Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Okay this sounds like i'm coomplainging but everytime when I try to help someone out to the fullest, I end up getting a lousy 3 or 4, and I think people are being really inconsiderate, because I am trying to keep my average score for helping up, but anyways is anyone else having the same problem? To me It's not even worth answering peoples questins anymore cause I will end up getting an even lower score...so basically my question is this
Is anyone else having the same problem?
and please don't tell me oh you probably misread the question or misundestood it cause I just double checked all of the questions I answered and I have tried helping them. (link)
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I totally get what you're talking about. I don't really have that problem, but I know what you're dealing with. I don't think that we should really judge columnists by ratings, yet a lot of people do. I would suggest like sugar coating stuff. But thats not right. People tend to rate higher if you complement them, or take a very long time explaining your answers. Don't correct people, at least try not to, because some people take offense. umm... try to relate to them. Say they just broke up with their boyfriend throw in a short story about when you or your freind went trhough the same thing. Make sure they knwo you arent judgeing them. And read through your questions as though you are the person and see if they are biased in anyway. Remember these people are turning to us because they don't know what else to do, usually by telling thr truth you hurt their feelings, so thats where the rating system lacks and people take out their anger on the people, but if they give you a really low mark you can report it as abuse.
You probably DIDNT misread the questions. You tried really hard to give them help. And if they don't want to take your advice then they dont have to, therefore they shouldnt respond. But they do anyway. Try and take their feedback to heart, and change what they say is wrong, and maybe ask people at the end of your response to give feedback so that you can help to become a better columnist in the future.
But if all that doesnt work, then whatever, its not your fault. And Personally, I'd go to you for advice if I knew who you are, because I can tell that you are a very caring person, who is trying very hard to help, but just isnt getting the response they are looking for. It's okay, to get threes and fours, and you arent any worse of a columnist than those who get higher scores.
Without knowing who you are, I cant say what you're doing wrong, but if you let me know i can read your column and see if I notice anything :S.
I hope I answered our question and I hope you know that marks arent everything, being a caring loving person is worth so much more. Good luck, Love ya,
Angie91
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13/f
5 feet tall
122 pounds
i need to lose 8 pounds
what are some excersizes that i can do like in my room (like not running) but anything else.
i no i need to eat less sugary,fat and low carb stuff so don't tell me stuff NOT to eat , tell me good stuff TO eat,
also, is it true that when you lose weight ur boobs go first? (link)
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Hey,
Hmm, diets are tough, so I think it's best to pretend you arent on one. If you try to eat sensibly then it should be fine. Like for example if you are thinking at like 7 pm, I'm hungry, then you walk into the kitchen and you see cake or an apple. I think thats a no brainer. Try and find veggies that you like eating, and carry them with you when every you feel a little bit hungry.
Try and to eat after 6 pm. Eat green vegitables because for some reason the greener the better.
Try and drink lots of water. People say 8 glasses a day, but if you get a nice large water bottle, and drink one before 12 fill it up and finish it before the end of the day then you should eb getting about the right amount. Maybe drink 1 glass or something other than water a day, ie. milk or juice. People say milk is better than juice, but it's not, its very fattening, and juice is high in sugar.
AS far as excersizes, depending on what you want to work on, sit ups (or crunchs) are good, but don't do what that other person said(no offense other person) and put your feet under the couch or whatever that can hurt your back, and/or your legs, as well it's not working your stomach its working leg risistance.
Try push ups, jumping jacks, stabilizers, weightlifting (obviously you dont have a gym at home but thats okay, just get a can of soup and walk around with it while you do laundrey or something. I know you said in your room, but going for a brisk evening walk helps alot. Get a type of weight(or can if your comfortable walking out of the hosue with it) and walk around the block a couple of times. Grab a soccerball and hang out at the park.
um you can try step ups, but I doubt you can do that in your room, or running on the spot. Or if you wanna have some fun with it, grab your fave dance cd and choreograph a dance and work on it everyday. Use some moves that will really work you up into a sweat. If you're super serious about this, you can rent aerobic workout dvds or yoga. But you're thirteen so I'm assuming this isnt really that big of a deal.
A great idea alot of people usually suggest is getting a picture of a great supermodel or whatever in something that is actually flatering and put it up in the kitchen so you arent tempted to eat junk food.
Another good one is getting a nice picture of yourself and putting it up to look at. That will give you confidence.
