Sometimes my advice is good advice, and sometimes it's just an opinion. Sometimes people don't take good advice (ironically.) If everybody would just talk to each other, we'd have world peace, so you probably won't see "just talk to them" in my column.
I worked as a Registered Nurse for a few years so I know a little about health.
I think and read about spiritual things. I answer spiritual questions without trying to convert anyone to my own beliefs. I'm a non-denominational Christian, but I believe everyone has a path to follow, and God is patient, so I answer spiritual questions from where you are.
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Dose anyone know a good marine biology school and whats the best way to get scolarships to it or anyother place. The only way im goin to collage is if i get a scholarship. Any ideas? (link)
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If you are still in high school, you can probably find out information on scholarships from a high school counselor. There are financial aid offices at practically every college. The application at the college for financial aid usually includes a section asking if you want to be submitted for any available scholarships. Besides scholarships, you can get government grants, and student loans if you need to. If you are motivated, you will find a way financially.
Here is the website for PELL Grants:
http://www.studentaid.ed.gov/students/publications/student_guide/2003_2004/english/types.htm
About marine biology, I live in Florida, and I happen to know several people with degrees in marine biology who are not working in that field. One is a vetinary assistant, another cared for tropical fish at a pet store, and one returned to school and is now a physical therapist. That doesn't mean you won't complete a degree and find a job working in that field.
Here is a link fromt the Occupational Handbook for Bioligists:
http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos047.htm#training
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I am a director of the limited company and I dont know kow to write accounts for non trading limited company. Could you please advice me since I am facing the penalty if I don't send my accounts to the company house in time in time (link)
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How can you direct a company when you can't write a clear question? Or is English a second language for you, and not necessary for your job?
This reminds me of the movie, "Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead."
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I have a friend, Alyssa, who has not had any sex yet. She wants to wait. Thats okay, but she always says that none of it can be fun. Does any one here already had sex and knows how fun everything sex related can be? (link)
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"Everything sex related" is not necessarily fun. The first time can be very uncomfortable for a girl.
How fun sex is for a girl depends on how she feels about the person she is with, and how attentive and caring they are.
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i was wondering...i'm the ultimate good girl...i haven't done anything remotely sexual. i haven't even gotten kissed yet. but i'm curious...about fingering, blowjobs, handjobs. can someone please explain to me how to do those? hah. i know that's rather stupid and could leave u open to lots of answers...but i need answers. and also pubic hair...shave? trim? i'm lost..any help is appreciated. and when you stop laughing at me maybe u can gimme some advice. ;) hah. (link)
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DruidX was pretty clear about what all those things are, but if you are wondering about what the right way to do these things is, the best thing to do is to communicate with your partner. Ask questions. That is how you learn what feels best for either of you. None of them are really difficult or complicated.
Also, I wouldn't rush into it unless your really care about and trust the person you are with.
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Ive just started babysitting and i dont no how much i should charge and hour. any ideas? (link)
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Where I live, the babysitters charge close to the lowest paying jobs (minumim wage.) So if you worked at a fast food place and earned $5.15 an hour, you would charge around $5 an hour for babysitting.
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i would like to know when your'e friends with guys and a pretty close friends, how would you know if its just a friendship or something else? but he tends to do to much tease with you and jokes around with you lots, how can you tell if he likes you thats why he does all these stupid things to get your attention but he doesn't do this to other girls. so plase let me know u what think thanx. (link)
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He is probably thinking about more than friendship. Depending on how you feel about him, I would just try to find out. If you don't want to directly ask him if he is interested in you as more than a friend, you can ask your friends to ask his friends, or something like that.
Added from my feedback on this question:
>thanx for your reply, but he say's i remind him of his ex-girlfriend and he used to say nice things about her and he say's it's like being married to you, i mean why did he mention this as we are really good friends and know for each other 7months and he say's i can imagine to bump into u in 8 yrs time having lunch together while you tell me about evertything that has happend to you! please reply back as your advice was good!
My answer:
It sounds like you are interested in more than friendship, since you are asking for advice on this. It also sounds like you have questioned him further, although not specifically "Are you interested in more than a friendship?" Since he is answering with describing you as a wife, ex-girlfriend, and old friend that he might meet in 8 years, I think he may actually want it to stay at friendship level, and not want more. The only way to be absolutely sure it to ask him, and that may make both of you uncomfortable. I think your best bet it just to stay friends.
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yeah i am a big fruit and vegetable fan is it bad not too eat nothing else a part fruits and vegetable in college but my friends they think am on diet when am not or needed for that but they assume just 1 of them (link)
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If you want to be a vegetian you need to be careful to get enough protein and vitamins in your diet. You can get that with combinations of foods, like beans, tofu, etc. Find out the specifics by doing some research on vegetarian diets. If you continue to eat fruits and vegetables but aren't paying attention to getting the right nutrients, eventually you will get some vitamin deficiencies, anemia, malnutrition, etc., and not feel very well.
