like you are all that matter. Anyone else with an opinion or outside your circle who is acting like an idiot don't worry about. Go to school and be with your friends and have fun and if anyone tries to bother you brush them off and walk away. They'll soon get that they better not mess with you.
It's all about the crush and rejection.
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Tomorrow is my high school graduation ceremony. The thing is, I'm very uncomfortable and nervous in front of a big group of people. We practiced walking across the stage today, and I was so incredibly nervous and fidgety with all the other seniors watching me. I don't know if I'll be able to go through with it when everyone's attention is on me tomorrow.
If this helps, this is how the ceremony works. They will call my name, I'll walk across the stage, shake hands with the principal and receive my diploma, walk a little more, stop for a picture, and walk back to my seat.
What advice do you have for me? (link)
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RELAX! Nobody is judging you here. The last person everyone is focused on is you. Bottom line here is that they're focused on their own kids, siblings and self and their turn up there.
All you need to do is block everything out except for walking towards the person giving you your diploma. Focus on them and then look briefly towards where your family is seated for the photo. All eyes aren't on you even if they announce your name. It's only going to take you 10-15 seconds to go through all of this.
Think of how cool it is to graduate and of something funny in your head when you are going up there and focus on that until its over. Think of them in their underpants or naked in the audience and just go out and have fun no matter what.
There's no need to feel nervous as tons of other people graduating feel the same. So what if the seniors look at you? Look right back. It's your moment and don't let what you think they are thinking about you up there bother you. Just do your thing with a take charge attitude and walk across that stage like you were meant to be on it. You'll be fine.
Just think to yourself this is one heck of an achievement. Tons of people never finish high school and you have a great shot at a career and post-secondary school of choice. Remember that and go in there with the attitude that you worked hard for all of this and damn it I'm going to enjoy going on that stage tomorrow.
Focus on that and on your family and where they are seated and block the rest of these people right out. You do that in your head mentally and there won't be an issue here.
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where can i get those professinal microphones that RECORDING artists use ?
well it desnt have to be ""PROFEESSIONAL"
BUT I WANT THE ONES WITH THE LITTLE CIRCLE BEHIND THE MIC TO ERASE THE PUFFINESS OR BREATHING FROM YOUR VOICE
SO WHERE? i want it cheap im only 15 (link)
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http://shure.com/index.htm They are the standard in professional concert microphones. You'll want their wireless microphones but the standard concert microphone (used with a microphone cord) is the SM58.
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Okay, so I am 16/f. I want a job this summer. Anyways, I sent in an application to this resturant and I want to send it to other food places. I know that most likely you have to check up on your application in order to get the job and to show your motivation, but how do you do that? I know it sounds dumb, but what I don't get is that after I gave them my application, when should I come back and ask about it. What should I say? Should I call or visit personally? I really don't know what I should do when checking in with the place about my application (I've never had a formal job before), so could someone with experience please help me out? Thanks a bunch. (link)
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If they want you they will call you. It's as simple as that. If you go in or start calling them they likely won't hire you. It's all about being professional. All you do is send in your application and if they want to interview you for a job they'll call. If they don't call then move on until you find something.
Also it takes a few weeks for people to look at applications so after 6 or so weeks I would give up on a particular employer calling you. You need to remain professional here and not approach them unless they call you. Believe me they have your application and someone will review it.
After about 1-2 months if they haven't called you then and only then should you go in, introduce yourself to a manager and ask if they have anything. But don't do that now as they'll remember your name as being a pest. At least some of them would.
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So my bfs ex and him had anal...like 2 times....after about 2 years of dating i said what the heck i might as well try it, i can't say it hurt, but it was sore after and i feel very unconfortable, like it shouldnt of been happening. It just didnt feel right. Well the point is he likes it and wants to do it again, and i keep saying no but once in a while he still asks. I know it can be dangerous but he doesnt beleive me. How do I make it clear to him that it will never happen again, and how can i persuade him into realising that even though it feels great for him, its not safe for me. Any resources or ideas of what i can tell him, please help. Thank You (link)
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Tell him for the last time that NO means NO. Tell him that it didn't feel right to you and you don't enjoy it period. Also tell him that if he persists in pressuring you that he can take a hike. If he really loved you he wouldn't be doing this. He obviously has no care for you or what your feelings on this are.
