Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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Ohk i ahd answered a question on here && the person rated me a 5 for the advice.
I come home today && someone left something in my inbox saying the adivce i had given was crap & i shouldnt of given them the advice.
The question was About should i have sex because my friends are having sex && its Causing me to want to have sex. And she asked for stories about our past experiences. I left stories about why not to have sex. & that you shouldnt have it because of pressure or because of friends.
Why do People bother leaving something in your inbox telling you that your advice sucks if the person you gave it to liked it.
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oo I know...boredom...immaturity...you know.
It's dumb...people should just respect other people's opinions and that's that. We can't function if everyone thought and felt the same way.
-Teacup
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no thats not what i meant sorry...i dont judge people.. i was talking about my little brother hes over weight and can control it.. and he eats and sit all the time.. i just wanna know why do they do that.. so i can help him (link)
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You just have to motivate him...see if you can help him become more active...try to make him eat healthy and to eat less...be a support system for him...it'll be helpful
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well, where to start. three years ago, i was in 8th grade, and i met this boy. of course 8th grade is still a young age to take love seriously, but this boy changed my perspective on that. we had dated from 8th grade to sophomore year where i broke it off due to rumors. the rumors got so out of hand it made us upset with one another. [the rumors were about him cheating on me, which turned out to be false] and so months later we found ourselves dating other people. when this summer we tried working on "us" again and well i thought for sure we were going to hit it off again. but he said that he was scared i would believe rumors and he didtn want me to hurt him again, blah. so then i find out a month later he is dating another girl. but yet he still tells me he loves me & that this is his way of trying to get over me. i am crazy about this kid, but i know i shouldnt be and i deserve better & what not. but i just cant seem to get past him. so i guess the point in trying to get across is should i wait for something to happen, obviously my heart is all for him, or what should i do so im not so miserable watching him with someone else. anything would help, thanks. (link)
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The first thing I suggest NOT doing...is dating another boy to get over him. Many people do this and it's unfair to whoever you date, because then you are just setting them up for heart break.
I would just say..keep living your life. If something happens then you can take it as...it's meant to be. But if it doesn't...as time goes by...you'll get over him.
Good Luck and I hope it works out,
Teacup
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okay . well my best friend is going out with this kid that i really like and i am going out with his friend & i dont really like his friend at all . and i just started going out with him yesterday , i like him like as a little brother not a boyfriend but idk. i dont want anyone mad at me if i break up with him . what should i do (link)
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It's understandable that you don't want anyone to be angry with you. But, the thing is...you are the one that is dating them...not everyone else. If you're not happy with him, it's not as if everyone else has to suffer. So if you don't like him..and you don't see it going anywhere, I'd suggest to break up with him. Nip it in the bud..before he really starts to like you.
-Teacup
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hi i'm a 16 years old girl and have never had sex, a boyfriend, or kissed a guy. people tell me all the time that i am pretty and must have a ton of guy friends. i get ridiculously nervous around guys i really like and act like a total dork. what can i do to get guys to like me or to handle my nerves?
here's pics of me lol
http://i8.tinypic.com/24fa8o1.jpg
http://i7.tinypic.com/24fadcy.jpg
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Hey, I saw your pic and if it helps any..I think your lack of getting guys to be attracted to you is not based on your looks. You are a pretty girl.
All I can say is...when you talk to a guy you like...seem interested but treat him like one of your guy friends. You probably get so nervous because you are busy trying to think of a way to impress them. Stop trying to impress them...then the pressure is no longer there and hopefully you can act normal.
But maybe this won't work. And maybe your nervous act will attract a guy one day...they may think it's cute. Just don't worry...your day will come. =]
Good Luck,
Teacup
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i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd. (link)
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I'm older than you, and I haven't had sex yet. I had one real boyfriend...but I didn't have sex with him. I'm not ready for it. I always told myself I would wait til marriage, but realistically, I will probably do it when I find a guy that I am in love with and I know that he's in love with me. But, you know what...I'm in no rush because my first time will be special...and I won't regret it. I'll be able to handle emotionally and you know...good things happen to those that wait. Also, it makes me feel kind of special that I still have something that is special...a lot of girls my age don't. I frankly don't care if they think I'm a nerd.
Teacup
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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A lot of parents say...ohh you can't date until this age. But, you do have to realize, you are only 13 right now. Most girls don't date or have first boyfriends by then. Maybe you can compromise with your mom and tell her that 16 would be a better age to start dating. You are able to drive at that age, and that is legally the age that you are allowed to stay home alone, so it being a big year and all, and you having matured and not being a kid anymore, you should be allowed to start dating. Hopefully it works.