I hope I helpped to answer your question, just remember that thirty minutes of excersize a day is whats recomended, if you arent getting anywhere close to that, try and join a lub that involves a lot of excersize almost daily.
Also, you're thirteen, so dont worry about your weight too much in acouple of years you'll grow taller and everything will even itself out. It's good to have a goal though, and it also good to keep fit. Just don't let dieting take over the more important aspects of your life. Hope I helpped. Love ya,
Angie91
Oh and also, yeah the weight come soff your boobs. But don't worry, it'll even out eventually, so if you go down to A or whatever, its fine, it'll be back soon.
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okay i already wrote a question about this but never got an answer so please answer and HELP i wont write a novel this time....
i dated this guy we were in love and dated for month and half broke up because of 4 year age difference and we didnt talk at all for 7 months till he left me a message saying happybirthday! and the messeages went back and forth and we started talking again on the phone every night and i automatically fell in love with him all over again and we hooked up and hung out a lot and he told me he didnt want a gf cause it was too much drama and i accepted that and then i got worried and asked if he was using me and we got into a fight and decided friends was better so then we basically stopped talking and now he has a girlfriend and i want him back and still love him and am basically waiting for him to break up with her and i have dreams of him breaking up with her and telling me he loves ME EVERY NIGHT.... PLEASE HELP i have no idea what to do!!!! (link)
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Hey!
Well, this is actually a very common situation, so don't feel like you're all alone.
K so basically what happened was you had a bf then you guys broke up, then you were friends for a bit, you got in a fight and now you dont really talk. Okay, well first of all, you have to decide on one of two different roads. The first road is the one you seem to drive down, which is getting him back, and then theres the second road, which is moving on. There are disadvantages, and advantages to both.
K, for the first one, you love this guy right? Well right now, he doesn't know that. So I bet you can guess what I'm about to tell you. You have to tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you love him, and you wish you were with him. However, before you go through with that, you have to think about this. Yeah, he probably still loves you, but depending on how long hes dated this girl, he might love her too. So first of all, he wont break up with her to be with you, without you telling him how you feel(Don't worry though, we all wish that were the case sometimes) and chances are that he wont break up with her to be with you after you tell him either. So if those chances don't sound awesome, maybe you shouldn't go for it. If you do though, also keep in mind, things may get weird between you, and if they do, I've got some solutions for that, so if you go through it and he declines your offer, I'll be here for you. :P
Okay, hers road number to moving on. Think about this for a little bit, you guys broke up right? There wasa reason, the age difference. And I'm sure there were other reasons too. So first thing you need to do, is get out a peice of paper and write down every reason you don't like him. (This can also work if you don't know which road to take, you can do the pros and cons of being with him and see which one wins) Think of every reason why going out with him would suck.
Now if you were in a state where you were in deep love and super sad because you might lose him, then I'd suggest other things, but I think that because it was only a few month thing, and you managed to go on for 7 months with out talking, then maybe you should try to pick a new guy to focus on. He doesnt have to be the guy you wish you could go out with, just pick some guy who is hot and you wouldn't mind thinking about. And everytime when you're super bored and you're like ohh I wish ____ (Your ex's name here) was my boyfriend, switch your ex's name with the new guy and day dream about him all day.
I think thats good for moving on tips, but let me know if you want some more, I've got a billion.
Remember one thing though, no matter what happens, you're young (unless you're like 70 which I'm assuming isnt the case :P) and you have lots of years ahead of you to find great guys. If it doesnt work out with your ex, thats fine, life will move on and you'll be in love with another guy in no time.
I hope I helped you out a little bit, and good luck. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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i wanna have healtier more thick hair any advice (link)
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I dont think that it's actually possible to do that, but if you talk to your hairdresser, they can either show you how or give you a style that makes you look like you have more volume. Often cutting your hair short adds a little more thickness (looking) to your hair, as well as adding layers. At least thats what I did. Hope you can figure it out! Love ya,
angie91
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hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...
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Hey,
You know that you have to get out of a relationship when the strain of it is putting a tole on your life. You've missed school, and you cant concentrate. He doesnt care about things you say, he says things that break your heart. You need to get out. If you stay in the relationship things will just get worse. And you will end up hating him. Hating the man you once loved. Isnt that the opposite of what you wish could happen?
