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hey im 17
theres this guy i reali like , and we meet up and havve sex, i no its not right blah blah, but he turned around and said to me this morning he want to make sure he cums in me , he never used protection, which i totally dont argree but i still shag him, he tld me that he wants a kid because its the only way he wil stop him frm getting into troble, so i think hes just having sex wit me to get pregnant , but im no where ready to have a kid, if been thinking about it but no im 17 i just want to settle down , im not even with this lad, i dont no what to say to him? if i say no then i think im going to lose him or hes going to have sex with someone ? i realy want to be with him , i just keep thinking to myself if i keep havin sex with him that he will get with me but i done no .
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GIRL HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND.. I am 15 years old and i believe that you happen to be the dumbest girl on this effin planet..first off if you still spell "really" like "reali" then i do not believe that you are mature enough to have a child let alone have sex. YOU NEED TO STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX. You're not with this boy...you probley dont even know what STDs this boy has... HE IS NEVER GOING TO GET WITH YOU IF HE KNOWS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO GIVE IT UP EVEN THOUGH HE HAS YET TO BECOME YOUR BOYFRIEND. basicaly why should he buy the milk when he can have the cow for free!
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It doesn't make any sense to have a kid so the kid can make your life better, and you are already supposed to be responsable before you have a kid. This guy wants to have a kid for his own selfish reasons, and apparently it doesn't matter who the mother is. Do you really want your child to have a father like that? He doesn't make you feel confident now, so he never will. The only thing that will happen is you will be pregnant and still wondering if he is havings sex with someone else, and then you'll be wondering who he is having sex with and you can't even leave the house to try to bust him because the baby is there. It will not make him fall in love with you, and the best you can hope for with him is to be the girl he knows he can have sex with.
Your only option is to protect yourself. Your inner instinct is stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you know exactly what is going to happen. Stop thinking about the here and now and start thinking about the future. You know this will not work out well for you, but you think you love this guy enough that if he would just love you back you would have his baby. You kind of have even thought about having a baby before this and it seems kind of cool. You get to buy the kid cute clothes. It is gonna love you so much. You are never going to raise it like your parents raised you. If you have his kid, it will mean the two of you will always have some sort of connection. This is all wrong-way-thinking. The two of you will always have a connection, all right, and you'll be wondering what the hell you ever saw in him. You will resent him, he will resent you. It will not be good.
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This guy has blatantly told you that he wants a baby to save himself, which isn't very smart.
I know you like the guy, but you're going to have to be strong and bow out quietly. He's not interested in a relationship, or he would have tried to work one out with you in the beginning.
I suggest that you stop having sex with him, because you've said you don't want a baby and that you're way too young to have one.
If you want a boyfriend, then find someone who isn't just trying to get your pregnant and actually cares about you.
Besides, relationships shouldn't be founded on physical stuff. They should be formed on trust and character and interest before anything. You need to be strong enough to handle the situation and to get out of it before something you regret happens and if he has sex with someone else, well it'll be them that has the kid not you!!
The longer that you stay around this guy the more likely that you're going to have a kid and the worse your emotional ties to him gets. Sorry, but some guys just aren't the relationship type, and he seems to be that way.
Be careful. Good luck!
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He will NOT get with you if keep fucking him.
HE will TRY to be with you if you has his baby, because for some really fucked up reason he has decided that a baby can fix his problems for him.
Of course, the baby wont fix his problems. He'll keep getting into trouble. He'll realize that he barely knew you when you started to have sex. You'll resent him for saddling you with a child you weren't ready for and then flaking out himself...
I don't have a crystal ball hun, but we both know that is the most likely senario by far.
You can't loose him cause you don't even HAVE him in the first place! The only women who is going to have him at all is the one he knocks up! And frankly, I wouldn't be envying her a jot.
Stop having sex with him. He doesn't want what you want. This isn't a relationship. He doesn't like you, he likes your ovaries.
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