Iam a girl with black hair and gray eyes. I like to go to the gym to workout because it relieves stress. I like to help people no problem whatever they ask I won't judge people I'm just a person willing to give you some advice that's all. I think its important to have a good education and a good carrer in life. I want this world to be peaceful which is one of my biggest dreams!I'm back!I apologize to you all for not being able to help you guys in need for help whatever help you ask for just write me in my inbox,I'll answer as soon as possible.
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I am so confused. I liked this guy (let's callhim Joey) since 6th grade. After he turned me down for a school dance in 7th grade, I just accepted him as my guy friend and believed that I was lucky to have him as a friend who'll always be there instead of a boyfriend that won't last. But now that he's in 3 of my classes and at the school orientation I talked to him, I think I'm starting to like him again!
I mean he's really sweet and fun to be with. And he slightly likes me (so I think) because he kept on trying to strike up conversations and stared at me during the classroom visits. (We're going into hihg school now). Ahhh I'm just confused about him. (link)
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It's possible that his feelings have changed or are changing,could develop into something more than friends but get into illusions yet you got to make sure it's what you think I don't want to see your heart broken again,if you find out he doesn't move on,meet other guys who interest you,you shouldn't spent too much time if you don't want your feelings to grow towards him,just get the doubts out,get things clearly,and hopefully he feels the same way you do.
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Why is it that mothers don't want their daughters to wear thongs? (link)
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Mom's can be very over protective,don't want to see their daughters grow up,want them to stay small so they don't have to worry about them dating boys,moving on,then getting married,have that fear that they'll lose their daughter, and if that's the case with your mom let her know it won't so she doesn't keep worrying about it.
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ok so i have just realized no one is really happy, everyone is miserable.. everyone thinks life sucks (with a few expetions) and nearly everyone i know cries themselves to sleep!! So what is the meaning of it all? sure we can be really happy every now and then, sometimes we fall in love..sometimes life just go great.. but overall, id say we live 95% of our lives hating life ( i know i do) so what's the g0d do anything about it? dont get me wrong, i love him soo much! he's helped me through a lot!! and i know he loves me no matter what.. so im not trying to say g0d isnt there for me, i just dont understans why life has to be sooo filled with pain, i understand a little.. but seriously more than 90% of my life ive cried myself to sleep! oh i wish i had a better life =( everything has fallen apart, and ive been complaining like crazy.. but i talked to some of my friends.. and they're as miserable as i am! SOOO whyyyyyy? really - why? if everyone hates it, everyone thinks it would be easier to not have lived at all.. like really if you think about it - how good would it be to not be alive? ( not die, but just never have been born) like wouldnt you be relived if g0d said he could take you back, so you wouldnt cause pain to the ones who love you.. but you wouldn't be here.. im so depressed. and im evern more depressed cause i know nearly everyone i care about is too. what's the point? help me make sense of all of this please! help me understand! cause i cant keep living like this, it frustrates me!! (link)
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Yes,people have gone through a lot of pain,we all go through it at one point of our lives but it's just how it is that's ,if you want to know why I don't it's just a mystery,like you know when people say things happen for a reason,but what I really am sure is that if the devil wouldn't have come about this earth none of these monstruaties would be happening,all evil would not be here,he is who to blame for all of this,but yet you have to go on with your life think of it this way if I was brought to the world it's for a reason I got to get myself up,face reality,stay strong,make myself a better person,god does not want someone to decide when to end his/her life he is the only one who decides to make that big decision because he made us,this world that we walk on,if you say I'm so depressed,say why I'm still living it's because it's not your time yet to die which has been decided by our lord,then again anything could happen to a person like an accident or something done purposely so they end up dead but you got the chance to live,see what good things wait for you,I know you know that life isn't perfect,imagine others,if you are able to overcome this horrible depression,the feeling of dying you will give others who want to die the idea that they shouldn't,that if you were able to so can they, still go on living wonderful lives,believe me when you get over it but it'll take some time of course it's not easy you are going through something very difficult right now,once that big wound is healed you'll see things in a good way,others will look up to you,and god will be very proud of you.