SO next time you talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him how the relationship is one sided, and you love (?) him but you need to stop seeing him, or things will just get worse. Explain to him that you wish that the two of you could continue going out, but you jsut can't because it would be too painful and in the end you would both just end up getting hurt.
Okay, now moving on. This is tough, and different for every person. And the answer will be different too. THere are the obvious things like find a job or spend more time with friends. Join a club or volunteer. Then there are the less obvious things like write a letter about how your feeling, but dont send it, or write in a diary daily. You can spend more time on yourself, like get a makeover (not that you need it, you look awesome!, that was just a random complement I thought maybe you could use one l ol) or spend a friday night with candles and a bubble bath.
You can try doing something that shows you have talent like paint a picture or write a poem, or do something you've never done before, like rock climbing or horseback riding. Or you can make new friends(ie join something outside of school that none of your friends are into) or focus on one of your friends and try and build up your relationship with them. Another thing you could try is if you have a younger sibling or cousin, or younger neighbor even, try and spend some time with them, take them to a movie or shopping. It will help to give them a positive rolemodel, and it shows compasion.
Lastly, the most famous one, move on. Pick a new guy. I dont usually suggest actually making moves on other guys for at leasta few weeks (aka the rebound weeks) but pick a nice looking guy in your your english class and think(or obsess) about him. Getting your ex out of your head is the most important thing.
Those are just a few suggestions, and they may work, but if they dont, thats okay, I've got a lot more. I think I answered your question, and it sucks to be in your situation, but it happens to everyone sometimes. I hope I helpped, and good luck. Let me know if you need more tips. Love ya,
Angie91
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okay so i am new at a school and i have been hanging out and eatting kunch with the populare ppl but i have no idea if they really like me or not..i mean there no going to tell me if they dont so is their anyway i can tell?? (link)
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You know people are your friends when they confide in you, because that means they trust you. Not confiding as if, she's such a _____ or he's going out with ______ but if they actually tell you something.
Also if they ask you to hang out outside of school, or call you. If you are always the one doing the calling, maybe they dont really like you that much.
Keep sitting with them at lunch, becuase just because those things may not be happening now, they may happen soon. Sometimes real relationships take a long time. So if you dont have a bunch of new friends now, thats okay, you will get some eventually.
Hope that answered your question,
love ya,
angie91
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Hi im a high schooler . i'm somewhat popular and not to be concieted but i like the way i look. anyways. i get guys ocasionaly but i dont really want them right now. except this one. like i dont want to date him i just wanna get closer to him and maybe do stuff wiht him. the thing is hes really popular and NEVER dates girls he just doenst want them so im afraid he wont do things with me becuase he'd be embarased or he doesnt want ppl to think all of a sudden he is going for girls and stuff ya know. well i jsut wanna know how i can get him better. ps. we flirt alot. (link)
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Well its hard to say what to do. It kind of depends on the guy, and what you want to do with him. If you just mean that you want to be a friend of his, then make it look that way. Talk to him on the phone, email him, do friendly things, don't flirt an unessisary amount. Flirting is good if you want a guy to hit on you, but from the sounds of it, he doesnt want to hit on girls, so you should try and flirt alittle, but not as muh as him. Give him a friendly smile, and talk to him as if he's one of your best friends. Once you build up the relationship alittle bit, confide in him something. Not something mean liek that girl is sucha _______. Tell him about your a fight with your parents or a problem you're having that he might be able to help out with. By doing this you are relaying trust in him, and by doing this, he will begin to realize that you arent in it to go out with him, you're in it to have fun and hang out. Then once you become friends, you can become more if you decide that you still want to make that step. By becoming a friend first, you aren't making it look like you're hitting on him, and you are building up a strong relationship, and if you decide to go out with him, you will have a great basis. Also, he may start to fall for you, once he sees the sides of you few people who dont know you see.
Yeah it make take some time and effort, but you can do it. And if all else fails, you'll have a great new friend right?
Hope I answered your question, good luck. Lot of love,
Angie91
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so i ride this bus with this kid and we went out for 2 days and he left me for his current gf and lately weve been flirting really badly, like he always tickles me or grabs my butt and find some way to touch me and puts his arm around me and stuff, and today he wanted to come over but i was all no because you have a gf...so does he like me or not..because i like him, but still that whole girlfriend thing, i would never do anything to hurt another girl like that. (link)
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Thats a good question, though, no one can tell you the answer.
