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I know this sounds disgusting but will I be okay if my dog licked my vagina? Seriously- will I get any diseases or illnesses? Isn't it true that dogs mouths are cleaner than humans? I would like some advice from a knowledgeable person. I was just experimenting and I'm worried that I might get sick or get an infection,
Every person in the world has sexual fantasies. They are wonderful, natural, and healthy. But, here's the deal...Most sexual fantasies are not meant to be acted upon exactly as they are. I know it feels good, but responsable people also have to restrain from certain sexual behavior. You can't take advantage of a situation just because you want to. Picture this scenario...You make a habit of doing this with your dog. The dog gets used to this behavior, and thinks this is what he or she is supposed to do. Then, a child comes to visit your home, inoocently changes her clothing in front of the dog, who pounces on the child as it has been trained. The child is horrified, and has now been abused by your dog. You never know...
One of the most important aspects of sex is acting responsably. You feel as if the dog doesn't know any better, so what's the harm, right? But, that's exactly the harm. It is totally and completely wrong to have sexual contact with any creature that doesn't know any better. You must learn to control yourself. Masturbate, if necessary, but get into the habit of making good sexual decisions, because the rules will get more complicated as you grow. You can't go around getting your gratification wherever you want, just because you want it. Once you start breaking the rules, they will get easier and easier to break.
13/guy
ok so the other day i called this guy whos my best girl friends(not relationship just good friends) bestt friend a fag and now she and another girl who knows him are really pissed off at me and i dont know why i called him that i didnt mean it i just said it for no reason so now they hate me
and i was wondering what i should do to get them to forgive me i have already apologised heaps of times and they wont text back or anything since its the christmas holidays i cant see them in person but ive only got a few days till school starts again so
how do i get them to forgive me
i really still want to be friends with both girls
please help
Well, it's one thing to simply say you're sorry, and it's totally another to say "I'm sorry for calling (insert name) such a derogatory name. I realize it was wrong because (insert why you think it wrong), and I only said those mean things because I was a little jealous that he was getting all of the attention(or whatever reason)."
Your friend could be mad for a few different reasons. First, you said something negative about her friend, and the fact she got mad says a lot about her personality. She is the type of girl who is going to stick up for her friends. Maybe you can let her know how much you respect that quality about her. Another reason she got mad is because you really did cross the line. She was probably very suprised you would say something like that, and it showed her a whole side of you that she didn't know was there.
When a person is rightfully mad at you, the best way to get them to forgive you is by letting them know you have learned your lesson. Calling a person a "fag," is just about the same thing as using the "N" word, or picking on a person for a disability. People are born gay, and do not choose their sexuality.
I would write one more well-thought out apology, and then give it some time. She will forgive you because she sounds like the type of person who is a good, loyal friend. Hope everything works out.
Im always touching something, messing with something, going through my phone, messing with my hair, biting my lips/cheek, etc. People always think Im nervous or something but Im really hardly ever nervous. Is this like some kind of disorder or somethign?
Are you a perfectionist? It sounds as if you are simply the type of person who likes to have everything in order, and you have a difficult time relaxing your mind. Don't look at it like it is a disorder, look at it as a good quality. Many people wish they had brains that worked half as hard as yours. You are the type of person who will be able to work well under pressure with 20 different things going on at the same time.
Two of my best friends hate each other's guts for reasons that are completely stupid, but I of course, am stuck in the middle. They were good friends at one point a while back but things just changed, and now they really can't stand each other. We use to be a really tight knit group of four, the 'fab four' as you may call it, but now it's down to three, and we've recently taken in a 'replacement' for the missing spot. So now two out of the four of us hate the girl that use to be in our group, but the other two can bare with her. It's just annoying that I have to put up with their trash talk, because in reality, she never did anything wrong. I feel like I can't keep tolerating them talking rudely behind her back, because she is such a sweet person. I'm wondering whether I should confront them or just let it slide. I think it's pretty unfair that they think they can go on talking crap about her. If I do confront them, there's a good chance I'd be loosing two friends, maybe even all three, because my other friend is the type of person who sides with the majority. Please, what should I do?
I think if you hear them saying an out and out lie, you should call them on it. On the rest, you will have to consider this...