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One of my best friend in the whole word really needs help. lets call her 'Katy'
Ill start from the beggining:
He mother commited suicide when she was a baby and she now lives with her stepmum and dad. Her stepmum is so horrible she doesnt let Katy out of the house she throws away all her make up, mobile and other stuff, she beats her up and everything. ( the dad stays out of it and if he has to takes the stepmothers side.)Katy is so lovely but shes getting into drugs and shes tryed to kill herself loadz of times - she came into school with big slits on her wrists on Friday. She has social workers, councilers and the school are involved (but none of them no about the drugs and the suicid attemps) but they dont seem to do ANYTHING to help her.
What should i do i treally worries about her!? (link)
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Your friend needs more professional help than she is getting. Depression is dangerous. People who attempt suicide sometimes actally manage to kill themselves. It sounds like her stituation is serious enough to go to a hospital. She probably also needs to be removed from her home because of the physical abuse.
Although you care about her, and want to be there for her, this may be beyond your ability to help. I would encourage her to contact a suicide hot- line on the telephone, if she isn't willing to talk to her social workers and tell them what exactly is going on.
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my son will start secondary school in a year and already he`s been told how the year 11 pupils put the year6 head down the toilet and push them around, hes panicking over this, ive explained that its all just a myth but hes worried, can anyone reassure him that this doesnt happen (link)
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That is really scary for a boy. I think these things actually do happen, but hopefully not as much as your son thinks it does.
The best thing I think you can do for him is to encourage him to join a club or group that he is interested in. There is safety in numbers, and it will give him more confidence to have a group of friends. He will also be in more situations with adult supervision. This will do him more good than simply saying that stuff never happens.
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HI, there,
I am writing to ask for some simple legal advice.
On the 18th February, I sold a phone to someone in Indonesia. Before i sent the parcel, I recieved payment through paypal, and transferred the money directly into my bank account. Although this takes 7 days to clear, so by tomorrow the amount of £360 should be in my account.
However on sunday morning, I recieved an email from paypal, saying :-
Dear Elizabeth Shaw,
It has come to our attention that you may be the recipient of potentially
fraudulent funds. We have initiated an investigation into this event. In
the meantime, we have placed a pending reversal on the funds in question
until the investigation is complete. This pending reversal will show as a
deduction in your available balance. In the meantime, you are free to
continue transacting using your PayPal account.
Transaction Date: 18 Feb. 2004 06:55:11 PST
Transaction Amount: £360.00 GBP
Payor's Email: Nettie823@hotmail.com
If you have not delivered the goods or services related to this
transaction, we ask that you delay or stop delivery until our investigation
is complete as you may be liable for the amount in question.
To assist us in our investigation and to determine if you qualify for the
Seller Protection Programme, please send an email to
pending_reversal@paypal.com with the following information:
1. The item, service or purpose of the purchase, and the associated value
2. The name and address given to you by the sender (if an item was
purchased)
3. If posted, the delivery company used, the dispatch date and the
tracking number for the goods
4. Details of any other transactions related to the transaction(s) in
question
5. A phone number where you can be reached during the day and evening
6. Insurance information, if applicable
Any additional information you have regarding this transaction, such as
email correspondence, will further help us to expedite our investigation.
Solving these cases helps us continue to offer PayPal as a secure and
cost-effective payment service. We appreciate your cooperation and
assistance.
Yours sincerely,
PayPal Account Review Team
I replied to paypal immediately with all the information they required and unfortunately i was unable to stop the package being delivered to the buyer.
Paypal have no told me that i do not meet their protection policy and that i am liable for the debt of £360.
You received funds that were reported to be potentially fraudulent. You
were notified as soon as the report was received. However, as you
shipped to an unapproved country you will not be covered by the Seller
Protection Policy.
To review the specific terms and conditions of the Seller Protection
Policy click https://www.paypal.com/uk/sellerprotection or copy and
paste the entire link into the address bar.
What i need to know is, do i have to make this payment, especially if its been cleared and has entered my bank account. I have cancelled all payments to paypal for the current moment in time. Am i liable to this debt, and is it my responsibilty to pay it??
If you could please help me out on this matter
Kind Regards
Liz Shaw
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I am not a lawyer, but I would wait before you pay PayPal.
- They say they are investigating and have not completed the "investigation."
- There was a time lag. Are you expected to always wait a week before withdrawing funds and completing a transaction? I think that is unreasonable.
- Do they define "unapproved countries" in the terms and conditions?
If you lived in the US, ultimately PayPal may put something on your credit report, but since you disputed it, it may not have as much weight. I am not sure what happens in the UK.