Basically, guys are like this, they like to flirt with girls and get attention, so theres two things you can do, you can either play along, and let him know that if he breaks up with his gf that you're there and available. OR you can take the high road and ignore his attempts to flirt with you.
Most likely than not, he wont be going out with you. He dumped you (or whatever you wanna call it) already for that girl, and he doesnt really show any solid signs of leaving her, so I doubt its going to happen with him. Therefore it would probably be best to decide whether or not to be his friend, and then if you decide to be his friend, then figure out what you think friends should do. Like is flirting harmless? Or is it hurting that girlfriend of his?
There are a lot of things to think about in this situation, unfortunatly, you're the only one who can decide them. Good luck, and I hope I helpped answer your question,
Lots of love,
angie91
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My boyfriend lately has been acting really really weird. He doesnt do the same things as he used to, and if he does, he just doesnt seem as interested to do them anymore. Like in the hallway when we're walking together, he'll hold my hand but he doesnt talk to me anymore.. and I dont know why. And then when he kisses me he doesnt kiss me as hard as he used to its like hes kissing a feather and pulls away really quick. So what I'm asking is how can I get him to be more interested in me or get him.. "whipped." please help me, I've been dating him for 4 months and we havent had sex.. because im waiting for a year before we do that.. and all we did was that he fingered me.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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First of all... no guy wants to be whipped. They want to feel like a man and not be completely controlled by their girlfriend.
Have you talked to him about this? And if he doesn't like to talk about relationship issues than maybe he isn't ready for one. Or maybe he's having a problem and doesn't want to bring it up which is definately a sign that you need to talk.
Maybe he's just not that interested in you anymore. We all fall out of love sometimes. Maybe the relationship is just cooling down a bit. That always happens.
And if he is hinting at sex, and you think you should do that to keep him, than he isn't worth it. You should do it with a guy who values you and will wait for you.
Relationships are more than just sex and if you feel that yours isn't much more anymore than maybe it's time for a change. Sometimes time off can be a good thing. Then again it might not. It's your decision. You have to see what is best for the two of you.
No one can make the decision for you. We can only give advice. If you need some more help let us know. But ultimately it's your decision and it's in your heart. So talk to your man and see what's up in his head. And if he doesn't want to talk, look back at paragraph 1.
I hope we answered your question and good luck with your relationship. Hope we helped.
Love Angie91 and her friend Stephanie :P
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ok i need a boy friend i havn't dated a guy in like 2 yrs so i need help soo it would be nice if some people gave me advice.
Thanks, Bailey (link)
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Are you really not that confident that you need a guy to feel like you are complete?
Sounds like you should feel good about yourself before you get a guy.
Guys are attracted to girls who are confident with themselves. At least the guys who are worth going out with and that you want a meaningful relationship with.
So I suggest that you do not date for awhile. It's not the end of the world. As well as guys can tell if you are desperate for a boyfriend.
Learn how to build up confidence. Hang out with your girlfriends. If you don't have any, then maybe you have been paying too much attention to guys and need to work on your friendships.
For year girls have been trying to be known individually and it's a long war. So unless you want to turn back time and live a life where you need a man to get anywhere, take our advice. And as well as a great relationship is where you both are equal and you are there to support each other, like friends.
Join a club where you can show people your ideas and feelings as well as putting yourself out there and trying new things. Be known for these things instead of the girl who is going out with "that guy".
Try and make an effort to make new people that you would not think of hanging out with. Make friends with guys as well as girls. And when we say "friends" with guys.. we mean it as friends. Do not try to hit on your friends..
The time will come when you are confident enough to find your own great boyfriend and you won't need our advice. But if you ever need another tip on being more confident or anything else, feel free to come to me and ask.
Remember, be your own person, not "his girl".
