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Why am I so unpopular?
14/f
So I don't obsess over being popular and everything, but I've begun to realize that I don't really have a social life.... Like I have sleepovers and go to the mall, but really only with my best friend. I do have a lot of friends, but we never hang out. I was on Facebook awhile ago and I was looking at this really popular girl's pictures, and a lot of pictures were of her at house parties and big sleepover parties. I realized the last time I went to a party was... well I think a birthday party when I was 12. That's really sad. So I'm not saying I want to be all popular and have tons of parties, but I would like to be with more friends and everything instead of sitting at home playing on the computer. Help please?
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I know exactly what you mean. It use to be like that with me. I have a lot of friends but we didn't really hang out that much outside of school. I just brought up stuff like, "you know, we all need to hang out sometime" So once I started talking about it we all met up at the movies. I also go to the mall with some of them. So bring it up and invite them somewhere. If you have a pool, you can have a pool party sometime when the weather is nice or some sleepovers. Just invite them and they will probably show up unless they are doing something else. Just try and pick a good day for all of you, or most of you. Good luck!
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i think the best way to make good friends better is to just invite them somewhere first. maybe they are too shy to make the first move. maybe have a small party or go shopping but invite someone else in addition to your best friend. sometimes friendships just happen, but most of the time you have to start them or at least meet the other person half way. also, school dances are a good way to make friends. if you dont like clubs, that isnt the only way. common intrests help, but that isnt always the key. also, you can ask your best friend if she has some other close friends she could introduce to you or invite to hang out with you two. things may seem hopeless, but in a few months to a year you will see hopefully see your friendships have grown and be more content with your social life. hope i helped<3
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Most of the time an active social life comes from organized activities after school. If you look into some of the stuff going on, you will find a group of people who seem to be the kind of people you want to get to know a little better. Cheerleading is always a real popular one for girls, but it takes a lot of dedication and work. Yearbook committees and dance committees, drama groups. The more people you are around, and the more you put yourself out there, the more you will wish you had some quiet time to yourself!
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Your going to have to break out of your shell . Talk to everyone , ask people what they are doing on the weekend and stuff like that . Being so called " un " popular can sometimes be a good thing . Alot of " well known " people are always getting in to drama . but always stay true to yourself .
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