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Dear Advicenators,
SOMEBODY HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi, please can you help. My Grandma died about 4+ years back and I am finding it difficult to know how I could should cope with this.This is my problem:
I have two cousins who live in Germany(my only cousins), oand they used to fly over to England each
year and stay at my Grandma's house for a few weeks during the holidays. I used to see them
then. Grandma was the one thing connecting us. However since Grandma's died I don't
know what to do about them. I haven't been in contact with them properly since my
Grandma died.they can't stay over here in England anymore because my mum doesn't
like them...so won't let them stay over with us. they have only over to England once for
two days since Grandma died(they had to stay in a local B&B).
What should i do about them? what is the right thing to do? what is expected of me and
what would Grandma have wanted? should i keep in touch? if so then how? also i am
worried because I was having problems coping at shool (I refused to go on-and-off for my
first two years in high school as i didn't want to move on after the death of Grandma and
also could not deal with the death of someone else of whom i was close to and sort of lost
control of my life a bit...then i ended up refusing to go to school altogether at the end of
my second year and ended up with 5 measly hours of home tuition per week forthe last
three years which should have been spent in school. I them failed all my GCSEs apart
from getting a D/C in English. I know i made a terrible mistake and i can't believe what I've
done but at the time I wasn't thinking logically about what i was doing as i was in a state
of severe depression.)and if i contact my cousins again they're going to ask about what i'm
studying and I'll have to explain why I'm on a low level college course.I feel like i can't
contact them because how on earth can i explain how I failed all my GCSEs and wouldn't
go to school. They're going to think I'm a bad person. and i cannot conceal it from them as
they are really well educated and will notice the huge gaps in my knowledge just by
talking to me. What should i do about this? I feel so ashamed of refusing to go to school. And KNOW that they will think VERY badly of me once they've found out what I did.I son't think I can bear to face them ever again. PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!
I am from England (link)
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We all had our embarassing moments that's just how it is,at least one big mistake in our lives,one of the good things is that we regret them to say I won't make the same mistake again,I'm sure your grandma would of wanted you to still be in contact with your cousins,you should they are your family members,shouldn't be treated like they aren't worth it at all,tell your mom to let go of the dislike she has for them it's just going to build up more anger which isn't good at all,you don't have to tell them about your GSCEs not yet whenever you're ready but then again you decide for what is best for you,they should understand you if you choose to tell them if they are nice reasonable cousins,and that loss of one love one can affect our lives in a big way like our view of life.Take your time and think about it very well.
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Really, I asked many people what the definition of soul is, and everybody starts saying his own crap. Soul, is something you cant see, something you cant touch. I dont want to know what soul is not.
people will start saying that soul is your imagination, your choices, antywyas jsut say what you think. (link)
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Soul is the spirit inside of you that lives on even though one day you're gone,it also it's the soul that makes you cry when you're hurt,also sad it's something powerful that cannot be killed that is what is very special about it.
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I don't know what to do and I really need advice.
My twin sister hates me. At least, I think she does. She acts like she does.
I moved out nearly a year ago into a flat with my boyfriend and since then, my relationship with everyone has improved....except with my sister. I've tried everything. I've got her round for an evening to watch movies, I even cooked a meal for her the day before yesterday. I invite her places and generally try to reach out and be sisterly.....but all she does is bitch at me.
For example, when I was there on Sunday, any time I said anything about the house (including innocently asking why there was a heap of bedclothes in the middle of my parent's bed), I got told that it was none of my business, because I don't live there any more. Then, when I try speaking to her about anything neutral, such as how work is with her and so on, she clams up. She won't talk to me and on the occasions she does, she does nothing but snap and be rude, ill mannered and.....I just don't know if I can cope with it.
It's getting to the stage where it is just easier to shut her out all together because I can't handle the way she rejects me all the time. Everyone has seen it, so I know it isn't me being paranoid.
I need some advice on how to handle it. I've tried fighting back, I've tried not saying anything..all I can do is get angry and cry.
