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Q: my cats name is jack...and he drools...alot...is that normal?

My cat drooled because her teeth hurt. Maybe try giving Jack some soft food?

Q: I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship.

Sure it's possible to fall in love at 14, but it's a different kind of love than what a more mature person would feel. You're probably thinking about how you feel about the person, rather than what you would do for the person. That's okay, you're still fairly naive. But don't think there is no point to having a relationship. The point of dating is to try being with different kinds of people, so you know exactly what you want in a relationship. You will have many boyfriends over the years, and fourteen is a perfectly fine age to start.

Q: R.I.P Pope John Paul II Karol Wojtyla

Now that he has passed away, how does everyone feel? What do you think is gonna happen? Is the world really gonna come to an end? - xglam0urx

*looks around*

Well everything SEEMS normal. I don't hear any angels blowing on horns. I feel just like I always have.

Sorry to break it to you, but The Pope is just a human. A human with a pretty hat, yes, but still a human.

edit: You asked for opinions. I gave you one. If you want people to agree with you, don't ask their opinions. Then you will never know what they think and you'll go on peacefully believing that they agree with you. Don't give people a low rating because you don't like their opinions.

Q: Hey...I'm 15/f and I've had my period for a year and about 4 months now...I'm worried because I didn't have it for March...I haven't had sex but what if there was sperm on the toilet seat or something? Someone please give me hope! I RATE!

You're just being paranoid. I get that a lot. But relax. Air kills sperm! Isn't that cool? So there's no way you could possibly be pregnant. You're period's probably off because a)you haven't had it for very long and b)February is a short month.

Q:
OK... I have been with this guy for a while, we have been together for a year, and we are both head over heels in love with each other. Now, he moved here 2 years ago trying to get away from his past...because he wanted to change himself, make himself better and he definitly has. But my parents dont like the fact that he is half black and hate his past. I think they will kick me out of the house if they find out we are talking again. But I love him... What do I do? I dont want to lose the best thing thats ever happened to me... I just turned 18, and I am off to college in a few months, but my parents say they will have someone follow me.

Follow your heart. Your parents have no right to tell you who you can love. And go to the police. They can't threaten to stalk you, that simply isn't right.

Q: okay so I've been dating this guy for like well 2 weeks and i care for him with all my heart! and i think it might even b love! and i kno that he feels the same way i mean he tells me everyday how much he cares for me and stuff so im hoping he means it! well today my best friend just told me a bunch of stuff that i think is totally wrong about my bf like that he does drugs! and that he still is in love with his X! and ive talked to him about all this b4 and he told me that he would never do drugs and he loves me more that n e one! but then again most guys would say that right? so please help me! i dont know who to beleive

Two weeks? And you think it's love? How old are you? I say believe your best friend. She has no reason to lie to you, however, he has what he thinks is a very good reason to lie to you: he wants sex.

Q: well i think im really in love and at the movies this guy that i'm gong out with touched my boobS and i think it was by acident. but than he did it again but he sqizzed them and .. i liked it . than he touched my pussy... and when i say this i mean he went into my pants and fingerd me during a movie than we started making out. He soon took me out of the movie and we had sex. i'm 13!
i'm a A/B student i have lots of freinds and i'm a good girl. (When this happined 3 weeks ago, i hadn't even had my 1st kiss yett... so that made it ever weirdr)
wut should i do?

You gave into your very human, very natural base urges. I don't think you're in love. It's just sex, it doesn't really matter. How old is this guy? If he is 18 or older, he raped you, even if you technically consented. The whole situation is very serious. Go to a doctor to get checked for pregnancy and STDs, and if he is over 18 you need to tell someone right away. Don't love this guy. He has probably done this with a million other girls; all the more reason you should be concerned about diseases.

Q: I heard that when a girl masterbates, she sticks things up her vagina. Like what? I dont really understand that.

Well, yeah. What else are we supposed to do? Usually it's fingers, but that gets real boring real fast. I wouldn't use anything like knives (OW!) or pencils (too small, could get stuck), but telephones, remote controls, and empty bottles are usually pretty good. The reason is because we have this part called the clitoris, or clit, which is very tiny but has a huge influence over sexual stimulation. In fact, it's pretty much the key to satisfaction in a female. It's very sensitive and sometimes takes a little variety to please.

Q: oh well my friend has this really great boyfriend. and i think i might be jelous..but i dont know. she knows that i thinks hes cute/hot and i promised her i would never go out with him jsut for her. but im knida jelouse of her. what can i do? thanks!

It's normal to be jealous, especially if she talks about him all the time. But there are plenty more guys that will like YOU, and she will be the jealous one ;) But don't let a guy ruin your friendship, I've done that and it sucks. Focus less on him and more on the available guys around you. And if you feel like you need a break from guys, focus on something else altogether. Perhaps bats, perhaps Asian gangster vampire movies. Whatever you like most. Always remember: You are alive! Take advantage of it!

Q: Hi Does anyone know any sites that have LiveJournal layouts? thanks for all your help.

There are plenty of layout communities on livejournal.

Q: hi, I am hard of hearing and very good at sign language, i was wondering anybody knows any sites on play wanted or site had bout being actore but you have dibitles and deafness

Hey! I'm a hearing ASL student. =) I looked around on livejournal for stuff, and here are some Deaf-related communities.

http://www.livejournal.com/community/signing/
http://www.livejournal.com/community/deaf/

I don't really know much about theater, but I found this website by going to Google.

http://www.zak.co.il/deaf-info/old/deaf_theaters.html

I'm also asking the people in the 'signing' community on livejournal, so check there to see what responses we get.