-Teacup
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Ok, this whole problem happened at the beginning of summer but stated like a month before (it's confusing, i'll explain). Well me and my other 5 best freinds have this name in our grade that everybody knows us by. Ok and in this all girl group all of us are best freinds, and we have always been and stuff. And yes, everybody has who their closer with but we ALL still know we're best friends. Well, a couple months back, at the beginning of May, my one friend Kristin started going out with this one boy Tommy. Now Tommy is apart of our group too, but like the other half... the guy half. Kristin really liked him.. but Tommy has never had a serious relationship, and I could honestly say that I felt that he didn't really "love" her (he was always the guy that would hook up with random girls). Well while the two were going out.. I found at that my other best friend, Ashley, was calling Tommy late at night, and talking with him for almost hours on the phone while Kristin and him were going out. Then she admitted to liking him, and he admitted it back. This was when Tommy and Kristin were still going out. Now the two managed to keep this a secret from the whole group. Sooner or late.. around the last week of June, Tommy broke up with Kristin replying that "I'm holding you down". But Then I found out, two days before the break-up Tommy asked Ashley, "Do you want me to break up with Kristin so me and you can hang out" and obviously he meant hook-up. THEN after the break-up, Kristin cried for weeks, every single day I saw that girl cry and I felt crushed. While Kristin still wasn't over Tommy, and still felt crushed... it turns out that Ashley and Tommy hooked up and she gave head to him and then he asked if he could eat her out, and she denied. Now somehow they kept this a secret until the past week when everyone foudn out... Yet they dont' know that everyone knows. You have no clue how mad I am at Ashely, we're all suppose to be best friends and she did this. She's a whore. I'm soo pissed off, and now someone has to break the news to AShley and I'm devistatde that I have to because no one is brave enough to. I dont' know what to say. I feel so bad. I mean it took all summer for her to get over Tommy and it turns out he hooked up with her so called best friend. And also I don't know how to tell Ashley that she is so low adn a backstabbing slut. Alond with Tommy I don't know what to do, I'm so confused?!?! Please Help Me : ( (link)
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That's a tough situation. But, I would say just confront Ashley...she'll give Tommy the message. Just flat out tell her, that what she did to Kristin was pretty unforgivable. She caused her best friend more pain than what she would have been through. It's kind of like giving her a guilt trip, I think it will make her feel like crap, and really it's something she deserves for doing something hurtful to a best friend.
-Teacup
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13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall? (link)
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Honestly, it may be a little intimidating for them. But no worries, they will catch up and surpass your height in no time =].
Teacup
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im 20 ilbs over weight. whats the best diet for me to eat everday. like the fastest way to loose this weight? i meen i have school soo i was thinking
breakfast- rice crispys with skim milk.
lunch-ramen noodles & a banana. [i have school]
dinner-baked fish. [not fattning]
run for 10 mins everyday?
200 crunches?
for 2 snacks during the day.. maybe gronoliaa bars?THANKS (link)
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I'm not really sure about the food...but I would say...you need to make sure u eat both fruits and veggies...consult the food pyramid to make your diet.
As for the exercising...I would say run for a little longer because running focuses on everything and crunches is basically for an area or two.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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my best friends birthday is tomorrow [8/11] and shes having a pool party. im going, but theres going to be a lot of people there [boys too] and im embarrassed of going in the pool since im 14&wear a one piece. im just not comfortable in a 2 piece. I tried asking my friend to not make me go in the pool but she says I have to. Plus on top of that i look absolutley HIDEOUS in a bathing suit. My thighs are just...awful. Im a very shy person and i know ill be embarrassed beyond what i could imagine, since im not exactly skinny. what should I do?
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I would just say try to have a blast! Try not to think of it. I mean when you are in the water, it's not like everyone will be looking @ you. Just enjoy it and try to suck it up for your best friend =].
Good Luck,
Teacup
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soo i have a boy friend but i have this guy friend who just came back from california and i really like him alot.. but i dont kno what to do i love my boyfriend but i want to be with my friend from cali to... (link)
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Haven't you ever heard..."Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, they will leave you for the one they love"...well it goes something like that. Ultimately, you need to decide what you want...but that may help some.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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so if people agree and think that smoking is bad and alcoholism is bad why do people think that suicidal-minded rock bands and stuff like that push the limiting line of "individualism" is not bad and is just being individually unique? surely you cant say that child pornography is just uniqueness that someone has that you shouldn't try to take away someone from doing because you dont wanna interfere with their individualism? or alcohol addictions or smoking? so what makes the difference?
i just dont understand beccause ive had a number of friends whos fallen into the wrong paths (serious depression cutting themselves and suicidal attempts and one actually killed herself :() after being "emo" and the "misunderstood kid" who's always considered herself depressed. i dont mean to label but a general trend was they listened to songs about deaths 24/7 and stuff. theres no hard proof that emo bands and their intense promoting of "individualism" and "being yourself" beyond the line cause these things but then again, there's no scientific proof that child porn is bad, it just is... so why wouldnt anyone agree with me? (link)
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Well, I don't necessarily agree that all these bands and being emo is the cause of people going out and trying to hurt themselves. I think it starts from them not feeling any self-worth and then they find these bands that they feel they can connect with. Then they go out and do things they shouldn't do, it's like their best friend egging them on to do something. Just like I don't believe that violence in video games, tv, and movies motivate people to acts of violence. Rather, it depends on the person and what they're life is like.
