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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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on the front/side of my neck kinda towards the bottom it feels like its kinda bein strained [its been like this for about 2 days] and it feels as if theres a little ball there, which is sore to the touch. my boyfriend said its probably swolen lymph nodes (sp?) and if its not gone in like a week i should go to the doctor. any other input on what it could be?
You have a smart boyfriend.
Now, I know I give a lot of advice about health. You need to know I am not in a medical profession. I have just had a lot of health problems, so I am familiar with a lot of symptoms.
It does sound like swollen lymph nodes. This tends to happen when you are getting sick. You are probably on the verge of a cold. Take extra vitamin c, get extra rest, drink a lot of water and juice. Because of the swollen lymph nodes, you have a warning that you will be sick. This is a good way to make sure you don't get too sick. If this does not go away in about a week, like your boyfriend said, check with a doctor. It is not likely to be anything serious, but it is always better to be on the safe side and get a doctor's opinion if symptoms don't go away.
I wasnt sure where to post this can your period color be black ever it jsut seem weird
It is just dried blood. Sometimes it dries a bit before coming out, especially during a light period, or a light day of your period. I frequently have this happen at the end of my period. It is completely normal.
Of course, if it is always black, even during a heavy period, you may want to talk to a doctor.
ok seriously my parents are trying to control my life! i hate it! there in there 50's and 50 years ago they didnt really have all the things that teens go through now...what i mean is they didnt have alot of peer presure and all that good stuff (not) anyway they think they know whats its like to be a teenager in this time period..everything they say is like something you would hear in a 50's movie. ive tried telling them they dont know whats going on in teenage world and there like yeah we know more than you think...tonight my best friend for 9 years was haveing a little party and my mom wouldnt let me go because she didnt trust the people there...there like not letting me live my life. there not letting me be a kid. i hate it. so my question is how am i supposed to deal with this? please help
I am a mom. I am 28 years old. I have a 16 year old niece whom I relate to more than the adults around me. I tell you that so you know where I am coming from. I am going to probably say things you don't like, but it is just how things are. This is a long response, and it includes how I managed to live my own life. Hopefully I will tell you things that will help as well.
So, first, until you are 18 your parents are allowed to control your life. It sucks, but it is the way things work in the United States.
I am going to guess you are either an only child or the oldest child. Parents tend to be overprotective of those children. They haven't had any other experience with parenting and they really want to do what is best. Sometimes they go overboard.
As for not having peer pressure and such in their youth, well, that is so not how it is. A person in their 50's would have been a teen in the 60's. In that time, drugs were all over. Peer pressure was just as strong then as it is now.
No, they don't know all about being a teen in this time. The main difference is technology and also that there is less community. Your parents don't know your friends' families like their parents knew their friends. So, it is harder to trust people. I would even guess, though, that their friends did drugs and such and so they are keeping you away from parties to protect you from the world they knew.
Another thing is that is is really not safe in a lot of areas to go to a party on New Year's Eve. There are a lot of stupid people in the world. Many of them are getting drunk tonight. Then they will be driving. You could be on your way home while they are. It is very dangerous.
As for sounding like a 50's movie, that is another thing about parents going overboard. Those movies and shows give an idea of a "perfect" family. Parents want the best for their kids, and this is what many think the best is supposed to be.
Ok, now here is what you need to do to help your situation:
Understand that your parents are human and only trying to do their best. Make sure they know you understand this, without going overboard yourself.
Have your parents meet your friends' parents. Then they will trust your friends more and let you do more. Knowing the other parents also makes them feel safer. If something happens to you, they know who to call. And, just so you don't worry, you should know that they will not check on you unless they are really concerned.
Make sure they know that they can talk to you about their concerns. Listen to them. Really listen. It will be a pain in the @$$ for a while, but then they will lighten up because they will trust and respect you more.
Talk to them. Let them know what is going on in your life. It doesn't have to be everything. Just enough that they feel like they are a part of your life. Then they will let you live it.
Let your parents have the phone numbers to reach a couple of your friends and their parents. Again, this is so they feel like they can check on you. The more you give them willingly, the less likely they are to use it.
Keep your grades up as best you can. Parents like this and think it means their kid is less likely to get in trouble.
Because I did these things when I was a teen, I got to live my life. If I didn't want to go to school, I just told my mom and she would drop me off at the beach. This was as long as it didn't affect my grades.
On Fridays, I almost never came home from school. I would go to a friend's house instead. I didn't come home until Monday after school. My mom knew how to find me, so she didn't worry.
