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plz help me - this is really serious
One of my best friend in the whole word really needs help. lets call her 'Katy'
Ill start from the beggining:
He mother commited suicide when she was a baby and she now lives with her stepmum and dad. Her stepmum is so horrible she doesnt let Katy out of the house she throws away all her make up, mobile and other stuff, she beats her up and everything. ( the dad stays out of it and if he has to takes the stepmothers side.)Katy is so lovely but shes getting into drugs and shes tryed to kill herself loadz of times - she came into school with big slits on her wrists on Friday. She has social workers, councilers and the school are involved (but none of them no about the drugs and the suicid attemps) but they dont seem to do ANYTHING to help her.
What should i do i treally worries about her!?
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You really need to tell someone about this, even if u dont want to tell because she is ur friend if u dont something really bad could happen u also need to tell about her stepmom peace homie G hope u use the advice
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Maybe you should take the next step and do something. Go to the police. If you let this go on you could lose her forever. Or go to your parents and tell them whats going on but get help fast because she needs to and you might lose her.
GET HELP
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omg.. You need to call the police on the stepmum first off, and U need to have katy stay at your hosue acouple nights, when just ehr da dis home and the step mum is out ask ehr dad.. and talk to her I knwo ehr name isnt katy.. but just saying... She needs serious help, tell ehr its ok.. Drugs are no good and alchohol doesnt help either.. CALL 911! NOW! GOO HURRY BEFORE "KATY" is gone forever..
(therapy "counseling" doesnt help unless she likes talking things out)...
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Oh, poor Katy! Get more help, immeadiatly! Call into an abuse hotline, and TELL someone about her drug habits and suicide attempts! Get her into serious counselling, maybe even send her to a clinic to work out her problems! Seperate her from her stepmother;see if another relative is wiling to take her in, and fight andy possible legal battles. (Custody issuses may come into order) But she needs to get out of her abusive stepmother's grasp. But most importantly, stay with her every step of the way. Remind her that you'll always love her and be there for her! I hope everything turns out all right!
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Hug her tomorrow. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend and give her notes to show that she really is important to you. Do it sporadically. Make her feel special, make things just for her, go places together, have her sleep over.
This is something that you yourself can do.
What your friend needs also is more professional help. You can contact or speak to her social workers and tell them in confidence what you know that they dont. They wont tell your friend that you told them what is going on if you dont want them to. She needs help and she may need some serious medical attention. Drugs and suicide are not something that should go unnoticed.
If you feel she trusts you enough, ask her to talk to you about her problems and just listen - dont tell her what to do, listen.
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Your friend needs more professional help than she is getting. Depression is dangerous. People who attempt suicide sometimes actally manage to kill themselves. It sounds like her stituation is serious enough to go to a hospital. She probably also needs to be removed from her home because of the physical abuse.
Although you care about her, and want to be there for her, this may be beyond your ability to help. I would encourage her to contact a suicide hot- line on the telephone, if she isn't willing to talk to her social workers and tell them what exactly is going on.
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oh my god! i Can releate to ur friend. the best possible thing for her is to have you talk to her and let her know and feel that there is someone out there in the world who will be by her side through tough times.
P.S. don't yell when u too are talking instead be calm and use phrases such as" i understand but don't u think.... and then give her ur opinion. IF u wanna talk more to me so i Can help ur friend in any possible way because i understand how she feels and what she is thinking E-mail me at aishadiallo2004@yahoo.com please do so. i Can help ur friend. Also take her places show her things that will make her understand that there is more to life for her and teach her the techniques of ignoring what her stepmother do to her and that her stepmother will regret this before she dies i promise u.Let her know that she is not her mother she is her self and only her can help her self. i know this sounds like what other people will tell u but please contact me so i can really help.
" no one can put u down but ur self and life will keep on moving" May god be with you and ur friend and bless u both. "life is tough"
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You need to get katy to tell her scoial workers what is going on at home, so they can get her out of there. She also needs to tell them about the drugs. No conseler is gonna be able to compete with that.
You can 'just bee there' for her; be able to listen to her, offer her shelter and food. Just be her mate :)
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If you want to talk more, feel free to contact me.
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