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i am on my period and i am going swimming with my camp tommorow do i wear a pad or what. (link)
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You need to wear a tampon, not a pad. This will prevent blood from leakig out of a wet pad and into the water.
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20 female.
So I've never been fingered until two weekends ago because i'm so self conscious about my vagina. I'm going to be honest..I feel like my labia hangs lower/is longer than normal. I didn't know if it was just me being insecure or if they really were (I think they are). Well when this guy fingered me it was fine and then all of a sudden he goes: oooooh extra long. and i was like umm what? and he didn't really say anything. So then I was so embarassed because i'm almost positive he was talking about my labia, the only thing that i'm self conscious about. But he still offered to go down on me- I didn't let him. I'm a bit embarassed to see him now because was that a turn off to him? Was that what he was even talking about? Should I be worried? I just don't know..
Do I let him do it again, he was definitely good at pleasuring me but now I'm worried to have him touch me again because of my insecurities about it! But he didn't seem too bothered by it, he just made that statement and kept going?? (link)
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Labia are like noses and ears - they vary widely and they are all normal.
Some women have inner labia that do not extend beyond the outer labia. Some women have labia that extend way below the outer labia. Some inner labia are very think, and some are very thin.
If some guy really loves you, your labia length will not matter to him. If he's put off by this he's not interested in you.
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18f.
I've had this yeast infection for probably 4 months now, it just won't go away, SO IRRITATING!
I've been to the doctor 3 times, she prescribed me medicine, didn't work. She then referred me to a gyno to look at things closer -only to tell me what i knew, it was just a yeast infection. i've been to the gyno 2 times already and the medicine still isn't working. she tells me to try it and if it doesn't go away, just come back.
But what i'm really asking is ..would it be bad for me to have sex, with a condom, while having this yeast infection? It just sucks because it's not going away no matter what they give me and i'm sick of waiting.
PLUS, my boyfriend is leaving for college in like two weeks, and obviously I wanna have sex before he goes off and leaves. It's just so frustrating, what do you guys think? Has anyone had sex with a yeast infection? Is it gross, dangerous?
Anything will be appreciated :) (link)
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Generaly yeast infections are not contagious. But, about 15% of men get itching, burning and develope a rash.
There may be an unplesant smell which may dampen the mood.
Sounds like you need some changes in your life to stop this.
There are lots of diets to stop yeast iinfections or candida online. Check them out. You might want to try some homemade cures. One of the easiest is insertion of yogurt. (Avoid the fruited kind, :-) Somewhat messy, but effective in a few days. Wear a pad while doing this.
Adding yogurt with active yogurt cultures to your diet every few days may be enough to keep the infection down.
If you and your BF don't already have a sexual relationship, I'd not start one now. College brings so many changes.
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I had a bf and we broke up. he lives in canada and I live in the us. he has a new gf and she lives in north Carolina. he basically played us both at the same time but she's talking about killing herself and I tried my best to talk her out of it. I even said that she could keep my ex bf and I'll try and keep them together even though I want him back, just so she wouldn't do anything stupid. can i be held responsible for her if she does kill herself? I kept trying to talk her out of it over and over but she wasn't convinced. I don't want to be involven anymore. I don't want the police to try and find me or anything if she goes through with it. can anything bad happen to me? I've never met her before. (link)
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No, you cannot be responsible if anything goes wrong.
How serious do you think she is? Because if you think she is serious, you need to notify the police in her town. I know that feels like betraying her, but better she feels you ratted her out than she be dead. There's a myth that people who talk about suicide, but it's not true. People who talk about it do it.
Letting the police know her get the help she needs, and keeps you from being involved any further.