I did a lot of things my mom didn't know about until I was legally not her responsibility and could tell her everything. Because I showed I could be trusted, and my friends could too, it all went unnoticed.
And remember, if all this fails, you only have to put up with it until you are 18.
This is just a curiosity question for anyone over 30. Do you care what you looked like when you were a teenager, or in your 20's (such as if you fat, thin, or your hairstyle and clothes were awful) or do you only care about what you look like now? And why do you feel this way. Thanks
I'm 28, so I guess I am not quite in the age group you are asking, but I am pretty close.
When I was a teen, I was 110 lbs at most. Now I am 185 lbs. So, yeah, I do think about how I used to look. My hair and clothes haven't changed much. I have always just worn whatever feels comfortable. I think I always will. Sure, there was a period when my hair was terrible. I think about that, but only with a laugh about the circumstances of it (it was really bad and totally my mother's fault).
I guess my main thing is my weight. I don't want to weigh as little as I did then, but I sure would like to be a bit closer to it than I currently am. I miss the attention I got. In my late teens, early twenties, I was able to get whatever I wanted on looks and charm. At least, that is how it felt. I'd like to feel that way again. Sure, I'm married and love my husband. I would just like to know that people other than him notice me as being attractive. It seems shallow, I know, but sometimes it is a nice ego boost.
whenever i change my pad or tampon at school it takes a long time and makes a lot of noise ( the crinkling paper and taking pads off)
so what are some tips on how to do this faster and quieter?
i'll take anything i can get!
HAPPY 2007.
I really don't know a way to be faster or quieter. But I do know that while it seems like it is obvious to the whole school and everyone is judging you, it just isn't like that. You are certainly not the only girl in your school who gets a period. The others probably have the same concerns. It also is probably not as noisy as you feel it is. It took me a long time to realize that. I do think tampons are quieter, and also more discreet, so I would probably stick with those at school. There are less crinkly parts to them. Other than that, just remember that every girl in your school will go through the same thing, so it really isn't something to worry about. It is certainly better than leaking through the pads and tampons (don't ask me how I know . . . )
Even though it's not quite a topic of advice-giving, shall we say, I think we should add a topic of discussion about the war...yea? Nay? Just a thought.
If someone is in need of advice about something regarding the war, I think it would be appropriate. For example, there have been questions about handling relationships with persons in the military and such, as well as handling grief due to a loved one dying overseas.
However, this is not a discussion site, so talking about outside of the realm of advice is just plain against the rules. It is something best left to other forums.
It is also important to realize that the moderators here have enough to do with keeping things friendly and safe. Bringing up discussions about war can cause some very heated arguments, which means a lot more work for the mods. Unless we all donate a good amount to create and moderate a discussion forum here, it really is just not fair to those who run this place.
I've been having chest pain since September. I told my mom about it at the end of September and we decided it was a pulled muscle and nothing to worry about. So I believed it, and after about two weeks the pain went away. Then in the beginning of November I began feeling it again. I was worried that it was something more serious, I told my mom, we decided to see if it would go away again...well it didnt. In the beginning of December I told my mom I wanted a doctors appointment to find out what was wrong and she agreed. Well it is now the end of December and still no appointment. I reminded her again in the middle of the month and she said "oh its still there?", again a couple days later with the same reaction. I've been reminding her every four days now and she still says the same thing. In the meantime, I am being more freaked out about these pains in my chest to the point where I just dont want to go to sleep anymore I'm afraid I'll never wake up! I dont know what to do to get her to schedule this appointment she either "forgets" or "doesnt have time". I would do it myself except I dont know when she'd be available to get off work so its up to her. I try telling her but she doesnt care it seems and I'm going crazy thinking I'm going to die.
So how can I get her to schedule this appointment!?
You don't. You call your regular doctor yourself on Tuesday (I am guessing they will be closed new year's day) and set an appointment. Going by your question, you seem to be old enough to be able to do this. If you get on the phone with them and they do require a parent to confirm the appointment, just put your mom on the phone right away. Since they are already on the phone, she will have to go ahead and set it up. If she tries to get out of it once she is on the phone, the doctor's office will tell her to have you come in just to be on the safe side.
Now, here is what you need to be able to describe when you go to the doctor:
Where exactly is the pain? Upper chest, middle, closer to your stomach?
What does it feel like? Burning, pressure, stabbing, pulling, tension?
On a scale of 1-10, how bad is it? One is like a tiny pin prick and 10 is the worst pain you've felt.