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Does anyone know if a note from a lisenced psychologist is enough to get someone out of gym class? my reason to bring it up to mine would be that it doesn't help my depression at all to be all alone in my gym class next year since the only people i knew got accepted into alternative programs. oh, and that a study hall would help me get ahead in other things. can this type of note get me out of gym [because i actually have depression] or will they just make me take gym anyway? (link)
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Yes it is enough. It would be better if it were from a psychiatrist than any other type of doctor. They would have to illustrate in the letter how attending gym adversely effects your development, emotional well-being and self-esteem.
For example if you were bullied left and right by your peers and threatened or beaten up because of a poor performance in gym class or due to learning, physical challenges they could get you out of gym class.
You would also have to pledge to take a self-defense or other gym program on your own to fulfill the board's requirements. I know EXACTLY what I'm talking about as I DID IT MYSELF in elementary school. If your psychologist can illustrate that gym adversely affects your depression and mental health you're fine.
There's nothing they can do to dispute a letter like that from a doctor. If they did it would be against your rights and they would be in a lot of shit for disobeying it or not honoring it. They absolutely must observe letters telling them that there needs to be a medical exemption.
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i have been cheerleading since i was six. all of my friends always tell me how jealous they are because of how good i am. so this time cheerleading tryouts came around and this is the first year i can try out for the actual school squad. originally my friends didnt want to try out (when i say friends im only talking about my 2 best friends) but i convinced them they should. so when trouts came i performed my best and looked neat only to find out i didnt make it. i know this sounds cocky but im seriously not used to not making anything. i have never been this disappointed. i wanted it so bad. the worst part is my friends made it. I am little overweight. definitly not like alot but definitley a little. i kinda think the judges are prejudice about that and maybe thats why i didnt make it. i really did perform great. and i am really not trying to be cocky im just trying to tell my feelings. does anyone know how to deal with this?? im so shook up and upset. i wanted this so bad. please help with anything.
13/f
Thanks (link)
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Be happy knowing you performed at your best. It's inevitable that we all fall a little short of a goal or achieving something sooner or later. It's not your fault and there's always next time. You've learned that not everyone will choose you each time.
You're not used to this but you have to fail at something at least once to get even better. Perhaps if you really think hard about it that there was something you didn't nail or something that stood out more about your friends.
Maybe they were more natural, more fluid. Evaluate what they did and look honestly and hard at why you were not chosen. Ask the people who chose the team what you can do better for next time and why you weren't chosen. I think that's a good step.
Don't be jealous of your friends. Be happy for them even though you didn't make it and talked them into the audition. It's not their fault that you were not chosen. All this does is teach you to become even better than you are now. It also teaches you to be less cocky and convinced that you're the best and can't falter.
Maybe the lesson here is to work even harder, be grateful for your talents, and above all be humble about them and honest with yourself that you can always practice more and improve.
I know you wanted this badly and are upset right now but you have to stop crying as it won't fix anything no will anger. You got knocked down and now is the time to get back up and keep going and doing what you love. Spend this time getting better at it so next time they can't pass you over.
Also did you think that this particular position might not be meant for you? Maybe you are meant to cheerlead but not on this particular squad. Maybe there's a reason they were chosen as it's the path they need to be on and the right place for them.
Every time you are let down there's always a good reason and perhaps if you practice your butt off there might be something you're meant to do with cheerleading elsewhere that is very rewarding.
By the way, weight should have nothing to do with being picked. if it does you can challenge them as that's discrimination and violation of your rights. However, I'm sure it's not the case at all here. You may be a few pounds over but can always diet responsibly and lose them.
I would get yourself in great shape, move on, keep practicing daily and wait for another or better opportunity. Perhaps you could teach younger kids about cheerleading and help people on the squad get better. Use this time wisely.