-Teacup
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Okay, I dont need help coping,
I just need to know if I'm alright.
I mean my grandma died when i was in 5th grade,
I'm going into 10th now, and I was closer to her,
more close than the usual grandchild grandma bond.
I mean ever since I was born I came over to my grandparents house EVERDAY after school,
and I stayed there a lot. And I still cry over her, and how I miss her.
I mean when it happened, sure I was sad, and I understood she was gone, but today I understand more, and it just makes me wish she was here.
Especially since I'm volunteering at a nursing home, for some reason I get weird notions that my grandma is stuck somewhere in there, since she said she woudl hate to be there ever. And that I just cant find her, and shes miserable.
And this month, august, is the month she died,
on the twenty eigth actually, and it was a tuesday. and i cant take it, i don tknow what to do, and if i'm going to be okay? Is it usual to still beupst about things like this even if it happened a long time ago?
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It must be a very hard thing to cope with. And, I think it's ok. Sometimes, something will remind you of a person you lost, and you start thinking about them and next thing you know...you're crying and wishing they were there with you. I think it's ok. It's harder because of what month it is, and you do understand everything better now. I don't think you will ever actually get over it, but you'll learn to realize that she is in a better place, and she never had to be in nursing home, and she's watching over you.
And on the bright side, at least you got to meet your grandmother, not a lot of people do, you should consider yourself blessed. =]
-Teacup
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I'm going to be a freshmen in High School this upcoming school year. I'm going to be taking all IB Preperation classes and I don't know any of my friends who are gonna be in my classes.
Also I'm afraid that the sophmores [sp?], juniors, and/or seniors, picking on me =/
Could you give me any tips on how to get through that year?
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Hey...high school is a great place to make new friends. I had a best friend when I went into high school and four years later...she's still my best friend...but I also made other new best friends, and they're great people.
As for people picking on you, it may and may not happen. Just don't pay too much mind to it. They have no reason to feel superior to you, they were in your situation not long ago.
High school is a blast. Be friendly, nice, work hard. You'll get through it. =]
-Teacup
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I saw you recommended this site to someone 3gforfree.com. Do you really get free ringtones there and is it safe and whatnot?
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Yeah. I have been using it for about 2 years. As long as you have those phone services...you're good =]
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17/f I already know what im going to do when i graduate. Im going to school in aruba where one of the main languages is dutch. i have dutch relatives also, so i really need to learn the language. would you recommend buying a book&tape to learn dutch? there are no classes around here or at my current highschool so thats kind of what i have to do. do the tapes really work? thanks (link)
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The tapes probably work to some degree, but it'll be hard because you may have to force yourself.
Maybe you can enroll to a community college that offers that.
Well good luck,
Teacup
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ok
so theres this guy i talk to
and hes my best friends friend
and shes on vacation right now
and has been for like a week
but i started talking to him a lil while ago before she left
but when she gets home shes gonna hate me!
but anyways
he likes me alot!
and i like him to
but i dont mean to be shallow or anything is hes 5'4 and im 5'7. i dont go for the short guys at all
but i cant help but like him
hes perfect! everything i wanted in a boyfriend!
we havent met yet eather but we talk like 24/7 texting,online, and phone
but we are soon
and i dont wanna see a movie with him but he does!
idk it would just be awkward
i sound really shallow but im not!
someone help me!!!
i need advise!
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He may be your best friend's friend...but you don't know him. It isn't the safest thing to go to the movies with him...he's still a stranger. But, if you really want to go...invite a couple to go along with. Then, you'll be safe and you can also get to meet him.
I don't understand why your best friend will hate you? Does she like him? If she does, and he doesn't like her back...then tell her you are serious about this guy and you hope she can understand. I mean if she's like seriously opposed to it...you may not want to date him.
About the height thing...it's normal to be self-conscious about it. But it looks like, it hasn't stopped you from liking you, so I wouldn't say you were too shallow...just the right amount. And yes, we are all shallow to some degree, and it's alright as long as it's not overbearing.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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1. Ok so I just made out for the first time and it was only our 3rd date. Does that seem right or do you think that's too soon to be making out?
2. I have a horrible gag reflex and I almost gagged a couple of times. Does anyone know what to do about this?
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Um, I don't have any advice about the gag reflex.
I don't think the third date is too soon...it really depends on how you feel about it. I have made out on the first date...but then again, this guy was my best friend and I knew him for a long time, he knew I wasn't easy, so it's not like I had to play hard to get.
But generally, I would say...if you don't know someone for a long time...the first date may be too soon. I think 3rd date is fine =].
-Teacup
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I am 15 year old femail...Am i supposed to shave "down there". I obviously shave my bikini line...but thats it.
What am i supposed to do? (link)
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It depends on if you want to or not.
Some girls shave everything but their mons pubis, some girls shave everything, some girls prefer a more natural look and don't shave at all. It's up to you.
-Teacup
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