Please help. Any advice will be gratefull received. (link)
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You need to sit down with your sister,talk about the situation with her,why she is acting this way,tell her all you want to do is get along,why she doesn't at least try to be a little nice if she still acts the same then another alternative would be find out who her friends are,talk to them to convince her to change her ways with you,that you're a very sweet person,that sisters shouldn't fight,and always stick together.But for sure she'll realize one day that she should of never treated you the way she did.
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ughh i can never sleep! it's because of my summer sleep schedual, so i'm trying to go to sleep every night a half hour earlier because school starts next week, but it doesn't make a difference. like, last night i watched tv til 1, read til 2(because i still wasnt tired,) and ended up falling asleep around 3. maybe after. nothing makes me tired, i even tried counting backwards from 100 like, 4 times. i told my mom and she was like well go to bed eariler, so i told her that doesnt work and she said to read, and i told her that doesn't work either, so she just like, walked away she doesnt listen to me. everr. so are there any ways that i can get tired? i want to be asleep for school by 11/11.30 pleasseee hellpp ? (link)
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Hear a lot of music wearing on the earphones or if that doesn't work have your doctor give you some pills to be able to sleep without a problem.
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i was just wondering. why do wifes give in or obay thier husbands. i know some girls say they don't but iv'e noticed that they do.
i've just noticed that my mom and sister normally give in to their husbands wants or wishes like when my stepdad wants somthing he gets it but when i want somthing i dont or she'll make food for him but not for me or somtimes she excuses his bad behavoirs and dosnt excuse mine. ive also noticed both my mom and sister give in to thier fights and let thier husbands win just so there wont be a big fight even though they know there right and i just wanna know why. what makes them do that? how come they say they wont but then do? could someone please help
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It's love that makes you blind,do crazy things,even knowing that you're partner is doing wrong that is what is happening to them,they both have to realize that by backing them up all the time,doing as they command them they're only hurting themselves,don't worry one day they will face the sad truth but hopefully it's not to late,and let them know how this is affecting you they got to care about their family.
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I;m 14 an I Have had a few boyfriends but the thing is i cant stay that long with them when ever i see them or they want to even just talk to me i get weird and break up with them but heres the weird thing when we are not togther i can do anything hold hands kiss hangout talk without getting weird but once i know where togther i get weird. Whats worng? (link)
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You just need to get used to it,it's normal,one day it will be like if you know him your whole life,you won't have that feeling anymore,let yourself live that relationship,don't be scared,if you give yourself a chance you'll be a very happy person, don't that get in the way for you to know love,and share that wonderful experience with others.
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Im sorry this will be long, but please bear with me. I started talking to this guy a few months back, and we really hit it off. Problem was, he was hiding the fact that he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend talked, and we were friendly with each other, but one day she said "I dont want you two to talk, I think youre getting too close" and she was right..we said we loved each other every time we talked, and we hung out a lot. We never kissed, but we held hands, and just did all the cutesy stuff. Things happened, and me and this guy stopped talking for a few days because we were fighting. Neither of us could stand it, we missed each other, so we started hanging out again. We eventually hooked up, and through a bit of trickery by his girlfriend, she found out. We fought but then things were okay but things keep getting mixed up and we keep fighting. I know I shouldnt talk to him anymore even thought I love him and I know he loves me. I need a way to get over him because I cant hurt his girlfriend like this anymore even though she has made me feel lower than dirt. I somewhat deserve it but I couldnt help kissing him back when he made a move. How can I forget about him when I still love him? (link)
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Sometimes love can be so complicated,you can't see this guy anymore,have no contact with him whatsoever,if you have a photograph of him get rid of it or jst don't look at it for a very long time,don't hear those depressing songs because then you'll end up thinking about him,anyone that you know tell them not to mention his name if you talked to them about him,do things that will keep you going, try meeting other guys who are single,not taken,and so you don't have to feel guilty anymore.Deep inside of you there is a good heart because you feel bad for what you did so that's nice because other girls don't,and you will see that they are cold like a rock if you know what I mean.