Love Angie91 and her friend Stephanie
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Yeah i was thinking of printing it out on pretty paper and rolling it and then tying a pretty pink bow on it.
ok ima take a min of your time so i can bust out a rhyme I want to go to prom I want you to go along it'll kinda be like a date its going down at eight we gotta get our tickets now just so we arent to late and if you dont wanna drive we can take a limo ride so i really hope you come to prom cuz that night'll be the bomb get back to me asap but for reals I hope you go to prom with me
hows that rap? (link)
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:O That is soooo awesome!! That'll be great. It's so original. That'll be great. HAH I said that already. wow. Thats great.I dont even like rap lmao.thats awesome. I wouldnt change it at all. I hope it goes well. I'm sure it will. Let me know how it goes when its over, and what he says, and how the prom goes. Man, I'm living my life vicariously though you lmao. well have an awesome time Love ya,
Angie91
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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time now and out of nowhere he starting bringing up the fact that we havn't had sex. I mean, it's not like i havn't thought about it because a 15 year old girl with a boyfriend two years older than her is obviously going to think about the possibilities, but I never actually brought it up or anything. Yes, I am a virgin but I have done other things with him. I just don't know if I'm actually ready to have sex with him. Like, I want to but I don't know if it's because he keeps bringing it up and I'll feel guilty if I don't or if it's because I really want to. And I know that if I'm even questioning it that I shouldn't but there is part of me that wants to. I Don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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I think that right now you are sortof debating it, and questioning yourself. So what you should do is tell your boyfriend that you arent ready, and he has to stop bringing it up. You'll be ready one day, and as soon as you are you'll tell him. But for right now he has to cool it, because you feel pressured. If he's a good guy he'll quit bothering you about it. If he isnt, and keeps bringing it up, tell him that you really injoy going out with him, but you arent ready for sex, and if he wants sex that bad maybe he should go find someone else to do it with.
Lots of people have sex when their 15, but it doesnt mean you have to. Whether you believe in waiting until marridge, or you just wanna wait a little bit longer, until you know for sure you're ready, it's a big deal. Don't let anyone tell you that your first time isnt a big deal. After you do it, it wont be, but your first time riding your bike was a big deal, your first time getting married will be a big deal, so why shouldnt this be one?
Yeah a part of you wants to have sex, and yeah a part of you wants to eat every chocolate bar in the candy store sometimes, but sometimes you think about it and you're like yeah... I dont think thats a very good idea. So until you think you can feel 100% (or pretty close) to go all the way, then you shouldn't. Right now sex is a possibility, but so is skydiving. You just have to measure the need or want to do it.
Never feel guilty for not having sex okay? You can agree to it and be in bed with him and say, you know what I'm not ready. Dont even feel guilty for that okay? It's not like you're donating your kidney and he's going to die with out it. Its just a couple hours one night. And if you arent ready, then you wont have the experience you are looking foreward too.
So talk to him about it, and never forget your standards. I think you can trust yourself to make the right decision, just trust yourself, you'll know when its the right time. Good luck, hope I helped.
Love ya,
Angie91
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im 17 and at my work there is this 24 yr old guy who has a crush on me. it was fine at first becasue he's really shy and i would just catch him looking at me once in a while. but now he writes me little notes saying he loves me and keeps asking me out on dates. then last nite as i was leaving he came outside and said taht he wanted to kiss me! if anyone found out he would be fired cuz my dad is his boss! wut should i do? (link)
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I think that you should tell him that he could be fired if he kisses you. Tell him that you don't think that its such a good idea for the two of you to go out. Tell him that you dont like sneaking around and that he's a really great guy, but you don't thinkl it would be a good idea for the two of you to date. Tell him that you think theres too much of age difference even. Tell him anything, that may convince him to not go out with you, but try and stick to the truth, because if you dont then he may catch you in a lie. Even if you think that he wont, avoid lying anyway.
I hope that answered your quetion. Hope I helped. Love ya,
angie91
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Hey its tristan
you told me to move on so im kinda moving on with this guy name Caleb..
I'm asking him to prom but im really shy
so me and his bf (who is my good friend) are going to do a sing-a-gram at his doorstep haha except its going to be a rap-a-gram all i got so far is
tristan's really nice so dont think twice.. it'll be da bomb if you take her to prom so lets make it a date and don't be late
any ideas?
or any other cute/corny ideas?
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That is so awesome! You should definatly do that. It will be awesome. I think its great that you're moving on. So I guess you finally found something that works for you? Thats good.
Well, I'm not really good at raps hehe, but that sounds really great. Hmmm. I really don't know what you could say... You should talk to a couple of your friends and get them to brainstorm some great qualities about you that Caleb might not know, and put those in the middle, because you probably want to lengthen it a little bit, but don't add anything to the end though, thats really awesome. You could talk about the prom as if he doesnt know its coming up and like say something about how awesome the prom is going to be (you don't have to say awesome lmao that's just been my word lately.:P). Ohhh! I know this might we weird, but I think you should type up the rap and like print it out for him or email it to him right as soon as you get home and then he can respond and like tell you his answer so that he doesnt have to say it infront of his friend, because that might make him say yes and he might actually want to think about it a bit. But if you print it out, that will be kind of a nice touch, and he can see that you worked pretty hard on it, its not something you like did on impulse or something.