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I am a mother of 5, with the two youngest being my step children, ages 14 and 12. My husband and I have the children full time with the exception of every other weekend, they spend with their mom. Ok this is the situation. I have been their step mom for ten years.I have watched them grow, have attended school functions, teacher parent conferences, school trips, all althletic functions, etc... The birth mom, we will call suzy, treats the two different. The oldest gets everything she askes for.. from clothes, shopping, weekend trips, etc.. The youngest gets an occasional shirt or small item. She is very angry at her mom and says things like I hate my mom, I hate my sister, my mom loves her more than me, my mom promises me things and never keeps her promises, etc.. I am becoming very concerned with her anger. I have done very well at keeping my mouth shut when it involves their mother. And I want the youngest to have her lime lit, to feel special, etc..However, I do not want to stoop to the level of their mother and include one in something special and not the other... We always include all 5 of our kids, no matter what we do..we always have..I just dont understand how a mother can put one child so much higher than the other...And she is hurting...I always insure her that she is loved just as equal and all the other children we have...But she always poses the question, "why does my mom love ____ more than me." I dont have an answer for her..My advide has always been, I can't answer for your mom, thats something you will have to ask her. Is there any suggestions to help me out in this situation? What more can I do? Am I giving her the wrong advice? Please help....Desperate step mom.... (link)
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Take the birth mother to task. Tell her that she needs to know what her youngest is thinking about herself and their relationship. That needs to be repaired and the two need counseling.
Maybe the mother doesn't see what she is doing or perhaps she does favor the other child. If you confront her for your step-daughter's sake maybe the relationship will change and heal. Be sure your step-daughter knows none of this is her fault and that her birth mother has a lot more problems than she knows of to work out.
Teach your step-daughter to forgive her birth mother because she knows not what she is doing to her. Get her to drop the resentment towards this woman and remember that she counts to you, your family and sister. Tell her not to hate her sister as her sister loves her and cant control what her mother does.
The sister can in fact tell mom how her sibling feels and refuse all these gifts or insist things be equal for them both. She has a mouth so she should say something about it and you should back her up.
If you believe the relationship to be detrimental to your step-daughter and have evidence of this kind of behavior you can always talk to your husband about finding a way legally so their contact is very limited and supervised. That way she does not get emotionally shattered by this anymore.
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to say it straight, i got fingered and gave the boy a handjob in return. and my friend told this kid and he told everyone. alot of people hate me now, and all this shit is going around. i just kind of shrug it off and i'm like Shit Happens. haha, i know i shouldn't have ... i regret it alot but even his cousin who is in my sisters grade foudn out! she told me to "stay the fuck away from her cousin" and i'm not worried about my sister finding out cause i told her haha. but i just don't know what to do i feel so bad, like i want to kill myself. i'm already in counseling for feeling like this. i just don't know what to do. and how to handle this. please help D: (link)
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ADDITIONAL: I think you should shop around for a new best friend to be brutally honest. Her behavior is inexcusable and you need to take her to task on it. Just remember if you do stay friends to keep your private business to yourself because she can't be trusted not to blab.
ORIGINAL:
The only mistake you made was in telling a so-called friend who is a real blabbermouth with no sense of self-control the intimate details of a private thing you did with a male friend. You learned a valuable lesson to keep private and especially intimate details of your life to your boyfriend and yourself.
You shouldn't feel guilty as both you and him consented to what you were doing and that kind of experimentation is quite common with your age group. Nothing really dirty about it.
Having said this only you and the guy really know what went on. Your friend may tell the whole entire world about it but if neither you nor the guy react or confirm what your now ex-friend said than it should die down.
His cousin may have found out but has no confirmation it's really true unless he told her so. Even if she dislikes you over what she heard or told you to stay away it's up for the guy to tell you whether to leave him alone or not. For right now creating distance between you and him is a great idea.
