hello! ive lived a lot of life in the small amount of years ive been around. I mean it when I say ive been through it all, so feel free to shoot me a question or even just to spill your guts. my ears are wide open :)
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I'm Christian and I know lust is wrong. That's why i was super-relieved when I got more into studying the Bible and whatnot and I was distracted by my former thoughts...that was a while ago though. And now they're coming back, especially about the boy that I'm infatuated with...and i don't want to bring him into this, he's a Christian boy!! I don't wanna think of him like that...or think like that at all.
like I said, I know in the Bible it says several times lust and sexual immorality is sin...but i need help stopping the thoughts. I'm praying! if you have any advice, please offer it, if you don't please pray for me. (link)
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just do more fun things with the kid, like going on dates: minigolfin, movies, dinner, bike rides, walks on the beach.
other than that, you just got to read your bible more. or find more hobbies for yourself while youre thinkin of it, like sports or art.
im not christian, and i dont think there is anythin wrong with sexuality because its a natural human thing. but i know your convictions...
good luck hun
x sweeethoney
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I got into my first relationship, and it's over now, but my friends are all upset and everything because they felt that we were all into each other instead of being with our friends, is this normal? How do I fix the tension with my friends?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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oh my god, i know how you feel. ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 months and my other friends are always like 'sellout' and shit when i go to hang out with him.
you have to tell them that they cant get mad when there is a new person in your life, and that if they are your true friends that theyll respect the time you wanna hang out with the significant other. make sure you hang out with your friends too though !
x sweeethoney
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What are some sexy things to say to your boyfriend?
Nothing cheesy, I want some really sexy, but not terribly slutty things I can say to my boyfriend so he knows I am attracted to him.
Thank you! (link)
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first of all, set the tone. light candles or dim the lights.
then, tell him in a low kind of whisper what he does to you that you like. like if he sucks on your breasts and you really like it, tell him that...ect. be cute about it too, call him names like babe and shit.
tell him what you would like him to do, still bein quiet and seductive. if you want him to do somethin he hasnt tried, tell him ! he'll never know unless you do. and be vivid and detailed, if youre the only ones in the room then there is no need to be embarrassed.
good luck hun :)
x sweeethoney
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What is the deal with people talking about Helen Keller and stuff? Who in the world is Helen Keller? I mean, it's in that one song by 3OH!3 and I'm just confused. Maybe Helen Keller is not a person but a thing? What is Helen Keller then? I'm sick and tired of not knowing and I feel so stupid.
Oh, and speaking of the 3OH!3 song ("Don't Trust Me")...how do you do the Helen Keller? (link)
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helen keller was born blind and deaf. she learned how to talk with her hands and write so shes famous for that.
the song is bein clever by sayin 'do the helen keller and talk with your hips'
meaning that dont talk and just dance
its not a dance
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In my family, I'm the youngest. We used to do a lot of fun activities together like playing catch, family poker, watching movies, playing board games, family volleyballs, and other great stuff. The problem is that lately all my brother does is play xbox, my dad watches tv, and my mom just complains about them doing that and how unhappy she is about it all. I really want us to be together again and do fun family activities. I heard of a specific idea called Family Fun Night but I don't even know how to approach that suggestion. Any suggestions? (link)
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talk to your mom and tell her you agree that the family is split up now. and both of you can talk to your father and your brother about spendin more time together and doin what you used to do. then suggest you guys spend a night a week together playin board games or a family sport in your backyard or at a park. show them you care, and they will probably as well.
good luck
x sweeethoney
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So I recently went on the depo provera birth control shot and I was supposed to get my period on may 30th and it's june 20th.. could it be the birth control? (link)
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when i got the depo shot, i didnt get my period for the first 2 months. i was freakin out because i thought the shot failed and that i was pregnant. but when i looked it up they said its very common for you not to get your period when youre on it, and just spottin every now and then.
after i finally got my period though, it lasted 3-4 weeks and it sucked.
if i doesnt come before your next time to get the shot then you should get a pregnancy test or go to the doctor.
good luck!
x sweeethoney
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soo.. i just got in a load of shit for drugs. (please dont tell me how stupid i am, i know i am)
i havent smoked in about 3 weeks. but 3 weeks ago i smoked a shitload of weed...
