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jealousy
i am 16, my parents got divorced 2 yrs ago and i no longer have a relationship with my father. i am very active in my church and my priest has become a father figure to me .. but sometimes i feel like he doesn't like me or is annoyed with me and everytime he asks another teen to do something i feel angry and jealous .. i feel like i always have to be talking to him and i hate it. i can't base my life and schedule around him but he's just too important to me, I've talked to him about it but it hasn't helped, he doesn't really understand. how can i learn to relax and not be so jealous?
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I think you need to get your relationship with your father on stable ground again. I don't know the circumstances of why it isn't working but for your own sake and his you need to get professional help and things on track.
The relationship you're having with your priest or trying to have is unhealthy. He's pushing you away here as he can't get as close as you like nor is that his job description. He can offer you advice but he can't be like your father or really fill that role. Be careful here as you may be trying to cross boundaries he cannot. This may be why he's become indifferent.
If you're trying to move your schedule around and conduct life just to be around your priest you need some professional counseling and to start making friends and being a normal kid. This relationship that you want seems very unhealthy.
The priest cannot be with you 24/7 or replace your father nor should you try to put that demand on him. He's got a congregation and a life too. There's no reason to be jealous here.
You have to move on with your life, reconnect with dad and stop trying to make other people fill a role meant only for him. I'm not asking you to like what your dad has done in the past but I'm stressing that you should forgive and rebuild with professional help. Otherwise, you're just fooling yourself and you or the priest will wind up in trouble over the way you are using him as a stand in for someone else.
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the thing you have to remember is that a church priest is not just obligated to you..there job is for anyone who wants their guidance. As long as he is keeping time for you and not ignoring you then i wouldnt worry to much..because a good priest will always keep time for you if you need it but then again to others.. so i wouldnt worry to much
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