Does it come and go? How frequently? How long does it last?
Did you change diet, medications, or activities around the time the pain started?
I have had similar pain and it turned out to be more stomach related even though I initially felt it in my chest. There are many things that can cause pain and answering those questions can help determine what tests and treatments are needed. Write them down and make sure you know the answers. Once you are in the doctor's office, these things will slip your mind. It is just how things work.
The next thing to do is to relax. It could be getting worse because you are worried about it. I know it is almost impossible to not stress over it, but it is important to try. Once you have an appointment, remind yourself that it will be taken care of soon and you don't need to worry anymore.
Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon!
EDITED TO ADD:
The other person giving advice is right. They won't treat you without consent from a parent or guardian. But that doesn't mean you can't call to get the process started. Your mom will also realize how important it is to you if you make the call to the doctor.
what kind of birds make the best pets? im looking at small or medium birds, no large birds like parrots or anything. ive had multiple birds in the past, so i have experiance with brids.
Growing up, we usually had a cockatiel in the house. They are friendly birds. They can learn to talk. We even had one that could do a perfect imitation of a cat.
I do recommend keeping the wings clipped, though, because they do like to get out.
Advice Needed! I just wanted to drop two brief massages about two different topics.
A: I’ve been together with my girl friend from three months now and we met first time for a week and second time for ten days. The sex in the first meeting was great between us however the second time we met and slept for a while in the last days of the tenth day meeting I get to finish before her and I can’t make her satisfied because my penis shrimps before she gets done. Advice me please what to do to be best in bed? I’m 22 and she is 24.
B: The second time I met my girl friend for ten days she had a period of five days and before the period started we had sex with tablets(for vigina) protected. During her period I had sex with her without tablets unprotected and we used tablets again before her period finished. Please advice me if she can get pregnant?
A. Foreplay can go a long way to satisfying a woman. Use your hands, your mouth, a vibrator. Don't just focus on her vagina, however. Instead, caress her whole body. Gently massage her thighs as you tease her with your tongue. . . well, you get the idea. Any more from me, and this advice might get deleted for being too graphic. But the main trick is to satisfy her, or get her really close, before you even penetrate her.
B. I got pregnant about 3 days after my period. It is possible to ovulate at any time, though it is less likely to happen during a period. So, yes, it is possible she could be pregnant, but it is not likely. What tablets do you mean? Like birth control pills or something? If so, and you used them shortly after you had sex without them, chances are good she is not pregnant. In the future, please make sure to use protection every time you have sex until you are actually trying to become a parent.
iam 34 years old i have to kides after 6 years from the last pregnancy i decid to have another baby . i had my last period at october 25 i made a pregnant test at dec 8 and iam pregnant at dec14 i had bledding for 3 dayes and the doctor told mye i lost my pregnancy , but until now dec30 i didnot got my period and iam not pregnant , so what is wrong with me . iam too old to have my period again? or that is normal after what happen?
Hormones go crazy after a miscarriage. That could be the cause of the lost periods. However, it could be the other way around. You could be hitting peri-menopause and the hormone changes associated with it could have caused the miscarriage. The only way to be certain is to talk to your doctor. They will do some blood work to find out what is going on with your hormones. They may also do an ultrasound to make sure nothing is left there from the miscarriage that could be causing your periods to stop. You can also talk to your doctor about what you may need to do to get pregnant again.
Also, I just looked at the dates you put in. If you miscarried on the 14th of December, you really can't expect to get your period until at least mid to late January. I would recommend at least calling your doctor to see what you should expect, but it would be better to go in for the blood tests and such that I mentioned before. That is the best way to know for certain what is going on.
I wish you the best of luck with this.
okay today i got suspended from school for 2 days. why you may ask? well i sent an email to my math teacher saying how math sucks an math is jacked up
well they somehow figure out it was me. and they suspend me.
the thing is on friday i am supose to go to a slumber party that i really want to go to!! so how do i make my mom let me go and still pay the consequences for what i've done? i need serious help and fast she is coming home in like an hour!!!
To be honest, you messed up. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but that is how things are.
However, it is apparent you accept that there are consequences. As a mother, I think that is very important. Problem is, I'm a rather easy-going mother (and my son is only 7, so I haven't run into this problem yet), so my reaction may not be the same as your mother's.
First, does she know yet about the suspension? If not, then you have a chance to make it all work.
Here is what you do: When she gets home, tell her "Hey, mom, I need to talk to you about something important."