so for my drug test which is on thursday at 4:30 at the doctors office. i want to know if drinking a crapload of water will help me.
also, if its possiable.. how much water would i have to drink?
im going to start drinking a crapload of waterbottles tonight. all day wednesday. and all day thursday.
i read that drinking about a gallon of water will help.
and running. so, how many waterbottles a day should i drink?
please and thank you for the help=] (link)
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what i did was for my drugtest, i just drank around 9-10 water bottles in a course of a day. but DONT PEE because itll let all the water out of your system. i think the water and 3 weeks clean, you should be straight.
i passed my after only 3 days of not smokin. start drinkin em now though, and pee and pee and pee. then thursday just keep em all in you.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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hey i was wondering when i go to masturbaute or just randomly, girls panties turn me on. Like if i want to masturbaute i like to look at girls with bikini panties/bathing suits on especially with little wedgies. is this weird at all..like i really dont like looking at nude girls to masturbaute compared to bikinis.
thanks =] (link)
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its not weird at alll ! its called a fetish, its just a certain thing that turns you on. mine is just nice asses. it could be anythin though, like wearin leather, chains, school girls.
so no worries, youre good !
x sweeethoney
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okay..so all summer i've been tanning..and i usually just like..take the strings off of my top peice..and just lay out..but it get's really old having to make sure that they're not giving me a weird tan line..so i was thinking that i could just wear my swimsuit..not take anything off.
so i was just wondering..are tan lines unnatractive??
or do guys like them? or do they just not really care? (link)
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idk if you want a girls view, even if they like girls...
but i dont think its unattractive, but usually girls i dig dont have them cause theyre naturally dark..lol. i dont think its ugly though. but my boyfriend likes mine, and ive heard a lot of guys think its attractive.
it just depends on the guy basically. you can take one of those rub on tan things and put it on the spots that are whiter than the rest.
the foamy kind is the best, in my opinion. just wash your hands after you use it !
good luck
x sweeethoney
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So recently i decided that i wanted to try weed. DONT TELL ME ITS BAD. i dont care. i'm going to try it. but anyways, what should i expect? im going to be with this guy that i like. i like him a lot. will i try to do what i wanted to do to him sober? (have sex)...we're going to do it in the woods. he said i have nothing to worry about. just trying to make sure, any input appreciated.
thanks,
gina! (16 f) (link)
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theres always somethin you have to worry about when you smoke with a guy who wants sex from you. they could lace the weed that youre goin to smoke. thats happened to me, they laced it with xanax and i didnt remember anythin for the whole night. dont smoke to have sex. keep to two seperate, especially if its your first time smokin.
smokin weed makes you paranoid, so when you have sex you might jus be worryin about if he doesnt like it...etc.
plus, the woods is dirty. if youre gonna have sex, do it somewhere decent !
and when you get high...hm... the best way i can explain it, it reminds me of a puppet show. the person your talkin to is the main focal point and the background looks like a backdrop. some things can 'trip' you out, meanin that it looks super weird to you and zones you out. you may get anxious or paranoid. it all depends on you.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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So I met some girls and I was hanging out with them well I have been hanging with one the past 3 days and when I leave al I can do is think about her and wantin to see her asap I am straight but could I be turning? (link)
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it could be possible that youre just curious, and you can see yourself experimentin with her. when i was unsure of my sexuality i told the girl that i was interested in, and she helped me out a lot. and now ive been officially bi for over a year.
it could go either way. many girls find themselves bicurious if theyve never experienced hookin up/datin a girl. all you can do is experiment i guess. but dont freak her out if shes straight. talk to someone you know that is gay or bi and ask them about how they realized they were the way they are. and they can help you out since they know you.
good luck hun ! message me for any more questions about it :)
x sweeethoney
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my hair is naturally straight but if i don't blowdry it and leave it in a bun its wavy/curly but only for a little bit. how can i get it to stay that way? please don't just say hair spray, be specific with what kind and when to spray it and how and stuff thanks alott (link)
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LA LOOKS curl. get out of the shower, put it in your hair right away ( alot ) and then scrunch your hair with a towel. if it gives you a crunchy gel look then wet your hair again then put a lil bit in and keep curlin it with a towel .
the la looks 'curl' keeps it from gettin that crunchy gel look.
any more questions just ask !
x sweeethoney
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Hey, I'm Hayley, and my boyfriend is 19. I was just wondering if there was any laws against the age of dating? I know they're laws against sex, but we haven't had sex and he hasn't forced me to do anything sexual at all. As a matter of fact, I don't even want to have sex until I'm married and ready.