Sometimes, when people talk crap about another person to you, they take it as agreement when you listen. They play upon your words, and may present it to others as if you were involved in the conversation, even if you only shook your head slightly for one second.
This is the best way to deal with the situation. Say this to your friends, "You know, when you talk about (insert name) so uch, you give other people the impression you are jealous. I know you're not jealous, I'm just telling you what it comes off as. And another thing, people hear you talking like that and say, 'well, I wonder what they say about me behind my back.' I know you don't talk about me behind my back, I'm just telling you what I heard someone else say."
i've been having trouble going #2. i never go regularly. the only reason i go sometimes is because i've been told to eat fiber and i have been. i'm still not regular. i really want to start going to the bathroom like a normal person. i don't know what to do.
Anything green, like salads. Apples, and all things made with them. Cereal, like Raisin Bran, or something else with dark flakes. Prune juice, but only a half a cup-that stuff can be potent. Avoid bananas. You may have an intolerance to milk, so try to lay off for a couple of days to see if it helps. It can be normal to go every other day instead of every day. The key is schedule. If there is no schedule, it can become and issue.
Sometimes the problem is that your #2 is too hard. There are very mild stool softeners that work wonders, and some may even be all natural.
When i was in fourth grade i got introduced rock music. My sister still listened to rap. In fifth grade i started to listen to it. Not until sixth grade she started to copy me. She looks at my stuff and does what i do. She is slso dressing like me too. She ahd a guitar and now she starts to use it. Im so tired of it. Now she is even stealing my friends. How can i stop having her copy me?
You have to look at it like this...The sincerest compliment is to copy someone. Think about yourself..Why would you copy any person? Because you think they've got it going on. I know it is probably pissing you off because she is your older sister, so everyone might think you are the one copying her. The worst thing you can do is start complaining about it to all of your friends because you will probably come off as looking jealous, even though you're not. Try your best to take your sisters actions as a compliment. If she wears something that is your style, compliment her. If she hangs out with your friends, invite her. To keep the peace, you're going to have to think.."If you can't beat 'em, join 'em."
16.f
i've liked this guy for a month or so now. we're in the exact same circle of friends and we talk primarily in school (in fact, we hardly ever talk on instant messenger or via facebook / myspace). i have his number and we call and text each other, usually for school purposes. i help him out a lot with school to be a good friend, and he trusts me. we also hang out a lot but in group settings.
however, just recently, i noticed that he would always hang around this girl, so i got up enough courage to ask him about their friendship and he admitted that he's liked her for a long time but isn't sure about the other way around.
well, lucky me, right? great friends, lots of trust, single, hang out outside of school... what could be wrong? it turns out, they're attached at the hip. they are ALL OVER each other, and she really infuriates me because she's had boyfriends over these last few months yet he STILL likes her after everything. she posts facebook albums of them hanging out and makes them her profile pictures and hugs him and holds hands with him and i sit here wondering... why is she doing this? she doesn't even like him beyond friends! she's leading him on -- and it's obvious. he really likes her though, and nothing will stop him. he's liked her for many, many months.
we've only talked about her a couple times but he doesn't talk to me about it really openly. i've worked really hard to make our friendship absolutely perfect, and we're closer than ever now. i don't want to ruin that by breaking the ice and telling him i like him, ESPECIALLY since i know for a fact that he likes that other girl.
in addition, i'm a really jealous person. i suddenly feel like i hate her more than anyone on the planet. it's so weird though because i honestly think i'm prettier than her, i have a better body, and i'm smarter than her. i'm only jealous that he likes her. he's really innocent and isn't a hot shot pimp kind of guy, and she's a really sweet innocent angel kind of girl (NOT a slut by any stretch of imagination despite the fact that she's had several boyfriends whereas i haven't). and i think those are the types of girls he likes.
what is your opinion? also, i'm not even sure if i want to date him necessarily. i just want to get to know him better and be like. friends with benefits sorta. no like serious relationship stuff. so there's no point in me admitting that i like him. that'll just raise his ego even higher than it already is.
I agree, there is no need for you to admit your feelings to him if he's telling you he likes another girl. There is a good song that is very similar to your situation called, "Saved the Best For Last," by Vanessa Williams.
it sounds to me as if this boy is slightly inexperienced with women, and one of the reasons he is so attracted to her is because she has made it clear she likes him. Because he is a little shy and nervous about girls, he went for a girl who can come right out and tell him how she feels. It probably makes him feel good to read about himself on her myspace, etc.
