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Birth Control
How can i get on birth control with out my parents finding out? When i have sex with my boyfriend we use condoms but i just dont want to take the risk of getting pregnat.
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There are a few places you can go where you do not need your parents in order to get birth control. Planned Parenthood is one of the more well-known.
However, if you do that, your parents will find out. Parents have a way of doing that. I don't know what that way is, but it is something that happens. I guess it is something like Murphy's law: What can go wrong, will go wrong.
If you get on the pill, it will be discovered. If you keep your pills in your purse so you know where they are at all times, your purse will spill in front of your father (your father because then you are more likely to be embarassed). If they are in a drawer in your bedroom, your mother will find them while putting away laundry. They don't need to be snooping, they just find things.
So, I recommend you talk to your mother about birth control. You don't need to tell her you are having sex. If she is open-minded, you can tell her it is just a precaution in case a time comes when you are ready. If she is not, tell her your period is irregular and very painful and that you saw an ad on tv about birth control pills that can help with that. Tell her the pain and such is really distracting and you think it is hurting your school work and that you would like to give the pill a try and see if it helps at all. Then, you can take them without having to hide them. Much easier that way.
If you don't feel like you can do that, then go to planned parenthood or the health department. Ask them about discreet birth control. If it will be covered, ask about Depo Provera. It is a shot. No pills to hide.
Also, no matter what birth control you get, continue to use condoms. No method is 100% effective. Combining hormonal (pill or shot) and barrier (condoms) methods is a whole lot more reliable than just one or the other.
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The health department.
You don't have to have a parent with you. You can get put on any birth control of your choice, get checked for stds, take a pregnancy test, go to a planned parenthood, or just about anything else you can think of without your parents knowing.
The only problem is getting a ride there. If your boyfriend can drive, get him to take you. If he can't find someone trusted that can.
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The health department. It's cheap (and can even be free) and your privacy is fully protected under HIPAA. A doctor, staff, or anyone is not allowed to discuss your medical information unless you sign a release form concerning situations such as birth control.
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The clinic is a good idea, and if you want extra protection make sure to:
1. Use the latex condoms with spermicide and follow the directions exactly.
2. Do not use oil-based lubricants like petroleum jelly, cold cream, butter, or mineral and vegetable oils, because they damage latex condoms.
3. Do not have sex duing your peak ovulation time, and six days before your ovulation day. If you have regular periods, then your cycle is around 28 days, and you ovulate around the middle of your cycle. Because of the great chance for error, the six day life of sperm, and irregularity of periods it is safest to avoid days 8-19. Day 1 is the day you get your period. Women are most likely to get pregnant up to six days before, during, and up to a day after ovulation. It is safest to avoid sex days 8-19.
4. You can get additional birth control over the counter, like the female condom and additional spermicide.
5. Order by mail...check the Planned Parenthood in your area to get supplies mailed to you after the initial visit for the pill or patch, or to get condoms sent to you.
6. Okay, I want you to consider telling your parents if they are reasonable people that you are considering being on birth control someday, and just see what they say. Maybe they will be for the idea and take you....maybe not, but only you can decide for sure because it is your body you are protecting.
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You will need to go to either Planned Parenthood (Family Planning in England)or to your doctors where they will advise you on taking the pill. They will be able to help you confidentially if you do not want your parents to find out.
I would also suggest that you continue to use condoms whilst also on the pill. That will ensure you are doubly protected.
All the best.
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