She will probably be very surprised, because kids rarely say that to their mothers.
Tell her "I did something stupid today and got in trouble."
Honesty is great with moms. Tell her what happened and that you know it was wrong and you feel bad. Let her know that you are willing to face the consequences. Then tell her you don't want to disappoint your friend by missing the party, besides you were looking forward to it. Tell her you will take extra consequences after the party if she will let you go. Be willing to double your grounding or whatever it is. Then, do as she says. That will even help you in future situations because she will know your word is good.
Now, she may still not let you go to the party. If that is her decision, you need to accept it and not argue. If you avoid arguing this time, and do just what you are told, that will also show your mom that you are sincere in your willingness to take the punishment. Then, next time the punishment will probably be lighter.
Now, what I want to know is how you thought they couldn't track the email to you. Unless you have an email account that has absolutely no connection to your name and you use a computer that doesn't belong to you, it can be tracked to you. If you are going to cause trouble, either make sure you don't get caught or be ready to face consequences (like not going to a party you really wanted to go to).
theres this guy i really really like. like his smile and laugh brightens my day and he has the best personality ever. you cant really say we're friends but its not like the "he doesnt even know i exist" crush cause if you said my first name he'd know who i am and say yeah he knows me. but my main problem is i'll catch him looking at me out of the corner of my eye and when i turn around to look back he'll quickly look the other way. does anyone know what this means? what are the chances of him liking me? and how can i get him to like me ? i don't know any advice with help im so confused.
HELP PLEASE.
I would say he likes you. If he is looking at you for any other reason, he won't be looking away when you look.
I would start a conversation with him. It doesn't matter what the conversation is, but it helps to have it be something that will give you an opening to ask him out. If you have a class together, talk to him about the class. Then you can see if he wants to study together for the next test. If he is on a sports team, perhaps talk to him about that (be sure you know something about it though).
Or you could just be blunt and go ask him if he wants to go out sometime. That tends to work pretty well, but it is often hard to get past nerves.
Okay, I like a boy named Bob alot. But for some reason, he doesn't seem like he likes me, as a girlfriend anyway. We talk a little bit, so I guess you could say we're friends. But I just have no idea what to do to make him like me. I'm ready to give up now but my friends keep saying I should just tell Bob how I feel. But I'm really nervous! What am I supposed to do, just go up to him and say "Hey Bob, I like you. Wanna go out?" Please help me out with this situation. Thanks
Honestly, that is exactly what you should do. It is hard, and you will be nervous. Just saying it quickly and getting it over with is probably the best thing you can do. You will likely even get a good response. It does work surprisingly well. I've ended up with a few boyfriends that way in my life. Even if he isn't interested in you as a girlfriend right now, he will probably give a date a chance just because you were upfront with him. Guys tend to react well to that. And after you've gone out, he will have had a chance to get to know you better, which is the best way to get him to like you more.
Good luck!
Do you think I overracted to this and should I have just accepted at face value she just wanted me to take the herb with water and not
wine. My mom doesnt really believe in taking herbs/vitamins I do. Tonight I took one of my herbs, but I took it with a glass of wine and
she said "You should not take it with wine, you should take it with water, you can get kidney problems." I asked her "Why did you say
kidney problems." And she said "well first of all you take it longer than they say". And I cut her off and said "But the ones I take I can
take forever, they dont have to be taken in spurts". And she said "Ok" After dinner I asked her "I am not harping but you arent telling
me I should not take the herbs." And she said "No I dont care what you take, all I am saying any 11 year old would know you never take pills with wine.""
Herbal medicines are typically not harmful, though they can counteract some medications. If you are taking a supplement, make sure your doctor is aware of that.
As for the wine, your mother is both right and wrong.
No, it won't necessarily cause kidney problems any more than if you were having the wine without the supplement.
But yes, she is right that you shouldn't take pills with alcohol. Alcohol can change the way the pills affect you. It can make them inert, or it can make them harmful. In this case, I would say it is not likely to be harmful as the supplement is herbal. If it was harmful to have alcohol with herbs, we wouldn't be able to go to italian restaurants. But it could be making them ineffective, which is not what you want when you take them.
Anyway you look at it, pills should be taken with a full glass of water. That is the safest and most effective way.
Oh, she may not accept that you take supplements because it is just not her way of doing things. It sounds like she has decided not to argue that point anymore. You will likely still get grief over it though. It will most likely be in the form of sighs and rolled eyes, as well as other "reasons" not to take them.