You really didn't do anything wrong. Most of those people are either jealous (your friend especially) or doing similar things themselves but not talking about it. They're probably treating you this way because they think you told and bragged about it.
Forget about all of this and go about your business and once they see you can't be bothered by it they'll find a new rumor or story and someone else to gossip about. You just have to learn not to kiss and tell in the future. Don't tell anyone and this kind of stuff won't happen to you.
Definitely get rid of this ditzy idiot you call your friend as she's bad news. Certainly don't trust her with any kind of secret or info. You ought to ask her what she was thinking and why she told something so personal about someone else to everybody? I'd like to know the answer but bet it has to do with her liking the guy etc.
You don't need a counselor to go over this with you as you're the victim here of what others have said. You're biggest and only mistake is that you shared something very personal with others when you should have kept your mouth shut.
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This is the first time I'm having a serious relationship with a guy. Most of my relationships don't last for more than a mth, but this guy and I have been going out for 4 mths. I know its not a big deal, but 4 mths is an encouragement to me.
The thing is, How do you girls know if it is the right time to give "it" to him? I don't want our first time to be something that happened just because we felt really horny that day or whatsoever.I'd like it to be meaningful. I know my bf loves me a lot. But I'm just afraid.. what if the relationship won't last? I may be happy now, but what if in the near future it takes a turn for the worst, and that'll be when I regret giving my first time to him. (link)
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Trust me you'll know it's the right time. You will know it's right when you no longer have any questions, doubts, fears about it or about your partner's loyalty. You will have thought it through with your partner, learned more about it and got on birth control as well.
It won't be right until you are secure in knowing you are with the right person for you and that you've been as responsible in planning for it and assuring he will stick around long after. If you are afraid about anything or for that matter don't know if he'll stick around or lie about sticking around than don't do it!
Look at it this way you are very young and have your whole adult life to experience sex. Make sure it's with the right person, that there is no doubts or fears lingering and that you truly are in love with your partner.
You also don't need an unplanned pregnancy happening because of a few moments of passion one night. You ought to jot down on piece of paper what your values are and if this person stacks up. You don't want to do it for the sake of doing it or to get it over with. It's not a competition and virginity isn't a bad thing to still have. Sadly, many kids rush into it.
I would get a few books on human sexuality and study them with your partner so you know what to expect and when fully ready pursue it with him or hold off for someone else. maybe you shouldn't do it until married to the person you want to be with the rest of your life. There's lots to think about but you're smart and level headed.
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I think my mom is depressed and I think she is bipolar. Im being really serious.
Im 16/f and I dont know what to do.
My 23 year old sister also says the same, I dont know what to do, I want to tell my mom to get on some medication but if I tell her, or if my sister tells her, she goes crazy, and she will flip out.
The smallest things will make her so mad.
I dont know what to do.
Please reply. (link)
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Is you mother having delusions partnered with irrational thinking? Does she know what reality is versus unreality? Does she have visions of things that aren't there? Is she hearing voices and responding to them? Does she have so much excess energy that she can't burn it off and cannot sit, think, sleep? Are her mood swings constant from happy to sad, to angry and back without warning?
If you answered no to all these questions she isn't bipolar. Just because she flips out a lot and has issues with her temper does not a bipolar person make. How do I know this? I have the disease and have heard voices, experienced delusions, mood swings, trances and didn't know what reality was.
You haven't given us any evident that she is bipolar at all here. I suggest you and your sister pick up a book on the subject so that you'll see there's a big difference on what you think bipolar is versus what it isn't.
Give us or me for that matter some examples that make you think she's bipolar and I'll be able to tell you how to proceed or whether or not anything you indicate has anything to do with classic symptoms of it. For now, you haven't shown us that she's depressed or bipolar. We need more evidence of it.
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Ok, im the person who asked whats the difference between cum, masturbation, and ...ejactulation, but what is an erection? is it pretty much the same thing???
Thanks alot, for all the answers i've recieved, and will revcieve! (link)
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I'm beginning to wonder just what they're teaching you about human sexuality at school and home. These are things that definitely should be on that curriculum or explained by your parents at least. It's not your fault that you don't know what these things are especially if others haven't done their job right.