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Okay, let me start off by saying that I go to a fairly small highschool so we have VERY defined social standings. And the popular group is spread out through the grades. So it's made up of freshmen, sophomores, juniors and seniors. You go to junior high wth the same people you go to high school with. Well in seventh and eighth grade I hated my life haha. I was unpopular. Not like really really nerdy but just in the "unpopular group" the average sues. The popular girls were alwasy very nice to me and it made my friends mad. My friends kind of sucked... they were always trying to find people to use or step on to claw their way to the top. But I just kind of dealed with it because I had known these girls forever... Well freshman year started and I was still average, until I caught the eye of Tyler. Tyler was probably THE most popular guy in school. Star quarter back, super cute, valedictorian, everyone liked him. I don't want to be like stuck up or anything but I knwo I'm a good looking girl, haha I mean I'm not ugly. Well we started dating in September. We dated aaall year. He's one of those guys you always dream of but never really think exist. Once I started dating him, my world changed. He was in the popular group so I started hanging out with the popular girls. They had always been nice and honestlly, I like them sooo much more than my old friends. They supported me all year and were awesome, and are still my friends even though Tyler and I broke up. I think its safe to say that Tyler and I were in love. We dated for almost a year, neither of us ever cheated, and he took my virginity at ten months. But we're young and we knew that once he went to college, a long distance relationship would be too hard and we didn't want to go through that pain. We broke up just a week ago... We're still friends, it wasn't messy at all but it still hurts ya know? Well I'm getting through it. And I still have my friends. The popular ones. I love them too haha. But see it's only been a week and already every guy has been trying to like... I don't know get with me? haha. I know none of them like me. They just wanna say they got what Tyler had. It's hard!! I don't know what to do... I don't want to start dating right away, that's not fair to Tyler and that's not fair to the new guy because I know I still have feelings for Tyler. It's also not fair to me because I know they don't like me for me... ya know what I'm saying?? I jsut don't know what to do... And my old friends think that now that Tyler and I are broken up that I'm suddenly just going to be friends with them again... But they were never friends to me. They never supported or cared about me... I'm just so confused right now. My real friends say I should just ignore all these new guys but its SOOO hard because I'm hurt right now, and lonely... I just wanna know if any of you hgave some other opinions on what I should do... I'm sixteen, gonna be sophomore. (link)
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I confess to being a little confused...
You've referred to old friends, new friends, popular friends, unpopular freinds...
Which groups of friends likes you for you? Which group cares about you and wants the best for you?
Which group did you mean when you said "real friends".
I know there are guys who want to be with you because you were with Tyler. I'm glad that you are perceptive and see right through that. Keep it up!
True friends are precious and rare. When we move around and get to know new people, there is never a need to dump other friendships. Some will die a natural death, others will taper off, but only very rarely is it necessary to sever ties and cut off a friendship.
Try and be friendly and outgoing to as many people as possible.
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15/m
This is my freshman year at my high school, how can i make more friends? i have a few close friends then about 20 other friends how can i make more? (link)
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This is a great time to banch out.
Join some clubs at school and be active in them. Working on projects with people is the best way to get to know them. Volunteer.
Run for student government - even if you loose, everyone will have learned you name.
Make a point of rememberiing people's names and using them. People love to hear their own names.
Listen to others twice as much as you talk. Draw them out, ask them opinions, ask open ended questions as opposed to Yes No questions.
DOn't ask "Did you go away thhis summer??" Do ask, "What did you do this summer?"
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Just a simple question,
I know there is an immense amount of news websites out there, but I'm looking for some (good) websites that are like BBC News.
Simple, coverage of all over the world, not just one continent and not too many videos/adverts/whatever.
If anyone has any suggestions, they'd be greatly appreciated :)
Thanks! (link)
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I also like BBC.
Check out MSNBC.
CNN.
NYTimes, Washington Post
Personally I like to read a variety of sites and see the different takes on the same issues.
FOX is simply not reliable or trustworthy, even when I agree with their position.
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I want to lose 10 pounds by august 22nd. I'm going to eat really healthy. Mainly fruits and vegetables. Yogurt will be a treat. I'm going to walk 6 miles probably 4 times a week and I have a swimming pool I swim in daily. Is that possible? Should I do more?
I'm trying to target my stomach area. Is there any swimming exercises I can do that will help that?
The walk I do is in the park and is very hilly in some points. Does that help stomach area? (link)
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Sit-ups, crunches and leg lifts will work this area.