I really don't know what to do. A lot of guys have tried to finger me and I just can't have an orgasm, ever. I masturabte a lot and always have an orgasm by myself. I try to help the guys and show them what to do, but it doesnt even feel good at all. Do u think maybe me masturabting a lot has affected this? am i ever going to be able to have an orgasm with someone else? please help, im really worried.
There are a few things that could be going on here. Obviously, you are able to orgasm. Masturbating will not cause you to be unable to orgasm. If nothing else, it will help you to know what you like and make it easier.
Guys don't know what a woman likes. They don't have the same bodies. They try, but often not very hard. After all, getting a woman to orgasm by fingering her isn't all that much fun for the guys, so they will give up after a bit and do what they need to in order to get off. It is just human nature to take care of ourselves. So, it is very likely they aren't doing what you like.
Another thing could be nerves or tension. When you are by yourself, you can relax and enjoy what you are doing. When you are with a guy, you wonder if you are doing what he likes and if he will know what you like. You get tense. After you have had a lack of orgasm at a couple different times, you start getting tense about that all the time and that makes it even harder. So, if you are old enough, I suggest a glass of wine and a warm bath to relax you before you are with a guy.
Have you only had guys finger you? That could also be the problem. It just isn't working for you to have a guy do that. I would try toys. Vibrators, dildos, etc, are able to accomplish things that a guy's hands can't always manage.
I knew a girl who had had sex a couple times and never managed to orgasm. My (now) husband and I played with her one night. We had a little bullet shaped vibrator. She managed to wear out the batteries. Then she said "Is it always this exhausting?" So, obviously the guy she was with wasn't pleasing her nearly as much as a toy in the right hands. It is something to try, anyway.
And don't worry. You will eventually find the person who can bring you to orgasm with practically no effort at all. In the meantime, relax and try new things.
If you've seen Moulin Rouge, do you know if it was based on a true story. Like was there the "diamond dogs" and the "sparkling diamond"? And a show called "Spectacular Spectular" if you could tell me, that would be great.
It is fictional. However, there was a Toulouse LeTrec, and he was very short. He lost his legs due to illness, if I remember correctly.
Of course, there were can-can dancers and prostitutes, but there is no real historical connection to the story itself.
Of course, there is nothing to say there isn't an unrecorded incidence of a poor writer falling for a dying dancer. After all, there were a lot of those types in that time and some had to meet up at some point, right? But, not being recorded, it did not influence the movie.
How can i get on birth control with out my parents finding out? When i have sex with my boyfriend we use condoms but i just dont want to take the risk of getting pregnat.
There are a few places you can go where you do not need your parents in order to get birth control. Planned Parenthood is one of the more well-known.
However, if you do that, your parents will find out. Parents have a way of doing that. I don't know what that way is, but it is something that happens. I guess it is something like Murphy's law: What can go wrong, will go wrong.
If you get on the pill, it will be discovered. If you keep your pills in your purse so you know where they are at all times, your purse will spill in front of your father (your father because then you are more likely to be embarassed). If they are in a drawer in your bedroom, your mother will find them while putting away laundry. They don't need to be snooping, they just find things.
So, I recommend you talk to your mother about birth control. You don't need to tell her you are having sex. If she is open-minded, you can tell her it is just a precaution in case a time comes when you are ready. If she is not, tell her your period is irregular and very painful and that you saw an ad on tv about birth control pills that can help with that. Tell her the pain and such is really distracting and you think it is hurting your school work and that you would like to give the pill a try and see if it helps at all. Then, you can take them without having to hide them. Much easier that way.
If you don't feel like you can do that, then go to planned parenthood or the health department. Ask them about discreet birth control. If it will be covered, ask about Depo Provera. It is a shot. No pills to hide.
Also, no matter what birth control you get, continue to use condoms. No method is 100% effective. Combining hormonal (pill or shot) and barrier (condoms) methods is a whole lot more reliable than just one or the other.
call me a horrible mother a lready- i feel like one. but i havent been taking my prenatal vitamins. i starte dtaking them when i was a few months along, but just stopped. i honestly dont know why. but im almost 8 months along now, and i know its a little late, but i have been sooo stressed out thinking something's going to be wrong with my baby becuase i havent been taking the vitamins. someone please help me,
For a while, prenatal vitamins made me sick. I barely took them until I was ok with them. They are really just to fill in any gaps your regular diet may leave. As long as you are eating well, there will be no problems. If you are concerned, it is never too late to start taking them. Also, if you took them for a little while early on, that is when a great deal of growth is happening. You have already done a lot of good for your baby.