I'm actually 13, and I've been called a whore for dating him. The names won't change how I feel about him, but some people just don't know how to shut up. Is our relationship, illegal? Can he be charged? Should we break up so he doesn't get in trouble? (link)
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ive been in a similar situation, where my boyfriend and i were illegal. we got caught drivin together at 2am and he got put in jail until someone bailed him out. but listen,
please be smart. if he hasnt pressured you to have sex, then hes probably been a good guy IF ITS BEEN OVER A MONTH. if he tries to get you to fxck him already than its a different story.
if anythin, fake a break up. to your parent (if they know) and to your friends and others. then keep it between him and you.
let it be simple. goin out on dates, kissin, huggin. just be loyal to him.
i lost my virginity when i was 14 and i regret it soooooooo much.
please just be a good girl for me, even though i dont know you. youre young, you have a lot of time and guys to do stuff. alright ?
good luck ! message me for anythin
x sweeethoney
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My best friend had an abortion almost 2 months ago now and it's really hitting her hard. She dreams about the lost baby all the time, and everywhere she goes it reminds her of what she lost and "the life she took." I'm scared she may do something drastic because she continues to talk about suicide. How can I help her get through this, learn her lesson, and move forward? I've suggested a therapist but she doesn't want to go to see anyone like that--she says she feels that she can't trust them.
Like I said, she's talking about suicide and I'm really worried about it. She's always crying and talking about how she "murdered" her baby. I've never had an abortion (never will) so it's hard for me to relate, I guess. I just need some help so I can help her...that's all. (link)
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a lot of people who choose an abortion will regret it after, which is common. *im glad you dont choose it, because i think it is murder.* but that doesnt mean she needs to commit suicide, because takin another life will just mean two lives lost. in your own words, tell her that. another life lost will NOT make up for one missin.
its a hard process gettin over an abortion. just like you, one of my really good friends had one, and after that she wasnt the same. all you can do is tell her that it was best for her, and when she gets older and has the chance to have a baby with someone she loves it will be different. tell her that no one thinks of her different because many people are pro-choice.
tell her that you think (and other people think) that her life is to valuable to take, and that she needs just to grief for a little while and then she needs to see the brighter sides of life. you can help her with that. if you live by lakes or oceans take her there. if you know great mountains to climb, or great places to see in you are, TAKE HER WHERE SHE CAN SEE THE BEAUTY IN LIFE.
tell her that just because she stopped somethin that wasnt right for her, that doesnt mean she has to take her own life. she will have other chances to have babies.
even tho i am verrrrry pro-life, suicide is not the answer. ive wanted to commit suicide and good friends convinced me not to. thats what you have to be; a reeeallly good friend.
good luck, and any other questions just come to me (especially involvin this)
x sweeethoney
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ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks (link)
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girls usually get their period when they are around 100 lbs. i got mine at 11, since i was tall and had boobs then i was around that weight. all girls are different when it comes to it though. if she doesnt get it by the age of 16 you should see a doctor.
what sex feels like for a girl: if feels like someone diggin inside of you. personally i think sex feels good, but if youre little and young, it can really hurt and maybe even rip some of the skin up there. but all girls vaginas are shaped differently, width and depth. please tell her to wait, i lost my virginity when i was 14 and i really really regret it.
good luck! any other questions, feel free to ask
x sweeethoney
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I'm in a play that opens next Tuesday and I think I'm losing my voice. I need a quick fix that works before my director finds out (and freaks out). She's been under a lot of stress lately and I dont want to add to her stress so I need help fast.