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Im going into my sophmore year of High School, and for some reason, this past year I have been getting really harassing phone calls/voicemails, messages on myspace, and IM's from screen names I dont know. I never did anything to deserve it, but people keep calling me a slut and a whore. I dont understand why they are calling me that, and I dont know how to stop it. Its so unfair :( (link)
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Have people that know you come together,tell everyone that you're not so they will feel foolish for spreading untrue comments,this world is cruel lot's of people love to judge people without getting to know them or do it for jealously or simply for the fun of bringing someone down,believe me once you do that it's going to stop,you just stay calm,don't worry about this, you just keep doing what you love doing,and don't let others take advantage of you.
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My bf is such a hypocrite. Well for starters he is about 30 pounds overweight. I am about average; and he keeps telling me I need to lose 20 pounds although he never thinks he has a weight problem. He also gets upset if he thinks I'm too friendly with the opposite sex; but he flirts outragiously right in front of me. He also has said the he thinks he's smarter then me even though I know a lot more things like about movie and television trivia and mental health and other topics than he knows. He thinks he's king sh_t. It is really beginning to tick me off. He also copies ideas of mine and passes them off as his own and he never gives me any credit for them. Should I confront him? He really needs a reality check before his head swells up any more. (link)
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Yes,you should confront him,tell him how he has an issue but that he should admit it,that it could be fixed if he decides to change his ways with you,that boyfriend,girlfriend should be able to communicate,understand each other,and as well as respect each other the way it should be.
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So this pimple.. more like .. an infected hair follicle.. was found on my face. My mother pointed that out.
I plucked the hair.. and popped it.. I guess. o.o and got all of the fluid out. I put neospoiron on it.
It's flat and scarred.
What do I do now?
Should I contiune with the neosporin or just forget about it?
*I know I shouldn't pop pimples so please don't tell me that*
It was huge and it hurt. (link)
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You should apply cocoa butter for scars or marks,or use the cocoa butter serum to heal the scars,put it daily so you won't see it anymore,the results will take some time so just be patient.
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ok my life long dream has been to study in america (university) and last night i had a dream that i was visiting america for a month or so, but when i was supposed to go back to my country.. i couldn't like things kept getting in the way so i missed my plane, and so on.. and this was really scary in the dream! so like, is this a sign? that im not gonna be happy if i get there? or that i shouldt go there? or was it just a dream?? im so scared please help! (link)
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Don't get scared it was a dream an illusion,that the fear you had may have most likely for you to have had this dream,try to think that it's not real,isn't going to happen,that you have confidence,and god will be with you all your way to america to your country,and I'm sure others will tell you the same.
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Ok well, there's this guy who I really like. We flirt quite a bit, he hugs me and becomes very playful when we're alone and we seemed to get along really well from the beginning. He also opens up about very personal things and we've only known eachother a couple of months! Does that mean something? He's always telling me that he thinks I'm cute and sexy. I mean, the other night, he told me that if my sister wasn't with us, he would of kissed me! Now the thing is, he keeps bringing up one thing: the age difference. I'm 16, he's 30. Now, I know that's quite an age gap but we really like eachother. Do you think the age thing is what's stopping him from asking me out? He's friends with my parents and he knows that they don't have a problem with the age issue. Also, he just got out of an 8 year relationship. He hates his ex but could that be another problem? He keeps telling me about his little girl and he shows me pictures of her. He asked me if I like kids so was he hinting at something? Just recently though, he told me that he's not worth a girl like me. Maybe his insecurity's a problem but I don't think he knows just how much I care for him. Again, like I said, he tells me all the time that he likes me but I just wanna know if things are gonna progress. Plus, he's moving in like a month and I don't wanna let what we have go to waste and he feels the same. Please help me!!!
Female, 16 (link)
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Express your feelings to him before he leaves,don't wait till the last minute because you may regret it.He may not want to ask you out because he probably feels you should be with guys your age,fears that he'll get old soon,you'll lose interest in him,and he won't be able to handle it.If you feel that it is love you have for him then don't think twice do what you have to so he see's that age doesn't mean anything to you,and how much you want to be with him.