Even you seem a little confused about what you are looking for with him. Could it be that the two of you have been so close, that now you are rethinking things because he is interested in someone else? Sometimes, we are so used to getting attention from a guy, we get jealous when he turns his attention somewhere else. I think you should be absolutely sure about what you want before you tell him you are into him, because once you do, you may change your friendship.
You seem like the type of girl who isn't into all of the cutesy wutesy dating rituals. You are into good conversation, respect, and friendship. I can tell you are a mature person because you didn't hit below the belt, you made sure to say this girl was not a slut. Take her out of the picture, and try to figure what you and this guy have that is important to you and roll with it.
How big should a girls nipples be? what's considered normal? Just wondering lol
Honestly, there is no "normal" nipple size. Most of the time, nipples aren't even the same on the right and left. They can be dark, light. The areola, the outside circle, can be half as big as your breast, or as small as dimes, and the nipples can be innies, outies, large or small. People are attracted to nipples of all kinds, some men like dark, some light, and so on. A good way to excersize your breasts: Place fingertips together, push, hold for five seconds. Repeat. You should feel the muscles lifting your breasts.
every time i shave down there the hair keeps growing higher.
how do i manage that and keep it from growing higher?
thanks so muchh
Imagine where a bikini would cover, and shave that area. Do not be alarmed if you get a few stray hairs along the line to your belly button, it probably has nothing to do with shaving, and more to do with puberty. I have never tried waxing down there, but I know when an area of hair is constantly waxed or tweezed, the follicle will weaken. I think you are saying your problem is the hair that grows upwards toward your belly button. If you were to tweeze or use an at-home wax product(only on your belly), the hair follicle will eventually weaken, and in the meantime won't grow back as quickly.
Hi I just went out and purchased a yoga mat, blender, protein shakes and protein Powder. I am a little under weight by like 5-10 lbs and want to be healthy. I want to start doing yoga, having atleast a shake a day and hopefully that will help my put on weight. I purchased the ISOfemme protein powder, it says it is good to have more meals a day, it has hardly any fat and only 1 g or carbs. I thought carbs helped put on weight so I am wondering if this is a good product. On the plus side there is 27g of protein per scoop. I would like to know if I am on teh right track and if this protein powder was a good decision?
The protien powders can be very expensive, and some of them are very similar to Carnation Instant Breakfast. I buy the powdered kind, which tastes better than the pre-mixed. Muscle weighs more than fat, so if you start to work out, you may firts notice you look a little thinner, but weigh a little more. This is your fat changing over to muscle.
All my life, even through my twenties and early thirties, and seven children, I was so skinny I was embarrassed. People don't realize being underweight is just as hard on the ego as being overweight. In fact, it's even worse because people have no roblem with saying, "Oh my God, You're so skinny!"
The good news is this...I am now 37, and in great shape. All of the women I used to envy would love to have my body. I don't even work out, but when I do, everything goes right back into shape. This is the payoff of looking like Olive Oyl for half my life. I used to feel as if I had the shape of a twelve year old boy (even though I'm a girl), and now, at 37, I can still turn the head of a teenage boy.
I'm 18/f, and lately I haven't had any appetite at all. Sure, I get hungry, but then when I eat, it seems like I get full really quickly and I just can't eat whatever portion is there in front of me. I rarely eat more than half of whatever I get at restaurants. I do have unusual eating habits anyway: I'm very picky, and I have a chaotic eating schedule, and normally don't eat 3 meals a day. The things I just listed are nothing all that new, but the 'no appetite' thing is very recent, it's probably been about a month.
Anyone ever experienced this? I'm definitely not anorexic, but my parents are starting to think so because I hardly eat.