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I have a 1990 300ZX and the check engine light came on today and I do not have a manual. What does this mean for this vehicle? (link)
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You have to take it to a mechanic with the ablity to hook it up to a computer and read the code to tell why the light is on. Like spacefem said, you can drive it like that for a while, but it can eventually cause damage depending on what the problem is.
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I have a friend, let's call her *Marie. Well Marie told me today that she got fingered by her cousin, who's sixteen. She said she didn't want to do it but he just kind of laid on top of her and did it. She was going to call for her other cousin who would've stopped it, but she said he wouldn't have come because he thought they were fooling around and didn't want to disturb them.
She just told him to quit and he wouldn't, so I'm guessing it's 'finger rape', if there is such a thing.
Well now she said she had dark stuff in her panties. I think she said black fuzzy stuff. Like discharge. She said she still hurts from the encounter and I don't know how long ago it was. She said she REALLY wants to go see a doctor but she doesn't know how to go about it. Her parents are the strict kind, so if you told them you even kissed somebody they would have a heart attack. I'm asking for her because I am very worried and I have no clue what could be going on with her.
Thanks for helping. (link)
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That is called "sexually battery" and is illegal. She was essentially raped, and there are far reaching effects to rape, psychologically and physically. She should definitely see a doctor. I guess she is going to have to tell her parents, or maybe just her mother, and explain that she was forced. It is a horrible situation to be in, especially when you think no one will believe you.
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How do I get the cysts to pop, so I can rebuild my health , so I can a have a child before it is to late. I have been trying for 13 years to have a child.I had a tubal pregnency when I was 17. I had a miscariage in early trimester jan. 2004. I am a 30 yr Am. Indian,5'5" tall,around 200 lbs. Please can someone help me before I lose my window of opertunity to have total happiness. (link)
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Polycystice ovarian disease causes infertility, and you can't exactly "pop" the cysts. They are on your ovaries, because the egg didn't release. One of the suggestions that I have read is to loose weight, because it has to do with the balance of hormones in your body and the decreased weight helps regulate them. That will increase you chances of getting pregnant. There aren't very many doctors that specialize in this, but if you do an internet search for polycystic ovarian disease, you can find information and support.
Here is a website on infertility and polycystic ovarian disease:
http://infertility.adoption.com/chapter15.php
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i have this emense pain the right side of my body it goes all the way down to my leg iv started having pain under my arms front and back of neck it goes up to my head somtimes my left side of my head and face goes numb,i have a lot of raw nerves threw out my body which is very painfull but my whole body seems to shake and tremble ive got terible tremors all the time,i keep having tremors in my chest it feels like pulling and tugging of musclemy throat pulsates all the time,and when i put my head down i can feel a pulsating in my head in fact my whole pulsates i dont know what this could be please help (link)
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It is impossible to tell what is wrong with you on a website. It would probably be impossible to tell even if we were talking in person. What you describe sounds like you need to see a doctor right away.
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could u please inform me of the symptoms and the possible remedies of a kidney infection. (link)
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For a bladder infection - burning on urination, frequent urination, and a feeling of urgency (got to get to the bathroom quickly.) Usually if you have that you are in the doctor's office pretty quickly because they are uncomfortable. If the infection had gone up into the kidney you will have back pain, especially just under the ribs on one side, and a fever, usually a high one. Sometimes people don't have these obvious symptoms, but suddenly get very ill and need to go to the emergency room. These don't clear up without an doctor, and an antibiotic. If you suspect you have a kidney or bladder infection, see a doctor.
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I know this guy, he tries to fit in but he really annoys everyone, generally behaving like himself,
ok..so he's rude, obsessive, irritating, nosey, clingy and just doesnt get the picture.
The thing is he used to have a little thing for me, and so now when my friends take the mickey out of him i tell them to stop it because i feel its not nice, also because he doesnt really have any proper friends.
i kept feeling bad until this afternoon, when i found out that he didnt only like me, he semmed to have asked out many more people in that time....... especially guys! I found it a bit worrying as i think he's only bi because he's so very desperate, and this is not an exaggeration.
This has just freaked a whole lot more people out now because of him. Many of our friends are bi but i just find it really weird for him to be like this. How do i go about this, and what would you do? (link)
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What do you think you should do?
If he drives you crazy, and you don't really like his company, then I would avoid him, and just try to spend time with other friends that you do like. He is trying to make other friends besides you, and it seems he is not very particular. You shouldn't allow him to make you feel guilty because you don't enjoy his company. Just be tactful but firm.
(I am giving this advice just from what you wrote. There may be other circumstnaces I am not aware of.)