What is the best (and quickest) way to get my voice back? (link)
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make a hot green tea with lemon and honey in it. garglin vinegar or salt water helps as well. try not to talk a lot, scream, or smoke (if you do). dont drink milk or anythin else thick because that can increase the mucus in your throat which will make it sound worse. my chorus director told me all this when my throat was goin before a recital, and it worked!
good luck with your play! :)
x sweeethoney
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ok so just last night i dyed my hair like a dark brown color its almost black cause of how dark it is. well i wanted to go swimming today and the pool is clorigne. what will happen if i go swimming after dying my hair last night. will it turn green or something. if it helps anything the dye is from the dollar store. cause it actually really does work on my hair. and stays there longer then other ones ive had. well my question is if i go swimming in clorigne water will it turn my hair green or anything. please help me asap! i need to know before i get everyone to go to the pool thankyou in advance (link)
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i highly suggest not swimmin in the pool right after you dye your hair because it can make the color fade really easily, plus itll dry out your hair and you just put it through the dye.
give it a few days to a week to go swimmin, and use the anti-color fade conditioner they give you. you can also put it in your hair before you go in the pool.
try to put your hair through as least damage as you can when youve recently dyed it.
good luck!
x sweeethoney
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well i was going out with this boy and we were off and on agian for about a coupel of months. This last time i think it was the 4th or 5th time we are goin out. but, a few weeks ago, he broke up eith me because he belived some other girl. She hates me because he likes well liked me and not her. so anyway, its been at least 2 weeks and i cant stop thinking about him, and i cant help but to like him. my freinds and his friends tell me that he still likes me and wants anthore chance. I dint no what to say. i want to say yes because i do like him but.. i dont want to get hurt anymore. we still talk kinda it took about 12 days to start talking again. its so hard to because most of my friends hang out with him and so im there too. When im with my other friends they all get mad at me because im not with them. so then i try to hang out with more cause we've been friends longer but he's always with them. so then his friend tells me that he still likes me. i do to but i dont wanna. How do i get over him for good? This isnt my 1st bouyfreind but it's still hard. im in 8th grade and about to enter High School. (link)
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if you guys have broken up so many times why still go out with him ? youre about to go into highschool meanin there are gonna be plenty of other guys for you to talk to. obviously hes immature because he cant even tell you himself that he wants to get back with him.
just start gettin active: bike ridin, work out, hang out with the girls, try to find some hobbies if you dont have some already.
make yourself happy before any guy, and if youre worryin about him at such a young age and hes makin you this upset then you need to let him go.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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i am really depressed. i wanna cut or be anorexic or commit suicide something. i just want the pain to go away. things have gone really wrong with my friends i had a bad experience at my old school and now at my new school i feel like im having a bad experience. and things with my mom are not so great we dont have a great relationship but she loves me and i love her. its just we always get in fight and start yelling at eachother. i really dont know what to do? help please (link)
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i went through a really depressing time in my life where i thought self injury would make the pain go away, contemplated suicide AND tried to become skinnier. it wont help, it just makes physical AND mental pain.
first, sit down with your mom and tell her you love her. i know its a really hard thing to do especially when you disagree with a lot of the things she says. but its your mom, and when shes gone one day youre gomna regret never establishin a relationship with her. and your mom is always goin to be the one who loves you most, so tell her how unhappy you are and what youre goin through.
for the school thing, the only you can do is be yourself. never conform to other peoples standards to get along with them. just be nice, and thats all you can do.
SELF INJURY IS NEVER THE ANSWER. if you feel like you cant control it then i suggest you get help.
good luck hun! message me for anythin
x sweeethoney
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Ok. so i've been texting and talking to t his guy... lets call him T. well, he's 17! and i'm fourteen. he knows how old i am though. Well, i think i like him. and we 're supose to be haning out sometime. but he thinks i'm hot and whatnot. but geeze. Even though he freaks out about age/
do you think that after we hangout, if he likes me enough... we'll settle something, and maybe date?
ps. DON'T TELL ME I'M TO YOUNG TO DATE/ HE'S TO OLD FOR YOU/ HE'LL GET YOU INTO TROUBLE.
please.
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alright there are two possibilities here:
1. he actually likes you and he wants to get to know you. after a few times of hangin out with him you guys might get to that point, but just wait til you get to know the guy.
2. he may just wanna get into your pants. im friends with a lot of guys that are 17/18 and if they ever go for a girl that young its because they know they can take advantage of her. so just be careful and dont do anythin stupid with him, and dont feel the pressure to do anythin.
x sweeethoney
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