I have the same problem, especially when I'm going through a stressfull time in my life. My eating habits are very similar to yours, and there have been times in my life I was so skinny, I looked unhealthy. I notice the later I eat in the day, the less my appetite is. It is almost as if I have to force myself to eat something, or at least drink a chocolate milk, in the morning. This seems to stretch my stomache, and I will be hungry during the day.
okay well i had this crush on a guy who plays hockey at the rink i play at 15/f btw and i told my friend that plays hockey with him to find out if he was talking to anyone or anything like that bc i didnt no bc we dont go to the same school, and she ended up telling him i wanted to no and idc about that but then he ended up texting me and whatever happend and we started ''talking'' and that lasted like 2 days and then he didnt text me and i went to one of his hockey games when he played my school and i texted him after to say good game and he was like thanks and gave me this whole big bullshit story about how sorry he was he hasnt texted me bc he deleted his texts and never saved my number and whatevs i didnt ask and i didnt care why he hadnt texted me and then after that night i didnt talk to him for about another week and then he had practice before me and he was on the ice and i pretended like i didnt and walked by and after my practice he texted me and was like hey i saw you today you looked real good and all this shit. and again after that day didnt text me again and i saw him at the rink again and i tryed to pretend i didnt see him and just walk by bc i didnt wanna talk to him, but he like came over and tapped my shoulder and was like hey whats up and i just said hey and started walking away and walked with me and we were talking and whatev i was kinda bein a bitch.. and that night he texted me and we talked about whatever and thats the last time i saw him or talked to him and that was a week ago and i dont know what to do bc i care about him but i feel like he only feels it nessicary to talk to me on days he sees me and i no people are gonna tell me to text him but i feel like he needs to make more of an effert before i do... and im sorry that was so long and i'd apperciate sooo much if you would tell me what to dooo bc i dont know im lost on weather to stop talking to him all together or try harderr..
It would be nice if he were to put some more effort into it to show you that he likes you, but a lot of guys aren't really into texting or talking on the phone. The worst thing you can do is get mad at him because you will only push him away. You are at the very beginning stages of a relationship and you don't want to send him running away because you are always angry at him. There are two things you can do. 1. You can start texting him more often. If he gets into the habit of hearing from you on a regular basis, he will notice if he doesn't talk to you for a while. 2. You can talk to him when you see him and tell him how you feel. Don't get angry, but let him know that you need consistancy in order to let yourself really open up to him.
i need the 411 on this seeeing im 13 and still do it because my friend makes me laugh, i dont entirely pee my pants but enough for people top see! so i could use some exersises that can prevent this happening in public even though i do a pretty good job hiding this.i can really use help!
I don't know if you are a male or a female, but there are some excersizes you can do. It is called the Keigel. You contract the muscles you use to hold the flow of your urine, relax, and then contract again. These are muscles, so don't overdo it. I know two women (they happen to be sisters) who pee their pants when laughing too hard. I don't know if the Keigel excersize will work. The only other thing, besides talking to a doctor, is use a pad if this happens often.
14/f
So I don't obsess over being popular and everything, but I've begun to realize that I don't really have a social life.... Like I have sleepovers and go to the mall, but really only with my best friend. I do have a lot of friends, but we never hang out. I was on Facebook awhile ago and I was looking at this really popular girl's pictures, and a lot of pictures were of her at house parties and big sleepover parties. I realized the last time I went to a party was... well I think a birthday party when I was 12. That's really sad. So I'm not saying I want to be all popular and have tons of parties, but I would like to be with more friends and everything instead of sitting at home playing on the computer. Help please?
Most of the time an active social life comes from organized activities after school. If you look into some of the stuff going on, you will find a group of people who seem to be the kind of people you want to get to know a little better. Cheerleading is always a real popular one for girls, but it takes a lot of dedication and work. Yearbook committees and dance committees, drama groups. The more people you are around, and the more you put yourself out there, the more you will wish you had some quiet time to yourself!
I have 2 gerbils, and I love them very much. I really want to get more, but my mom and dad won't let me because I sometimes forget to feed them. I notice in a day or 2, and they never eat a lot of food anyway, so there's no harm, but my parents are still set in stone. How can I convince them?
Remember to feed your gerbils, silly!
since im 17 now my years relying on my parents to keep a roof over my head is getting smaller, even though i know they will always let me live with them i still have that urge to fly from the nest. I did some research and made a rather silly summary of how much it might cost me to move out, im not sure if ill wait till i finish college or high school, but my idea of the cost came to about $15.5k for the first year on my own, you know renting an apt or house and all the little things like groceries and furniture, but I want to see of anyone could tell me how much the avrg. amount of money is that i would be spending to live on my own just so im prepared?
