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The Break-up of the Summer
Ok, this whole problem happened at the beginning of summer but stated like a month before (it's confusing, i'll explain). Well me and my other 5 best freinds have this name in our grade that everybody knows us by. Ok and in this all girl group all of us are best freinds, and we have always been and stuff. And yes, everybody has who their closer with but we ALL still know we're best friends. Well, a couple months back, at the beginning of May, my one friend Kristin started going out with this one boy Tommy. Now Tommy is apart of our group too, but like the other half... the guy half. Kristin really liked him.. but Tommy has never had a serious relationship, and I could honestly say that I felt that he didn't really "love" her (he was always the guy that would hook up with random girls). Well while the two were going out.. I found at that my other best friend, Ashley, was calling Tommy late at night, and talking with him for almost hours on the phone while Kristin and him were going out. Then she admitted to liking him, and he admitted it back. This was when Tommy and Kristin were still going out. Now the two managed to keep this a secret from the whole group. Sooner or late.. around the last week of June, Tommy broke up with Kristin replying that "I'm holding you down". But Then I found out, two days before the break-up Tommy asked Ashley, "Do you want me to break up with Kristin so me and you can hang out" and obviously he meant hook-up. THEN after the break-up, Kristin cried for weeks, every single day I saw that girl cry and I felt crushed. While Kristin still wasn't over Tommy, and still felt crushed... it turns out that Ashley and Tommy hooked up and she gave head to him and then he asked if he could eat her out, and she denied. Now somehow they kept this a secret until the past week when everyone foudn out... Yet they dont' know that everyone knows. You have no clue how mad I am at Ashely, we're all suppose to be best friends and she did this. She's a whore. I'm soo pissed off, and now someone has to break the news to AShley and I'm devistatde that I have to because no one is brave enough to. I dont' know what to say. I feel so bad. I mean it took all summer for her to get over Tommy and it turns out he hooked up with her so called best friend. And also I don't know how to tell Ashley that she is so low adn a backstabbing slut. Alond with Tommy I don't know what to do, I'm so confused?!?! Please Help Me : (
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Gah, guys.
They suck.
I'm sorry about your friend. :l
Well, I don't think you want to be calling Ashley, because I'm sure that'd break off into more arguments, and that'd just become even more of a problem that it already is. Just let her know what she did was wrong, she's Kristin's best friend and that's no way to treat her, and that what she did was pretty dang low, going after someone's boyfriend, like I said especially her best friends. That'll basically call her out and plus, give her an added guilt trip which I'm sure will be more hurting than just the word "whore".
As for your friend Kristin, I would just calmly and gently explain to her what's going on. I would just start out with,"Kristin.. I have to tell you something. Because if I was you, I would want to know too..." and just explain to her what Ashley did. I wouldn't give out the details about giving Tommy head and all cause that'll make it worse, just let Kristin know that Ashley and Tommy had been talking on the phone and that led to the break-up. And at the end, just be like,"look, tommys a jerk. a huge jerk. he doesn't deserve you. and if ashleys going to do that to you, she's a jerk too."
And as for Tommy? If it was me, I'd cuss at him or something, ha. I would just let him know what a low-life he is to do that to his girlfriend, especially with his girlfriends bestfriend? That's awful. And I'd let him know he doesn't deserve someone like Kristin.
But in the end, if Kristin and Ashley are both willing to, they should talk it out. Not argue, just talk. If they really are best friends, then no guy should be able to come between them. And hopefully, the whole situation will be resolved. I hope I helped. <3
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Holy bejezus,
can you say soap oprea?Geeze.
Well, it looks like to me, Tommy is a player and a jerk, and deserves to have his balls cut off.
They were all seduced by him.Hormones are a bloody hell.
I would highly recommend not calling her a whore. Girls do crazy things, and loving boys, and wanting to do things are one of them.
The real enemy here was Tommy. He played all of you guys. I would just confront Ashley, in a nice way, tell her that she hurt Kristin's feelings, and what she did was wrong.
Now, as for Tommy, stay away from him. He doesn't even deserve to be spoken to.
If ya'll were best friends, then you should stay best friends, a guy shouldn't be able to ruin that.
Just remember, don't be a bitch when you talk to her. You don't want to involve yourself into this drama.
Yours Dearly,
LoveSucks[[♥]]
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I know you are friends with both of them, or just kristen, but i wouldnt try to get in the middle of it. It will just start a bunch of fighting and drama between you guys. YES that was wrong of ashley, but calling her a backstabbing slut or a whore is not going to help. Try calmly talking to her and telling her how you and kristen feel and tell her how it is wrong. And for Tommy, if he was sort of cheating on Kristen, how do you guys know hes not cheating on Ashley? He could be with another girl besides Ashley. Just something to think about...
hope i helped =]
Jess
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That's a tough situation. But, I would say just confront Ashley...she'll give Tommy the message. Just flat out tell her, that what she did to Kristin was pretty unforgivable. She caused her best friend more pain than what she would have been through. It's kind of like giving her a guilt trip, I think it will make her feel like crap, and really it's something she deserves for doing something hurtful to a best friend.
-Teacup
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Im sorry that this happend you you guys.The best thing to do is just to talk to kristn but just dont come out and tell her about it.She will learn after a while and when she dose just calm her down and be there for her.There will be many more guys in her life not only boyfriend wise but also frinds.Although your mad at ashley dont go off telling her shes a whore and every other name.That will do nothing but piss her off and maybe other people that your friends with.Some crappy things in life happen and this would be one of them.Learning to deal with it is a hard thing to do.
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