Good luck!

Q: I'm getting a hair straightening iron for 20 bucks. It's a ceramic ConAir with gold colored plates. Will it work as good as an expensive one, like a CHI?

No, that kind is really dangerous, especially for pregnant women and white men over age 55. It causes cancer and has been known to explode.

Q: Many religions believe that the world is going to end soon, and we are living our last days because of all the crime, hate, and everyone being open about their sexuality, what are your opinions on this?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=59

Q: Okay so im 15 f, and my parents are going to leave me and mybrother alone, he's 18, for a week this summer while they go on vacation. I want to have a party, but I know that if they find out, they'll never leave us alone again. So should I have one? What could I do so they don't find out?

Don't have a party. You'll have plenty of time for parties when you are old and wrinkly. Right now you should be concentrating on hunting dinosaurs.

Q: my cat constantly follows me and everytime i sit down she comes to sit on top of me.. i will get up andmove somewhere else but she still sits on me.. i push her away but 2 minutes later she comes up again.. i know its cute and everything but it just really annoys me sometimes.. does anyone elses cats do this.. how do you get them to stop

It's just a normal cat thing. She probably wants food, so you should feed her. Or kick her. But some people, myself included, have major problems with that sort of behavior.

Q: I have a date with a guy tonight. He's somewhat shy. I am a fairly outgoing person. I'm actualy the one who asked him to go on a date with me. I want to kiss him, but would it be alright for me to make the first move? Would that be too forward of me? Should I just wait for him to make a move on me?

Yes! Go ahead and do it! If he's that shy, he might never get around to kissing you, so it's up to you. If he decides he doesn't like a dominant woman, dump him. He's disrespectful. He should be grateful that you even acknowledge his worthless male existence.

Q: My mom and I never get along or even talk. She's just not someone I can go up to and tell things to. Well im 17 and this summer im pretty sure im going to lose my virginity when im on vacation to visit my friends. Im ready, i love him and hes the right guy, i know more than most people know, im aware of the consequences and precautions i need to take. I just dont trust condoms alone, so id like to get on the pill before becoming sexually active. I would like to tell my mom so we can set up an appointment with the gyno, but im scared that i could ever have the courage to ask her or even talk to her about sex. She's told me tons of times "If you ever have sex, use protection. And tell me." My parents trust me already, but a part of me feels like..if i told them im going to start having sex..that they may take my freedom away from me and wont let me go on vacation. I was thinking about just going to Planned Parenthood behind their backs and getting it, but because of several reasons, theres no way i can actually get away with it and do it. (Long story, but its seriously impossible at this moment.) I was also thinking about just asking to go to the gyno because of period problems. (Ive actually had problems for the past year or two that my mom knows about) But she still refuses to give me medical attention no matter what the situation is. My parents know im cautious and responsible, unlike my sister. (She lost her virginity at 13 and they could care less.) So my question is - if you were in my position and never really talked to your mom..would you talk to her about becoming sexually active and getting on the pill? I guess the only thing holding me back is not knowing how she will react. Or should i just be careful and use a condom only...and when i come back from vacation..tell her im sexually active and need to be on the pill?

I would just go to the doctor myself, without telling her. It's none of her business.

Q: I have naturally straight hair, but I like to wear it curly. I just bought my first curling iron, and I think the heat is drying my hair out. Did I buy the wrong product? Or am I just using it incorrectly?
Lour

There's certain conditioners and gels that can make your hair curly. In my opinion, you're wicked lucky. I have naturally curly hair and it's such a pain. But there's this stuff called Curl Up that you just rub into your hair and it curls. Talk to a hairdresser about it, though.

Q: I found a way cute site that sells "kawaii" clothes [asian inspired really cute] problem is i don't know how the sizing will run, it looks pretty ok. should i try buying a thing or two to see how it is then order what i really want or just put the whole order in.. its not super expensive but its just the point of it lol.. and if you have any "kawaii" sites if you can list them..thanks!

Maybe you can contact whoever owns the site and ask them about the sizing. What site is it? I love Japanese stuff. As for other sites...Robert's Anime Corner Store (online store) has some anime T-shirts, and check out www.neotokyo.biz, there's not that much clothes but lots of adorable plush toys!

Q: One of my really good guys friends leaned over and touched my boob and i am not even his girlfriend. He doesn't have one so what should i do becuase i am getting the feeling that he likes me because he is telling everone about this and i don't know what to do about him. Should i go out with him or jsut stay friends.

Him touching your boob doesn't mean he wants to go out with you. It means he doesn't respect you, or he just doesn't know any better. Explain that just because you're friends doesn't mean he can touch your body. If he keeps doing it, continue to tell him to stop. And if it gets worse, well, God gave us legs so we could kick people.

bio

Call me Molly. I'm seventeen, female, and I love shoujo anime. I'm also a Level 1 Moderator.

My categories:
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Or just general stuff. I'll try my best to answer anything.

Warning: I'm known to give sarcastic as hell answers. Sorry, I can't help it. If you have a question that I think is mind numbing and stupid, I'm going to be sarcastic. My hope is that you will realize that my negative opinion of you doesn't make you any less of a person, and you will apply this knowledge and grow up to be a well-adjusted, confident person. Rate me 1 if you wish, but please try not to take it too seriously when I do this.

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