There are a lot of different factors to consider, like whether you are planning on a roomate, and the average cost of living in your area. It sounds like you are a smart person, with a decent grip on reality, so your estimations are probably about right. Now, since you have come up with an educated estimation, you should add another two months average onto the final result for emergencies and other unforseen expenses.
My husband and I attended the wedding of two dear friends. The groom's mother, "Millie," made party favors for all the guests -- little gift bags containing sugar-coated almonds and, because the bride and groom are animal lovers, a small glass animal. A few days later, a friend brought her teenage daughter to our home. The daughter admired the two glass animals, so I gave them to her.
I was shocked when, the following weekend, Millie called and asked me to return them. She said she planned to take them back because she would prefer to use the money to buy the couple something they could use. Feeling guilty for "regifting," I responded with the first thing that popped into my head, that I hoped I hadn't "misplaced" them. Millie said she hoped not, too -- they had cost $35 apiece, and she would expect us to reimburse her! Further, we should not mention it to the "happy couple" because of the embarrassment it would cause.
I asked the bride's sister where Millie might have bought the glass figurines under the guise of wanting to get some as gifts for my grad students. I was stunned when she responded that she had purchased an entire case of these inexpensive animals as wedding favors, and that I was welcome to them if I wanted to pick them up from her home.
I'm unclear what motivated Millie to ask for the animals to be returned, or why she would inflate the price and expect to be reimbursed. I understand there was an unpleasant power struggle over the wedding arrangements, but I'm not sure what she hopes to gain from this.
How should this be handled? My husband says I should tell Millie the truth, that we gave them away and we know they cost only 80 cents apiece. What do you say?
The only reason that I can imagine "Millie" would do this is if she perhaps heard you had given them away, and now she wants to make you sweat. Gift bags are "gifts," meaning not expected back. When you answered that you may have misplaced them, Millie returned your fib with a fib of her own, that they cost $35.00.
I think your husband is half right; you should tell Millie that you gave them away, and then give the the ones you picked up from the sister. Either way, Millie will know you know about the value, and it can be her turn to admit, plus she'll be stuck with the things.
The best way to look at this is almost like a practical joke. The old bird got one over on you, and it is kind of funny. Her son is a dear friend of yours, so don't let the situation cause waves.
By the way, you didn't do anything wrong by giving the animals away. Most reasonable people would be happy to know that the animals went to a young girl who would really appreciate them. That is, unless the bride is a little insulted you didn't keep the momento of her special occasion.
When you said to me he uses a messenger cuz he likes me Its actually only because we barely talk to each other at lunch (unless he's begging me for money) and I have no classes with him. And he uses my friend as a messenger because he has last period with her and she's a close friend. But then again you could be right because he never talks to me when my table at lunch is full or has sertain few of my friends sitting down at the time. Oh and I'm good at speaking in riddles so I could probably trick him into admitting he likes me or not. Is that wrong to do?
See, this is the thing; we girls don't think that guys are sensitive, or nervous, but the truth is they are just like us. Everything we feel, they feel, too. They are just a lot better at hiding it. You know how you like a guy and then when you talk to his friends you keep talking about the person you like, asking them questions, and in general, coming across like the president of a fan club? You have to find out from the messenger if that is what is going on, or if she is the one always bringing you up.
There are two ways to go about it. The more mature way would be to talk to him directly. No, it's not wrong to trick him into admitting it, but I really don't think you would be tricking
him. If he admits he likes you, he wanted to all along.
The second way is to find out if the messenger is always bringing you up, or if it is him. If he's the one bringing you up, your golden. If she is always bringing you up, you have to tell her to stop, so you can find out if he will initiate the conversation about you.
Messengers can be really tricky; one because you never know exactly what was said, or how it was said. You know, like what their face looked like when they said it, and all the little details that add up. Second, sometimes messengers can get so caught up in the thing, they actually start liking the person! You know, they keep hearing you say how great the guy is, then they talk to him so much, they get to know them and like them. So, I wouldn't let the messenger thing go on for any longer than it has to for you to get a good read on the situation.