An erection is when a boy or man's penis fills with blood and becomes hard so they can have sex or when aroused. I hope that helped and no, you shouldn't feel dumb or scared to consult us about this stuff. better you get solid and safe, correct info here than not.
Incidentally, I'm not sure how old you are and whether you're a young teen or pre-teen. At either rate it would be in your best interest to purchase and read Lynda Madaras's books what's Happening To My Body? For Girls and What's Happening To My Body?For Guy. It's a wealth of info on puberty, sex, sexuality and will answer all your questions. Be sure to buy both and read both as they're very different and you need to know stuff about both sexes.
I think you should get those and then talk with your parents about anything confusing or concerning you about sex also use them as a guide to asking questions in sex education classes too. There's a lot you seem to need to know about that you haven't been told or haven't been able to ask. This should take care of that for you.
Let me know if this helps you and what you thought of the books and if that answered your concerns. You can always pop me a note to my inbox if you need more help or a list of books designed for teens on this subject.
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ok so i'm a 17 year old female and i'm still a virgin. I've had like several opportunities but it just wasn't right timing. I think I'm finally ready to have sex and I want to lose my virginity to caleb. how in the world do you bring that kinda thing up in a conversation? like how do you ask someone if they want to have sex with you? i'm not a slut so don't think that. it's just the timing feels right.
one more thing more for the guys.... is it really all about sex with you guys? just wondering. like... if an opportunity presents itself do you just take it?
i wanna know how that works cause i definatly dont wanna be turned down..... (link)
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You never mentioned how you know Caleb. That makes a big difference in the response. Is he your boyfriend? Is he your crush, a friend or just an acquaintance? is he just a classmate you are attracted to?
If you know him extremely well and or are dating you can tell him that you want to go to the next level and feel ready to be sexually active with him. If he's just a friend or a crush that you know I would keep this desire secret unless you begin dating later on. You can ruin what you have with him otherwise.
Is it really all about sex with guys? Well some guys are like that and others are mature enough to know that love, commitment and devotion and care about a person comes foremost.
Will you get turned down? Well, you might and you might not. He might just tell you that he's not ready or thinks it would be a really bad idea that would screw your relationship up. He won't scold you or make you feel like shit for bringing it up. He may be flattered that you want your first experience to be with him. A lot of guys would.
Would a guy just take any opportunity for sex? Some would and others wouldn't it depends on his beliefs and values or the circumstance in which it was offered for example a no string attached we don't have to deal with each other again deal or where nobody expects anything more romantically in the future.
The one thing I have to tell you is that you really, really, really need to think this out and not do it on a whim and that your feelings are right and the relationship and situation is. If I were you I would wait until you were older or over 18 to have sex. You have the rest of your life to experience it but need to be mature and ready.
If you do decide to go ahead with it make sure your partner is going to stick around long afterwards and protect yourself. It's actually not legal to have sex until you reach 18 but we can't stop anyone. Be ready, be prepared and make sure staying safe comes first.
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i am fifteen/female
i request a monologue in which the character speaking must also cry.
thanks in advance! (link)
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Your best bet is to go to a bookstore or library and ask them for a book of monologues for teenagers and go through them before buying or borrowing to find one that fits your criteria. I'm sure someone here will give links to web sites but it's best you get a book or two for more selection. You want the perfect one to score the part.
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I like this one boy named Irwin in my third period Nutrition and Wellness. He is really cute and i sort of think that he might like me back. I think this because i'll sometimes see him staring in my direction and sometimes look at me. He's a senior and im a junior. I've never talked to him before but i really want to and don't know what to do especially because im really shy. does anybody know what i should do??? (link)
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Walk over and introduce yourself to him. Ask him if he would like to hang out with you and your friends at a movie, mall, bowling etc. Sometime. If he doesn't show any interest in doing that you'll know that he's not that in to you. Judging by his stares in your direction you shouldn't have a problem at all.
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