Also, standing with legs shoulder width apart, hold a towel up over your head stretched between your hands. From that position, tilt right, stand up straight, tilt left, stand up straight, SLOWLY. This will work the muscles on the sides.
While you're in the pool do some oridinary exercises, like jumping jax, pushing against all that water will give you a good workout.
The walking and hills will work your legs and butt but is good general aerobic activity that is important for weight loss.
Can it be done? Probably, but do this at a leval you can sustain after August.
Start your mornings with the biggest glass of icewater you can get.
Good luck. :-)
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i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!! (link)
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Walk away. He doesn't want people to know you were dating him - which I can only understand as he being embarassed by that or ashamed of you. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
This is a guy to wash out of your hair and move on.
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Okay so I'm pretty skeptical about breast enhancement supplements actually working because I feel like a lot of people don't think they work but I know a lot of women who have gone on birth control and their breasts get noticeably bigger. If they use similar hormones in breast enhancement supplements as birth control than shouldn't breast enhancement supplements work too? Has anyone tried them or know someone who has? They're pretty expensive to try if they don't work (link)
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There is little or no evidence that breast enlargement products work. And if they work, there is no evidence they are safe.
There is a good discussion of frequent ingredients (mosty herbal) at: about.com under
alternative medicine. Many ingredents are herbs that have been used to increase milk production in nursing mothers for centuries...not exaclty the change you're lookiing for.
You breast size was determined by your genetic mix before you were born.
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Hello, my name is Avalon Hendricks and I am nineteen years old. About a month ago, I visited a dating website and I came across a beautiful girl. I was never attracted to females nor did I ever doubt my sexuality. We have not met yet, since I am leaving to college in a week, I will have to meet her when I come back home.
I lost my mother when I was sixteen years old. She died at a very young age. When I was less then a year old, she left her children and decided drugs were way too important.
Growing up, I always looked up to olderly women, my teachers etc. I was craving for a mother figure, someone that can give me motherly advice and be there for me. Now, I am really interested in this girl. She is 23 and she is very unique. I have been trying to get to know her through text messaging but it is like pulling teeth to get her to open up to me. I am falling head over heals for her. I need some help. I don't know if I am really a lesbian, or I am in search for a mother figure in my life? (link)
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Hi, Avalon!
Basically, you have lived almost all of your life wihtout a mother. That will have a whole lot to influence on anyone. Not having a parent, is serious, but for a daughter, not having a mom is major, no matter how wonderful your father was.
So, here you are, a young adult with this huge craving, 18 years worth of craving, to have a mother. That leaves you very susceptable. Anything that looks, feels, smells or hints of "Mother love" will attract you.
Add to that your growing sexuality, the inherent beauty of a woman's body, you are a powder keg just waiting to be ignited.
Take your sweet time, and college will make that easy to do this. At college there is probably counseling for free or a little, I suggest you seek some help here and talk about all of this, once you have found a counselor you are comfortable with.
The loss or lack of a mother can awaken homosexual interests in women. I know a woman who started to have lesbian dreams upon the death of her mothe. She was quite troubled by them until it was explained to her that this was not uncommon.
You don't need to mack a decision about your sexuality anytime soon. You are still very young and a whole lot of life awaits!
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I im 12 and i have all the symptoms that im gonna start my first period but i haven't! please help me. (link)
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OK, this can be complicated. The average age is different in every country and culture,race and season of the year. The average age changes, in the US is has been getting lower, so don't compare yourself to you mom, aunts or older sisters or people in history.
And the average age varies with whose research you are reading. Different methods of collecting information are used, different people may have been included or excluded. People are not reliable in remembering when they started.
So, from a number of different current sources (Research has been done within 5 years) I have gotten:
12.8 years
13.9 years
11.7 years
12.45 years
12.5 years
So... you are quite normal where you are, and still will be a year or more from now.
Does that help?
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So I am in a relationship with a man that I really treasure and don't want to lose. We met in January, and we started out as friends with benefits but quickly became best friends and fell hard for each other.