I hope you see this because there is no other way for me to get you the message. If he is all you think about, you should just go for it! You have to know if he was serious when he said he would definately ask you out if he wasn't taken, or if he was just being nice. It sounds as if you are a tomboy, but just really starting to notice guys in a different way besides joking with them and beating them up. Sometimes, it can be really hard to figure out how to act because you think you have to change your whole personality. the truth is, you don't. Sometimes guys like you, and sometimes they don't. If you keep track of the type of girl he is interested in, you can take some style tips from them, but I wouldn't try to change your whole personality around.
hey im 17
theres this guy i reali like , and we meet up and havve sex, i no its not right blah blah, but he turned around and said to me this morning he want to make sure he cums in me , he never used protection, which i totally dont argree but i still shag him, he tld me that he wants a kid because its the only way he wil stop him frm getting into troble, so i think hes just having sex wit me to get pregnant , but im no where ready to have a kid, if been thinking about it but no im 17 i just want to settle down , im not even with this lad, i dont no what to say to him? if i say no then i think im going to lose him or hes going to have sex with someone ? i realy want to be with him , i just keep thinking to myself if i keep havin sex with him that he will get with me but i done no .
It doesn't make any sense to have a kid so the kid can make your life better, and you are already supposed to be responsable before you have a kid. This guy wants to have a kid for his own selfish reasons, and apparently it doesn't matter who the mother is. Do you really want your child to have a father like that? He doesn't make you feel confident now, so he never will. The only thing that will happen is you will be pregnant and still wondering if he is havings sex with someone else, and then you'll be wondering who he is having sex with and you can't even leave the house to try to bust him because the baby is there. It will not make him fall in love with you, and the best you can hope for with him is to be the girl he knows he can have sex with.
Your only option is to protect yourself. Your inner instinct is stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you know exactly what is going to happen. Stop thinking about the here and now and start thinking about the future. You know this will not work out well for you, but you think you love this guy enough that if he would just love you back you would have his baby. You kind of have even thought about having a baby before this and it seems kind of cool. You get to buy the kid cute clothes. It is gonna love you so much. You are never going to raise it like your parents raised you. If you have his kid, it will mean the two of you will always have some sort of connection. This is all wrong-way-thinking. The two of you will always have a connection, all right, and you'll be wondering what the hell you ever saw in him. You will resent him, he will resent you. It will not be good.
hello. im 16 years old, turning 17 after 1 month and couple of days and a female.
well if you wonder what i look like, you would notice my piercings, um black hair , dark brown eyes, almost pale skin, tall enough.
well i hate something called depression, i\'m always happy but not really from inside, i want people to help me out and tell me i\'m fine and i\'m not going to go insane well i know that part i mean i\'ll never think of suicide or something that\'s stupid no! i need to solve my problems
well first of all i tried liking my sister, i tried convincing myself that i just don\'t like her now because she is being a bitch but i lover her because she is my sister , but the truth is i can\'t just lie to myself so for the first time i\'m going to admit, i thought of murder before , i\'m not some psycho person who is gonna murder someone no i just thought of murder before and i thought of murdering my sister and that i would feel so good about it.
i have two insane parents who made me to choice between them and if i choice one of them i cant speak to the other , i choice my mom because i can drink and smoke at home, i actually love them both but i hate them also the same level both, so i dont like my mom more than my dad or something no! but my mom gives me freedom more than dad
well common factors between them is
both alcoholics , i dont care i have drinking problems myself which i\'m gonna discuss
both got caught with rolled cigs in there cig packs i wasnt shocked at all honestly just pretended to be
i live in a house, ughh i cnt even know where to start, i bet if you come over you might go deaf , you know i wish one day would pass peaceful, the o nly days that would pass p eaceful is the days i would sleep all morning of a sleeping pill
i love my brother well i loved my brother until i got to know him and i found out he is a total asshole , he is my half brother btw (mom got married three times and dad two times) active people haa??
ookay next to m y feelings and problems enough with my parents problems thats getting to me
on christmas i went to a party , i had too many drinks like all the time , i made out with a very close friend of mine and we dont speak anymore
on new years after midnight i was one year single cuz my boyfriend dumped me after midnight exactly , i was drunk and he called me, we made out in his car and i gave him a blow job (first time ever to give a blow job or see a real dick before)
on jan 8 my friend\'s birthday, whom i made out with in his bathroom , and gave him three lovebites o n his stomach but
before that (you know when u get drunk and you happen to tell someone , something that is bothering you well, it happened with me but with the wrong bitch) i told this gurl what i did with ma ex because i felt guilty and she told everyone , when i was making out with the guy in the bathroom, he asked me to give him a blowjob , well me being stupid thought he was just asking but then i got it, after i found out everyone is been talking (didnt give him the blowjob because he is an asshole )
after the party , my bestfrined wasnt speak to me from new years event , and i totally broke in tears infront of him, (drunkkkkk btw i never cry infront of people or i never cry ever) and i punched the wall that made my little finger bone go above the other one , and the operation is gonna cost my mom 3000$
i lost my ipod, 50$, make up bag and my friend\'s phone (the make up bag and 50 $ dont matter but i lost them ) i dont remember how and when?
