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well first off my name is Dashae. I am 15 years old I was born in the UK lived there until I was 8 then I moved to California. Right now I am in texas and I am loving it..lol I am know around town for my unique way of talking...i am very good at giving advice and I love it toooooo...so dont be shy and ask me anything...at all I will answer them no matter what...:+)
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Location: UK and California
Age: 15
Member Since: March 18, 2008
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Last Update: August 3, 2011
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15/m i'm in high school and i want to know what girls like in a guy. like what kind of traits, and also, how do i start a conversation with a girl i like. please help! :) (link)
At this age most girls want the cool quiet mystery guy. Thats what I always went for. I mean just be yourself. I know I know everyone says that, but honestly do. Dont put youself to much out there though


What is that piercing called when it's right above your lip off to the side (kinda where Marilyn Monroe had a beauty mark)? (link)
The monroe piercing.


If i have thrush and have sex with my boyfriend, is it possible that he will get it? (link)
yes yes yes...


hey im 17

theres this guy i reali like , and we meet up and havve sex, i no its not right blah blah, but he turned around and said to me this morning he want to make sure he cums in me , he never used protection, which i totally dont argree but i still shag him, he tld me that he wants a kid because its the only way he wil stop him frm getting into troble, so i think hes just having sex wit me to get pregnant , but im no where ready to have a kid, if been thinking about it but no im 17 i just want to settle down , im not even with this lad, i dont no what to say to him? if i say no then i think im going to lose him or hes going to have sex with someone ? i realy want to be with him , i just keep thinking to myself if i keep havin sex with him that he will get with me but i done no . (link)
GIRL HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND.. I am 15 years old and i believe that you happen to be the dumbest girl on this effin planet..first off if you still spell "really" like "reali" then i do not believe that you are mature enough to have a child let alone have sex. YOU NEED TO STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX. You're not with this boy...you probley dont even know what STDs this boy has... HE IS NEVER GOING TO GET WITH YOU IF HE KNOWS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO GIVE IT UP EVEN THOUGH HE HAS YET TO BECOME YOUR BOYFRIEND. basicaly why should he buy the milk when he can have the cow for free!


My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We were best friends all during high school, and thouht maybe we should give it a shot & got together. well the begining of the relationship was amazing. he made me feel like i was the only girl in the world who could ever feel like this, until one day he got so mad he hit me. not in the face or where it would show. It was on my thiegh. I tried to look past it, but he just kept hitting me. It started out only when he got mad & we were arguing, but then it started to be an everyday thing. if i was "driving wrong" he would hit me, or i "said something stupid" he would hit me. then he stopped cause my family found out. but, he started again a few months later. i always ask him why he feels like he needs to hit me, why cant he jus express his anger to me in a different way. I want to know what to do. Im so lost. I love him so much, & i know that this relationship could work, i jus dont know what to say to him. Please,, i need some help. (link)
My Best advice is to LEAVE get out now.
But if your not going to listen to that then i advice you to threaten him with a cop call or something. Let him know that you love him but if he is going to continue to hit you that you are going to report HIM. Also hit him back let him know how it feels. Or threaten to leave him let him know that you love him but you can leave anytime if he continues to hit you. DO NOT LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HIM NO MATTER WHAT. Because this will only make him think that no matter what he does that you will stay with him. again I SUGGEST YOU GET OUT NOW. THIS IS NOT LOVE IF SOMEONE IS HITTING YOU. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF BE A STRONG WOMAN. I PERSONALLY WILL BE DANMED IF A MAN EVER PUT HIS HANDS ON ME. I WOULD RATHER DIE TRYING TO KICK HIS ASS THEN LET HIM JUST BEAT ME. BUT IM ONLY 15!:0 GOOD LOOK AND AGIAN IF ANYTHING GETS OUT OF HAND..CALL 911 AS SOON AS POSSIBLE MY FRIENDS MOTHER DIED BECAUSE HER DAD!BE CAREFUL


I have been going to a therapist for a while now and she always says that i show signs of someone who was molested and she really thinks that i was. I do not remember ever being molested, but i just finished reading The Perks of Being a Wallflower. AT the end the main character realizes that his aunt used to molest him, i know that it is only a fictional book but everything in this book was like exactly everything that i am going through. And i guess basically i am just asking if someone knew how to explain to me that someone could forget that they were molested, or if that happens in real life besides just books? or if there is some disorder that makes you like block out a painful memory or something. (link)
your body blocks out harmful memorys and yes it is possible you were molested and didnt know...