My concern is that I've had a bit of a past, ie I've slept around. I've changed now, and I'm not sure if my boyfriend knows about my past or the extent of it, we never talked about it before. My question is should I tell him? In case he doesn't know, I don't want guys from school telling him that I've slept around, and then him to hold it against me. I want to know that he accepts me regardless of my past. I don't want it to come up in the future of our relationship, I want him to know that yes I do come with a not so likable past. So do I tell him? Or just hope he already knows?
Thanks, 19/f (link)
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You are right to tell him.
He has a right to know you have had previous sexual partners. He does not need to know exactly how many, who, or what you did.
He needs to know that you have been screened for STDs, even if you used condoms. He needs to know you have stopped having sex with other people.
He needs some time to get this into his head.
Some men can take it in stride, and some cannot.
If, after a little while, this news makes you a second class person in his life, if he thinks of you as less than you were before, takes digs at you, if he brings it up all the time or can't stop thinking about it, be cautious. You deserve to be aa fully loved as before, and don't settle for less.
I know this is scary, thinking that this could be a make-or-break situation in your relationship, but it's far better to find that out than 5 years and 1 child down the road. This will be character revealing, and really, you are better off knowing what kind of man he really is now.
Even if he already knows, the two of you need to talk this over.
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Sounds like he knows the basics. How is he dealing with that?
I don't think you need to enumberate your past partners or compare notes with him and see who has been more active. That kind of information can be really destructive. Is he wanting more information?
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ive been eating very little for the past two weeks and i reached my weight loss plateau. even though i never cheat and do not eat neough to gain weight i still have managed to stay at the same weight !!how do i fix this? (link)
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There's only factors to work with...
If we don't eat food, our bodies figure a famine is on the way, and so our metabloism slows down to conserve energy and keep us alive.
So... keep eating, but eat foods low in fat or sugar and avoid hydrogenated oils. Veggies are great, smoothies, whole grains listed first on the ingredents list.
Eat less meat. I'm a big meat fan, but the fact is, if you eat x number ofo calories or veggies and grain and x number on calories, your body will gain more weight on meat. Look for high bulk foods that your body keeps working on for a long time - beans, celery, nuts, oatmeal, not instant, eat the skins on fruit and veggies. Eat the fruit, don't drink the juice.
Increase the calories you burn. I don't know
your current level of activity, but whatever it is, increase it. Park far away in parking lots, lift some weights, do some exercises, use one of those computer dance/exercise things.
Increase your water intake, and cut out pop and fruit juice, icluding diet pop - it keeps us gettting that sweet taste and makes it easier for us to cheat.
Good luck!
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i shaved my eye brows and the top right corener has no hair and my left does what do i do (link)
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Do not trim the left one to match!
Use eyebrow pencil and/or eye make up to fill in the missing hair. You may have to experiment a bit with colors and products, so be patient. Your bow may gow back in, only time will tell.
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so im 17 and my bf is 21 i thought i would end up having a happy life with hin but 4weeks ago he got arrested and he told me it was because he violated probation. even though he was locked up he called me every day and he asked me would i wait for him and i said i will because he is my future husband. so one day i wanted to see his mug shot so i googled his name and i found out the real reason why he was locked up was because he's a drug dealer.... now im feeling like i dont really know him any more and is this what i really want in my life. he dont know that i know the real reason why he's locked up im just waiting till he gets out to confront him. should i try to help him change or should i move on. i really dont want to leave him. i love him soooo much. (link)
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I know this is not what you want to hear, but now is the best time to walk away. While you still can.
There is no "his side of the story" to hear. He broke the law once, was given a break, and couldn't stick by those rules.
How well do you imagine he will abide by other "rules" of adult life, like stay faithful to a wife?
The numbers of women who are in prison because of their boyfriend's or husband's drug dealings has risen dramatically. And those women don't know other people in the drug deals or have information to give, so they get labled "uncooperative" and get longer sentences.
Stay with him, and you will have heartache and troubles as long as you live.
Again, I know how much you love him and how much you hurt and how much you don't want to hear any of this, but please thik about yourself. You deserve better.
