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Tried ANAL..he still wants it...I dont!
So my bfs ex and him had anal...like 2 times....after about 2 years of dating i said what the heck i might as well try it, i can't say it hurt, but it was sore after and i feel very unconfortable, like it shouldnt of been happening. It just didnt feel right. Well the point is he likes it and wants to do it again, and i keep saying no but once in a while he still asks. I know it can be dangerous but he doesnt beleive me. How do I make it clear to him that it will never happen again, and how can i persuade him into realising that even though it feels great for him, its not safe for me. Any resources or ideas of what i can tell him, please help. Thank You
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I'll say this now and again a bit later... be upfront and honest with him and he'll respect your decision. But first...
What type of lubricant did you use? With the right lubrication and time it shouldn't be uncomfortable at all. In fact, it should feel great when done right by both partners.
Communication is important. Take it slow at first and have him stop and allow yourself time to stretch a bit. If it feels dry and scratchy, ask him to apply more lubricant. If you're not getting messy, you're not doing it right. (keep a few towels handy)
Shop around though... Some lubricants become sticky after a few minutes and that is definitely not what you want. Ask the clerk at the adult store, they can be quite informative regarding different products. If you want the best information, be honest about what you want and any specific concerns you may have. There's no need to be embarrassed. :)
Try using a silicone toy, or a dildo, in your vagina while he is in your rectum. Do not forget to play with you clitoris as well.
It is very important that you do not insert anything into your vagina after it has been inserted in the rectum. Wash it first with a strong anti bacterial soap.
Talk to your man and tell him you want to try it this way to give it one more shot. Tell him that you need him to be very slow and careful with you.
If this is still painful and uncomfortable for you then discontinue doing it.
Just be sure to be honest and up front with him so if it really doesn't work for you, tell him flat out and get it over with.
Either way he should respect your decision.
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Tell him for the last time that NO means NO. Tell him that it didn't feel right to you and you don't enjoy it period. Also tell him that if he persists in pressuring you that he can take a hike. If he really loved you he wouldn't be doing this. He obviously has no care for you or what your feelings on this are.
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well; if they really loved you; they wouldnt want to hurt you nd they would be able to understand. therefore; just keep saying no . if he insists.. then i dont know. keep refusing.
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