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AHHH, he's driving us insane
I know this guy, he tries to fit in but he really annoys everyone, generally behaving like himself,
ok..so he's rude, obsessive, irritating, nosey, clingy and just doesnt get the picture.
The thing is he used to have a little thing for me, and so now when my friends take the mickey out of him i tell them to stop it because i feel its not nice, also because he doesnt really have any proper friends.
i kept feeling bad until this afternoon, when i found out that he didnt only like me, he semmed to have asked out many more people in that time....... especially guys! I found it a bit worrying as i think he's only bi because he's so very desperate, and this is not an exaggeration.
This has just freaked a whole lot more people out now because of him. Many of our friends are bi but i just find it really weird for him to be like this. How do i go about this, and what would you do?
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you should jst ingnore the whole situation and get along with ur frends and don't take any notice of wat his doin, he jst sooooooo immature and let him say wat ever he wants jst don't tke any notice it's not worth it!
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Stay away! I know that seems VERY bad BUT if you dont want him to irritate you then thats my best advice. The more you are with him the more annoying (etc.) hes gonna get therefore the more you are gonna end up hating him. This isn't good! Generating hate is bad! Its gonna end up reflecting on your personality. And seeing as he's quite (I mean very) weird, irritating, clingy you should just tell him. Otherwise hes gonna end up very lonely. This is also bad. If he doesnt get it then just keep telling him again and again BUT very seriously. It's better just to tell the truth. You have to make sure that he's aware of other peoples feelings and not just of his own. He has to see what hes doing. Hes driving everyone away.
I suggest you just talk to him!
And about the sexuality thing......he's either confused or just trying to fit in!
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What do you think you should do?
If he drives you crazy, and you don't really like his company, then I would avoid him, and just try to spend time with other friends that you do like. He is trying to make other friends besides you, and it seems he is not very particular. You shouldn't allow him to make you feel guilty because you don't enjoy his company. Just be tactful but firm.
(I am giving this advice just from what you wrote. There may be other circumstnaces I am not aware of.)
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Many, if not most, people go through stages in their life when they are so desperately horny and starved for attention that they will go any direction they can to get some affections.
This is not to belittle people who are honestly gay or bi. I believe people are born with a predilection toward what gender they find sexually attractive, but around middle and high school when hormones are high and brains are developing, people will go pretty much anywhere for love and human contact.
It doesn't seem you have any weirdness about people in general being bi, so kudos to you.
I like how you are being a good person by sticking up for him, and that will pay off. If you just don't like his personality then the two of you simply aren't compatable. No problem with that really. You can still be a good person and stick up for him without having any more responsibility than that.
Unfortunately if people (or he) are immature, they might read more into it and think you want him more than you do (if you do want him at all? I didn't feel that you did want him).
Many immature and annoying people are just high on hormones and puberty and weirdness and it will settle out of their systems in a few years once they find a place or a group that they fit into.
Everyone fits somewhere, no matter how weird and uncommon they are. I have found this out.
Don't worry too much about him--things will settle out on their own, it's probably not a very bad issue.
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