Ok I really really REALLY want an emo boyfriend but how do I get them 2 notice me, I'm already emo but its just I don't know how 2 talk 2 one and they don't come 2 me so how do I get them 2 come 2 me if I'm alreadly emo (link)
blah blah blah those other two answers...I know what you want..you want an emo boyfriend cause well they're effin hot I know i wanted one for a while..and just for the other people who answered this question emo mean emotional you dont have to cut yourself to be emo...so my opinion is if you have a myspace or something just find emo guys on there and just start talking to them like Im really bored so I thought I chat with you for a while since you on line then get there number start texting meet up somewhere with somefriends meet some of his friends and there you have it emos lineing up for you...hope i helped
15/f


Is it true guys think about sex every 7 seconds?

haha i never thought about asking this but now that someone mentioned it ..... (link)
ugh i hope not that would just be wierd...hahahah


I was playing Guitar Hero (Legends of Rock) the other day, and I really liked the song that was playing in the background on the main menu screen. It wasn't 'paint it black', but the other one. Does anybody know the name of the song?
Thanks! (link)
okay they play like every song on the main menu...why dont you just go throw the list and see what song it was


What are some signs that a guy really likes you, for you, and not just what you have? (link)
he looks in you in your eyes...doent care what you were and...well isnt always checking you out or trying to grab you he really wants to know you for you and...it should just come naturaly


Okay so my boyfriend and I dry hump or whatever. And we realized that he might actually go in me a little bit so that might be bad...But he wears boxers and bball shorts, and i wear nothing. Weve done that before and I have continued to get my period so I believe its okay as long as you dont do it for too long.... And well we did that in the hottub the other night and i had nothing on and he had his swimsuit (mesh and then fabric) and we didnt do it for that long, so how bad can that be?

should we stop? or is there a safer way to do that same thing but not using a condom, maybe something else? (link)
I use to do that with my ex but I had clothes on..well I would keep bottoms on or use a condom to be safe...just in case..


are Chris Brown and Jordin Sparks are they dating?

i've heard they are.. but im not sure.


summer :] (link)
this is not true chris is single but dating around with ex girlfriends that he can trust and used to be with jordan and chris are not dating...


whats up im stephanie and im 15 going on 16 years old i have a boyfriend and he'z 16.We only been goin out 4 bout a week now..we kiss hold handz ect. but no real feelingz now..im new in town so i really dont know him but when he asked me out i said yes simply cuz i think hez cute..all my friendz say he will cheat on you and he had sex with all these diffrent girls..when i see him i think his sweet and innocent but since im hispanic and hez african american alot of african american girls dont like me simply because i go out with a black boy..i sat down and talked to him about all the rumors about him and he explained to me he is not like dat 4 sum strange reason i truley believe him!!! i neva see him talkin to anotha girl or flirtin with someone else and he isnt tell you da truth dat sexual around me..plzzzz some one help me am i juzz blid or maybe he changed and i cud juzz give him a chance (link)
well Im 15 and Im african American and I only go out with hispanics or white boys and yes alot of people have a prob with it...there is no relationship if there is no trust...either you learn to trust him or you not trust him at all andget ready for the realationship to go down the drain if he tells you he didnt and you believe it thats all that matters..a realationship is between two people..not two people plus all your friends....just keep that in mind..he could be telling the truth or he could be lying


so this guy was fingering me a few days ago, but i do not know if it was fingering.

it was on the outside, like he never actually stuck his finger IN there. so he was like fingering me on the outside of where the hole is. so is that considered being fingered?

also, he pretty much ....... could not find the hole. like his finger was moving to different places but like he could not find the hole. why couldn't he?

it also hurt when he did start poking at the hole area, and when he [barely] tried to put his finger in. why did it hurt?
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well you could be infected with something causing you t be really sensitive down there...other than that it might be because you are a virgin...


So my friend wants me to give him head, and i want to and all, It's just I'm not quite sure how.
I know that you like basically get down on your knees, hold it with one hand and stick it in your mouth, but it would be great if someone could just clear this up a bit for me. :]
thanx. :] (link)
well if you are sure here are some tips

the head of the penis
like from the balls up then get to the head and vibrate you tongue there..it will drive him crazy...but again you could get an STD


Ok... It all started a year ago when I moved here. I knew this girl from Winter League Basketball. She didn't really talk 2 me but I really didn't care.. Now this year every time she wants something she will come 2 me and ask but otherwise, she never talks 2 me as if I were her worst enemy.. So just the other day she called me a bitch and said that I talk bout evry1 behind there back.. Wut should I do? (link)
If people are going to be comeing up to you and telling you stuff the best line to say is...Im not afraid of ne one here so if I have something to say about you or to you I will say it to your face and not behind you back...and the person who told you that is probley just as fake as that lie...




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