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I'm kind of stuck. I've been out of a very long relationship with this guy. I miss him a lot. Thing is, I broke up with him because he liked some other chick. It still bothers me that he likes her and yet "likes me" too. He's the only person that really talks to me. So we're really close. He was like a best friend for me but a little more, you know? But now it's just awkward because we sometimes act like a couple..
I keep hurting myself because I find myself.. wanting to be with him again. I doubt it will happen. A part of me doesn't want to try again either. Is there any way to forget him?
I keep talking to him like.. every night. It's just an old habit. I'm thinking of completely.. letting him go. Forget him. Out of my life thing.
But then I'll have no one to talk to because my friends.. aren't that close to me. [I've tried to be close, believe me.. they push me away.]
So going out with friends isn't going to work. Plans don't get that far with them.
I just need something to keep me busy. I don't know. A new hobby? Or.. something. I really need some help. (link)
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Try doing something active,like waking up early,doing some exercise like running,jogging,weight training or horseback riding,swimming,camping,vlounteer work,and so on.Trying to forget someone can be very frustrating but at the same time we want to be reborn,see things in a very positve way,being able to confront the whole world without fear,and you're starting off well by saying that you want to forget,and move on with your life so you're definitely on the right path.
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i'm getting braces tommarow and I was wondering what i should know about them. how much is it going to hurt and when does it start hurting and when does the pain stop? what helps make the pain stop hurting? and what are good color combinations for braces and what colors look bad? if you've had or have braces i need all the tips you know about the pain and what color to get and stuff! i heard you can get things like soccer balls on them, is that true? (sorry i couldn't use capitals i had to rush so this is the best i can do.) (link)
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The pain is on for about two days when you first get them,you could get them in different colors like blue,baby blue,gray,pink,etc...Also in different designs like describe how you want them or your orthodontist will show you some pictures of how you want your braces to look like,don't eat any hard foods eat ones that are very soft on your teeth like yogurt,drink a lot of water,take advil or tylenol for the pain,lay down,rest,have long hours of sleep so you won't have to feel the pain,you'll eventually get use to the braces,you'll later need to wear rubber or elastics for your teeth to close perfectly,they will change your braces like every month,you'll also need to buy something called "Phos Flur" it's like a toothpaste,it comes in a small,large bottle,sell it at any pharmacy,the small one cost like $10 or $12,the large one cost like $14,you use it daily to prevent white scars on your teeth while the braces are on,after you use it for a minute,don't eat or drink for at least 30 minutes,other further instructions are in the back, and after that pain goes away it will be like a piece of cake.
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My neighbor had a cat crawl under her house and she had kittens. So my neighbor told me, if I caught one, I could bring it home. There was something about a little gray and white one that made me want her more than anything. So I tried catching her for days on end. And yesterday, I finally caught her. I brought her home and my mom started spazzing. She told me to call my dad and tell him to take her. But then I started bawling. He came and took her away and his house is NOT the best place at all for a kitten. So PLEASE tell me how to get her back. I love her so much I've been crying for two days straight. Please, I don't care about anything else but this kitten. PLEASE give me advice please. As I'm writing this, I'm crying my eyes out because she means the world to me. I'll do just about anything. Just..please. (link)
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Convince your dad that she'll be better off with you than with him like say that you'll be very responsible,do whatever it takes so there won't be problems with the kitten,and that you'll also do others things that you are suppose to do around the house as well.Don't cry I'm sure he'll understand,feel guilty,let you have the kitten, he must love you, and he'll want to see you happy not sad.
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okay im 13/f and mi hair is really frizzy wat do i do? (link)
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There are some options like go to the salon,have it permed or use hair products to control the frizz like Sammy hair products,it's a guarantee that it will take the frizz away,you can order online for his amazing hair products.
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i have a really heavy period and for a few days i cant do anything. any advice on what to do as i dont want to go on the pill (link)
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What you could do is drink some seltzer,they have different flavors for it like cherry or lemon,it's good to heal the pain in your stomach if that's what you have,use long pads with wings for extra protection,use tights under what you wear so you feel comfortable, and adds pressure so you know the blood won't leak for sure.
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