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unable to orgasm
I really don't know what to do. A lot of guys have tried to finger me and I just can't have an orgasm, ever. I masturabte a lot and always have an orgasm by myself. I try to help the guys and show them what to do, but it doesnt even feel good at all. Do u think maybe me masturabting a lot has affected this? am i ever going to be able to have an orgasm with someone else? please help, im really worried.
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First, I just want to start off with this...87% of women are unable to orgasm through vaginal intercourse. So, you are not alone. But I would make sure that you are communicating with your partner. When he finds a spot that you enjoy let him know, ie: moaning, yes, etc. When he is pleasuring a spot that isn't working for you, gently suggest a different spot. Don't tell him that he was wrong, just point him in the right direction. I hope that this helps.
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it's harder for guys to find the right spot to touch (no matter how many times you show/tell them) then it is for you to find that special spot yourself. It's normal, promise. A lot of girls can't get off at all while being fingered period. You are fine. And I assure you it has nothing to do with the fact that you masturbate regularly.
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first off relaz. i guarantee you the problem lies in the fact that you know what you want, you know how you want it, and you know how to please yourself, but you're know damn well that the guy you're with probably doesn't. this has happened to me before. i've been with a girl and not been able to even get it up, but then when i'm with a girl i'm more comfortable with and know better and more relaxed around what happens? i'm going at it for hours. because the fact is we have to be comfortable with someone being down there on us before they'll ever be able to make us orgasm. we know what we want, and we know how to please ourselves but for others to do it it's weird and not quite right and not the same. i suggest stick with one dude get used to him, get to know him, learn who he is inside and out, and move onto the next level, and eventually lo and behold you'll have built something your comfortable with and can work with and like and you'll probably orgasm and it'll prolly be pretty good. haha
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There are a few things that could be going on here. Obviously, you are able to orgasm. Masturbating will not cause you to be unable to orgasm. If nothing else, it will help you to know what you like and make it easier.
Guys don't know what a woman likes. They don't have the same bodies. They try, but often not very hard. After all, getting a woman to orgasm by fingering her isn't all that much fun for the guys, so they will give up after a bit and do what they need to in order to get off. It is just human nature to take care of ourselves. So, it is very likely they aren't doing what you like.
Another thing could be nerves or tension. When you are by yourself, you can relax and enjoy what you are doing. When you are with a guy, you wonder if you are doing what he likes and if he will know what you like. You get tense. After you have had a lack of orgasm at a couple different times, you start getting tense about that all the time and that makes it even harder. So, if you are old enough, I suggest a glass of wine and a warm bath to relax you before you are with a guy.
Have you only had guys finger you? That could also be the problem. It just isn't working for you to have a guy do that. I would try toys. Vibrators, dildos, etc, are able to accomplish things that a guy's hands can't always manage.
I knew a girl who had had sex a couple times and never managed to orgasm. My (now) husband and I played with her one night. We had a little bullet shaped vibrator. She managed to wear out the batteries. Then she said "Is it always this exhausting?" So, obviously the guy she was with wasn't pleasing her nearly as much as a toy in the right hands. It is something to try, anyway.
And don't worry. You will eventually find the person who can bring you to orgasm with practically no effort at all. In the meantime, relax and try new things.
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Hae hunni dont worri, if your weird then i am to, a guy has only ever made me orgasim once my current boyfriend hasnt tho, i do masterbate alot like you but dont worri it doesnt affect the wae a guy pleases you, in a wae it almost helps it because you become more awear of your body what u like n dont like etc....
hope i could of helpd : )
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