i always say i\'ll stop but next day i drink
im drinking everyday, i got a d- on my math exam because i had a hang over and for sure the night before i didnt study
on nov 21 i said \"i\'ll stop weed\" i did but on new years and jan 8 and 2 , i smoked up
i cant get professional help because my mom thinks its totally fine, its a teenage time and laughs about it , she thinks its normal
please anyone tell me something useful, ive been helping alot of people on this website but i cant help my own
First, you should give yourself a huge pat on the back for making it this far with parents who use you as a pawn in their hateful games. I'm sure that the separation and making you decide between them was just one more thing in a long line of drama that has probably been going on since before you can remember.
1. You are perfectly sane, and much stronger than you give yourself credit for. It seems as if almost every day you are faced with some sort of a struggle, so you wouldn't be normal if you weren't depressed. In fact, you are more than sane, you are a damn survivor, girl.
2. Every person has thought about murdering someone else before in their lives, or at the very least, sincerely wish that someone they hate would just drop dead. Another bit of proof you are totally sane.
3. The friend you made out with on Christmas, I don't know if it was a he or a she, but if you want to still be friends with this person, you should imagine that they are feeling exactly the same way you are, which is confused. A kiss is important, but it's not something life-changing. You don't know if this person has stopped talking to you because they really have feelings for you and they don't know what to do, or if they think you don't want to talk to them, or any number of things. If you think it's worth the effort, just open up the lines of communication, express how you feel about things, and see what they have to say. The worse that can happen is you will not talk, anymore, which is what is going on now, so you have nothing to lose.
4. Don't beat yourself up about your ex and what happened. It sounds as if you have had a lot of feelings for him for a really long time, so you decided to take things to the next level. It seems like the worst part of the whole thing is the friend that you trusted went around telling your business. What goes around, comes around, and maybe it doesn't happen right away, but now everyone may know about your private business, but they also know not to trust this person. One day it will definately happen to them. Besides, it might be embarrassing to you, but I'll be willing to bet people aren't judging you too harshly about it because you and your ex have a history together.
5. Good for you for getting through one of the first tests of a reputation with flying colors! This guy in the bathroom gave it a shot because he heard a rumor about you, and you showed that you have the self-respect to be strong. If anything, that whole situation was good for you, because you just proved that you are not the kind of girl who is going to settle for anything less than true feelings when it comes to sex. You proved to that guy, and everyone who knows what happened that you cared about your ex, which is why you did what you did.
6. If you apply for free care at the local hospital there is a very good chance you will get the operation for free.
Now... As far as the drinking and the weed...If both of your parents have addiction problems there is a good chance that you are genetically predisposed to having a problem, yourself. Both of these drugs are depressants, which you need like you need another hole in the head. It is unreasonable for me to tell you to just stop, because it is a lot harder than that, and you have already told yourself this, anyways. Your mom is wrong, normal teenagers don't drink everyday, and I hope that if you can't stop you will get help to stop. Yo don't seem as out of control with the weed, but please, talk to someone, even a school counselor, about the drinking. You don't have to commit to stopping if you don't really want to, but just talk to someone. And besides, you aren't exactly the best decision-maker when under the influence, but then again, nobody is. It seems like you are at a real turning point in your life, right now. you feel let down by your family, so you are searching around for your love and acceptance in other places. Just remember, the people who really love you are those who are gonna tell you those hard things you don't want to hear because they can't sit back and watch you screw up. If you are mad at your brother because he gave you crap about some of the decisions you have been making lately, you need to try to work it out. If your best friend is angry with you because he doesn't want to see you doing things to hurt yourself, you need to work it out with him, too. I will be sending you lots of good wishes.