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I just turned 18 and i've never had a boyfriend.. i've had casual hook ups/kissed guys but its so pointless unless you actually like the person. even though i try to go out with a positive attitude/smile on my face in clubs my friends seem to get approached more by guys and have more opportunities to meet them than i do.. this starts to fuck with your self esteem after a while and u lose confidence around boys, and ive questioned if there's something wrong with me.. alot my friends have said they don't understand why i don't get any guys because they say i'm attractive and outgoing/genuine person.. (just so you know im not a dropkick and thats not the reason why im still single). im also a bit of an 'all or nothing' person.. there seems to be so many dropkick guys out there... and not enough of the good ones.. and when the good ones do come along.. they dont seem to be interested.. or i just act really awkward around the ones i like.. its like a lose lose situation with me gaaah.. any advice.. or do you know why i don't seem to attract many of the RIGHT guys, while alot of my friends do ? (link)
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This reads like I had written this myself! It took me years to figure it out.
I was aware that the moment a guy showed up, I changed. I morphed into this goofy, awkward, unfunny, weird or a silent blob. Guys could resist me all day long!
Later, I came to see that I was fairly needy for love, and if I had met a guy who was kind to me, I could have been so easily taken advantage of - I would have done just about anything for love.
So, when I look back at that now I realized how my goofyness or weirdness protected me from some major harm and pain to my heart and self esteem.
I agree with you, casual hook-ups are pointless when you don't know and love someone. There are way more, as yyou call them, dropkick guys than goood ones. There always have been. That's in part because they mature slower than we do.
Hang in there! The guys will get better and you will get less weird around guys. More exposure to guys in non-dating situations - classes, schoolclubs, volunteer projects - may prove to be helpful.
Be patient, the world will be more to your liking in just a few years. Please don't do anything rash that you may later regret.
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no there is no possible way that i am pregnant, iv never had sex.
How do you know if you need a new bra?
And what do you mean charting to see a conection between my periods, iv never heard about that before?
Thanks! Alot! (link)
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You neeed a new or different sized bra when you start to overflow the one you are in. The bra should well contain your breasts, without bulges above or below.
They tell us that most of us are wearing the wonr sized bra. Good department stores will have weeks when they feature bra fittings and they make sure to have trained bra fitters there. Go speak only to t he bra fitter, learn your proper size, and buy one bra there - you can probably buy less expensive bras elsewhere.
For charting, use a small calander and record our periods - when they start and stop. Also chart when your breasts are painful. It's possible that they may be hurting the week or so before your period.
If that still doesn't help or give you a clue, you at least have a couple of months of infor to help your obgyn out.
Good luck with "the girls"!
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if a girl has a yeast infection, and she hasnt cured it and she just got it that day and a guy eats her out that night. what happens to the guy? anything? (link)
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Probably nothing happens to the guy, unless the girl also has some STDs, which can be passd fom genetalia to the mouth, like herpes, conorreha, clamidia...
What is much more comman is that oral set can be the cause of reoccuring yeast infections.
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17/f
This guy and I have been really good friends for a very long time, and its always been obvious that we have feelings for eachother. We went to school together until last January when I moved to a different school an hour and a half away. But we've kept in touch a LOT and we still talk every day. Well this year he graduated and is going to college, and I'll be a senior in highschool. His college is almost 5 hours away, and even when he comes home, his house is still and hour and a half away from mine.
Lately, we've been talking about getting together finally, but we don't know if its a good idea to start a long distance relationship with some one who is just about to go to college. That's the only thing keeping us from going out. I trust him, but I dont know how well he would be around other girls while we were so far apart. We really want to be together, but we're a little hesitant because it seems like it would be super hard to do. What do you think? Thanks a ton for your help!
:)♥x (link)
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My daughter and her boyfriend were 1500 miles apart for college, for 5 years. I never thought that was relistic, but now, they've just had their second wedding anniversary.
Nowadays with cell phones, Skype, and e-mail, keeping in touch is so much easier than ever before. Plus, the distance makes you take things a little slower, which can be very healthy.
All manner of changes can happen over the next few years.
If you think he can only be faithful to you when the two of you are in the same city, that's a pretty low opinion of him. Is that warrented?
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