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Hello. This is the first time I have looked for help on this subject. Long story short: my mom met a guy, we moved in eith him, I was an asshole before this happened, I saw what he was like to her, we moved out, and I was the perfect son for three years, then something went wrong. This is what my mom said and I agree. We have fought constantly on and off since then. My mom has chronic headaches and a sleeping disease. I usually make light of the situation by making fun of the problem and I started making fun of my mom. She got pissed which I can understand but she knows how I deal with things. We have gotten into fights many times and she has packed up my stuff and taken me to my aunts, said she was going to leave, or said she was going to kill herself. I make fun of her for crying, and for her diseases because everyone else's life seems to be like the brady bunch. I understand I have been ignorant and I need to change. We just had a fight tonight because last friday I told her that the only person that sleeps more than her is a dead person. I guess that and all the names I have called her finally built up again. She has raised me well but insists that she is a bad mother and I deserve better. And that better is for her to leave and for me to live with my aunt and to never see her again. I told her that I don't need all of this confusion along with all of my school work. Then she atarted making fun of me for saying that. I told her that she isn't me, she isn't in my head, and doesn't know what is best for me(by her leaving)I actually think that she is going ot leave this time. Please write back at------slayer512@earthlink.net
I don't know what else to do please help I am a 17 year old guy (link)
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Ir sounds like your mom has depression. This is a very difficult disease to understand and deal with, especially as a 17 year old son of a depressed person. I hope she is seeing a doctor, because she needs to if she hasn't.
Here is a website where you can find some information and support:
www.nami.org
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is there a web-site where i can do some kind of test to get to know what I`m good for? Or for what kind of work I could be good for?
I have an idea of what i would like to study, Is there a site where i can search diferents carriers and get to know what are the trade of the job? (link)
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This is the website for the U.S. Department of Labor Occupational Handbook. It has all kinds on information on jobs.
http://www.bls.gov/oco/home.htm
I don't know of any websites for career tests. High school counselors used to have them but I don't know if they do any more.
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Is it bad to have wet dreams? (link)
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No, it is normal.
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Dear Spacefem,
I've spent some time trying to believe in Christianity, long enough to know that there's a popular and Biblically-based doctrine against being "unevenly hitched". So, when I meet fun, attractive Christians of a certain level of commitment, they may as well be lesbians or cousins or something... I can let myself love them to bits as friends, but for the most part I keep any thought of the romantic stuff out of the way. This has worked to keep things from getting messy for me and the occasional cute, committed Christian that wanders by. Essentially I've kept that doctrine by acknowledging it, even as I left a bunch of stuff I couldn't deal with behind.
I'm a 23-year old student, just to situate all this, and she's a bit older (25 or so) but also studying at the same university. We've grabbed food together, run around town with friends, done stuff in groups, kept each other honest while studying, all the rest, and she's sweet, articulate, cultured, cute, open-minded and considerate... and a committed Christian to boot. Fine, I think to myself... she's fun to be around and my (open) agnosticism doesn't seem to bother her (although we do debate the Big Issues in conversational tones), she definitely makes me feel good to share a species with her. So we hang out from time to time, chat, all that. Er, man, was I dense.
So now I have this three page e-mail printed out and read a few times, and it turns out my density has kept me from picking up on the fact that she's been thinking of me as relationship material since, well, something like July.
Fine, you might say, can't lump all Christians together, and *Rebecca doesn't seem to be in the yoke-sensitive camp. Well, you can get a lot of details into 23k of e-mail and she is in the yoke-sensitive camp and it's been eating away at her. Her Christian buddies are understandibly leery of the whole idea, and for me it kinda reorganizes everything... but she's thinking differently. I'd gotten pretty good at applying my yoking filter but she's sort of making it irrelevant... but I'd feel a little weird helping her dismantle a practice she still obviously respects to some extent. At the same time, she really is wonderful and this whole yoking thing sometimes feels like a medieval tradition whose time has come. Yarg, new and exciting dilemma... of the sort that's more fun to contemplate when it's hypothetical.
I can't honestly convert as it stands, and I won't dishonestly convert. She's not asking me to, which is to her credit.
So, I can freak out and run in circles, I can say she's wonderful but this is crazy, I can say I had no idea and ... yes!, or I can hop on the next plane to the French Foreign Legion recruiting centre and pretend this all never happened. Or I can do something more subtle I haven't thought of... you get the idea.
Advice, relevant questions or a good slap upside the head... I await your reply.
Yours spazzing out,
Dense Heathen (link)
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Strangely, that "don't be unevenly hitched" was meant for the Christians, not the non-Christians. You are holding yourself to a directive that is not part of your own beliefs (agnostic.) It seems to me that it is of greater value to you that *Rebecca keep her Christian standards and beliefs than for you two to start a relationship. Or you could be just worried because she would expect more commitment from you than a non-Christian girl would.
Anyway since you have sorted it out, this is hypothetical. I would have said give it some more time so you can get a little more perspective.
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