Hmm any other cute corny ideas? well you sound like you have a good idea, I think you should run with it. I'll keep trying to think of some stuff you could add, but if you want some more help, you can always ask the rest of the people on the site, like I said, I'm not really that good at raps lo l.
I'm really glad that you're moving on and you found a great guy to be with. I hope everything with you and Jacob and the stalker guy and all that other stuff got resolved, and I'm glad you found someone (ie me :P) to talk it through with and remember I'm always here if you need anything :D. Hope you have an awesome time thinking up the rest of your rap. (see I cant go two minutes with out saying awesome eh?) Love ya,
Angie91
P.s. the rap think is a great way to get over the problems with being shy! ( resisted saying awesome lo l) ohhh I just thought of something that would be perfect if the prom started at eight, you could add that to the end be like pick me up at eight, but if it starts at a different time that would suck. haha. Anyways I just thought I'd add that.
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im in 8th grade, in a really small school. there is only 8 guys in my whole 8th grade. there all shallow, and will only go out with "hot" girls. sometimes they say, "if you cant supply, we will deny." Is that true about all guys? (link)
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No it's not. But most guys are like that for the majority of their teen years. Usually you can get to know them an dthey become your friends. But you're only in the eight grade, it may take sometime for them to mature and become the nice guys they will one day grow up to be. Usually out of every 20 guys theres about 2 that are genuinly nice always. And it sucks, but if you cant get a guy while you're in the eighth grade its no biggie, you'll get one soon, and hopefully he'll be super nice.
BTW thats why a lot of girls date older guys. Once the guys realize that they cant treat girls they way they do, they'll change. USually that happens around 11th grade though lo l.
Good luck with your guys. Hope they mature early enough for you. Love ya,
angie91
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i have a big prob. ... i added my friend and i told him that im another person... and now he found out and he's angry at me... i know that was wrong... but i really wanted to be his friend n i guess i thought he might think somethin u know that i like him or somethin which i dont...
can you please help me ASAP... please please please
thanks alot!! (link)
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I get what your saying. At first I was like why would she do that...? Then I understood. So I would say maybe you should lie. I dont like telling people that you should lie, but in this case, you could say that someone hacked onto your account and as talking to random people. Tell him that you changed your password and that you hope you didnt make him upset. Be oblivious to the fact that he is upset with you, and then he'll think nothing of it. If you are "honest" then theres no big deal. He shouldnt be upset, he'll think it's an understanding, and hopefully never think anything of it. If you dont think that will work let me know and I'll try and think of something honest. LOve ya, and I hope this works out
Angie91
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I just got Windows Messenger, also known as MSN. I already have AOL Instant Messenger, and I know you can create a profile on there. Can you create any kind of profile or add in information about yourself on MSN? (link)
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Yes you can! So what you do, is open up MSN messenger, and you'll see near the top o the screen a picture of an inbox for your emails, and then right beside it (usually) there is a little icon for "My space" click that and thats where your profile is. If that doesnt work, then Left click on your display name, go to personal settings and click edit profile.
Hope that helps, let me know if you have any more msn questions. Love ya,
angie91
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why do you think people can be cruel to those they love the most? (link)
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I think its because they are hurt. Once people get to a realization that they arent going to get what they want the most they realize that its not right for this person to get al of the power, so they begin to act on revenge. It's not right, because they think that they are moving on when actually they arent so its kind of hurting them more. But some people dont realize that and all they want to do is hurt the one who hurt them.
Or they have a perfect image of the one they love, and the person isnt meeting those standards so they feel that they have to punish that person.