My concern for you, however, is not that you aren't taking vitamins. You are stressing over something small and feeling like a horrible mother. This is mainly hormones, but if those feelings persist, you are a likely candidate for post-partum depression. That is also hormonal and fairly normal, but it is something I want you to talk about with your doctor. This will help you to feel better and s/he can give you resources to go to should depression hit.
I will say, though, that I am glad you have concerns. You are already looking out for your baby, and as long as you don't stress too much (every mom stresses a lot, but too much is harmful) you will be a great mother.
Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……
For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”
And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”
Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,
And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.
I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.
It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.
What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.
Teen boys are awful. Really, they are. Ok, not all are, but at age 14, most are.
I was so much like you. In fact, I practically grew up in theater. Mostly musicals. My sense of humor is still rather odd, and I don't talk like most people around me. I actually value grammer and pronunciation. I would do anything to avoid PE. I was even glad when a bee stung my thigh right before PE once. Hurt like hell, but I got out of class. It didn't help that I was a white girl in Hawaii. I was in the minority. My best friend was picked on more than I was, however. The only real difference was that she would lash out at them when she was teased. I would just ignore it, or smile and walk away. It eventually just stopped being fun for them to tease me, while my best friend's reactions were endlessly amusing to them. It took me forever to realize I was an attractive girl because all the teasing had me convinced I wasn't (that, and the bad perm that gave me a very blonde fro).
So, the thing I learned is that you really have to act like it doesn't bother you. Sure it does, but don't let them know that. Eventually they will get bored and let up on it. And eventually they will grow up and stop acting so immature.
Also, someone else said that the guys probably like you. In some cases that is entirely possible. But it is hard to tell who does and who is just being an immature jerk. So, let them grow up and those who like you will let you know. The others will just avoid you and that will be a great relief.
I know it is hard, but it is normal for teens to pick on someone who is different, especially if they are attractive or smart or whatever at the same time as being different. That is how it was when I was your age (I'm 28 now), and when my mom was your age (she's 51), and it will be the same when you have kids.
I hav just got in to high school from my small (100 people) primary. My friends are nice but they have this sort of dark side. When ever I do well at school or sport or talk to the girls, when i come back to them the act different and more negitive around me. One day I they pissed me off so bad.
Later when I went on the in ternet a (guess what) a sex pop-up came. Being immature I clicked it. Wow i thought when it came up. I've heard of porn but not on this lv. I also visited it again but stoped because i (dunno) said this wasnt 4 me. Also when I get pissed or sad in my sleep i have dreams of sex and get an erection and allot of feelings. so thats what happens. Its wierd.... When at school things r going bad..... i think and sometimes want sex bad.......why GOD WHY!!!!
You and your friends are acting exactly like kids just going into high school. You are all hitting a very hormonal time, as well as a time when you are expected to grow up more and make decisions about your lives. There will be jealousy between friends, especially with regard to success in school and relationships (like you talking to girls). It doesn't mean they aren't your friends. They are just trying to figure out their own lives. Over time, it will all ease up a bit, but it won't go away. That is just a wierd part of growing up.
Here is what I advise: go on with your life. Continue to talk to girls and do well in school. If your friends can't take it, that is their problem. If they stop being your friends, it is their loss. It means they weren't your friends after all. But I really doubt it will come to that as long as you have patience and don't make a big issue of it. They probably don't even realize they are being jerks about it. If you feel comfortable talking to them about it, do so. But seeing as you are guys, it will probably be awkward and unnecessary (most of my friends were guys when I was a teen. I really experience more guy behavior than most girls should).
As for the sexual urges, everyone gets them. Even girls. We just don't get them as obviously (we can't get erections :P). Sex is a good way to relieve stress. Our bodies instinctively know that. When you go to sleep all stressed or upset, your body tries to help by giving you dreams of good things. It is totally normal, especially at your age.
I would avoid the internet porn though. First, if your parents ever get on your computer, that could lead to a very difficult conversation with concerned parents. Second, those things, especially the ones with pop-ups, often have viruses. You could really damage your computer. Yeah, there are some safe sites, but it is really hit or miss.
Go ahead and masterbate to alleviate the urges. It is not harmful. You will not go blind or get hair on your palms. Trust me. My eyesight is bad, but it has been since I was a little kid. I have yet to meet anyone with hairy palms, and a good amount of teens and adults masterbate.