There are lots of reasons people can hurt the people they love, sometimes you just have to talk with them and ask them, but sometimes its almost chronic. It depends ont he situation and the people involved. Hope I answered your question, love ya,
Angie91
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ok, so im 13/f and a guy keeps asking me out.. i was just wondering what are someways to nicely, tell him that i don't want to go out with him?? thankyou (link)
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well you want to make sure that he doesnt think you're rude and mean. Because he's still young and this may be one of the first times hes asked a girl out, and if you hurt him, then if may bring down his confidence level. So before you do it, think about why you dont want to go out with him. If it's something stupid like because he wears glasses or because he likes starwars, but you just wouldnt be able to handle that type of thing, then tell him it's not you its me, I'm shallow, and I need certain qualities in a man that are almost inpossible to find. It's kind of being mean to yourself, but it shows him that you are being honest and that maybe he shouldnt want to go out with you wanyway because you're shallow.
If its because you liek someone else. Tell him. Sometimes guys dont go out with girls because they like someone else, so I'm sure he'll understand. Tell him that you think hes super nice but you just wouldnt feel right going out wit him when you cant have feelings for him because you like someone else.
If you just dont want a boyfriend right now (or your parents wont let you have a boyriend) tel him that. Just say that you are alittle busy or self occupied right now and a boyfriend just isnt an option right now. However dont tell him this if its a lie because then you're just shooting yourself in the foot if you go out with someone next week.
If you just dont want to go out with him. You arent attracted to him, he's not you're kind of guy, he and you arent alike, then tell him that. Just say you dont think you jhav very much in common, or you don't think opposites attract. Or you just dont think that it would be a good idea for the two of you to go out right now. Say your immature, or you just dont think hes right for you. Or you dont see it going anywhere.
No matter what you say it will hurt his feelings. So you have to try and be nice about it, but sometimes it just wont work out. The nice thing is that he learns how to be rejected at a young age. (btw a few of my friends have tried alot of these techniques and they all work for the most part, so if you want to try them then dont hesitate, they'll probably be fine)
I hope I gave you an idea, or an example of what kinds of things you could say. And I hope that you can find a nice way to tell him how you feel. Remember if you're honest, he cant ask any more questions. So it will be easier(hopefully). Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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ok there is this amazing girl at my school. i dated her last year, and now i am a freshman in highschool. while we were going out, i was to shy to really do anything. i wanted to kiss her so bad but i just couldnt find the strength to actually make my move. we broke up later because she did not like me anymore. we went out for about 3 weeks. before that we were really good friends, but now its like we dont talk at all anymore, part of the reason being we dont have any classes together. ever since we broke up though, its weird, it seemed like i wanted her more and more every day. i havnt stopped thinking about her every day and it has been almost a year now. i still see her almost everyday, because i go to a small private school. anyway, i have just learned that she is leaving my school, to go to another because she wants a change of things. i think i love her and i dont want her to leave, but i am too shy to step up and admit to her my feelings, not that it would change anything, but i just feel like she should know, before she goes that someone is thinking of her. i also feel that that might make things even more aukward between us, and i am really shy when it comes to this stuff. i dont know i was thinking of just going and telling her, but i dont know there is something just keeping me from doing that. maybe a note or something? (link)
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Hey,
Yeah a note would work, but you have to make it really personal. You can't be like
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I kinda think i like you
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Its got to be full of feelings and show her that you really do like her and you want something to come of it. Tell her everything. Don't be afraid that she is going to make fun of you, or anything, if she does then shes an idiot and doesnt deserve awesome you. Yeah things may be more awkward between the two of you, but it already is awkward and shes leaving in a little bit, so you really dont have anything to lose. This will be good for you. I'm shy too, and I think that a lot of things in my life would be different if I stepped up and told the guys I liked that I liked them. But none of them have moved away, so nows your chance. To finally step up and do something because if you dont you'll regret it.
In the note tell her that she has the choice she can call you and tell you if she wants to go out sometime, but if she doesnt call you'll understand. Leave it somewhere she will definatly find it and no one else will. like meil it to her or something so that her locker neighbour doesnt read it or her sister doesnt think its for her. If she doesnt respond, then it may be because you hurt her the first time, or it may be that she doesnt think starting up a new relationship before she goes is a good thing. So if she doesnt respond dont take that as a bad thing. Because actually it doesnt matter what she says, the up side is that you are putting yourself out there. And that is very important to do before you get older and are just too scared to do this type of thing. So if all else fails think of this as a learning experience. Then move on (if you need tips let me know) and pick a new girl, and then try and get up the courage to ask her out.
But hopefully this works out for you. I think that you are going to get through this and whether or not you go out with her again or not, you are putting yourself out there and showing yourself that you can do something you dont feel confident doing thats really good. Good luck, Love ya,
angie91
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